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“I advise you to stop sharing your dreams with people who try to hold you back, even if they’re your parents. Because, if you’re the kind of person who senses there’s something out there for you beyond whatever it is you’re expected to do - if you want to be EXTRA-ordinary - you will not get there by hanging around a bunch of people who tell you you’re not extraordinary. Instead, you will probably become as ordinary as they expect you to be.”

— Kelly Cutrone

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How to get over feeling sad

1. Make a list of everything you’re thankful for – and try to find some memories that make you smile. There’s nothing like some humour for changing how you feel.

2. Decide to do some fun things with your friends. Although it might be tempting to stay home alone, and to have a bubble bath, or to curl up with a book, you’ll probably feel better if you go out with your friends. It stops you dwelling on your thoughts, and moves your focus somewhere else.

3. Get some exercise. Endorphins are released when we get some exercise. This improves our mood with no real effort on our part (and you may well feel less tired, and more healthy as well).

4. Set yourself some goals and break them down into small steps. As you work through these steps you’ll start to see some gradual changes – and you’ll feel you’re going somewhere instead of marking time.

5. Play it forward. Do something selfless and kind for someone else. It’ll take them by surprise and it will likely make their day. Then, you’ll feel so much better about yourself as well.

6. Tell yourself that it will pass as moods are changeable. Our feelings are so fickle and unreliable. Tomorrow the same things might not bother you at all.

7. Recognise that your mind is a battleground. We’re all assaulted by unwanted and negative thoughts. They attack our self- confidence and self-esteem. Counteract that by thinking of your positives and strengths, your progress and successes, and how you’ve changed and grown.

8. It’s different if you’re coping with a serious loss. If your sadness is linked to a serious loss, like the death of a loved one, or a crisis event, then stay with the pain as it will help you to heal. In time it will pass and you’ll feel normal again.

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“People will show you who they are, but we ignore it because we want them to be who we want them to be.”

— Don Draper

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What to Write in your Journal to Move on

1. A description of what happened.

2. How it left you feeling.

3. Who was there and what they said and did.

4. What you wish had happened instead.

5. The reasons why you find it hard to let go.

6. Steps you could take to start to move on.

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“I will not be another flower picked for my beauty and left to die. I will be wild, difficult to find, and impossible to forget.”

— Erin Van Vuren

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“I have done nothing all summer but wait for myself to be myself again —”

— Georgia O’Keeffe, in a letter to Russel Vernon Hunter, from Georgia O’Keeffe: Art and Letters (via luthienne)

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There’s times in life where I think how did I do that? during hard times or challenges in my life. I think could I do that again? Who was that person, because I feel like I’m far removed from who I was at the time.

All of these times I’ve been alone and have overcome or been successful. As I stare up at this ceiling light in my small NYC room at 3:02 AM I thought, this will be one of those times I look back on in the future and ask the same thing. It’s always uncomfortable, it’s always challenging… But I grow so much from challenges and I’ll be better for nights like this.

Embrace the struggle. Welcome it in. Don’t be afraid to feel, but do not let your feelings rule you. Live Boldly. Believe in Yourself. (And have fun, this life is short don’t forget.)