How To Write A Trans Character
for yâall good cis people who genuinely care and want to give good representation!! thank!! love ya!! [please note that this is just the opinion of one trans *man* and that circumstances vary. This isnât a catch-all, just some general tips.]
- If youâre an LGB+ person/nurodivergent/etc, try to picture your own identity in the place of your trans characterâs. If you wouldnât like to read about something done to a character with your identity, maybe donât do that to your trans character.
- Try to avoid adding transphobia without a solid reason for it. Does this person being a transphobic dick advance the plot? Does it create a poignant character moment? Is it truly more than just the Obligatory Transphobic Comment? Remember, people read fiction to escape the real world, being reminded that transphobia exists in my fantasy escapism kind of sucks.
- Donât make a big deal out of it or draw a lot of attention to it. Personally, the best thing to me is when it is briefly mentioned once that a character is trans, and that is it. Donât get me wrong, itâs fine to mention it more than once, but itâs so refreshing to see it not be a big deal.
- Make the character a character first, and trans second. Being trans is not a personality trait, or a hobby, or a lifestyle. Weâre just people. Write us like it.
- Thereâs many different types of dysphoria. (see: this post) Social, mental, physical. Sometimes itâs general, and others itâs very specific. Sometimes itâs weird (Iâm dysphoric about my wrists, how weird is that?) And some trans people experience little to no dysphoria, thatâs cool too.
- Dysphoria fluctuates and changes a lot, some days itâs not bad, others it is, some days itâs about something, other days itâs about something else.
- Dysphoria feels like your worst insecurity times 100. A lot of the time mine makes me feel physically sick, like Iâm gonna chuck. It can also feel almost claustrophobic, like youâre trapped somewhere and canât get out (⌠because you are.)
- Gender euphoria is also a thing and itâs like being high.
- Feel free to give your trans baby a supportive family, they do exist and it would be nice to see a well loved trans person (the family doesnât have to be biological, though, if thatâs the way the story goes.)
- Do a bit of research on certain terms/names for things, it wonât take super long and it will make a WORLD of difference.
- Please try not to focus on the character suffering for being trans. I know you mean well, but trust me it wonât come out right. Feel free to throw a bunch of angst at your trans character, just please donât make that angst around being trans. Make it about their best friend being eaten by a lava sloth squid monster. or whatever.
- Different trans people want/have different transitions. Your character might want to have one surgery, but not another, or maybe theyâre on hormones but theyâre not interested in any surgeries or vice-versa. Maybe they donât want to physically transition at all, and that is perfectly normal and okay!
- Non-binary people exist and are cool! (But if your character is a robot or an alien⌠maybe donât make them non-binary.)
- Please donât make your villain the only trans person. Please.
- Please avoid the âsoft flower boiâ stereotype if youâre writing trans guys please. We are men. Write your trans man character like you would if he was a cis guy. Iâm not saying donât make feminine trans men, but⌠please be careful of that stereotype.
- Trans women can be tomboys. They can also be super mega ultra girly. Again, character first, trans second.
- Avoid fetishizing trans people. Itâs totally fine if your trans person does The Sexytime (it is encouraged, in fact,) but donât overly focus on the fact that theyâre trans. Thatâs creepy. Some trans people have different boundaries with nakedness/their body, consider that, too.
- Please give your trans character a happy ending and for the love of god donât kill them off. Let them have a partner, and pets, and friends, the whole unlovable edgy trans stereotype is getting really old really fast.
- Honestly. If youâre really unsure how to write a trans character, just write a character. And then slip in a one sentence about them wearing a trans pride pin. Boom, you just wrote a great trans character, good job!!!Â
- Talk to a trans person. And if youâre worried about saying something wrong, talk to me. I promise I wonât get mad at you, no matter what you want to ask. Trust me, we want more trans characters out there, donât be scared to write one. Representation is good!!
- All trans people are badass, funny, smart, amazing, wonderful and perfect. If you donât make your character all of these things, itâs transphobia. (Okay this one is a joke⌠Weâre also awesome. *fingerguns*)