Little Miss Dater

The good, the bad, the ugly in regards to dating in Seattle

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The Dentist

I set up a date with a blonde guy on OkC who was a dentist. From his pics he looked like an easy going guy who was a little outdoorsy. He mentioned he often went on week long sailing trips with his family and I thought that was pretty cool since I have never been.

So we meet up at a nice restaurant at 7:30pm. I got there a few minutes early and I was picking out a drink that I wanted to get and a snack that looked good. When he arrives I give him a hug and he wasn’t quite what I pictured but hey that’s normal for online dating. We chat for a bit and I try to order the drink I wanted but they were out of one of the ingredients grrr. So I stick with wine. He gets a Guinness. For some reason I don’t like when guys order that. It’s only 4% alcohol and just doesn’t look appealing. Whatever. So our conversation is very dry. He seems a little boring, has very much a routine and while he is family oriented doesn’t hang out with friends much. When the waiter comes by to see if we wanted food I look at him and he answers "No I think we're good". What? I'm starving dude! I didn't eat because I thought we were having dinner. So now I'm kind of mad. Maybe he can sense the date isn't going well either and is only getting drinks. So we chat for a little longer and I'm bored. I can see a group of guys at another table and they are constantly looking back at me and I'm wondering if they are noticing I'm on a date.

He orders another beer and I decline. I want to get out of here! He’s just asking questions we don’t have much dialogue and there are often long pauses. We grab the check and I offer to split it. He doesn’t object. I forget he ordered 2 beers so the tab isn’t split fairly. Great. Also we couldn’t leave after that because he excused himself to the bathroom for the second time. I never had to go. He has a bladder of a small child. So I wait. We walk out and he says “Take care" yeah great you too. Who says that?

I hear back from him Saturday mentioning a movie I talked about was on Comedy Central and that it was “nice meeting you ;)"

I reply, “Oh I didn’t think it went very well thus why I split the check"

He says “Well it was good practice at least!"

Omg are you serious this isn’t an interview…."Yeah maybe for you" I replied what an idiot

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Weekly updates

If blogging was my job I would of been fired because I haven’t shown up to work for a week! Sorry guys just been a little crazy with very little down time (ask my friends, they haven’t seen me in at least a week!)

Ok so lets back up to Monday….

I get a text from a guy who is good friends with my best friends ex boyfriend, stay with me people I know. The ex, known as Tower has a diverse group of friends lets just say. All fun and down to party though. Anyhow one I met was really into me but alas, is engaged to be married in a month. The other friend of Towers is a nice guy, a little shy and just out of a long term relationship so we didn’t talk much. He gets my number from one of the guys and texts me asking to grab a bite to eat. Since it was so last min I asked him to grab dinner for the following day and he says yes. I’m still questioning his intentions as I’m not looking to be a rebound and not sure if he is looking for anything at this time. So Monday rolls around and I don’t hear from him till 5, saying he’s caught up at work we’ll have to do a rain check. I’m a little frustrated so say sure. He asks if I’m mad and I say no, but I wanted him to be honest with me. Is he looking for anything right now? He replies no but he is looking for “cool people to hang out with, and you would fit that description". Ok then, that’s all squared away, I don’t need a friend

Monday also had another surprise in store. A few weeks ago a guy on OkC had tried to set up an elaborate date the same day I was feeling hung over from the night before. He wanted to lounge in the sun as he called it, engaging in a new sport of lounging, with a blanket on the beach and watching the sun set. Ok now hear me out, one I hate romantic things right off the bat with guys because let’s be honest MOST first dates are not enjoyable so WHY on earth would I want to be stuck on a beach with you in a romantic setting, most likely touching, and feel pressured? No thanks. So I shot that idea down and he wasn’t happy, he called me and I could tell in his voice it sounded like I shot his puppy dog. So he didn’t contact me for almost a month, well until Monday.

I decided to give him another shot bc he was at least trying and he was cute, just has a very odd sense of humor and way too energetic for one person. Sometimes when varying personalities interact with mine I don’t feed off them like most people day to day, I completely shut down! They irritate me to the core.

Anyhow he asks if I want to “play in the sun". I say sure….what do you have in mind?

