I‘m calling all rhys stans who hate feyre misogynists because wtf??
I don’t like Feyre either, but not as much as I hate Rhys for obvious reasons. Feyre is the one who‘s new to the world. It‘s the 500 year old rat who‘s on the wheel. A lot of her actions come with Rhys’s approval and encouragement. Feyre certainly doesn‘t owe him kindness— ESPECIALLY after withholding crucial medical Information from her.
Sry to bother you again but I just sent you a long Text clarifying certain rules of Islam, but I think it didn’t go through 😭😭😭 please let me know if you got it!!
If not, I‘m gonna die cause I spent so long explaining and pulling up sources argghhh
unfortunately I didn’t get it 😭
if you’re willing, please type it out again! No need to search for sources if you’re not up for that. Or if you could give me examples of reliable websites, that would work too! Like I said I’m no expert and I’m not Muslim, so I was very weary of taking anything I found from just one source.
Okay, long texts don‘t work in asks so I‘m replogging it instead 🥲 I hope you got some time to spare because it‘s a lot… I have to cite quotes from sources cause it‘s important.
I really appreciate that you took the time to educate yourself 🧡 everyone should for educational purposes. I wanted to add and correct you on 3 points you made:
Age of marriage: Yes, the age of marriage is determined by puberty, but not alone. There‘s more conditions that have to be met for the person to be allowed to marry: Bulūgh (Puberty), Rushd (Maturity) and it has to be approved by Society: Urf (Custom), Ma‘ruf (Community approval) and Siyasah Shar‘iyaah (State/Societal Regulation).
The reason why there is no age restriction in the Quran is because a specific age isn‘t bound to every timeline and society like it should. 1400 years ago children would mature faster and people had short lifespans. Marriage at puberty was worldwide accepted and marriage was seen differently than how it is perceived today. During those times. marriage was also needed for survival: The prophet Muhammad (pbuh) would marry many widowed wives, who had no one to take care of them and their children. Marriage was political.
Young people (I call them that cause that‘s what they actually were instead of Children), wouldn‘t just marry, they‘d serve as a junior co- regent (Cleopatra at 14 years old) tend to the wounded (Aisha at 10 years old), lead a war and educate men on Islam (also Aisha at 17 years old) etc. Today we could never imagine children and teenagers to have that capacity. Know that in the future, when society changes again, the legal age might be raised to 25 (Scientifically the brain is fully developed at 25, that‘s why I mention it). Is it fair for future morals to be applied on the present just as people apply present morals on the Society 1400 years ago? No.
Just as you correctly mentioned, Islamic marriage requires the consent of both parties, otherwise it‘s illegal. What Child today would actually consent?
I highly recommend you to watch this video by the Muslim lantern. He explains the Islamic marriage in great detail with basic logic and evidences to a Non Muslim. I generally recommend to check out his channel because he answers critical questions from Non Muslims with great evidences, without involving his own subjective opinions and he speaks in a humble manner. He even corrects Muslims that pacify/liberalize Islam because he doesn’t stand for changing the source material to protect western feelings, it’s otherwise deceiving to Non Muslims and lying is a sin. It‘s a great channel for Non Muslims to get educated from!
FGM: This practice is strictly NOT ALLOWED in Islam. It’s not an Islamic practise to beginn with. What we have is male circumcision done by professionals (so doctors) to ONLY remove the foreskin for medical/hygienic purposes, done to boys at 7-10 years old and it‘s not mandatory, only recommended (My brother and cousin had it done, they have no issues to this day). There‘s no such thing as female circumcision in Islam because our part is self cleaning! FGM is a barbaric, ancient cultural practise done to girls to supress their sexual desires. The process is torture and leaves physical and mental trauma, which Islam is against completely. The Prophet Muhammad said:
"There should be neither harming (ḍarar) nor reciprocating harm (ḍirār)." — Sunan Ibn Majah (Hadith 2341, Authentic)
— Al-Azhar University (Egypt): The highest seat of Sunni Islamic learning issued a definitive fatwa stating that FGM is religiously forbidden (Haram), noting that it has no authentic textual basis and causes undisputed physical and psychological harm to women.
