Love To Be Feminist!

*Support Women* *Support Feminism* *Acknowledge Sex-Based Oppression* *Abolish Gender Stereotypes and Roles* *No Wrong Way to be Female* *Female is Not a Fashion* *Female is Not a Feeling* *Gender Critical* *Porn Critical* *Sex Work Critical* *You Can't Buy Consent* *Women's Rights Are Human Rights*

[venus-shaver]

[cisthoughtcrime]

that ask going around about the Bible somehow “inventing” misogyny is driving me crazy, like does no one do their own research? ever? it’s not that old!!

the earliest any credible scholar would date the composition of the old testament is to the 13th century BCE (maybe the 14th), towards the end of the Bronze Age and literal millennia after Mesopotamia and Egypt popped up.

Hammurabi lived in the 18th century BCE and his surviving laws codify female oppression in ways recognisable to a modern audience. Babylonian women even in the 19th century BCE were taught domestic skills instead of receiving the education of their male peers, were allocated domestic, reproductive, and/or sexual roles (aside from a few religious positions), excluded from politics, and routinely provably punished for disobeying male entitlement with physical violence.

By the time of the Qijia Culture in pre-dynastic China (23rd century BCE) a woman was buried alive along with the other grave good objects in a man’s tomb.

despite Neithhotep holding some power as queen-consort (and possibly as pharaoh in her own right) in Egypt’s First Dynasty (roughly 32nd-30th centuries BCE) and women having relatively more rights in some time periods of Egypt’s long history, it was still definitively a patriarchal society in which women could not be state officials or administrators other than the exceptionally few women who became pharaohs over the course of more than 3000years of dynastic rule.

In ancient Mesopotamian Uruk society— 4000-3100 BCE! that’s between 1,900 and 2,800 years before the earliest part of the Bible was written!— women are shown in art and the earliest snippets of written language in terms of their fertility service to men and excluded from even consideration in depiction of the worldly hierarchy (read “And They Said Let Us Make Gods in Our Image: Gendered Ideologies in Ancient Mesopotamia” by Pollock and Bernbeck for evidence from late Uruk)

I’m just giving passing examples, this isn’t even 1% of the evidence for misogyny and ingrained patriarchy that predates the Bible!

so yes! the Bible codified sexism! duh! but invented it?? or even ‘perfected’ it?? do some fucking reading before talking out of your ass! if you’re a feminist, then the evidence is on your side! there’s no reason to say dumb shit!

like do you really think 2000 years into Bronze Age history when established civilisations were already as old as the Bible is now, someone woke up and thought ‘hey what if women were inferior?’ get your shit together! there’s been a longer history of misogyny before the Bible than after simply by virtue of the fact that it isn’t even that old in the scheme of things.

Misogyny isn’t that young!!

[femclasscirce]

100% this

(Also friendly reminder that the earliest recorded term for slave, “geme”, was a sumerian word written with the symbols “woman + mountain” (sal + kur). It referred to the women abducted by Sumerians during raids on mountain villages, women who were then apparently sold into sexual slavery. It’s a word that refers specifically to women, and predates male-specific slavery terms. That’s right, the earliest recorded term for slave refers to female sex trafficking victims.)

Tldr; Misogyny is the world’s oldest oppression.

[lovetobe-feminist]

Misogyny is the world’s oldest oppression.

[unidentify-deactivated20210320]

ladies stop saying “straight white men” when you’re criticising general male behaviour. accostum people to the idea that being male in itself, with no qualifiers about other types of privilege necessary, comes with immense power and privilege and capacity to abuse and subjugate other people. don’t be complicit in the erasure or minimising of misogyny as a legitimate form of oppression/violence.

[layingdownsomebatfeets-deactiva]

Men must be absolutely thrilled that they no longer have to argue against posts like this themselves as now there are people falling over themselves to cry about terfs and change the subject. Good job everyone! Spectacular work!

[delightfulsubg-deactivated20210]

[terf-gifs]

[radfemblack]

This is amazing.

[ash-goes-rad]

Step by step, for thoose who have trouble reading fast :

[lovetobe-feminist]

I know which one makes most sense to me.

[kronkk]

[kronkk]

Lord give me the strength not to read the tweets the serenity not to read the tweets and the wisdom not to read the tweets

[leblogdebrillante]

It's because of French Lesbians!