He replies, “You decide!" Oh hell no, if you want to hang out you need to put in some effort. I’m already not keen on meeting you so I never responded and that was that. Done

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Updates

My early morning boot camp guy date has texted me but not as much as I'd like. I get the feeling he's not really into me and it sucks. Having a first date like that is hard! We didn't get a ton of time to talk and I was in my scrubs to workout. Usually guys text me throughout the day but I've only heard from him once since. Like I said I left the ball in his court he will reach out if he wants to....

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Douche

My date with the WSU grad was on for Saturday night. At 5pm he texts me when I’m free and that he is out with some coworkers and will be home soon. I say I’m free now and that we could just grab a drink somewhere as I’m not hungry. I don’t hear ANYTHING for over 2 hours.

So I text him “Should I just hang out with my friends instead?"

He replies “I’ll be home in 30-45" to which I reply “it’s fine, go have fun"

Dumbass….I’m giving him another chance even though my heart says no, he’s not worth my time. So in my book, he fucked up. No more chances. I don’t like to be in the dark about things and certainly he’s not that into me.

On the bright side when I went out with my friends, I spotted a very good looking guy and offered to get him closer to the bar so he could get a drink. He seemed shocked that I was being so nice and immediately he was chatting me up. We had a blast with his group of friends, who ironically work at my 2nd favorite bar down in that area, and talked all night. The insurance guy I had been seeing last month was there with his friends and he looked quite douchy I must say. White sunglasses on top of his head and tight tee shirt. My girlfriend tells me that the guy had been seeing her friend for the past 2 months! Boy did I feel like an idiot.

But he totally noticed that I had claimed a new guy at the bar, so much in fact when my guy was trying to find his way past the barstools, the insurance guy was posted up in his way. When he asked him if he could slide by, the douche goes, “I don’t know CAN you?" Fucking douche!! Lol

Anyways while I really liked the guy he just got out of a relationship a few weeks ago so I doubt anything will come of it. We did have a very nice make out session by his car so I don’t really care if nothing transpires further. He’s cute and respectful and fun to flirt with in the very least 😉 Sometimes it's nice to just have a distraction from time to time

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Boot camp and Breakfast

This mornings date was by far the strangest first date I've been on. He asked me the day before if I'd be interested in participating in a boot camp his coworkers put on. I agreed, but was definitely hesitant as he was very cute in pictures and I didn't want to make a fool of myself! I got up at 630am got ready and left for his place just a few minutes away. Upon meeting him he was stunningly gorgeous. Tall, tan, great smile and eyes. Even his tone of voice was soothing. I was picturing more of a nerd as he works for a big gaming company downtown. Anyhow we talked for a bit on the way there and at least on my end there was instant attraction. I met his coworkers and we started warm ups with resistance bands and drills. After demonstrations of the different stations we were off! It was really sweet he would check up on me after each rotation and offered me water. I was definitely getting a good workout in and really thankful I came! Afterwards there were plans for breakfast downtown so we met up there and eat. Since it was a group setting we didn't have much alone time to talk but he did bring up his past relationship a little and some of his interests or hobbies. It's hard to gauge him though as I can't tell he is interested. It's not common to be meeting a hot guy on a first date and me wearing scrubs with my hair up! So after breakfast he dropped me back off at my car and I left the door open for hanging out this next week. Whether he takes it or not is up to him! But this is the first date in a very long time where I have butterflies. So they do still exist!!!

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Weird day

So my day starts off with me dropping my iPad (in it's case, yet the corners aren't protected) on the ground. Corner is partially shattered. Awesome. My friend is doing a relay race and she's a very good runner. Her times are phenomenal! I just started running again, but it's been frustrating. I can't run that long and have to stop often. I'm only doing 9:30 min miles which is very slow. I've been running 5 days a week giving myself 2 days of rest in between and last week felt good! However the past 2 days I've been experiencing strange muscle tensions on the side of my leg and today, my quad muscle is in pain. I could only run half a mile before I had to stop. It almost feels numb but it's painful. Ugh so I drive to the gym and finish my workout. Meanwhile, I get a text from an OkCupid guy who had invited me to do a boot camp with him early tomorrow morning. This was during my awful run by the way and I wasn't in a great mood. If I can't even finish a run, how am I going to do boot camp?? I almost talked my way out of it claiming I was out of shape etc etc. Then I grew a pair and told him yes after all. So I'm signed up for that lol Another text comes through: "Hey hippie! How have you been? I've been meaning to text you but things have been really crazy" - WSU Grad I'm sorry, didn't you fall off the face of the earth? It's been 2 months! Ugh but I'm hopeless I like the guy I can't help it. So needless to say we are hanging out tomorrow night.