— The Muslim World League & The Organisation of Islamic Cooperation (OIC): Have both explicitly rejected FGM, identifying it as an oppressive tribal custom that violates the Islamic principles of human dignity and compassion.
According to the Quran (constantly mentioned), harming an innocent individual is strictly prohibited. "And do not harm one another so as to transgress..." Surah Al-Baqarah (2:231). We are only to defend ourself against those who attack us and transgressors— even then there are rules on how we are to harm them.
Sexual desires of the woman matters as much during intercourse and when it comes to the choice of marriage. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) himself had explained to his men on how they are to treat their wives during intercourse.
The Prophet (pbuh) is reported to have said:
"None of you should fall upon his wife like an animal; rather, let there be a messenger between them." The companions asked, "What is the messenger, O Messenger of Allah?" He replied, "Kisses and romantic words." (Musnad al-Firdaws by Al-Daylami; cited by Ibn al-Qayyim in Tibb al-Nabawi).
When the companion Jabir ibn Abdullah got married, the Prophet asked him why he didn't marry someone closer to his age group, phrasing it as: "So that you may play with her and she may play with you, and you may make her laugh and she may make you laugh?" (Sahih al-Bukhari).
In a tradition recorded in Sahih Muslim, the Prophet (pbuh) explained to his companions that a man is actively rewarded by God for fulfilling his wife's desires:
"In the sexual intercourse of any one of you there is a reward." The companions asked in surprise, "O Messenger of Allah, when one of us fulfills his desire, will he have a reward for that?" He replied, "Do you not see that if he were to do it in a forbidden manner, he would be punished? So if he does it in a lawful manner, he will be rewarded."
(Sahih Muslim)Imam Ibn Qudamah (Hanbali School) wrote in Al-Mughni:
"It is recommended that a man engages in foreplay with his wife before intercourse to arouse her desire, so she experiences the same pleasure he does... And when he reaches his climax, he should not pull away immediately until she has also fulfilled her desire."
Imam Al-Ghazali (Shafi'i School) wrote in Ihya Ulum al-Din:
"Intercourse should start with sweet words and kissing... When the husband achieves his ejaculation, he should wait for his wife until she also reaches her climax. His quick withdrawal causes a sense of frustration and disappointment to her."
I‘m including the Importance of the sexual desires of Women since FGM is done to supress them completely. Like I’ve said, this practise is ancient (so long before the Quran was revealed). It happens more so in war torn countries like Yemen and Iraq (specifically Iraqi Kurdistan) and maybe Afghanistan? (that I‘m not sure about). It‘s not native to the levant, non existent in North Africa (excluding Egypt) and doesn‘t exist in Islamic South Asian/Southeast countries. It does happen in the gulf states in certain taditional tribal communities and within large migrant worker communities from East Africa. It‘s virtually non existent in Iran.
Forced Pregnancy & Abortion: While It is never allowed as a casual method of birth control, it is permitted and in some cases, strictly mandated under specific conditions. The permissibility of an abortion in Islam depends entirely on two factors: the gestational age of the fetus and the severity of the medical or safety necessity (Ebrahim, 1989; Al-Bar & Chamsi-Pasha, 2015).