A new group called Résistance Lesbienne showed up at the Paris Pride march chanting "lesbians don't like penises", "lesbians don't have penises", they were carrying banners saying that genital preferences are natural, that lesbians need feminism instead of transitioning, that kind of stuff. Of course, a trans activist tried to take their banner and hit them (now he's on Twitter claiming to be a victim even though there's video proof, and he asks for money)

Because the radfem lesbians could stay that long at the march without anyone doing anything to stop them, every organization that was there is doing damage control and saying they actually hate TERFs so it's kinda funny 😂

Here's a video on their Facebook account.

They were also interviewed by Get the L Out UK.

[kittyit]

taking back your mind: a radical feminist approach to recovering from porn use

as radical feminists, we know we live in a society poisoned by porn on a global scale. if you are one of the many women who has fallen prey to the porn industry and are trapped in the cycle of degrading participation in viewing porn, no matter the origins of your usage, just know that you are not alone and that there’s hope for you. read this essay with an open mind - take what works for you and leave the rest.

BE AWARE OF NEUROPLASTICITY first off - your brain is not in stasis (like scientists used to believe!). discovering and understanding the concept of neuroplasticity was a first step in my healing process. neuroplasticity is defined as the brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. neuroplasticity allows the neurons (nerve cells) in the brain to compensate for injury and disease and to adjust their activities in response to new situations or to changes in their environment. neural pathways are simply connections between parts of your nervous system that have formed from patterns of thinking. i’d suggest taking some time to learn about neuroplasticity - there’s some very good articles & videos online!

so what does neuroplasticity mean in relation to porn use? we know that your brain is affected by porn, but you are not permanently pornsick. you are not doomed! here’s what happened: every time you had an orgasm to porn, the neural pathway between groinal response/arousal/orgasm and the stimuli of porn use was strengthened. the neural pathway for groinal responses/arousal/orgasm from stimuli that ISN’T porn is weaker and not in use. that’s why it can feel like porn is the only thing that turns you on or that gets you off, or you can lose groinal response to situations (like consensual & healthy sexual interaction with people you’re actually attracted to) that you feel like you should be turned on by.

 if you’ve been using porn since a really young age and/or extremely heavily, your brain will be more affected, because the effects on your brain are culumative and neuroplasticity is more intense before adulthood. even still: you are not doomed. it takes a lot of time and a lot of effort to rewire your brain by avoiding the old neural pathways and using and establishing the new and healthy ones, but with that time and effort there will be progress. a healthy, loving sexuality is worth fighting for.

DON’T HAVE ORGASMS TO PORN so now that we know about neuroplasticity and neural pathways, we know they can be tackled. not having any orgasms to thoughts about porn or porn is the way to do this, combined with working on having orgasms to thoughts of healthy sex! i’m going to share how i did this on a personal level. again, feel free to take what works for you and leave the rest.

when i was having sex or masturbating, if i had any intrusive thoughts about porn or violent/pornagraphic sex, i had a process for stopping those neural pathways from activating. when trying to have an orgasm, if i was thinking about porn/violence, i would physically stop trying to orgasm and then try to clear my mind. when i wasn’t thinking about the porn imagery any more, i would continue. if this was happening over and over again, i would stop all the way and decide i would try again later.

i’ve been asked what to think about instead and it really varies person to person. if you’re not ready to fantasize, try to just focus on the physical sensations and keep your mind clear of thoughts of sex. when you’re feeling ready and less in danger of fantasizing about porn or violent sex, using healthy & loving sexual fantasies is great too, especially if you use them while you orgasm. it is normal to not have the same intense groinal response to these fantasies as you do to porn and doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong or that you’ll never have normal arousal responses. it just takes time.

an important detail: if you have sexual partners, it’s very important to be aware of how your reliance on porn affects the sex you have with them. if you are unable to orgasm with another partner without thoughts of porn, it will most likely be necessary to stop having sex while you work on healing your sexuality, which brings us to the next section. SUPPORT FROM LOVED ONES when you are struggling with porn, you need people on your side. if you have a sexual partner(s), you especially need them on your side. this is an intense journey and involves a lot of shame, especially if you’re a woman with radical politics. shame and isolation are huge barriers to recovery for any person struggling with any kind of addiction. if people don’t know what you’re going through and how you’re trying to fix it, how can they help you?

if your sexual partner is not understanding of this situation, i would urge you to examine that relationship. if you don’t seem to be able to make them understand the seriousness of this situation or if you struggling with this causes serious sexual incompatibility, it may not be the right relationship for you.

dependency on porn for sexual arousal is a very painful and frightening thing to combat, especially when so much of it is accompanied by sexual abuse and trauma. finding friends who are struggling the way you are and having a plan of action together can be really helpful. for example, having a friend who has the information to some sort of parental lock or filter on your phone or computer can be a good barrier. yes, pretty much any filter is by-passable, but that extra step can sometimes be all you need to say wait, i don’t want to do this, and reach out to a friend for help. that help can be serious talk about how porn has affected you or doing something fun and distracting until the urge has passed. feel it out.

