Doll Diaries: Reinvention
At some point in your life, you may want to completely reinvent yourself. Reinventing yourself means to change aspects of yourself physically, mentally, or both.
This is also means that you are making progress in your life. Reinvention marks a period of growth, consistent growth.
1. Create a vision for your reinvention.
What does the new you look like? What is the future that you want? Who are the people, situations, and places you may have to leave behind?
Have a vision of who you want to become, and have a reason of why you want to become that.
-> Create a board of your aesthetic and ideas via Pinterest, Pic Collage, or Google Slides.
2. Know who you’re surrounding yourself with.
If you are surrounding yourself with people that are not going to keep it real with you, people that are envious of your success/new endeavors, or people that do not align with your core values, you have to cut them off.
Someone who truly values you as a person will care about the fact that you’re trying to better yourself, and join you along the journey. Letting go of dead weight will be a huge relief.
Remember that you’re your own best friend first, and don’t let anyone hold you back.
This saying rings true. Dress the way the new you would, speak the way the new you would, and do the things the new you would do. Be expressive, be whoever you want to be. There’s no rule saying you can’t consistently change. Life allows you to be a chameleon.
4. Remember that you can become anything.
If you’re overall trying to become more confident as a person, you can become that.
-> Affirm yourself, instead of speaking negatively and affirming your harsh inner critic.
->Keep your back elongated when you walk into a room.
->Speak more articulately and slow down when speaking, pause between sentences. Have clear diction.
->Dress boldly and unapologetically, only for you and no one else.
If you’re trying to become more strong, you can become that.
->Have strict boundaries, and take no shit from anyone.
->Anyone that violates your core beliefs must go. Stand your ground.
->When you are going through a really hard time, get yourself together first and be in tune with your feelings first, don’t fall apart in public.
If you’re trying to become more private, you can become that.
->Learn to speak less about your personal problems.
->Vent to your diary/journal.
->Speak vaguely about what you’re doing and make general statements, make the other person talk about themselves.
If you’re trying to become more attractive, you can become that.
->Always look people in the eye.
->Laugh, smile, be genuine. Don’t push a fake persona.
->Learn that other people do not define you, such confidence is instantly appealing.
->Take care of yourself mentally and physically.
Ultimately, this journey is your own and no one else’s. Stop worrying so much about other people and what they think. Mute, block, unfollow or take a social media cleanse.
Learn to put yourself first. Reshape your relationship with other people’s expectations.
Don’t owe anyone anything, don’t expect anyone to owe you anything either.
Expectations come from a place of judgment. Judging yourself from a perfectionist eye does you no good. There is too much power in the present moment to dwell on expectations of what should be.
You can’t truly control what others think but you can control your inner critic which is why the way you talk to yourself is so crucial. It can make or break you.
You can also control the access people have in your life. If they refuse to accept your values, then you should distance yourself. Living for yourself is the best thing you can do because you make room for internal validation rather than external.
When you know your own worth, you do things for yourself, and that’s what makes it rewarding.
Always ask yourself the important questions:
What brings me happiness?
What would I love to accomplish?
Am I accepting reality? Am I making changes to my reality? What changes can I make?
What values are important to me?
Growth does not stop, it’s continuous. Your standards will continue to grow with you.
Your goal is to live a life you are proud of.
Taking appropriate risks outside of your comfort zone, upholding your boundaries and core values, competing with yourself to do your very best, and acknowledging that the process is what matters, not simply the end result.
Make this journey private and sacred, and transform with or without people alongside.
Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for wanting to create yourself over and over. You are your own artist.
Focus in on who you are now, and who you are becoming.
I hope this inspires you!
