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“What good is it to throw yourself in front of a steamroller out of moral principles and then be crushed flat like a sock emptied of its foot?”
— Margaret Atwood, The Testaments
When you were all in suspense I kept my feelings to myself, but now you are decided, I congratulate you!
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This is a great example of how women can’t simply be environmental activists. We have to be “hot”, we have to be “sluts”, we have to be palatable to male masturbation. The fact that this has thousands of notes is concerning enough, but I guess this is the misogyny website.
problematic rage gap. one partner tries to bring nuance and understanding to a tough situation. the other wants to blow up the earth about it.
I think part of getting better is complete ego death. Like you’re not above setting a timer for 5 minutes and focusing on a task. You’re not above doing a very simple 3 minute workout to start. You’re not above reading for 10 minutes a day when you first get out of your reading slump, even if you used to read for hours. You’re not above starting slow and then building up to where you want to be/where you once were. What you are above is total inertia. Doing something really is better than doing nothing. Radically accept where you are, radically accept your limits, and go from there. Don’t let your ego get in the way.
Possibly my spiciest take is that it's actually good to have people you respect and like that have some dogshit takes.
I think part of what is making young people lonelier, in discussing why they're increasingly isolated, is that they're so afraid of meeting someone who doesn't hold their same beliefs, and instead of being just core beliefs it is kinda ancillary shit.
It's actually okay to disagree even on social topics! Even on some political ones! But I mean, online you can start with "i love this mutual but they have a really bad/uninformed opinion about x media"
I know this is IMMEDIATELY going to be taken in bad faith, and yes babygirl, you are so right, I DO want you to go make best friends with both the KKK grand wizard AND your nearest nazi leader.
But seriously, as someone who has spent two decades doing community organization: finding ways to connect with different people is so so so important. There are people i follow here who ate 80% smart and their brain falls out of their head 20% of the time and that is GOOD FOR MY MENTAL ECOSYSTEM AND GOOD FOR LEARNING HOW TO BE A PERSON
LET'S ALL GO PISS ON THE POOR
It’s also good to assume you probably are the friend whose brain falls out 20% of the time.
We all have blind spots, assumptions, and dogshit take from time to time. They can’t all be winners.
I reserve the right to be wrong (and I’d appreciate my friends telling me if they think I am)
men will literally bend backwards to make you feel stupid rather than admit they might be wrong & then expect you to be nice to them
Calling your imperialist efforts "decolonialization" is very 2020's-chic of you, but we aren't going to bring back the Caliphate no matter how many words you redefine to fit your warped agenda.
I keep seeing posts from people who claim they will be blocking anyone who posts any content from the new Harry Potter show that begins airing in December.
So I wanted to say you’re all being ridiculous. You consume media all the time by actual rapists. You watch movies with actors who have killed people. You read books written by racists and homophobes. All. The. Time. And it is so unimportant to you that half the time, you don’t even know.
This business with JK Rowling is a witch hunt. She follows a different kind of feminism than you do. And sometimes she’s a little rude about it. (But we don’t tone police here.) She has never put hands on anyone. She has started charities with her own money. And she is an outspoken advocate for women experiencing domestic violence.
She has expressed acceptance for LGBT people, yes including trans people. She just does not believe a person can genuinely change their sex, that some ‘inclusive’ terminology dehumanizes women and that sex segregated spaces are necessary to protect women.
There is a reason that JKR is being derided the way she is, and it’s not because she’s the worst person in the world. And if you step back, if you read her words, you’ll see why.
Anyway, keep putting Harry Potter content on my feed.