KNOW THAT POLITICAL AWARENESS MAY NOT BE A FIX i’ve had multiple women confess miserably that understanding what the women in porn are going through didn’t stop their porn use, and the continued use after that knowledge made them feel even more ashamed and isolated than before. being a female person that uses porn doesn’t make you immune to the effects of it - it causes us to see women as objects. i’ve found that often the lack of empathy for the women we are watching mirrors the lack of empathy we feel for ourselves. many women consume porn that mirrors the kind of sexual abuse they’ve experienced or fetishizes specific oppressions that they face. i don’t think this is a coincidence.

it is frightening and disturbing when your eyes are open to the horror that is the porn industry, the physical and mental toll performing in pornography takes, the sex trafficking involved, and all the other details, and still once that video is on, it doesn’t make a difference. that is what porn does to your brain. it’s an awful truth that you cannot rely on your sense of empathy to help you stop watching porn, because the porn itself has attacked that empathy so wholly. but that brings us to our next tip

MOTIVATE YOURSELF THROUGH RAGE righteous female anger and spite are an excellent motivators. framing your actions to yourself as actions of defiance is helpful in a lot of situations, but i think especially helpful in this one.

on a political level: learning about what women go through in the sex industry isn’t enough - but learning about the men who have created this, fostered this, and prospered from this is a whole new ball game. pimps, pornographers, and sex traffickers want you to watch porn. pornography corporations and pornography CEOs want you to watch porn. they want the ad revenue. they want you to be pornsick so you come back for more. they don’t care how much harm they do to performers or porn consumers, all they care about is the money. on this level, not watching porn is an act of resistance against a violent industry, a capitalist venture that has left nothing but ruin on an unimaginable scale in its wake. they don’t care about rapes or serial murders committed by porn addicts. they don’t care about the new rise of child on child sexual abuse where little kids are molesting and violently raping each other. they don’t care about the suicides and the drug addiction and the trafficking. they just want your mind so they can have your money. are you going to give it to them?

on a personal level, if you were exposed to porn by someone who sexually abused you and/or someone who was sexually abused and just passing it on, i am so fucking angry for you, and i hope you can get angry too. that never should have happened. if someone wanted you to act out porn, or wanted you to think porn was normal, i’m angry at them, and i’m angry at whoever taught them that, and back into that lineage of rape culture forever. porn wants you to feel like a fuckhole. porn wants you to feel like your worth is what a man wants to do to you. porn wants you to feel like an object. and not just you - all your female friends, your female relatives, little tiny girls. do you want us all to feel like fuckholes? no. that’s NOT what we are. get angry. grief comes in many forms and righteous female rage is one of them.

if you get the urge to look up porn - turn to these emotions instead. be angry at who did this to you on a personal or political level. say fuck you, i’m not going to do what you told me i should do, i’m not who you told me i was.

MAINTENANCE ORGASMS your mileage may vary wildly on this point but i’ve known many people who have a lot of trouble falling asleep without having an orgasm, or have their mood affected negatively from not having regular orgasms. but when you’re trying to stop being pornsick, reaching orgasm without porn can become extremely frustrating, causing relapses because you feel like you can’t have an orgasm without porn.

my suggestion is an powerful vibrator and/or lube. i regularly recommend the hitachi magic wand for this purpose. i used it a lot in recovery and when i’m struggling because you can simply induce an orgasm in a really small amount of time, giving you less time to struggle with not using old neural pathways as possible. i know there are debatable downsides of heavy vibrator use so i don’t want to say this is the most awesome solution ever, but if you need regular orgasms to keep an even keel, this can be a solution to that.

IT’S TIME TO STOP USING PORN

you can do this. we can do this! about 3 years after quitting porn (after being introduced to it at a very young age) i started to have normal sexual arousal come back. i still struggle with relapse, especially when re-traumatized or when trauma is coming up hard. this is a journey we’re undertaking, a reclamation of our brains from a sexually violent industry that seeks to destroy us. you can heal your sexuality from porn with time and energy, and it is absolutely worth it.

this year, get angry, get real, and get clean of porn. much love to you all.

