Here's your reminder that boundaries can be adjusted as you adapt, evolve, and bloom. You might be thinking, “well duh.” But this is something I didn’t realize—that my relationships could change, that I wasn’t stuck or fixed in a dynamic I felt like I had no control over. Boundaries, in the sense of relationships (friends, family, romantic partners, coworkers, etc), can be lowered to allow intimacy as connection, or they can be extended to ensure safety. We may find that a boundary needs to be set where there was none before (moving from enmeshed or collapsed boundaries to healthy boundaries). We may find that a previously set boundary can be relaxed (moving from rigid boundaries to healthy boundaries). I'll talk more about this later, but a brief breakdown of healthy, collapsed, and rigid relational boundaries: 🪴Healthy boundaries are easily identifiable between one person and the other person, but they are close enough to have an impact on each other. 🪴Collapsed boundaries looks like enmeshment or codependence. These people are lost in each other. One person's thoughts/feelings/opinions become the other's and vice versa. No one can move forward without the other's permission. 🪴Rigid boundaries look like tall, thick walls that prevent any kind of emotional connection or intimacy. These various kinds of boundaries may have served us at certain times in our lives. Collapsed boundaries, while not "healthy," did protect me in childhood by keeping the peace. Rigid boundaries, while not "healthy," did keep protect my emotional wellbeing after a breakup. All of this to say: You are in control over setting and enforcing boundaries. You are in control of lowering and extending boundaries. And you are in control of how to respond to boundaries being crossed, minimized, or disrespected. ✨I have three spots open for 1:1 coaching starting April 1! Check out the “coaching” highlight on my page or click the link in bio!!✨ #boundaries #boundariesarehealthy #healthyboundaries #setboundaries #settingboundaries #boundariesarebeautiful #collapsedboundaries #rigidboundaries #codependencyrecovery #emotionallyunavailable (at San Francisco Bay Area) https://www.instagram.com/p/CMOI-QnDVNe/?igshid=5otyrvbh1787