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Celebrity Crush

My date last night was with the football player and I chose my favorite Mexican place with outdoor seating. I got there first and asked the hostess to sit outside. They both look at each other and laugh. The girl asks, “Do you watch the Bachelorette?" “Um yes, every week" but why on earth were they asking? “Well" she says “Chris is sitting outside and there’s an open spot next to him, do you want to sit there" Hell yes! I’m a huge fan he’s actually my favorite contestant so now I’m all giddy to see his gorgeous face.

I sit down and my hostess winks at me and my god, this man is much better looking in person than tv if that’s possible! He has these amazing eyes like blue green and I melt. He’s with another guy chatting with chips and beer and I look at the menu trying to play it cool. The place is patio seating with big picnic tables so literally we are at the same table. He’s wearing an adorable pink checkered shirt, the same one from the rose ceremony that aired this past week. I can hear him talking about golfing at Interbay and Jackson Greens and I desperately want to chime in but that would just be rude….I’ll wait till I’m more liquored up, duh

So then my date comes, shit I almost forgot! He’s not as cute and much thicker than I like (260 lbs very muscular though). Sure we had stuff to talk about and the food and drinks were great but I am so distracted!! Gorgeous model and semi celebrity is sitting across from me. How can I concentrate? So after an hour or so just as they are about to leave I make my move. I stand up and introduce myself of course blabbering that I’m a fan of him on the show. He kind of blushed and say thank you. I'm sure he gets it all the time and i didnt want to seem like a dumb blonde fan all squealing and gawking. I wanted to ask him out so bad! But of course that’s just not how things work especially with guys like that. My date didn’t even mind he thought it was cute that I had a crush.

Anyhow a guy friend was also there and he stopped to say hi which was nice. So overall the date was really casual, no kiss at the end and I’m really not sure if it will amount to anything. He’s very nice I’m just uneasy about him not being single. Just seems pointless even if I had feelings for him.

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Date Night

The football player has been hitting me up all day since Sunday night. At first it was cute, I liked the new attention but I could also tell he REALLY likes me. Like I can do no wrong in his eyes and he wants to please me with everything he does and says. This is different for me. Not to mention the whole girlfriend thing. But we have plans Wednesday night to grab dinner and chat. I can only try and see if there's more than just an initial spark. If it is great, but if not that's ok too. I'll post an update after our date....

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Boating

Sunday was gorgeous out so I got an invite from my direct tv friend to go on a boat. Only problem was it was just going to be me him and his friend we'll name Football Player because he played college football and looks like a lineman. When I met him, I immediately noticed his eyes. They were powder blue and warm. We kind of flirted for a bit until my direct tv friend took notice and jealous, and told me he's taken. He has a girlfriend back east. Hmm awesome. So I backed off a bit but we ended up having a great time hanging out in the sun drinking. We decided to get some food, as my friend stupidly hasn't eaten all day and was borderline blacked out drunk. So of course me and the football player had to babysit him. What an annoying job...he had jumped off the boat a few times and ended up slicing his toe, cutting his face on god knows what, spilling 2 beers, one one me by the way, and almost breaking one of the hand rails. Can you say lightweight?? Ugh but it was comical to us and I could tell the football player was definitely eyeing me more and more. After dinner it was getting late so I took off and we exchanged numbers. He texted me that night and said he was really into me to which I replied, yeah but you have a gf...He said that was his business and I couldn't argue with that. I just hate being the in between girl. He wanted to hang out this week and I told him maybe...

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The Model...