[comrade-meow]

You: ddlg, MAPs, daddy doms, cgl

me, an intellectual: pedophilia

[vag-owner-deactivated20210213]

i stand in absolute solidarity with my white sisters.

i see white women be silenced every day. one of them told a heartbreaking story about her own abuse and why she centers her activism around it and one asshole 'leftist' tim went on a whole rant about her and how her activism means nothing because she’s white and how 'the world doesn’t revolve around white women'. it was so disgusting, this woman apologized for speaking about her trauma and deactivated. pulling the 'white girl' bullshit every time a white woman speaks about her experiences is not only fucking lazy but also misogynistic. if you only care about female problems when it’s WOC speaking you don’t really care about female problems. you’re just trying to come off as woke for the sake of your own comfort.

as a indigenous woman i love all my sisters, regardless of how society sees them. we may not fight all fights exactly the same but we have one goal: female liberation.

[vag-owner-deactivated20210213]

white women: please don’t feel afraid to reblog this. you don’t owe shit to anyone. you don’t owe anyone an explanation. and please, do not feel afraid to speak out against abusive men of color. you’re not racist for doing so.

[latenightsinpemberley]

This reminds me of that woman on twitter who made a thread about her experiences with Muslim men and how she was repeatedly physically abused during sex and casually called a dirty whore by them; in one of the comments she was accused of trying to portray white women as victims, or something along these lines.

The message is very clear: men don't believe women are actually oppressed on the basis of sex.

[friendlyneighborhoodsupervillain]

Wokesters appear to have accepted that all white people benefit from racism (yes), but the perpetrators of misogyny? WhiTE CiShEt MeN uwu. Even the self-proclaimed "feminists" among this lot treat sex like a *lesser* axis of oppression.

All men benefit from misogyny. Poor men. Gay men. Black men. Asian men. Disabled men. Men who don't identify as men. ALL men. And even the whitest, straightest, richest woman lives in the same misogynistic world as you do. You CAN be a part of an oppressed AND a privileged group at the same time. In fact, you KNOW this. You see and acknowledge it in, say, black (oppressed) men (privileged), you just don't care about women.

P.S. Do any of you honestly think that misogyny targeted towards white women doesn't extend to WOC? Or is your primary concern to appear anti-racist (not to be confused with BEING anti-racist)?

[iamxueyang]

did op ever remake

[lovetobe-feminist]

I stand with ALL women, EVERY SINGLE woman, because we are ALL oppressed and discriminated against and subject to abuse on the basis of our SEX.

[memesmylife1]

If you’re a woman,

you have explicit permission to be gender non conforming and/or masculine.

You are allowed to have short hair. Like, really short hair. And you’re allowed to keep it that way. It doesn’t have to be a one time thing and then you grow it back again.

You’re allowed to wear clothes from the men’s or boys’ section. Whether that’s just partly or exclusively.

You’re allowed to not shave any part of your body. Even if you have more, thicker and/or darker body hair than usual.

You’re allowed to never wear makeup.

You’re allowed to be topless when men are allowed (for example at the beach). You might get in legal trouble, but morally you aren’t doing anything wrong.

You’re allowed to take up space. Verbally and physically. Of course, you shouldn’t do it too much. But if it’s okay for a man to do it, it’s okay for you too.

You’re allowed to be bad at things without it being proof that women as a whole are bad at it.

You’re allowed to have stupid opinions without it being proof that women aren’t fit for politics or whatever.

You don’t have to prove you’re not inferior.

If people criticize you for doing something, but wouldn’t criticize you if you were a man, then you should probably take that as evidence that you’re doing the right thing by breaking these norms and expanding people’s idea of what a woman can be.

[scoutsmoocrew]

Do you supporting transplanting a uterus into a trans women

any trans woman is 100% welcome to my uterus once I’m done with it if the technology is available

[agrarianradfem]

All the females in this thread:

Your uterus is a major organ that not only helps keep all your other abdominal organs in place (prolapse, anyone?) But also is hugely important for hormonal regulation tied to things like bone density. Incontinence is a fairly common side effect of hysterectomy as well, especially as you age. It’s believed that of the hysterectomies already performed, many have been unnecessary. Rather than contributing to the performance of a surgery with immense and lifelong severe consequences, it’s worth fighting against the unnecessary medicalization of female bodies and the devaluation of female reproductive systems.