Islamic rulings on abortion rely heavily on the concept of Infilakh al-Ruh (the breathing of the soul/ensoulment) (Al-Bar & Chamsi-Pasha, 2015). According to a widely accepted authentic Hadith, the soul is breathed into the fetus at 120 days (approximately 17 weeks) of pregnancy:
The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: „Each one of you is constituted in the womb of the mother for forty days, then he becomes a clot of thick blood for a similar period, then a piece of flesh for a similar period. Then Allah sends an angel who is ordered to breathe the soul into him...'" (Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim)
Before 120 days (before ensoulment) the fetus is considered a living organism, but not yet a full human soul with complete legal personhood (Al-Bar & Chamsi-Pasha, 2015). Valid justifications accepted by various schools include:
1. A severe threat to the mother’s physical or mental health (Ebrahim, 1989).
2. The mother being physically unable to nurse a child (if it would dry up her milk for an existing infant) (Ebrahim, 1989)
3. Pregnancies resulting from rape. Major contemporary bodies (like the Islamic Jurisprudence Council of the Muslim World League) have issued fatwas explicitly allowing women who are victims of rape to abort the pregnancy early on to prevent severe psychological and social trauma
After 120 days, the only justification for abortion (which is mandatory even) is when it’s the only way to save the mother‘s life (Ebrahim, 1989; Al-Bar & Chamsi-Pasha, 2015)
Islam is neither pro choice nor pro life, it‘s pro circumstances (for most things actually).
I wanted to correct you on those points because you gave a „Christianity and Judaism are like that too“ argument than clarifying what Islam itself actually permits and prohibits, although well Intentioned! Wiki is not a trusted source when it comes to Islam
1. No Muslim Country today actually follows the true and complete Sharia— Not the most Progressive (Tunisia) nor the least (Afghanistan) due to Western Interference (Brunei in 2014 tried to implement the full and complete Sharia, but was met with massive hostility by the Western world). A united Muslim world (the ummah) actually politically threatens the Western world, so throughout the years in the 20th century we experienced assassinations of Muslim Leaders, implementation & dictators and Western puppets and unjust wars. So I recommend to look into the Muslim world before the western Invasion begann
2. We do not follow Muslim Governments, we follow what the source material of Islam says (the Quran and Hadiths). The Ma'ruf Rule: The Prophet (pbuh) stated:
"Hearing and obeying is required of a Muslim man regarding what he likes and what he dislikes, so long as he is not commanded to commit a sin. If he is commanded to commit a sin, there is no hearing and no obeying." (Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim).
„There is no obedience to any creation if it involves disobedience to the Creator." (Musnad Ahmad, authenticated by Al-Albani)
The Prophet (pbuh) said: "The best Jihad is a word of truth spoken before an unjust ruler." (Sunan Abi Dawud).
3. We don‘t need Christianity nor Judaism as evidence for Islam‘s message nor as justification. For example, the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is actually specifically described in detail in the Bible, but Muslim scholars still don‘t use that as an evidence for Islam (personally I do tbh). In turn, we also don‘t need to point at Judaism or Christianity to defend ourselves, unless in the right context.
All that said— Sarah has no grounds to write ill about Muslims when the old Testament is generally considered as the most violent Abrahamic text and the Quran the least. When Judaism has a mandatory ritual of circumcising newborns + Israel, the only jewish state in the world, currently commits a genocide, and since it‘s establishment ethnic cleansing.
Edit: I‘d like to add for the point on Menstruation that yes, women are exempt from praying, fasting and touching the holy Quran (reading translation, praising Allah SWT and personal supplication to Allah SWT (Dua) is still permissible). Menstruating women are considered impure, as is any person that farts, urinates, engages in sexual activity and defecates.
The difference is that menstruation is uncontrollable and unpredictable, so we cannot just easily peform the ritual ablution (Wudu) like we can for the other stuff.
+ It would be HELL for us to prostrate in prayer with cramps and not eat and drink for a whole week.
Thank you for all the clarifications! Especially the link to The Muslim Lantern. I will definitely take a look at his videos. And thank you for taking the time to educate me. I'm someone who believes that it's on the person trying to break stigma to seek out knowledge rather than expecting someone in that group to come and educate them, so your efforts do not go unacknowledged.
