♡LavDolly's Dollhouse♡

Hi! I'm LovelyLavDolly, u can call me lav 4 short, I'm 20 years old & neurodivergent, This is a girly, nerdy, cutesy, purple blog♡

[lovelylavdollyyy]

Hi! I'm LovelyLavDolly, but you can call me dolly for short ♡

I am currently 20 years old and I made this blog as a way to both express my nerdy, alternative, & girly interests, to find my personal style(s), my personal image branding, manifestation, affirmations, & mental & physical self improvement, so almost all of my posts & reblogs revolve around this as I want to make & reblog posts with intention ♡

A little bit about me!

My signs are pisces sun, aries moon & scorpio rising

My favorite colors are purple, pink, silver, gold, black, chocolate brown, olive & pistachio green & cherry& muted red ( you will see all of these colors a lot on my blog but especially light purple since thats my most fav and light pink lol)

Least favorite color: orange (I do think it can be a pretty color especially when paired with other colors like pink, but this color in particular doesn't look all that great on me, but i can learn how to style it via playing w/ undertones!)

Some aesthetics that I'm into: hime gyaru fashion, agejo gyaru fashion, himekaji fashon, jojifuku fashion, yume & yami kawaii fashion, larme-kei fashion, 2000s fashion, girly j-fashon in general, Harajuku fashion, romantic goth fashion, Lolita fashion, hyper-femmine fashion, bimbo fashion, kawaii fashion, kawaii-kei fashion, rongosta fashion, girly-kei fashion, y2k fashion, Chinese fashion, emo, scene & scenecore fashion, pastel goth, alternative fashion, y2k makeup, doujyn makeup, hime gyaru makeup, dolly makeup, hyper-feminine makeup, scenecore makeup, pastel goth makeup, 90s makeup, alternative makeup & much more

Some hobbies that I'm into or want to get into: drawing, cooking cute & healthy recipes, sewing, cosplay, costume making, figurine collecting, comic book collecting, charm & kandi bracelet making, gaming, walking/jogging, plushies collecting, upcycling clothes, redecorating shoes, animating, mixed media art, fashion magazine collecting, dancing, & much more

(All images that aren't reblogs are from pintrest, or screenshotted/saved from somewhere else on the internet unless stated otherwise ♡)

(may edit this post to tell more about myself later as time goes on)

Here is my pinterest ♡

https://pin.it/4PVYumLyl

[welcomedhappiness]

Farewell online privacy

[tikalgirl]

What happened?

[welcomedhappiness]

Trump happened.

[pizzaalle]

just get a VPN?

[earth-ruins]

You can’t just tell people to ‘get a VPN (Virtual Private Network)’. Buying a VPN is like buying a house. It’s very very important. Having no VPN or having a ‘wrong’ one can seriously damage your life. Especially for Americans because their privacy laws are garbage. I am going to try explain why you should get a VPN but bare with me, I am from Germany and my English is far from perfect. 

Let’s start with a simple test. Click this link here: https://whatismyipaddress.com/ It will tell your IP adres, your ISP (internet service provider), and your location. The location might not be very accurate, but then again, it’s just a simple website. Imagine what the government can do!

So basically, everyone can find out where you live. But there is more danger. Your ISP. Your ISP logs your every move online and they are required to keep it in case the government wants access to it (or if a 3rd party wants to buy your data (yikes). They have everything. What websites you visit. How long you stay on a website. What you download. Your search terms. European laws are more subtle on this but if you are from the US you are #@*#&, especially because Trump doesn’t support the open internet. It’s scary but maybe in the future you can’t get a job because the recruiter knows your searched on ‘how to deal with depression’ or anythings else that’s supposed to be private because it’s your f*cking right. Or you get a $100k fine because you pirated a movie 15 years ago. You need a VPN. You’re dumb for not using one. but what does a VPN do?

A VPN encrypts all your data so if it were be intercepted no one can ‘crack the code’ and damage your privacy. 