Also - where do you think a uterus would even fit in a male body? And that isn’t even to include things like: where are you thinking they’re going to get blood to the uterus? Since there is no hormonal cycle in trans women, how is uterine lining going to be created and flushed? Since neovaginas are inverted penises or bits of colon known to be hospital environments for hair and fecal bacteria, how would a neovagina cleanse itself to prevent fatal infection of the uterus? Since the goal of a uterus transplant is theoretically to have a pregnancy, how will the male body expand and shift the abdominal organs and manage the hormonal changes required/experienced for different stages of pregnancy?

The uterus is far more than where a fetus develops.

[ms-gay-frogs]

also ladies, scientists are beginning to see the ties that the uterus and ovaries have to the brain and how removing them can affect cognitive function!! plus, removing ovaries specifically has ties to heart disease and osteoporosis! the ovaries and the uterus are very closely linked, meaning that these (heart disease + osteoporosis) can also be linked to removing the uterus.

not to mention the possible connection between hysterectomies and early on-set dementia:

do not butcher yourself because of male-made ideas of your bodies!!!

[nowwesaidit]

“The body has been made so problematic for women that it has often seemed easier to shrug it off and travel as a disembodied spirit.”

—Adrienne Rich; “Of Woman Born”

[ms-gay-frogs]

do trans people know that they are their bodies? like your body is literally you. you're not some weird void or "soul" like christians say, you're not "in your body" your body is you!!!!

[ignis-divine-eleison]

i can’t believe willow smith is a terf

[baehraini]

id expect outrage over this since they came for her bc she wore a uterus shirt to the women’s march lmao! 

[pikafem]

we stan

[sapphic-matriarchy]

Protecc

[evil-terf-hands]

Also had to add:

[cliteralviolence]

Just putting this one out there too

[radfemblack]

Oh my god ❤️💪🏾

[grossgirlterror]

QUEEN

[lilithslabrys]

WOW

WE STAN

[radicalrin]

Radfem merch vs TRA merch:

[fictocriticisma-deactivated2022]

Tips from a homeless woman about what to consider donating to homeless people if you intend to:

-socks. This is a huge thing socks get worn down SO FAST especially if you’re someone like me who lives in an area where it rains a lot and don’t have public transportation or a car. Thick and wooly ones are great.

- period supplies for women. Seriously. There have been several times where I’ve had to ball up almost an entire roll of TP to use in lieu of a pad, and I have incredibly heavy periods so it’s even more embarrassing when I realize period blood has been dripping down my thighs.

- portable phone chargers. Not all homeless people are also phone-less, especially when there are programs to give low-income/homeless people cellphones. This can be an absolute life saver, as we are constantly vulnerable and also because it’s usually our only reliable line of communication with potential employers/friends/family.

-baby powder. This goes especially for people like me to have to rely on walking everywhere. Especially as summer is hitting, it’s not uncommon to get thighs chaffed so bad that you actually develop heat blisters and sores. Baby powder greatly reduces this.

-rain gear. I’ve had to fashion rain gear out of trash bags and although it’s effective for some time, they tear easily and also aren’t easy to make actually water proof. Buying one of those cheap plastic raincoats with hoods is so so useful.

-baby wipes. A lot of us don’t have access to a shower regularly and also get incredibly dirty because we’re outside a lot. Being able to at least wipe ourselves down with baby wipes at the end of the day or if we get particularly dirty really helps with piece of mind and also feels more humanizing than not having them.

-first aid kits. This might seem obvious but most people don’t think about these as potential donations. For people who don’t have insurance or a way to get quick help, these can be life savers.

-toothbrushes and toothpaste. I see this on a lot of lists about donating to the homeless, but it’s super important. Not only is hygiene going to be a big factor in being able to get a job, but the vast majority of us have nothing resembling insurance and if we can’t take care of our teeth it can literally be a death sentence if we develop an abscess in our gums or jaw. Dental care is expensive, and so having these helps us prevent future problems.

Homeless people, like any other demographic, are not a monolith and are going to vary in terms of resources available to us, having transportation or not, having a phone or not, hell even having decent clothes or not. If anyone wants to ask me any questions feel free to ask

[awed-frog]

If anyone’s worried about the incel movement in the West, by the way - here is what’s starting to happen in India and China, where men vastly outnumber women and millions of men are about to discover they’ll never get married. 