I agree that Wiki is not a reliable source for most things. I went for the convenience of using it since I could send someone directly to certain section rather than a long page they'd have to scroll to the bottom of. Though upon reflection that had the negative effect of also linking to potentially inaccurate and unreliable information. I typically use Wiki as more of a starting summary or a launching point to look for sources (unless it's something relatively unimportant like a movie summary). I forget sometimes that some people don't hold sources to the same level of scrutiny I do.
I would just like to clarify that I wasn't comparing Islam to Judaism and Christianity in an attempt to justify the teachings of any one of them. My personal belief is that your faith is between you and whatever deity/deities you believe in and needs no justification to others, especially those not in that religion. I did so because of the hypocrisy I often see surrounding arguments against Islam from members of those religions (though to be honest it's mostly Christians being hypocritical. I was raised in the Catholic Church, which tends to be more liberal than other Christian denominations. To the point that a fair amount of non-Catholic Christians hate Catholics. A good example is the anti-Catholic rhetoric JFK went through during his presidential campaign). A lot of bigoted arguments have people ridiculing the teachings of one religion while ignoring that their own has similar teachings. I think the way I tried to point it out may have gotten lost in translation, so I'm sorry if I offended you in any way.
I'd also like to clarify that when describing a nation as Muslim or non-Muslim, I didn't mean to insinuate that those nations were theocracies or otherwise governed by religion. I apologize if it read that way, it was not my intention. Rather, I meant it as a cultural distinction. Similar to how the US (and admittedly a good chunk of the world) could be considered a Christian nation even when there is no official religion.
I 100% agree that Maas has no right to write ill on Muslims. Given some of her real-life implications I believe she showed her hand here. The fact that the Illyrians are the only non-white culture she gives any attention to makes it even worse in my opinion. The only time she writes diversity in a way that isn't superficial is in a negative light.
To be honest if I had known what I do now about her before I read her books, I would've put them on my "never reading for moral reasons" list. As it is she's on my "problematic author" list along with JK Rowling and Stephenie Meyer.
Oh I wasn‘t offended at all!!! Truly, I really appreciate the post in defense of my people! My mind was rather on people who come across that post and wether they‘d understand that the stereotypes surrounding Muslims and Islam aren‘t even true.
In the context of Sjm, who‘s jewish, possibly potraying Illyrians as Muslims- you weren‘t wrong for pointing at Judaism and Christianity. Maybe there was just a misunderstanding on my part, which is why I mentioned the bit about using those religions to justify Islam. With how Sjm described Judaism, it seems she converted cause she thought the tradition and aesthetic are cool rather than implementing Judaism in her life? Idk
And yeah, I‘m all too aware about the hypocrisy of other religious people… It‘s annoying, but I can only contuine foward and educate the open minded.
Yes!!!! the Muslim lantern is really great for Non muslims to get to know of Islam. Wether it would be to revert, learn or just get the idea of what Islam is about- very easy to understand!
Sry to bother you again but I just sent you a long Text clarifying certain rules of Islam, but I think it didn’t go through 😭😭😭 please let me know if you got it!!
If not, I‘m gonna die cause I spent so long explaining and pulling up sources argghhh
unfortunately I didn’t get it 😭
if you’re willing, please type it out again! No need to search for sources if you’re not up for that. Or if you could give me examples of reliable websites, that would work too! Like I said I’m no expert and I’m not Muslim, so I was very weary of taking anything I found from just one source.
Okay, long texts don‘t work in asks so I‘m replogging it instead 🥲 I hope you got some time to spare because it‘s a lot… I have to cite quotes from sources cause it‘s important.
I really appreciate that you took the time to educate yourself 🧡 everyone should for educational purposes. I wanted to add and correct you on 3 points you made:
Age of marriage: Yes, the age of marriage is determined by puberty, but not alone. There‘s more conditions that have to be met for the person to be allowed to marry: Bulūgh (Puberty), Rushd (Maturity) and it has to be approved by Society: Urf (Custom), Ma‘ruf (Community approval) and Siyasah Shar‘iyaah (State/Societal Regulation).