I have so much to update! Ok so from the beginning lets go back to Saturday night.... I had plans with my crush who I'll name the Model because he models on the side and is a pretty boy. I met him during football season at Sluggers and we had a lot of fun. He's an older brother to my classmate in high school so I only knew his name. We had tried to make plans but he was never very assertive so it never worked out. That and he was seeing someone shortly after. Anyhow we reconnected on OkC gotta love those friendly faces from your past as you scroll down pages of random dudes! Anyhow we had plans to hang out Sunday as I was house sitting for my dad in my hometown. He recently moved back to live with his parents until he found a job. First red flag but he's absolutely gorgeous and funny so I didn't care. I reached out to him in the morning to say hi and he responded with something cute but nothing else in depth. A few hours later I reach out again (by the way I hate, HATE making initial contact. I know from past experiences if a guy is into you they will always text you first to see how you are doing) to ask if we are still on for tomorrow. We had plans to hit a bucket of balls, BBQ and maybe hot tub after. But no response. I didn't start freaking out until that night, around 7 or so. It had been 5 hours and no word from the Model. I was upset. So I drowned my sorrows in a bottle of red wine and candles. Sunday rolls around, I go for an early morning run and was hoping he'd text me. Still nothing. So I bought all the BBQ stuff for myself and let the bunnies play in the backyard. Around 6 I hear from him. He had left his phone at his buddies on, get this, a tractor. Very country lol. Anyhow I said it was fine and didn't hear anything back. I was hoping he'd ask me to dinner but nothing. Ugh this guy was annoying me! So around 8 I hop in the hot tub and send him a snap chat to make him jealous. He invited himself over and I thought what the heck? Sure. So he comes over and he's not exactly the way I remembered either from pics or the last time we hung out. He was skinny! And his face wasn't as cute as his pics. Also his demeanor and words were slow, as if he was a bit special. Then the feminine mannerisms came out, when he was talking about his old gay Roomate. I was annoyed. Not to mention he wasn't asking me any questions just telling his life story. I was bored! I confronted him about it and he said that I seemed shy. Well god knows I'm not but he was boring me. Oh well after a glass of wine our conversation went better but not great. He sat next to me and we both looked up to the stars. It was kind of romantic I must say but my heart wasn't into this guy. He leaned over for a kiss and while the kissing was passionate it wasn't what I hoped for. He's a nice guy but not a lot of drive. I don't see him challenging me as a partner which is important to me. Mostly his demeanor was throwing me off. We ended the night with him telling me how this connection he feels never happens for him and he wanted to see me the next day. I agreed bc I was put on the spot and it did feel nice for someone to wrap their arms around me again, so I told him we could hang out the next day. Of course he was called in for a photoshoot that was supposed to last 4 hours and I offered that he come over for dinner after. However I got invited to go boating so I did that instead. I had a blast and was tempted to text him saying dinner was off but figured he didn't have his phone on him anyway. Around 945 I get a text saying the shoot ran a lot longer and that he was sorry. I really wasn't sorry though...kind of relieved. The good thing about this guy is he isn't persistent so I most likely wont hear from him again. Makes things easier right?? Next update: Boating

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If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

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I hate being the one to break it off ugh

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Long Pauses...

I’m house sitting for my dad in my hometown and assumed I wouldn’t be going on any dates until the following week. However the couple of guys I’m talking to wanted to see me sooner, including one that deleted his account shortly after chatting with me. We emailed for a bit then progressed and exchanged phone numbers. I didn’t find his pictures too appealing but he looked like he could be better in person. He has a boxer which he absolutely loves, in fact sent me many photos. I’m a dog lover too, and my dad also owns a boxer so we kind of hit it off in that sense. He seemed genuinely interested in getting to know me and kept in touch throughout the day. I was hesitantly optimistic about meeting but online dating tends to be a let down.

I told him when I’d be back and he was shocked, as was I to his reaction. He and I had been talking for a week and he never tried to set up plans. A weekend went by and nothing. So when he finally asked to hang out it was one of my last nights in Seattle and I had plans both nights. He agreed to come down to see me even though I told him no, not necessary. Then he said the line I hate hearing if its from a guy your not too fond of…"Well you’re worth it" http://media.tumblr.com/c65a014f6768690d991aade9efae7919/tumblr_inline_mjnwjnHMl31qz4rgp.gif So I replied “Oh far from it…lol" This is my attempt to push him away but alas he didn’t deter. In this scenario I feel pressed against the wall. I know if I go I COULD have a good time and maybe even like the guy but MOST times it’s that sinking feeling when you first see him at the bar and immediately regret it.

