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so yeah schools coming up and that sucks but you know what else is coming up? ugly sweaters and scarves and PUMPKIN SPICE LATTES AND HALLOWEEN AND CUDDLING BECAUSE ITS COLD AND FALL LEAVES AND HIKING IN THE BRISK AIR AND THEN AFTER THAT SNOW AND HOT COCOA AND MALLS DECORATED FOR HOLIDAYS AND FRICK SCHOOL ALL OF THIS IS WORTH IT WOWIE

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AUGUST IS NEXT SLOW YOUR HORSE DOWN

me: halloween is coming soon

mom: it's july

me:

me: halloween is coming soon

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WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:

Stay with us and keep calm. The last thing we need when we’re panicking, is to have someone else panicking with us.

Offer medicine if we usually take it during an attack. You might have to ask whether or not we take medicine- heck, some might not; but please, ask. It really helps.

Move us to a quiet place. We need time to think, to breathe. Being surrounded by people isn’t going to help.

Don’t make assumptions about what we need. Ask. We’ll tell you what we need. Sometimes; you may have to ask- but never assume.

Speak to us in short, simple sentences.

Be predictable. Avoid surprises.

Help slow our breathing by breathing us or by counting slowly to 10. As odd as it sounds, it works.

WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO: 1. Say, “You have nothing to be panicked about.” We know. We know. We know. And because we know we have nothing to be panicked about, we panic even more. When I realize that my anxiety is unfounded, I panic even more because then I feel like I’m not in touch with reality. It’s unsettling. Scary. Most of the time, a panic attack is irrational. Sometimes they stem from circumstances — a certain couch triggers a bad memory or being on an airplane makes you claustrophobic or a break up causes you to flip your lid — but mostly, the reasons I’m panicking are complex, hard to articulate or simply, unknown. I could tell myself all day that I have no reason to be having a panic attack and I would still be panicking. Sometimes, because I’m a perfectionist, I become even more overwhelmed when I think my behaviour is “unacceptable” (as I often believe it is when I’m panicking). I know it’s all in my mind, but my mind can be a pretty dark and scary place when it gets going. Alternate suggestion: Say, “I understand you’re upset. It is okay. You have a right to be upset and I am here to help.” 2. Say, “Calm down.” This reminds me of a MadTV sketch where Bob Newhart plays a therapist who tells his patients to simply “Stop it!” whenever they express anxiety or fear. As a sketch, it’s funny. In real life, it’s one of the worst things you can do to someone having a panic attack. When someone tells me to “stop panicking” or to “calm down,” I just think, “Oh, okay. I haven’t tried that one. Hold on, let me get out a pen and paper and jot that down, you jerk.” Instead of taking action so that they do relax, simply telling a panicking person to “calm down” or “stop it” does nothing. No-thing. Alternate suggestion: The best thing to do is to listen and support. In order to calm them down without the generalities, counting helps. 3. Say, “I’m just going to leave you alone for a minute.” Being left alone while panicking makes my heart race even harder. The last thing I want is to be left by myself with my troubled brain. Many of my panic attacks spark from over-thinking and it’s helpful to have another person with me, not only for medical reasons (in case I pass out or need water) but also it’s helpful to have another person around to force me to think about something other than the noise in my head. Alternate suggestion: It sometimes helps me if the person I’m with distracts me by telling me a story or sings to me. I need to get out of my own head and think about something other than my own panic. 4. Say, “You’re overreacting.” Here’s the thing: I’m not. Panic attacks might be in my head, but I’m in actual physical pain. If you’d cut open your leg, no one would be telling you you’re overreacting. It’s a common trope in mental health to diminish the feelings or experience of someone suffering from anxiety or panic because there’s no visible physical ailment and because there’s no discernible reason for the person to be having such a strong fear reaction. The worst thing you can tell someone who is panicking is that they are overreacting. Alternate suggestion: Treat a panic attack like any other medical emergency. Listen to what the person is telling you. Get them water if they need it. It helps me if someone rubs my back a little. If you’re in over your head, don’t hesitate to call 911 (or whatever the emergency services number is where you are). But please, take the person seriously. Mental health deserves the same respect as physical health.

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Adam Wallacavage

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reblog if you are cute and unstoppable

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when you genuinely like and care for someone but can’t express it without being weird

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1. This looks like the weirdest movie ever.

2. Daniel Radcliffe sounds like a COMPLETELY different person with an American accent. His voice literally sounds lower.

3. Oh look, a movie where Daniel Radcliffe makes friends with a snake!

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mandy and gaz are friends

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You’re so pretty. You’re adorable. You’re beautiful. You’re my beautiful little girl. Sweet little lady. Careful! Don’t get hurt! Play nicely. Don’t get dirty. Stop that. Be more ladylike. Don’t eat too much. Shhhh. Quiet. Girls are duuumb! Girls have cooties. No girls allowed. Hahahahaha! You have boobs! Look at her boobs! Boobs! Boobs! Boobs! Boobs! Ewwwww. Periods are disgusting. You’re disgusting. That’s gross. Hahahahaha! You’ve got your period. Boobs! Let me touch them! I want to touch them! Disgusting. Slut. You’re gross. Whore. Let me touch it. Bitch. I only want to touch it. She’s a slut. Virgin. Slut. Virgin. Slut. You slut. Show me your tits. Get ‘em out! Slag. You want it. Take it. Have it. Swallow it. Slut. Whore. Stupid bitch. Fat bitch. You’re not quite right for this. I’m not sure you can do it. Tits. Cunt. I just want to fuck you. Come on, you want it. You’re not confident enough. You need more experience. No one will take you seriously. Slut. You’re too emotional. It’s just a joke. Lighten up. Smile. I don’t care what you think. I just want to fuck you. Tits. Don’t wear that. Slut. You’re getting fat. You’re too messy. Come on, it was a joke. Don’t be such an idiot. Why are you so tired? If I’m honest, I’m not really interested. You do it. I’m busy. I can’t I’m working. You wake up with it. You take care of it. You’re messy. I’m too busy, you do it. You need to lose weight. You don’t spend enough time with me. You aren’t interesting. You’re boring. Really, I’m not interested in that. You’re looking a bit tired. You should take care of yourself more. You should take care of me. You’re looking a bit old. You’re old. Wrinkles. Flabby. Dull. Grey. Ugly. Haggard. Hag. *invisible*

Female Socialisation by Gia Milinovich (via plansfornigel)

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set of nostalgia drawings by gabriel picolo. i don’t think i have enough space on my tumblr for all his works that i’d like to post.

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these are incredible

The eyes of the Time Lord. My favorite doctors: 1) the fourth doctor; Jon Baker 2) the ninth doctor; Chistopher Eccleston 3) the tenth doctor; David Tennant 4) the eleventh doctor; Matt Smith #doctorwho #whovian #Iloveeyes

#whovian #doctorwho #iloveeyes