The thing is that in general when people make ‘JK Rowling naming a character’ jokes the names are always lazily given and/or based on harmful stereotypes, but that’s just… not accurate? Absolutely her names tend to give straightforward information about the character, sometimes regarding ethnicity but also sometimes regarding a werewolf being named ‘Remus Lupin’ and a villain being named ‘Dolores Umbrage’. However with the possible exception of Shacklebolt (who, despite popular belief, is far from the only black character in the series, but I guess yall are the ones who can’t remember non-white characters unless they have offensive names?) her ethnic characters just have ethnic names, that’s it. Cho Chang, is 張秋 in the official Mandarin or possibly 張卓 using a Wade-Giles romanization standard. Either way those are both real and common Chinese names. Parvati is named after a Hindu goddess, this is also a given name for Indian girls, so is Padma, so is the last name Patil. Seamus is a common Irish name and Finnegan is traditionally an Irish surname, not a given name. Minerva McGonagall is never even explicitly described as Scottish but would you look at that, everyone can understand she is Scottish just from her name. And mind you, ‘Remus Lupin’ is a stereotypical name for a werewolf character but not for a Welsh character, which he canonically is. I see Marauders fans trying to claim this was a headcanon that originated in their fandom, but his mom is canonically from Cardiff, yall did not make that up please humble yourselves. Yes, the pretty French character is literally named ‘flower of the court’, but ‘Fleur’ is also an actual French girl’s name and ‘DeLacour’ is an actual French surname. Compare this with ‘Irish Carbomb’, ‘Tali Bahn’, ‘Sue Shi’— the latter names are just blatantly racist jokes, not ethnically accurate names at all, like you people are literally just using Joanne as a flimsy excuse to be racist yourselves.
I’m really lost as to what the criticism is for giving ethnic characters accurate traditional names, unless the argument is that everyone in the series should have an English-sounding name regardless of their nationality or ethnicity which is infinitely more racist than any of the names she gave her characters. And if that IS the argument, then the people who criticize her for her names aren’t even consistent in that regard either, because they ignore the infinite possibility for characters with English sounding names to not be white (Hermione Granger in the Cursed Child, for example; Celestina Warbeck, Seraphina Picquery, Dean Thomas, Angelina Johnson, Lee Jordan, literally whoever else; I mean you can’t criticize the series for not having enough diversity and then also criticize the diversity for being too blatant?)
What’s even more funny to me is people will use movies-only details to call JKR racist, such as the fact that Seamus blows stuff up and tries to make alcohol, both of which were not written in the original books. But then by that logic, Seamus Finnegan isn’t even the ‘only’ Irish character because the Lovegoods and (for the most part) Dumbledore are also Irish. It’s just the most blatant bad-faith interpretation and regardless of your personal feelings about JK Rowling, it’s incredibly weird to intentionally paint a piece of media as more racist than it actually is by spreading disinformation to try and pad your argument for why the piece of media is bad.
Only one sex gang rapes, and it’s males.
Never let them gaslight that you about ‘gender wars’ or that ‘women can be as bad as men’.
people don't like to acknowledge that the "heh LUCKY, where was she when i was in school?" reaction to female teachers predating on male students is primarily because those men are sexist towards women.
yes, she is the abuser and the student is the victim. yes, it is also sexist and gross that they would assume young boys have those sexual feelings towards their abuser. so the RESULT of those comments is harm towards the victims and defense of the abuser.
but the SOURCE of those comments is less that they can't see boys as victims and more that they think women are sex objects, so how could a boy be victimized by a sex object? you can see that because mentions of the victim are always throwaway lines and projection like "eh, he probably liked it anyway" and the mentions of the abuser are rants about how hot the teacher is and how bad THEY want her.
they KNOW boys can be victims, you can see that when there's a male perpetrator. but to those people, it's the same as if you'd said the boy was given a free cheeseburger to eat or a sports car to drive. this is not to defend the abusers in any way at all. this is to explain my analysis of where these comments from come from, and what the result is.
You don't have to laugh at "girl math" or "girl dinner" or "I'm just a girl" jokes. You don't have to laugh at misogynistic humor that demeans women. You don't have to go along with it. You don't even have to sit there awkwardly pretending you didn't hear anything. You are allowed to speak up and say something.
You don't have to be a jerk about it. The most effective yet civil way of dealing with harmful "humor" is just pretending you don't get the joke and asking them to explain. "I don't get it, what's girl math? What's a girl dinner? What do you mean by you're just a girl? Can you explain the joke to me?"
And if you're feeling bold, you can just say (or follow up with) "I think that's misogynistic". That's allowed. You don't have to quietly endure misogynistic "jokes", you can call a spade a spade.