Usually being online goes like this (simplified): Your computer —-> ISP (—–> keeps data —–> sells it)

But with a VPN it goes like: Your computer —–> VPN (encrypts data)—–> ISP (ISP can’t see shit)

Furthermore, a VPN hides your IP address and location by giving you another IP address located in Spain for example (you can often choose from a list and change as many times as you want).  

Now that you know why you should get a VPN and what is does it is important to educate yourself because people often choose the wrong VPN. VPN providers are also businesses and have to obey the law. If you choose a VPN provider located in the US then you are throwing your money away because the laws in the US shits on your privacy. If the US gov wants the provider to give all their logs they have to obey.  The ISP  still can’t see what you are doing online and sell your data but the US gov can interfere with your VPN provider so NEVER CHOOSE A PROVIDER LOCATED IN THE US. 

I just wanted to make that very clear so my followers don’t buy false security.

There is still more danger!  Who says your VPN provider isn’t selling your data? You need to check their logging policy. Do they keep logs? If yes, what for? For how long do they keep them? Tip: Choose a provider who doesn’t keep logs

More about law  The US is part of the Five Eyes program (the worst):  

The Five Eyes, often abbreviated as FVEY, is an intelligence alliance comprising Australia, Canada, New Zealand, the United Kingdom and the United States. These countries are bound by the multilateral UKUSA Agreement, a treaty for joint cooperation in signals intelligence (source)

There is also a Nine Eyes (bit better) and Fourteen Eyes Program (better).  You don’t want a VPN provider who is located in one the Five Eyes countries.  If you had to choose go for a provider located in a country that’s part of the Fourteen Eyes Program or even better, go for a country that isn’t part of any program! 

I know this is a shitty explanation and please pardon my english but now it’s time to do your own research. Take your privacy seriously. Maybe WWIII breaks out and you get killed for liking the ‘wrong’ FB-page.  

Go to this website: https://thatoneprivacysite.net/simple-vpn-comparison-chart/

Make sure that your future VPN provider both has green boxes for Privacy Jurisdiction and Privacy Logging. 

I recommend ovpn.se and trust.zone. ovpn is located in Sweden so they are part of the 14 Eyes Program and they keep minimal logs. Their business ethics, however, are alright. 

Trustzone is located in the Seychelles. No country can interfere and their privacy jurisdiction is the best you can get. The US want your data but needs to get it from Trustzone? The Seychelles will simply give them the finger and wave them goodbye. However, this makes this provider very appealing for people who torrent and criminals because they keep no logs (and that is how it shoud be) Also,  there are almost no marketing efforts so this provider is one the cheapest)

Also, often providers such as ExpressVPN are being called ‘The Best’ on websites about VPNs but know that this is just marketing which also makes those provider more expensive (and they too shit on your privacy)

This must be the worst article you have ever read but please, please take your privacy very seriously.

EDIT: I got many people asking me which provider I use. For those who want to know, I use Trust Zone. They offer a free 3-day trial with no strings attached. But still do your own research! 

[writing-prompt-s]

I am also with Trustzone but I think you forgot to explain one of it’s most important features. It protects you when you are using someone else’s Wi-Fi. If you are at Starbucks and you use their Wi-Fi your privacy is at risk. Anyone with ill intentions could steal your information. Especially if you are using an unsecured Wi-Fi hotspot. With a VPN your data gets encrypted so no one can steal it. 

[rabbittiddy]

Wait, what’s going, on? Did trump destroy internet privacy with a bill or something? Where’s the news? Oh wait, why am I getting visions of Alex Jones and selling water purifiers?

[thecrystalfems]

He hasn’t yet but he says he wants to. And if he is serious about it it would be really easy to do. Since all our data is already recorded, as the person above explained.

[coltrer]

Trump wants more surveillance of Muslim Americans. This in a country where internet privacy is already close to non-existent. 

Trust.Zone has a free trial. Use it. 

btw this post only has 11k notes? That’s quite disappointing for something this important. 

Don’t reblog this post to save a life. Reblog this to protect an entire family!

[imthedoctor12]

@earth-ruins @writing-prompt-s Should I get trustzone for my mobile device?