[cecaeliawitch]

that whole first section about the poor mans who have to feed and bathe themsleves with no wives to baby them made me want to pull my eyes out

[monarda-fistulosa-deactivated20]

The combo of “these poor men who can’t feed and clothe and otherwise fend for themselves” and also “sex crimes and human trafficking are on the rise because if women won’t be with them willingly they’ll just take them” is jarring. Not only did attitudes towards women create this mess, they’re perpetuating systems that exploit women to try on fix it. I have no sympathy for any of these people. They all made their bed, they can grow up and lie in it. Die lonely for all I care. 

[auntiewanda]

Both of those statements come from the same dehumanizing view of women.

[hypatiafeminism-deactivated2019]

I’m reading a book about the overall decline of human violence and have since learned that violence and crime both increase when young men are unmarried. Men literally cannot find intrinsic motivation to be civilized. Something is wrong there.

[furiousfem]

I can’t fucking believe the stances adopted by this stupid thing.

Female fetuses and babies were killed by the thousands; girls have restricted access to education because they need to live more [sic] ‘protected lives’ since men can’t be fucking civilized; young women are preyed upon by both the older and younger generations of males; trafficking and prostitution are rampant and even affect the female populations in other countries. This article admits to and addresses all of these issues, but it’s still about how sad it is that the men feel lonely.

“The gender imbalance could prompt a “crisis of masculinity” as traditional roles are upended and males embrace socially regressive stances to prove their manhood” is almost immediately followed by “In rural areas, men who didn’t get married are really marginalized; even socializing in the village is difficult, […] These guys are depressed.” No, they’re not depressed. Misogyny isn’t a mental illness. Male entitlement isn’t a mental illness. Treating them as such is a recipe for normalizing male terrorism, not how we eradicate it.

Obviously, the article also fails to address how women in these countries frequently don’t have the option to remain single (because that would be oh-so-selfish of them). It’s a tragedy when “the men themselves are isolated, left out of major family decisions and subject to ridicule, with little in the way of support or mental health services” - but for both married and unmarried women, that’s just commonplace. That’s just cultural.

I can’t finish reading this piece of garbage because the second chapter is titled “to catch a wife, build a house” and if that’s not just plain charming I don’t know what is.

[laurierrose]

priority of problems:

1. men’s feewings huwt

2. bad for capitalism :/

3. violence against men

4. oh and violence against women lol

[kukoyi-deactivated20210512]

I implore followers to take at least 3 minutes of your time to read this please.

I often talk to my best friend about how on the most basic level men in general do not like women. I truly believe after reading this they do not see women as people. As human beings.

There were way to many times in the article where the men talked about their lonliness as “no one knows my pain. I do not have a wife to make me food. To cook or clean. Or to tell me to take a shower”.

This man spoke about women as what they could do FOR him. In relation to chores and tasks.

Never in any of the interviews from the men in either India or China spoke about why they wanted a wife other than what she could do for them.

Not one man said “ I want a wife so I can spend time with someone I love, cherish or care for”.

It was always in reference to “ I want a wife bc I want children, I want someone to cook for me, who will tell me to take a bath?”.

Even for the Indian woman who had 7 sons and was at the age of 60. Described her life as hard and lonely.

I will paraphrase,“ I constantly cook for my seven sons and my husband. They eat a lot of food. They go through a lot bread. I cook four times a day. No one daughter in law to help me”.

The age of her oldest son?

38 years old. The youngest being 19 or 21.

At the age there mother was. 60 years old with back pain, tired from slaving over in the kitchen.

Did any one of her sons take the time to learn to cook or help her?

No.

There was a grandmother who was interviewed from China. She had raised her grandson since he was a child.

The man was at least 35. She talked about how she wanted a daughter in law to help her cook and some grandchildren.

Did her 35 year old grandson help his around 70 something year old grandmother to cook? Clean? Anything.

No. He never mentioned it once.

A lot of people think dehumanization is always done in violence. Or in anger. It is physical. You can see it. Hear it.

But the dehumanization of women globally has been done to us in the little things.

A 60 year old woman who cooks 4x a day for her grown 7 children and husband. Who refuse to learn to help her. Despite her voiced concerns on the physical toll it takes on her body.

A 70 year old grandmother still cooks for her 35 year old grandson.

And these men think they deserve wives? Why? Bc they want children and someone to cook and clean for them. They want free sex.

I honestly hope all these men mentioned die bitter, alone and forgotten.

Let their bare branches. Remain bare. Let there be no seeds, no fruit to harvest. No apples that fall.

Let them all remain barren.

Enough is enough.

[kendallroy-deactivated20210425]

andrea dworkin, right wing women