Need to get this off my chest
Several months ago, I overheard a phone conversation between my mom and sister. I wasnât eavesdropping, my mom was just talking really loudly and I could hear her from the living room, which my bedroom is right next to.Â
My mom had my sister on speakerphone and for the most part I wasnât listening to their conversation. But then I heard my name...
I heard my mom talk about my job and that I should get a new one--a real one. She said that, well, I canât remember the exact words. But I do remember this: she said I was a disappointment. She said I canât live at home forever and that basically I could just go live in the âlooney binâ if I canât handle it anywhere else. Yes, those were her exact words.Â
I sat in my bed in shock, unsure of how to react. I love my mom more than anything, and I know--and have known for a long time--that she wants me to get a âreal jobâ, whatever that means. I know she wants me to move out and get my own apartment, but I just havenât been able to do so quite yet. Although, I am working on it.
I didnât cry, but I was so, so hurt. I never told her that I overheard her. Because, deep down, I know sheâs right. I am a disappointment. I am a child who failed to launch and survive adulthood. Can I help it? Sometimes I feel like I can and I look at apartments for rent and second jobs to get. Sometimes the thought of leaving home sends me straight into an hour-long panic attack.
My mom has never behaved in such a way that makes me think she believes I am a disappointment. She encourages me and wants the best for me. We have a really good relationship and get along great and like to spend time with each other. I just donât understand what would drive her to say something like that.Â
But that doesnât matter. I made this post because this has been sitting in my chest for months on end and I just need to get it out. Itâs been haunting me. I think about it almost every night. I just want to forget it ever happened.













