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happyheidi

𝖼𝗈𝗓𝗒 𝖺𝗎𝗍𝗎𝗆𝗇 𝗂𝗇𝗍𝖾𝗋𝗂𝗈𝗋 🍂

anexperimentallife

This whole thread is cool and wholesome.

weedyshurgusburgus

something they have control over!!! yes!!!!!!!

cheeseanonioncrisps

My number one tip for straight men (I mean, it could conceivably work for other genders and sexualities, but you’d have to adjust it quite a bit) is: inagine they’re a man.

Imagine that you just randomly told some bloke in a pub that he has beautiful eyes.

That you walked up behind your coworker Jim and started caressing his neck and shoulders while talking to him about the budget.

That you just sent a large and unexplained bouquet of flowers to Darren in Accounting.

That instead of complimenting a coworker on her breasts, you complimented him on his dick.

Does the action now seem weird? Uncomfortable? Do you no longer want to do it now that it isn’t directed at somebody you are sexually attracted to?

That strongly suggests that your action has a sexual aspect to it and therefore probably counts as sexual harassment!

glorious-spoon

I have a large, colorful tattoo on one arm. I’ve had multiple strange men cross a room to tell me how awesome it is, frequently while I’m at work, and it has never made me uncomfortable.

A couple of weeks ago, someone yelled out a car at me ‘I FUCKING LOVE YOUR BOOTS’, which was awesome.

It’s just… it’s really not hard to compliment people in a way that isn’t creepy, if your goal is actually to compliment them and not to slide a ‘btw I’m thinking about fucking you’ under the radar.

belfast62

Good advice! Applicable in many ways…..

instructor144

This is actually pretty good!

polyamorousmisanthrope

I had a male co-worker compliment a dress of mine once.

It had dinosaurs on it, in which he expressed delight, as is only right and proper. “I love your dress. It has dinosaurs!”

When I modestly put my hands in my pockets and expressed my thanks, his eyes lit up, and he said, “And POCKETS!”

Totally not creepy.

theeborealowl

Art by Me @theeborealowl

I don't mean: get rid of manners, or stop saying "thank you", or any of that.

I mean: take off the mask of perfection that colonial society demands of you, accept your emotions and needs, and communicate openly and compassionately.

Give without expecting praise.

Care without expecting gratitude.

Support eachother with empathy.

Honest and compassionate communication 💕

Mahsi-cho for viewing my art.

inyourmartini

A beautiful woman in an elegant hat

oldfarmhouse

𝐜𝗼𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐥𝗼𝐰 𝗺𝗼𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠'𝐬

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alwayslivingsoftly-deactivated2

Cozy jammies ✅

Cozy ambience music (w/ rain and thunder) ✅

Cup of hot chocolate ✅

A book to read ✅

Now to curl up in bed and venture into my new read for the night 🌙

recomvery

Slowing down doesn't mean giving up. It means taking care of yourself so you can continue to perform and not burn out. Long-term you are getting more work done slowing down than you would burning out. Slowing down is productive, it's an act of kindness. No feeling guilty allowed.

softdaisie

i hope you find peace, friendship, happiness, and everything you’ve ever dreamed of. i hope you know you are so loved. i hope you know how much you matter. i hope you never give up on your dream. i hope that you live to see another day. i hope you know you’re worth more than the stupid opinions of others. i hope you know that there is beauty and strength in every fibre of your being. i hope you know that you are not alone, and that i will always be here for you.

theereina

c-ptsdrecovery

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Tweet by @ yoloakili:

Sometimes I wake up and have to remind myself: “There is nothing wrong with me. I have patterns to unlearn, new behaviors to embody and wounds to heal. But there is nothing wrong with the core of me and who I am. I am unlearning generations of harm and remembering love. It takes time.”

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