Authentic Kindness vs People Pleasing I’ve always considered myself to be a kind person. As became more conscious, what I realized is that a lot of what I thought was kind was actually people pleasing. People pleasing is actually unconscious manipulation: it’s our attempt to control another persons perception of who we are. In the process we continue to lose touch with our intuition, our personal boundaries, + our sense of self. This leaves us open to getting “gaslighted” (or the denying of our own reality), feeling overwhelmed/resentful in relationships, + it also takes us on an emotional roller coaster because we are always depending on external validation to make us feel good about ourselves. Authentic kindness also means kindness to ourselves. It means having clear limits. Trusting that another person can be responsible for their own lives. And being aware of how our nervous system responds to situations we place ourselves within. Authentic kindness has clear limits. — @the.holistic.psychologist #kindness #peoplepleasing #consciousness #personalBoundaries #self #senseOfSelf #intuition #repost https://www.instagram.com/p/CVDJGRvLSc3/?utm_medium=tumblr