The reason why there is no age restriction in the Quran is because a specific age isn‘t bound to every timeline and society like it should. 1400 years ago children would mature faster and people had short lifespans. Marriage at puberty was worldwide accepted and marriage was seen differently than how it is perceived today. During those times. marriage was also needed for survival: The prophet Muhammad (pbuh) would marry many widowed wives, who had no one to take care of them and their children. Marriage was political.
Young people (I call them that cause that‘s what they actually were instead of Children), wouldn‘t just marry, they‘d serve as a junior co- regent (Cleopatra at 14 years old) tend to the wounded (Aisha at 10 years old), lead a war and educate men on Islam (also Aisha at 17 years old) etc. Today we could never imagine children and teenagers to have that capacity. Know that in the future, when society changes again, the legal age might be raised to 25 (Scientifically the brain is fully developed at 25, that‘s why I mention it). Is it fair for future morals to be applied on the present just as people apply present morals on the Society 1400 years ago? No.
Just as you correctly mentioned, Islamic marriage requires the consent of both parties, otherwise it‘s illegal. What Child today would actually consent?
I highly recommend you to watch this video by the Muslim lantern. He explains the Islamic marriage in great detail with basic logic and evidences to a Non Muslim. I generally recommend to check out his channel because he answers critical questions from Non Muslims with great evidences, without involving his own subjective opinions and he speaks in a humble manner. He even corrects Muslims that pacify/liberalize Islam because he doesn’t stand for changing the source material to protect western feelings, it’s otherwise deceiving to Non Muslims and lying is a sin. It‘s a great channel for Non Muslims to get educated from!
FGM: This practice is strictly NOT ALLOWED in Islam. It’s not an Islamic practise to beginn with. What we have is male circumcision done by professionals (so doctors) to ONLY remove the foreskin for medical/hygienic purposes, done to boys at 7-10 years old and it‘s not mandatory, only recommended (My brother and cousin had it done, they have no issues to this day). There‘s no such thing as female circumcision in Islam because our part is self cleaning! FGM is a barbaric, ancient cultural practise done to girls to supress their sexual desires. The process is torture and leaves physical and mental trauma, which Islam is against completely. The Prophet Muhammad said:
"There should be neither harming (ḍarar) nor reciprocating harm (ḍirār)." — Sunan Ibn Majah (Hadith 2341, Authentic)
— Al-Azhar University (Egypt): The highest seat of Sunni Islamic learning issued a definitive fatwa stating that FGM is religiously forbidden (Haram), noting that it has no authentic textual basis and causes undisputed physical and psychological harm to women.
— The Muslim World League & The Organisation of Islamic Cooperation (OIC): Have both explicitly rejected FGM, identifying it as an oppressive tribal custom that violates the Islamic principles of human dignity and compassion.
According to the Quran (constantly mentioned), harming an innocent individual is strictly prohibited. "And do not harm one another so as to transgress..." Surah Al-Baqarah (2:231). We are only to defend ourself against those who attack us and transgressors— even then there are rules on how we are to harm them.
Sexual desires of the woman matters as much during intercourse and when it comes to the choice of marriage. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) himself had explained to his men on how they are to treat their wives during intercourse.
The Prophet (pbuh) is reported to have said:
"None of you should fall upon his wife like an animal; rather, let there be a messenger between them." The companions asked, "What is the messenger, O Messenger of Allah?" He replied, "Kisses and romantic words." (Musnad al-Firdaws by Al-Daylami; cited by Ibn al-Qayyim in Tibb al-Nabawi).
When the companion Jabir ibn Abdullah got married, the Prophet asked him why he didn't marry someone closer to his age group, phrasing it as: "So that you may play with her and she may play with you, and you may make her laugh and she may make you laugh?" (Sahih al-Bukhari).
