#enmeshment

[cedricmyravenking]

My ptsd has been kicking my ass thanks to my parents fucking hell 😑

Fawn fucking response each time I’m such a fucking pussy.

[epitome-the-burnkid-viii]

Enmeshment The Childhood Abuse Nobody Talks About

Enmeshment is a parenting style society mischaracterizes as love. In this video, Kenny Weiss explains how enmeshed families dissolve the bou

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[vivisected-broken-wings]

The whole mentality/excuse of "I didn't have anyone else to talk to!!" When you confront a parent who parentified you into a little therapist for them is so disgusting. Because, Its a lie.

They had other people than their 13 year old child to complain to and whinge to about their shitty abusive husband- who they were actively subjecting the child to anyway. Adult people who could've supported them and taken care of them, given them advice and recourses to leave perhaps?

But no.

They actively made the choice to put their needs above yours and use you for their own comfort, no matter the cost to you. Did they protect you? No. Not from the terrifying man you were forced to live with, let alone themselves. They just wanted someone to make them feel better about choosing to continue to live in misery.

Their partner wasn't giving them positive or kind emotional attention so how about they make their kids do it instead!! Sounds very normal and healthy and not gross of boundary crossing at all.

[many-blogs]

ALBYYYYYYYYYYYY 🩵🩵🩵

That’s it, that’s all we have to say about Ep. 2 🙂‍↕️

That and the representation of familial enmeshment is… real?? Valid?? Cathartic?? Affirming???

As others have said before us, Richard Gadd has a lot to say about men’s relationships to and experience with sexuality, identity and victimhood.

[daveislame]

this one is hard to admit. now that im an adult im able to measure up in a way i couldnt as a kid and it feels good sometimes to be her favorite

[many-blogs]

If our nervous system craves enmeshment with a narcissist, we’d rather they be fictional <3

[maryhanna-writes]

“Mr Woodhouse is no easier to describe to you than his dear daughter. Some folk report his many arachnid limbs or great antlers; these folk are not incorrect. Others focus on the many spirits which surround him, trailing dark gossamer threads and tangled dusty webs. It is impolite, Reader, to linger on such things. Rather, I shall describe him thus: well dressed, attentive to the laws of hospitality, and amiable if temperamental.”

[plotinuslovemachine]

Enmeshment

Enmeshment is a dysfunctional relationship dynamic where personal boundaries are nonexistent, causing individuals to lose their sense of identity, autonomy, and independence. Common in families or romantic partnerships, it involves extreme emotional over-involvement, codependency, and pressure to conform to the group’s thoughts or feelings. 

Signs of Enmeshment

Lack of Privacy: No physical or emotional boundaries exist.

Forced Loyalty: Parents may treat children as confidants, friends, or partners rather than offspring.

Emotional Responsiveness: Feeling responsible for another person’s happiness or controlling their emotions.

No Independence: Difficulty making decisions without approval from the other person.

Guilt-Tripping: Feeling guilty for setting boundaries or pursuing personal goals. 

Causes of Enmeshment Enmeshment often stems from a family system lacking healthy, individual boundaries. It can be caused by parental dysfunction, abuse, neglect, or when a parent uses a child to satisfy their own emotional needs, known as parentification. It may also arise from addiction or mental health issues within the family, leading to over-involvement and a lack of autonomy.

Effects of Enmeshment

Lost Identity: Difficulty understanding one's own needs, thoughts, and feelings.

Mental Health Struggles: High rates of anxiety, low self-esteem, and depression.

Relationship Issues: Inability to form healthy, independent relationships outside the enmeshed unit.

Delayed Development: Difficulty transitioning into independent adulthood

How to Heal from Enmeshment

Set Boundaries: Establish firm, consistent emotional and physical boundaries.

Discover Self-Identity: Explore personal interests, values, and goals separate from the other person.

Seek Therapy: Individual therapy can help identify and heal from the trauma, while family therapy can address systemic issues.

Limit Contact: In extreme cases, reducing contact (low-contact or no-contact) may be necessary to break the cycle. PositivePsychology.com +4

Healing requires developing a clear sense of self and learning that it is not selfish to prioritize your own needs. 

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-enmeshment-trauma-5207999