stimmy things!!

17 yrs old/autistic/uk feel free to ask questions!! ☆my main blog is @sunshiners☆

[lovelystimmy]

Hiya! So one of my best friends (age 20) just confided in me that she was diagnosed with sensory processing disorder. We have a friendship based on openness, including open discussion about mental health. However, I know there are things that are hard to ask for help with (being neurodivergent myself.) I want to know if there are little things I can do to make life easier for her?

i suppose just paying attention to her and what she seems to struggle with, and maintaining openness in your friendship so that she knows she can talk to you about anything she needs to.. i guess the best thing to do is to be as understanding as possible and to be patient with her. im not sure how helpful that is.. but you can dm me if youd like to talk more.

[lovelystimmy]

How do you bring up getting a diagnosis with your doctor? I have trouble just telling them my back hurts or something, how do I bring up all these sensory things I have going on? And what do I do if she doesn't understand?

i know how this feels, i’m the same. if you have trouble speaking, maybe you could write a list of things you struggle with or things that are going on in your mind and hand it to them, then you dont have to worry about remembering what to say and stuff. ive done this before and i found it easier. they should understand, but if they dont id suggest asking them if they know of anyone else you could talk to who is familiar with these things, like a psychiatrist. im not sure what else to say. you can dm me if you wanna talk about it more, tho!

[lovelystimmy]

Hello! I don't really know how to do this, so I'm just gonna go with it. I've shown signs of SPD from a young age. I also tic. After researching, I discovered sensory processing disorder and tourettes syndrome. I researched more to check. Even though I've come to the conclusion that there is a good chance I have both, I feel bad talking about it because of what people say about self diagnosis. I can't discuss these things with my parents because they'll say it hormonal. What should I do?

hmm thats a tough one. it might be worth trying to talk to your parents about it and let them know that youre concerned about it? if they say its hormonal just tell them youd rather get an appointment with a professional just to be sure? idk. or if possible make an appointment yourself to see someone about it? i definitely think it would be worth seeing a professional. i dont think you should feel bad for talking about it, its a part of your life. self diagnosis isnt really a good thing because its really difficult to be sure about anything by yourself. but its always okay to ask for advice or help. sorry this wasnt the best answer, if you need any more advice just message me or send more asks!

[lovelystimmy]

Do you have any stimming ideas that I can do wherever I am which will stop me chewing the skin on my fingertips? I could chew my sleeves but the texture of the fabric when it gets damp makes me really uncomfortable

ooh good question. maybe you could get one of those chewable necklaces? i have one and its pretty good. or maybe chew gum or something? i guess you just have to find some other way of keeping your mouth busy.

[lovelystimmy]

So I only properly get issues with fabrics and other textures when my anxiety is peaking or I’m about to have a panic attack, otherwise I just sometimes rock side to side. I don’t have autism and would anxiety and depression count as something that makes someone neurodivergent? I’m just a little confused as to what is considered to make a person neurodivergent, as I still do stim anyway?

thats normal. heightened anxiety makes you more sensitive to things. i feel like that would count as neurodivergent because its still a mental illness, idk what other people think though.

[lovelystimmy]

Question: when people say “stems” instead of stims, does this mean something? I see it enough to wonder. Are they accidentally spelling it wrong? Are they using it ironically or as a joke? Is there another meaning I’m not aware of? Thank you

im actually not sure :0 anyone have an answer for this?

[moldkid]

Let’s talk about the real struggle with executive dysfunction: “what did you do in the bathroom for so long” aye honestly I just peed and spent the other 30 minutes blankly starring into the void but you won’t believe that will you

[thwox]

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[lovelystimmy]

okay so i know floral foam is dangerous to play with and i do not suggest it but i had to reblog this because THAT SOUNDDDDD YEES

[lovelystimmy]

i havent posted in a while!! hi!!

[candystim]

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(ddlg/cgl/terfs don’t interact!)

[lemememeringue]

I grow increasingly more livid every time it’s “””discovered””” that a stim I was forced to quit doing was actually Extremely Beneficial

[lemememeringue]

REASONS WHY I AM ACTUALLY A DRAGON

hoards special interest

flap flap flap flap

everyone must be quiet

but not me

no words, must Roar

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

likes to stay in the dark

must. look. at. shiny

no one knows what to do with me

[lovelystimmy]

what do u think abt spinning as a stim? when i was little i used to spin around at recess and in the hallways much to the chagrin of my teachers, but now that im 17 i only really feel comfy doing it in private but i find myself leaving crowded rooms to be alone and spin, and at friends houses when they leave the room i might spin and when i listen to good music i like HAVE to spin... is that a stim? i've never really heard of it before from someone else

yep, sounds like a stim! (i like spinning too but i never thought of it as a stim until now!) you shouldnt feel weird about it if its something you enjoy! spin as much as your heart desires ... but maybe dont make yourself too dizzy :p 💖

[lovelystimmy]

Do you ever get that thing where the audio quality is bad and it feels like your ears are broken and you almost try to scratch them but it doesn’t work and you practically have sensory overload??

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[lovelystimmy]

Would it be bad if I, and undiagnosed person, used neurodivergent terms on myself? I don't self dx, and I don't know whether I'm on the autistic spectrum or not (or anything else), but I do know that I'm hypersensitive and get sensory overloads, and that I stim. A lot.

if they are terms that you truly relate to & issues that you really have, then i dont see why there would be a problem with it. lots of people experience those things and lots of people stim for different reasons. just my opinion but i say if it makes things easier for you to explain then go for it ! (-:

[lovelystimmy]

I can't take a shower if there's a bath mat in the bath because that's a bad texture. ;~;

oh nooo~ i feel that. i can cope with it at this point but theyre soooo uncomfortable :c

[lovelystimmy]

Pros of me chewing my sleeves: A good, no harmful stimulus It calms me It prevents me from biting my hands It's a good texture (only with certain sleeves though) Cons of chewing my sleeves: Hurts my jaw if I do it too long Makes me feel embarrassed sometimes People give me dirty looks

i feel that. i do this alot too. but then there are those certain fabrics that feel *Not Good* on my teeth and it makes me criinnngggeee