In a tradition recorded in Sahih Muslim, the Prophet (pbuh) explained to his companions that a man is actively rewarded by God for fulfilling his wife's desires:
"In the sexual intercourse of any one of you there is a reward." The companions asked in surprise, "O Messenger of Allah, when one of us fulfills his desire, will he have a reward for that?" He replied, "Do you not see that if he were to do it in a forbidden manner, he would be punished? So if he does it in a lawful manner, he will be rewarded."
(Sahih Muslim)Imam Ibn Qudamah (Hanbali School) wrote in Al-Mughni:
"It is recommended that a man engages in foreplay with his wife before intercourse to arouse her desire, so she experiences the same pleasure he does... And when he reaches his climax, he should not pull away immediately until she has also fulfilled her desire."
Imam Al-Ghazali (Shafi'i School) wrote in Ihya Ulum al-Din:
"Intercourse should start with sweet words and kissing... When the husband achieves his ejaculation, he should wait for his wife until she also reaches her climax. His quick withdrawal causes a sense of frustration and disappointment to her."
I‘m including the Importance of the sexual desires of Women since FGM is done to supress them completely. Like I’ve said, this practise is ancient (so long before the Quran was revealed). It happens more so in war torn countries like Yemen and Iraq (specifically Iraqi Kurdistan) and maybe Afghanistan? (that I‘m not sure about). It‘s not native to the levant, non existent in North Africa (excluding Egypt) and doesn‘t exist in Islamic South Asian/Southeast countries. It does happen in the gulf states in certain taditional tribal communities and within large migrant worker communities from East Africa. It‘s virtually non existent in Iran.
Forced Pregnancy & Abortion: While It is never allowed as a casual method of birth control, it is permitted and in some cases, strictly mandated under specific conditions. The permissibility of an abortion in Islam depends entirely on two factors: the gestational age of the fetus and the severity of the medical or safety necessity (Ebrahim, 1989; Al-Bar & Chamsi-Pasha, 2015).
Islamic rulings on abortion rely heavily on the concept of Infilakh al-Ruh (the breathing of the soul/ensoulment) (Al-Bar & Chamsi-Pasha, 2015). According to a widely accepted authentic Hadith, the soul is breathed into the fetus at 120 days (approximately 17 weeks) of pregnancy:
The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: „Each one of you is constituted in the womb of the mother for forty days, then he becomes a clot of thick blood for a similar period, then a piece of flesh for a similar period. Then Allah sends an angel who is ordered to breathe the soul into him...'" (Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim)
Before 120 days (before ensoulment) the fetus is considered a living organism, but not yet a full human soul with complete legal personhood (Al-Bar & Chamsi-Pasha, 2015). Valid justifications accepted by various schools include:
1. A severe threat to the mother’s physical or mental health (Ebrahim, 1989).
2. The mother being physically unable to nurse a child (if it would dry up her milk for an existing infant) (Ebrahim, 1989)
3. Pregnancies resulting from rape. Major contemporary bodies (like the Islamic Jurisprudence Council of the Muslim World League) have issued fatwas explicitly allowing women who are victims of rape to abort the pregnancy early on to prevent severe psychological and social trauma
After 120 days, the only justification for abortion (which is mandatory even) is when it’s the only way to save the mother‘s life (Ebrahim, 1989; Al-Bar & Chamsi-Pasha, 2015)
Islam is neither pro choice nor pro life, it‘s pro circumstances (for most things actually).