[writing-prompt-s]

If you use public Wi-Fi, then yes. Which VPN you use is up to you, amigo. Take @earth-ruins advice. Do your own research first. 

[writing-prompt-s]

@elvesfromthedeep​ just brought the current situation in the US to my attention (March 30, 2017). 

Sources

Anger as US internet privacy law scrapped 

Congress just voted to let internet providers sell your browsing history 

To all my friends in the US, please read this entire post. Making everyone aware of VPNs is going to be my mission. Your privacy matters. Please reblog this post.

[greeneyespurpleheart]

Don’t tell me you just wanted to scroll past this. Stop looking at pictures of cats for a moment, okay? Don’t you realize how important this is? This is dangerous! ‘America, the best FREE country in the world’ my ass.

With this new law your ISP can sell your Internet history which could include passwords, usernames, religion, credit card numbers, race and much more to the highest bidder. So here is what I want you to do. You are going to read the whole thing and before you think ’this is so important. Let me reblog this real quick and go back to admiring cats again-’ NO! Don’t reblog this. Take action first. Then reblog. Sign up for a free trial! Trust.Zone offers one (here). Yes. It might be difficult to set up a VPN for some people. But is that going to stop you from protecting yourself and your family? 30 minutes. 30 minutes is all that it takes. 5 if you know how to install software. The problem with some of you is that you see ‘difficult’ as something negative. I want you to see difficult differently. I need you to push through this stuff. You are going to protect yourself. There is nothing negative about that. VPNs are fun and costsaving too! A VPN bypasses geographical restrictions so you can access websites you normally can’t or you could start Netflix’s one month free trial over and over again- forever. And it’s legal! (unless you use it to buy weapons etc.,) Don’t tell yourself that you are too tired and that you will do this tomorrow. Because that isn’t going to happen and you know it. You have to do this right now. You only have to click on it. Don’t let this/shit/life just happen to you. Take yourself seriously. Get a VPN.

Privacy is not a privilege, it’s a fundamental human right

[warmhappycat]

Hey is thatoneprivacysite still good? The link works and it does take me to an article about vpns, but it just looks like an ad for expressvpn with extra steps.

[skeleskeeller]

No they switched to https://thatoneprivacysite.xyz/#simple-vpn-comparison a couple years ago

Welcome to the VPN Comparison!  This section is meant to be a resource to those who value their privacy, specifical...

[skeleskeeller]

I had Trust.Zone when this post first started making the rounds on Tumblr and I forgot about it after Biden took office. I recently sent them an email asking why my subscription wasn’t automatically renewed and why their website hasn’t changed since 2017(?). Their answer:

Shady people, good people, this company only cares about privacy and doesn’t care who it serves. But now with Trump and Musk this is the only VPN I’ll use.

[firerockt]

I understand some people might not want to use this VPN on moral grounds, but it’s genuinely one of the very few VPNs set up in a way that no authority can touch you. ExpressVPN and other ‘popular’ options operate in jurisdictions favorable for profits but their privacy is just a band-aid our government can easily rip off if it demands information. I’m a trans man, I’m afraid of our government, and at this point, I simply don’t care anymore.

[moonxchaos]

For a second I was like noooooo, not this long post again! Haven’t seen it in years and I always thought it was a bit extreme and exaggerated. Now that we are in 2025, I am like, nahh, these people knew what they were talking about all along. First time I am reblogging this.

[moonxchaos]

Also I don’t think anyone has said this yet but the free trial only requires an email address. No credit card details or anything. Refreshing.

[foxbridgeni]

Could someone please put the link to the free trial here? I don’t want to scroll back up 10 miles. Thank you.

[skeleskeeller]

here you go @foxbridgeni

Trust.Zone Free Trial

[moonfireroulette]

The argument against VPNs has always been, “but I have nothing to hide.” Now that an unpredictable lunatic is in charge, purging based on whatever whim strikes him, that sentiment is quickly fading. VPNs aren’t just about hiding personal secrets; they’re about protecting freedom, autonomy, and your basic right to live without unjust scrutiny or arbitrary persecution.

