Hello !! The name I use for this account is Venus but you may also call me Jack or Jace, and this is my selfship blog :]
š - Iām 16, transed in gender, a freaky queer in general, autistic and alterhuman.
š - Since i have autism, my f/os tend to change with what Iām currently fixated on.
š - Most of my F/Os are either romantic or fankids.
also heads up: I will log out for long periods of time and randomly pop back in LOL also I will also sometimes reblog things that arenāt selfship related :P
This is your sign to headcanon a BUNCH of little things your f/o likes about the world ā their favorite color, their order at a coffee shop, what type of pet theyād like best, where their favorite place to visit in your city/town would be, a plant or flower that makes them happy, you get the point,
Shoutout to insecure self shippers. The ones who feel less than good enough, the ones who feel undesirable/unappreciated, the ones who feel taken for granted and out of place. Your f/o absolutely adores and accepts you for who you are, as you are. Not out of pity, but because they see you as wonderful in so many ways. They'll do whatever they can to help you feel better, to uplift and show you how special you are to them, no matter how much reassurance it takes. You will always be loved by them, and will always receive gratitude and comfort from them.
Imagine that youāre at a big event with your f/o, but around half way through, everyone starts sounding a little too loud and everything starts feeling a little too much. Your f/o seems like theyāre having a good time, so you donāt want to ruin it for them. You weave your way to a corner of one of the rooms, sitting there while gripping a drink like your life depends on it.
Zoning out, you donāt notice your f/o realizing you disappeared before making their way towards you. āAre you alright?ā You hear their voice cut through the chatter around you. You shake your head, and they instantly take a hold of your free hand, leading you out of the crowded area.
The two of you end up in a secluded room, the noise muffled into the background. āThis better?ā They asked, watching you with concern. You nod, and they looked relieved. āDonāt worry about these things, alright? If you need a break, just tell me.ā This made you smile, and your f/o wrapped their arms around you, planting a kiss on your head.
I know we like to talk about touchy-feely relationships, the kind with f/os who can't stand to be away from you, or who show a lot of PDA, but...
I wanna give a shout out to those of us with f/os who need space, those f/os who have wandering souls, f/os who know that no matter how far they go or how long theyre gone, you'll be waiting right there for them.
Shout out to the self shippers who are ok with waiting, who are love the anticipation of them coming home to your embrace, who would give their f/os all the space they need and encourage them to go and explore or to find themselves out there.
Understanding that someone you love and cherish may need space or have to leave doesn't mean they don't love you less. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with the relationship. Everyone has different levels of intimacy and your f/o loves that you match them so well and don't judge them for feeling that way
But you are responsible for your own safe spaces. You can block tags, block words, block people.
āBut i thought fandom was supposed to be a safe spaceā āyeah you have to curate it.
Unfortunately one personsās safe space may be another personsā trigger. Thatās ok. Simply block them, block the tag, block the word etc. They can do the same for you.
Maybe Iām just out of touch, but Iāve been around since the days of ādonāt like, donāt readā and thatās a good philosophy. If it squicks you, scroll past. If it causes you anxiety or upset, block! Plenty of people are responsive if you ask them to tag an upsetting trigger. And if theyāre dicks about it, block em.
Since different people have different needs, one personās safe space will be anotherās Trauma Central.
I donāt know who said it first, but āI need to be able to express my anger without shameā and āI need to be away from yelling and loud noisesā are both valid needs people can have for a safe space that really arenāt compatible with each other.
So are āI need to process my traumaā and āI need to not meet any trauma.ā
Or āI want a safe space to tell/read the stories that speak to meā and āthose stories are distressing to me.ā
Insisting that your needs are the only needs anyone should have is not a safe space, itās its own act of violence.
You donāt get to make others homeless to make the universe your personal safe space.
Activities - What are their favorite things to do with you? How do you spend your free time?
Crocodile likes walking around Rainbase with you. He loves seeing how much you enjoy the city.
Boo! - How do they feel about surprises, giving and receiving?
He loves surprising you.
However, he isnāt a fan of receiving surprises.
Comfort - How do they comfort you when youāre upset? When the tables turn, do they come to you, or do they try to handle it themselves?
He hates seeing you upset and will do anything to cheer you up. If it was a person that upset you he will usually send one of the officer agents to take care of it.
Crocodile on the other hand doesnāt get upset that often. Heās more prone to getting stressed. You are one of the only people heāll vent to. Mostly because he knows you can always manage to calm him down.
Dance - Do they like to dance with you? How good of a dancer are they?
Yes he likes to dance with you and heās good at it.