I wanted to correct you on those points because you gave a „Christianity and Judaism are like that too“ argument than clarifying what Islam itself actually permits and prohibits, although well Intentioned! Wiki is not a trusted source when it comes to Islam
1. No Muslim Country today actually follows the true and complete Sharia— Not the most Progressive (Tunisia) nor the least (Afghanistan) due to Western Interference (Brunei in 2014 tried to implement the full and complete Sharia, but was met with massive hostility by the Western world). A united Muslim world (the ummah) actually politically threatens the Western world, so throughout the years in the 20th century we experienced assassinations of Muslim Leaders, implementation of dictators & Western puppets and unjust wars. So I recommend to look into the Muslim world before the western Invasion begann
2. We do not follow Muslim Governments, we follow what the source material of Islam says (the Quran and Hadiths). The Ma'ruf Rule: The Prophet (pbuh) stated:
"Hearing and obeying is required of a Muslim man regarding what he likes and what he dislikes, so long as he is not commanded to commit a sin. If he is commanded to commit a sin, there is no hearing and no obeying." (Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim).
„There is no obedience to any creation if it involves disobedience to the Creator." (Musnad Ahmad, authenticated by Al-Albani)
The Prophet (pbuh) said: "The best Jihad is a word of truth spoken before an unjust ruler." (Sunan Abi Dawud).
3. We don‘t need Christianity nor Judaism as evidence for Islam‘s message nor as justification. For example, the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is actually specifically described in detail in the Bible, but Muslim scholars still don‘t use that as an evidence for Islam (personally I do tbh). In turn, we also don‘t need to point at Judaism or Christianity to defend ourselves, unless in the right context.
All that said— Sarah has no grounds to write ill about Muslims when the old Testament is generally considered as the most violent Abrahamic text and the Quran the least. When Judaism has a mandatory ritual of circumcising newborns + Israel, the only jewish state in the world, currently commits a genocide, and since it‘s establishment ethnic cleansing.
Edit: I‘d like to add for the point on Menstruation that yes, women are exempt from praying, fasting and touching the holy Quran (reading translation, praising Allah SWT and personal supplication to Allah SWT (Dua) is still permissible). Menstruating women are considered impure, as is any person that farts, urinates, engages in sexual activity and defecates.
The difference is that menstruation is uncontrollable and unpredictable, so we cannot just easily peform the ritual ablution (Wudu) like we can for the other stuff.
+ It would be HELL for us to prostrate in prayer with cramps and not eat and drink for a whole week.
To the people who‘ve read acotar more times than me and don’t have the memory of a goldfish- Didn‘t the inner Circle complain about the cruelty done to young boys in Illyrian camps, and later on Rhys was on about how unfair it is for girls and women being forbidden to train THERE??
It could be 2 scenes from different books, I just wanna know if both scenes exist. If yes- wtf Rhys??
For those who have missed it, a tourist in Hawaii decided it would be fun to chuck a rock (a BIG rock) at a monk seal. He missed, but he was captured on video, and when told it was illegal to interfere with them, said "I'm rich, I can pay the fine."
Is the best part that he got doxxed? No.
Is the best part that he got tracked down by a local and beaten? No.
Arrested on state at federal charges, looking at up to 5 years and 50K? Nope.
The best part is the local city council's reaction.
And the best part of that is the look on the attorney's face.
After the incident, another video went viral showing what appeared to be that man getting a beating. The Maui Police Department said they had no record of any reports of disorderly conduct or assault related to the monk seal incident.
I don't know if any of y'all have seen the unofficial acotar musical that pixelplayhouse has been developing over the last 6 months or so, but they released a Rhysand song from his bargain with Feyre under the mountain a couple weeks ago and it just goes to show that any adaptation these books get are going to completely miss what sjm actually wrote and later swept under the rug.
First: The artwork accompanying the songs do lot trying to make the whole situation better than it was.
This is supposed to be when Rhysand makes a bargain with Feyre. They've portrayed him standing a respectable distance away, noticeably NOT twisting the bone sticking out of her arm.
Next the dress. So much for 2 panels of sheer fabric and a belt. I get that YT won't allow nudity, but this is just a dress.
Furthermore, some lyrics and the picture fails to take into account the fact that Rhys forcibly drugged her with faerie wine. One line says something like, "don't keep your goblet full" but the fact that he forced her to drink is essentially nonexistent.