[bearcubsandicecreammachines]

Reblogging again bc this is important

[honeyrolls]

Violet Butterfly Pea Tea Soda / Dream Ball Parfait

[soliqz]

[scorpionlafemme]

[t-hiswifey]

[scorpionlafemme]

[destiel-news-network]

(Source)

This comes one day after the archive changed their status to “Omega” for April Fools’ Day.

[urdreamgirlangel]

DNI: sh/ed blogs, male nsfw blogs, old men, cis men, transphobes, homophobes, biphobes, pedos, racists, sexists, religion forcers, trauma dumpers, blank blogs. I will block you if I suspect you’re one of the aforementioned.

about me / masterlist ۶ৎ

Hii! I go by angel and I’m an 04 bby. I’m a black girl that enjoys pink and cutesy stuff, cottagecore, ballet, anything wellness, and fully embracing being the brown skin princess I am. I love to read and explore different worlds and realities which is why I’m interested in shifting and also the law of assumption.

Taste ! rap rnb kpop pop rock metal pop punk

Artists ! red velvet stray kids megan thee stallion njz saweetie 5sos iz*one clairo beabadoobee babymetal illit

Shows and movies ! abbott elementary brooklyn 99 modern family the rookie bee and puppycat chicago fire strawberry shortcake reply 1988 hello kitty and friends cinnamon the movie totally spies bratz beyond the bar old Barbie & tinkerbell movies

drs ! better cr kpop gg

socials ! spotify pinterest youtube

start date: 05-02-2025

I mainly (re)post (about):

Girlblogging Spirituality Building Confidence Beauty (makeup, nails, skincare, hair) Mental health and Wellness Pink and cutesy stuff Playlists

find every divider I use here

masterlist 𓆩🤍₊˙ 🧸 ♡𓆪

self care ˚ ༘ ೀ⋆｡˚

⋆˚࿔ makeup hair fashion

⋆˚࿔ aesthetics .ೃ࿐

⋆˚࿔ pretty girl content ⋆.ೃ࿔*:･

⋆˚࿔ romanticize your mornings with angel 🧸ྀི

⋆˚࿔ Choose yourself this time | It all starts from within ೋღ 🌺

⋆˚࿔ youtubers for the girlies 1 / 2 🩰🪽

⋆˚࿔ Take a moment to silence those thoughts 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

⋆˚࿔ gently lead yourself out of a slump ˚ ༘ ೀ⋆｡˚

⋆˚࿔ spring reset 𖹭

⋆˚࿔ spring reset: cleaning checklist ❀

⋆˚࿔ angel's summer 25 catalog 🧉

⋆˚࿔ the summer i become my own best friend 🌺 🥥 🌴

⋆˚࿔ 2000s autumn angel

⋆˚࿔ the fear of being perceived — the fear of judgement ⏾⋆.🎃

⋆˚࿔ romanticizing productivity (minus the burnout) ｡𖦹°‧

⋆˚࿔ a soft exit from doom scroll culture 𓆩ꨄ︎𓆪

⋆˚࿔ angel’s dopamine menu ꒰ঌ ໒꒱

⋆˚࿔ enhance your whimsy 1 / 2 ♡‧₊˚

⋆˚࿔ toxic positivity 𐚁

law of assumption & shifting ˚⋆𐙚｡ 𖦹.ᡣ𐭩˚

ʚ ɞ simplifying the law | loa guide 🍰

ʚ ɞ the best mindset eveerrr

ʚ ɞ you need to stop drowning in self pity ༝༚

ʚ ɞ package delivered

ʚ ɞ stop entertaining the undesired ⋆｡°✩

ʚ ɞ loa analogies 𐔌﹒ ⋆ ꩜ ⋆ 𓂃

ʚ ɞ affirmations

the princess diaries ૮₍´˶• . • ⑅ ₎ა

☾ 2025 goals

☾ entry #222 #333—results

☾ self care sunday 𐔌՞. .՞𐦯 video playlist: 111 222

☾ back to school anxiety

☾ reset for the week with angel 𐙚⋆°🦢.⋆ᥫ᭡

☾ yapping.ang

academic diaries 🤍𓆩♡𓆪☁️

romanticizing school life ૮꒰ ˶ ༝ •˶꒱ა ♡

playlists ୧⋆｡🕯. -ʚɞ

𖹭.ᐟ girly 2010s

𖹭.ᐟ summer 2025

𖹭.ᐟ autumn girl

[sakurafraise]

feeling like my style is a mix of himekaji, shabby chic, bougie, cutie pie, video vixen, hardcore, 2000s video vixen bimbo

[scorpionlafemme]

[girltalk]

March will be filled with joy.