Excitement - How do they act when theyāre excited? What excites them?
He doesnāt act that different when heās excited but you can usually tell if heās excited by the way he smiles.
Normally what excites him the most is when a business deal turns out in his favor.
Future - What are their plans for the future? Do they see themselves getting married, having kids?
Crocodile never thought heād want to settle down but then you walked into his life.
At first he thought things with you were just going to be a series of hookups until he realized how much he enjoyed your company. Now he canāt picture his life without you in it.
As far as kids go, heās not entirely sure he likes kids.
Gifts - What do they give you as presents? How often do they get you gifts?
Anything and everything. Crocodile loves to spoil you and heāll do it often.
Hold - How do they hold you? Cuddling, sleeping, holding handsā¦
Heās cautious of how he holds you when he has his hook on so you donāt accidentally get hurt. When he doesnāt have the hook on heās always got his arms around you.
Heās the kind of person that always likes to be touching you in some way.
Ideal - Whatās their ideal date like?
Dinner during a sunset. Nothing like a good meal along with a good view.
Jealousy - Do they get jealous easily? How do they handle it?
It depends. If some random person hitting on you doesnāt make him jealous, but if itās someone like another warlord then yes heāll get a bit jealous.
Usually heāll handle it by wrapping an arm around your waist and pulling you close. He wants everyone to understand that youāre with him.
Kisses - How do they like to kiss you? How frequently do you kiss?
Every kiss he gives you is passionate. Heāll kiss you as often as youāll let him.
Love - How do they show you that they love you?
Heās very attentive to you.
If youāre uncomfortable heāll do something to change that. If you need something heāll make sure you get it regardless of what it is.
Melt - What do you do that absolutely makes them melt?
You absentmindedly play with his hair when youāre laying in bed together.
Nicknames - What do they call you, and what are their favorite things to be called?
He likes calling you darling or dear.
He likes being called dear as well or love.
Obvious - How obvious do they make it that they like you?
You knew almost right away that he was attracted to you but it wasnāt as obvious that he was catching feelings for you.
Pets - Do they have pets? Do they want them?
He has the Banana Gators.
Quiet - How are the calm, quiet moments with them?
They are Crocodileās favorite moments with you.
It gives him a chance to destress. Plus he loves the alone time with you.
Romance - How romantic are they? What are their go-to ways of being romantic?
He is very romantic.
Again, he loves to spoil you so he tends to randomly give you gifts.
Safe - What makes them feel safe and comfortable around you?
The way you always stand up for him.
Crocodile doesnāt need someone to protect him but it makes him so happy that he knows he can count on you.
Tend - How do they act when youāre hurt or sick, and vice versa?
When youāre hurt or sick heāll clear his schedule to be able to spend the day looking after you.
He doesnāt get hurt or sick often but when he does he tends to get more stressed out. When you offer to help out with Baroque Works until he gets better he falls in love a little more.
Unique - Whatās an unusual thing about them thatās oddly charming?
Honestly, his hook. It suits him.
Variety - Do they prefer to keep things the same, or spice it up?
Heās down to spice things up.
Wash - Whatās it like taking a bath with them, or helping them wash up after a fight?
Bathing with him is your chance to pamper him a little.
XO - How do they show you affection? How much PDA are they willing to show?
He has no problem with PDA. He loves to show you off.
Yearn - What do they do when they miss you?
When Crocodile misses you he tends to be easily aggravated. It just gets worse the longer youāre away.
Zzz - How do they act when they get sleepy? How is it sleeping in the same bed?
When heās tired he goes to bed and the man sleeps like a brick. So no need to worry about waking him up if you go to bed later then he does.
Heās been known to hog the bed from time to time.
Hey you over there, with the canonically arrogant/blunt/grumpy f/o: theyād never mean it with you.
Sure, theyāre not going to change their personality just to fit some ideal, itās not in their nature. You wouldnāt want them to anyways, or they wouldnāt be the person you love. Theyāre still going to give those gruff answers or those smug interjections.
But itās different when itās you. Itās impossible not to hear the fondness hidden in their voice, not when you know them so well. Youāre the only one who can hear the worry behind their frustrated nagging, or the hidden insecurity behind all their boasting. They know exactly what kind of banter and teasing youāre okay with and what kind you arenāt, and they never cross that line. Maybe they had to learn to be curt or arrogant beforeā¦ but now they have you. They trust you, and you trust them.
So if youāre convincing yourself that your more closed-off or defensive f/o wouldnāt want to get along with you or get close to you: trust me. They want you in their life just as much as you want them in yours.