And then this is how they decide to portray the dancing. I guess if this is how everyone in the pro crowd sees it, i get why they'd want to excuse Rhys for everything, but when Lucien comes to see Feyre after Rhysand trots her out the first time, we get on page confirmation that the dancing was not wholesome:
Again: I get that some stuff can't be shown on sites like YT, but to utterly take the teeth out of these scenes is a disservice to what was written
Overall, the lyrics are pretty close to the book, but they threw in this line to absolve Rhysand of forcing Feyre to do anything and making it look like she just played along for...no reason? I guess?
I guess I figured they'd do something like this, but it was still disappointing to see
I just realized- the fact that they removed these heavy themes proves that they do believe it was Sexual assault. They do think what Rhys did was criminal and immoral, hence why they completely changed it.
The drugging, the humiliating garment, the horrid „dancing“- if feysands truly believe what they defend, they would‘ve kept it all in.
These are just my personal thoughts on some of the discourse I’ve seen in the fandom recently.
It genuinely frustrates me when people declare that the fandom is “toxic” and that SJM deserves better—as though she’s simply a victim of unprovoked criticism. While I fully agree that no author should be subjected to harassment or abuse, and that fandom spaces can indeed become hostile, it’s equally important to acknowledge that Sarah J. Maas is not exempt from legitimate critique. In fact, many of the issues people raise are not baseless “hate” but necessary conversations about harmful patterns in her work and public presence.
SJM is the same author who used the death of a Black woman as a marketing tool for her books—something that should never be overlooked or brushed aside. Her works consistently reflect a lack of meaningful diversity: characters of color are often sidelined, killed off, or forced into roles that serve white protagonists. For example, characters like Nehemia are portrayed as martyrs whose deaths further the white MC’s development, while others, such as Amren and Emerie, are described with subtly dehumanizing or reductive language (e.g., “beautiful but not striking”), which perpetuates colorist and racist undertones.
Furthermore, when she does include characters of color or queer characters, their representation is often shallow, tokenized, or entirely secondary to the arcs of white, cis, straight characters. This is not inclusion—it’s checkbox diversity at best, and harmful erasure at worst. The romantic pairings and leadership roles almost always default to white characters, reinforcing a narrow and exclusionary standard of who gets to be powerful, desirable, or heroic in her fictional worlds.
In addition to the problems in her writing, there’s also the matter of her public stance. SJM has shown strong Zionist leanings and her husband has business ties to Zionist organizations—an association that understandably disturbs many readers, and those critical of settler colonialism. It’s not simply a matter of political opinion; it’s about complicity in systems of oppression.
What’s especially disappointing is how often fans who claim to care about issues like racism, colonialism, and inclusivity will turn around and hail SJM as their “queen” or a “literary genius,” without a hint of critical thought. Enjoying her books is not inherently wrong, but praising her uncritically—while ignoring or downplaying the harmful elements in her writing and public positioning—is disingenuous. It veers into performative activism: loudly advocating for social justice in theory, but failing to apply that same lens when it challenges a favorite author.
To be clear: no author deserves to be personally attacked or harassed. But it’s equally true that being a successful author does not place someone above critique. SJM’s work contains repeated, systemic issues that reflect real-world marginalization. That deserves discussion—not blind devotion.
If we want to make fandom spaces more thoughtful and inclusive, we have to be willing to engage critically with the media we consume—even when it’s something (or someone) we love.
I lost a bit of hope when I argued with a black person about Sjm‘s racism. Last time it was an Irish person. They both defend Sjm. Worst part is that they were both denying the potrayal and treatment of black and Irish people specifically in her books.
So now I need to consume some good anti sjm posts calling out her racism to restore my faith in readers. Yes obviously it‘s only a very small percentage of poc that defend Sjm, but it still irritates me when even one of us does it.
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