….And that’s what happened, the latter. He is a software consultant of which is a bit boring to me. He has dark hair, and quite a bit of scruff on his face. But his voice was soothing and we had a few topics to talk about so it wasn’t painstakingly awful. He kept the conversation going which was good but I wasn’t into it. However him being in the software biz he did show me the new iOS 7 for iPhone (which is pretty awesome, coming to you in Sept!) so the night wasn't a total bust. We had 2 drinks and left the restaurant. In the parking lot I gave him a hug and said thank you. He looked me dead in the eyes and just stared as if he was waiting for something. It was a long pause before I asked “What?" And he said, nothing…then did it again! I don’t know if he was expecting a kiss or what but I just said night! And left for my car.

I immediately texted the boy who I couldn’t get off my mind all day, and he was being fucking adorable. Sent me a few silly snap chats and I got to see how in shape he was which made me giggle like a little girl. Butterflies with this one…Who is he? You’ll have to read more soon to find out :)

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Fireman #2

My date with the fireman got rescheduled because of overtime obligations but he promised a fun evening for me. He first suggested wine tasting or a round of golf at the pitch and putt in Greenlake. However I wasn’t sure if I wanted to drink because I’m trying to get back in shape and doing the cleanse and 24 Day Challenge. We had already done a golf date so I suggested maybe dinner out on the patio downtown. I wanted to talk to him more since our first date was mostly us hitting golf balls. He agreed

When we met up I was on a business call and felt really bad but he didn’t mind. I wrapped it up and we instantly started talking about our 4th of July adventures. He had to work at Gasworks and ended up putting out a large 14 boat fire up in the racks in a marina nearby. He went into great detail and I realized we had only really talked about his work, which mind you was interesting but I felt like there wasn’t much else to talk about. I did love that he is so close to his family. His eyes really light up when talking about them. The conversation led to the vacations he’s been on and where else he’d like to go. I can tell he’s a spontaneous guy and would push me to break out of my bubble.

We decided to go to Greenlake to walk around and we chatted more about little things and while I felt like I was getting to know him more I wasn’t sure if, say the next time, we’d have much to talk about. At the end of the night he walked me to my car and we had a quick kiss. I was a little uncertain if I wanted to so was hoping he couldn’t tell I was pulling away. I think I do like him but he doesn’t give me butterflies. It’s more of a comfort thing. I like hanging out with him but not sure if that spark is there…

I know I can be too picky so I'm trying to take a step back and not rush into this thinking well, he's just not the one for me....Next! I can't think like that I've gone through so many potential guys and nothing stuck because in most cases, I pushed them away. I won't be careless with my heart but I need to trust the people who aren't malicious and just use me. It's a precious balance I suppose and I hope that a few more dates with the fireman will help me figure that out!

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What Dreams May Come...

So I had a dream last night that really shocked me. My dreams are usually my subconscious reliving certain moments or insecurities I'm experiencing at the time. It used to be focused on my parents and childhood but has changed over the years to yes, parts of my past but also what crazy things are taking place in my life. A lot has been about me being single, as sadly I tend to dwell on it throughout the day. Last nights dream took place, in short, on a bus or train. Bench style seating and hand rails to grab onto. I was sitting there minding my own business when the girl across from me starts talking to her friend about the guys she went on dates with. She was explaining that on a date she often judged the guy on everything: hair style, teeth, face shape, facial hair, height, smile, clothes and tone of voice. If anything came up in conversation that was a red flag she instantly judged him on it. After the date, she most likely wouldn't go out with the dude the next time bc of any one of these issues she found. I chimed in just then...I do the exact same thing, and it sucks because I know it's wrong I can't help it. I'm not looking for perfect but he's not someone I see myself with! She replied that it was ok, I just haven't found the type of guy I'm looking for online. At that moment I felt relieved that yes maybe someone was as picky as me, and that I would find a guy soon, but as I woke up from my dream I realized that that "someone" was me talking to myself. She didn't exist. It was my subconscious. Today I was dwelling on that a bit and I turned down a busy pedestrian street and saw this guy that made my heart flutter. It wasn't his looks that made me do a double take but rather his features as a whole that I longed for. Height, hair, smile, eyes, style I could tell his personality would match mine. But alas I was in a car and he was walking. So unless I hit him on the sidewalk (what...a romantic fairy tale ending that would be) I had to just believe that there is a certain type of guy out there for me, I just have to wait...