March will be filled with love.

March will be filled with trust.

March will be filled with peace.

March will be filled with clarity.

March will be filled with miracles.

March will be filled with blessings.

[lovelylavdollyyy]

Hey Everyone!<3

I have not written post in a long while, so today I wanted to make a post about beauty matainence stuff, how I want to go about them for a routine, if I'm gonna do them at home or get them done professionally, how many times I'd do them per month, long-term goals & investment, ect.

Hope y'all enjoy the post! <3

Today's focus will be on the following things:

Hair (haircare, wigs, ect)

Nails (mani & pedi)

Skincare (facials, face masks, ect)

Lashes (lash lifts, lash serums, ect)

Semi-permanent non surgical changes (lip stain, eyebrow stain, brow lamination, makeup stain, fake tan, ect)

Bodycare & hair removal

Oral care (teeth & tongue care, lip care, ect)

Okie dokie! Let's go <3

Haircare & Wigs

So for haircare I want to wash my hair 1 to 2 times pet week as usual, moisturizer my hair with lightweight lotions, hair milks, pure aloe vera gel, flaxseed gel as a pre-shampoo detangler & do a deep conditioning hair mask once a month. I will ideally have it braided down for 1 to 2 & a half weeks for my wigs, & then taken down for hair wash day.

Some of the specific things I want to invest in & habits i want to start in regards to haircare are:

A stone/marble scalp massagers/scraper

A monthly trip to the hair salon

Medicated ketometrozole shampoo

Moisturizing lightweight Conditioners

Flaxseed gel as a detangler

Unbrush2.0 detangler brush

RevAir blow dryer

WavyTalk steam hair straightener

LottaBody sleek me out blowout lotion

Softee vitamin e hair food (made my hair grow like a weed from my experience)

Scalp dermatitis medicated hair grease

Normal lightweight hair grease

A clarifying hair mask once every 2 to 3 months

Dual satin lined head bonnets, pillowcases, & head wraps

Precision application bottles, at least 3 of them.

Scalp oiling bottles

Herbs & teas like rosemary, hibiscus, ect for a herbal hair tea (and other things)

Co-washing my scalp with moisturizing conditioner before a braid down

Oiling my scalp with warm oil before hair washing

Herbal, tea, & spice infused olive oil for scalp oiling

Hair mist spray bottles

Hair perfume that smells like a bakery

As for the wigs, I intend to only go for glueless wigs, closure wigs, headband wigs, half wigs, ponytail/pigtail extensions,hair/puff clips, clip ins, & crochet hair from time to time. I mostly want to get type 4 natural looking blowout wigs, afro wigs, micro braided wigs, and dolly braid wigs, but also have a couple straight wigs & colored wigs as well. I also intend to get supplies to style said wigs into different hairstyles (pigtails, princess updos, heart shaped buns, ponytails, ect) I don't want to use any hair glue to glue a wig on my head for the sake of both my hair & my skin, but I will use the hair glue for pre-styling my wigs & accessorizing them!