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The 4th

My girlfriends and I had plans to drink, BBQ and then boat to SLU to watch the fireworks. The day started off a bit slow but definitely picked up as more guests arrived. There was an infinity pool that overlooked the edge of the water and plenty of engaging conversation. One guy was particularly cute but he wasn't expressing much interest in me I think he was nervous about what to say. Anyhow it was almost 8 and we still hadn't left. We decided to leave and go back to SLU to watch the fireworks somewhere. We needed more alcohol but most of the stores were closed. 2nd best option? Find a group that would take us in and party. We drove past a beer pong tourney and said hell yeah! One guy was extremely good looking and I'm totally flirting with him. He's about my age and has a great smile. He invites me to be his partner and I agree. 10 minutes later his wife comes to kiss him. Perfect. All the men are either scared shit less or married. I can't win can I? Ugh

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An Awkward Evening...

To kick off the 4th of July festivities our favorite bar downtown was hosting an anniversary party of their own complete with an outdoor beer garden, live band and a fire thrower. This party was guaranteed to be fun so we dressed up and were eyeing a bunch of cute guys who also attended. However as we soon realized none would come up and talk to us. The night started off with a friend of a friend who was 40 bringing her 23 year old boyfriend and his 2 friends. Granted the one was good looking and had a good job but was lacking real conversation. He did express interest in me and I gave it a shot. However he had no game and the only thing he was asking was for him to take me out. I said "well lets see how the night goes and then maybe we can hang out again". I felt that was fair. He saw me later at the bar and offered to buy me a drink. I look down and my drink is full so I decline. He says that he will buy one anyway so by the time he brings it to me I'll be done. I agree with that offer. He even asks to taste it as I'm drinking Prosecco and he's never had it. 5 minutes later he comes back with 3 shots of whiskey and I assume it's for his friends. He says no, that's what I ordered. I'm sorry, what?? This boy is clueless! Never fear though, the world always sets things right. 10 minutes later the bar staff tell his very intoxicated friend to leave and thus they are also asked to leave. Perfect ending right? People are shuffling by asking what's going on and my only explanation? He's 23.... Another weird thing as I was mentioning I could see guys staring at me. So much in fact they would see me walk by and turn to their friends by grabbing their arm and point or stare again. Now if there are any men reading this, women go out because we want to meet someone. If we look back at you multiple times and you still do nothing, we are not going to approach you first, you need some balls and approach us!! Just a piece of advice. Second interesting part of the night. We are at the bar mingling or at least attempting to and I'm talking to this girl (remember no guys are approaching me) and she turns to a guy in her group and says "Buy this pretty girl a drink" I am shocked but in love with this girl lol! He asks me what I'm drinking and then hands me, no joke, a shot of whiskey! What is with guys thinking I like whiskey?? So she laughs and says no, order her a god damn Prosecco! This guy does as she says and we start talking a bit. He's a meathead looking dude but nice. I ask a very logical question, his age. He gets really angry asking why that even matters etc etc. I'm shocked as it was just a question, my 23 year old incident has made me more aware of age I didn't think it was a big deal! He goes on to say he's an amazing guy and that he's established etc. and he's 36. I say that's great! I'm 27 and then he goes on about how our age difference is fine. I know I say, I wasn't worried but apparently he is sensitive to the topic my goodness. Then literally a few moments go by and he turns to his cousin and say, "Would you rather be talking to my (younger) cousin??" I'm kind of pissed off now I realize he is drunk but I was not upset about his age it was merely a question I was happy to be talking to this guy until he blew up on me and unleashed his insecurities. I turn to walk away and he has the audacity to grab my ass!!! So annoyed.... So the night ends I'm obviously upset with the male population right now. I realize this is why I do online dating, obviously guys are too scared to come talk to me I'm going to be single forever if this keeps up! Ugh