Nails (mani-pedi, foot care, ect)

For nailcare my goals are pretty simple, keep all my nails/toenails/hands & feet pretty & healthy, & my hand nails in particular semi long, but I intend to wear Press on nails most of the time

Some specific things I wish to invest in for this include

Nail strengthening serum

Cuticle oil

ManiPedi kit

Nail glue (for the press-ons you don't make)

Press on nails (you can even diy press-ons designs ♡)

Nail dehydrate

Nail glue remover oil

Peel off nail base

Nail cure lamp & flashlight

Foot masks & scrubs

Pumal foot stone

Foot soak tub

Footcare moisturizer

I definitely still intend to go get my hands & feet done at least once a month or 2 months, but this is my plan for when I'm not doing that

Skincare

For skincare I also want to keep it simple, I may elevate this routine as I get older but for now this is it

Probiotic/ Prebiotic soap bar (daily use, twice a day)

Sebum pores cleanser (likely daily use)

Sunscreen moisturizer (daily use)

Vaseline lip therapy mask (daily use)

Lip Oil (daily use)

Witch hazel toner (daily use)

Rosewater mist (daily use after toner)

African clay face mask (once every 2 to 3 weeks)

Lol that's pretty much it, I may put other face masks in between those but this is the core routine

Lashes & brows (lash lifts, lash care, approach to false Lashes, ect)

This segment is about how I want to approach lashes & brows specifically, as they are arguably the most important parts to your face card & can make or break your look, so having groomed brows & long pretty lashes is really important to me

Despite this, I do not want to do lash extensions because they can damage my real lashes, & my middle school self spent a lot of time growing them to where they currently are, so I will not be doing them a disservice.

I already have my natural lash pattern figured out, & my best suited Brow shape for my face figured out too, so now it's just a matter of how I go about doing them now, these are the at home things that I will do.

Lash serum

Tiktok electric shaver (to precision shape my brows, this feels like the best method for me personally, in comparison to something like plucking them)

Clear Brow gel

Clear eyeliner lash glue stick

Falsies (not clusters, but I will do half lashes)

As for professionally done things, I'm gonna get lash lifts once every 4 weeks, with a proper aftercare routine, & maybe I will get my brows done too.

Semi-Permanent & Non - Surgical Changes

This segment is for all the things I add to my night routine for an elevated look, without having to do my makeup daily if I don't want to.

Lip tints (at least 2)

Blush tint ( at least 3 different shades depending on the look & level of dimension I want, can be used on the eyes too)

Brow tint (so that I don't have to fill in my brows)

Self tanner to contour face & maybe add eyeshadow

Natural dark henna for eyeliner (the henna must be much darker than my contour)

Pretty simple routine overall but can make a huge difference in general and on rougher days especially!

Bodycare (body hair removal, skin Moisturizing, illusion of no hair, ect)

This is gonna be my basic plan for seasonal body hair removal, moisturized skin & the general illusion of no hair year round

Body scrub

Tiktok electric razor ( at least 2) (for most of the time, full body, especially the bikini area)

Magic shaving cream (for your armpits/bikini/back & when you need to be truly hairless)

Golden blonde hair dye (for golden glow & the illusion of hairlessness for when we aren't shaving)

Witch hazel (for anywhere that sweats, & face)

Benzoyl peroxide (to stop underarm sweat from smelling)

Body oil

Body lotion

Body milk ( for the summertime)

Kojic acid serum or soap (for lightening the bikini area, knees, elbows, & armpits)

Salicylic acid serum (for any bodily bumps, blackheads, ect)

African clay mask (but for my body this time)

Probiotic or Prebiotic soap bar

Dry body brush for exfoliation

Oral care

This is the oral care practices I'm gonna do alongside staying on top of dental appointments if needed and while wearing my invisiline to fix my teeth.

Teeth whitening straps (maybe)

Tongue scraper (non negotiable)

Charcoal powder (more ideal for teeth)

Coconut oil (or really any food safe oil for oil pulling on teeth)

Bacterial Mouth Wash

Water mouth jet

So that's everything I could think of for now, hope everyone has a good day! <3

Bye dolls <3

[journey2aswan]

PSA For The Swan’s:

While it can be so much fun to try new things whenever we get the opportunity to do so, keep in mind, having a signature look that is authentic to who you are is much more classy and timeless.

This helps with your finances and being able to save, budget & put $$ aside for emergency funds or any other savings accounts that you should have.

If you’ve been blessed on your journey thus far to find a…

Hairstyle

Nail shape/design

Scent profile

Skin regimen

Fashion look

Vitamin/supplement’s

ect.. That works best for you.

Congratulations!

You have your very own blueprint.

A blueprint that can help you save time, energy, coin. As well as give you the leverage you need to break forth into certain jobs, careers & social settings.

[sweetie-brat]

[diamondluxesugar]

hi, I recently saw your blog for tips and advice for getting your foot in the door for free-styling and luxury lifestyle. I too want this, but I grew up very insecure and anxious and socially awkward, but I want to over come this. How do I approach my potential high-end connections in luxurious spaces without looking like a try-hard? How do I blend in, especially since I was born in the ghetto, so I didn’t experience life in luxury, how does one blend in and achieve up the latter with saying the right things? Hopefully you see this, love ur blog!💓

My biggest piece of advice is to work on your insecurity, anxiety and socially awkwardness first. Playing around in luxury is hard enough when you don't come from luxury. If you feel awkward in situations you grew up, then I would suggest working on how you communicate and present yourself to the world.

1. Can you strike up a conversation with your local waiter/bartender/cashier?

2. When you're walking in the mall, are you walking with your head held high, with confidence and making eye contact with people who pass?

3. Are you working on your style and wearing closing you feel comfortable and look good in?

Getting and keeping luxury comes with confidence in your own skin first.

[diamondluxesugar]

Gifts and Being Spoiled - Non Allowance

Let’s discuss Gifts.

I’m not talking about $30 for a pedicure or a Starbucks gift card and tumbler. I’m talking about the jewelry, the cars, the thousand dollar bags and shoes, the stocks and bonds, the gold and silver bars, kinds of gifts. Unless you’ve grown up accepting gifts or have made enough money to buy these things for yourself, it may make you feel uncomfortable. Who wouldn’t? We’re talking about receiving thousands of dollars worth of gifts.

Hell, this is something that even the most experienced SBs have had to work to become accustomed to, and even now gifts of a certain caliber can make a lady a little bit nervous. The easiest way to become comfortable with receiving luxury gifts is by desensitizing yourself to the cost.

Note: this is not desensitizing yourself to just start swiping your credit card for whatever purchase you want. This is to remove the feelings of doubt, shame, and insecurity that surround owning expensive items while those around you may not yet share in your wealth.

One exercise I did was write down every single thing I wanted to purchase. I broke it into the following categories: useful, nice, frivolous.

The useful items are things I would use on a consistent basis. Think computer, KitchenAid mixer, exercise bike, spa passes, etc. These will be more tailored to your own needs.

The nice items are things that don’t make or break any given experience, but would be fantastic to have and would increase my quality of life. Think multiple pairs of running shoes, a $300 outdoor hammock swing, new matching bedroom set, etc. Once again, these are more tailored to your needs.

The frivolous things are anything else. Think of the Chanel bags, the jewelry, shopping spree at Bloomingdale’s. Items that won’t make it break your experience of life.

Throw literally everything you can on this list and include the prices. When you see something on TikTok, add it to the list. When your coworker is talking about that sous vide, add it to the list. Big or small, just add it.

At this point you’ll have an idea of what you like and want, and how your SD can best gift you. Maybe you aren’t a clothing girl, but will go crazy in the homegoods section. Your gifting doesn’t have to look like mine, and that’s okay. This is your time to be spoiled!!

This brings me to my second thought: using your belongings.

It can be nerve-racking and ostracizing being the only girl with real gold in your ears. You may want to leave your good items in a safe or only wear them on special occasions.

Don’t.

Shoes and bags and jewelry and clothing is meant to be worn, not to sit in a dust bag for admiration. Your exercise bike is meant to be used. Running shoes are meant to be worn down. Don’t be afraid to use your gifts, because you’ll appreciate them more and will become used to using your most expensive items.

The last thing I would like to leave you ladies with is simple: Gratitude. Be grateful for the gifts that come into your life. Be grateful for the person providing the gifts. Be grateful for the journey of becoming a woman who has the capacity to receive. It’s okay fantastic to thank your SD/SBF for gifting you with something. In fact, most of these men are surrounded by people that use and take from them. Say thank you and mean it and watch how your experiences change.

Happy Sugaring ✨