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Parents with asinine rules about "backtalk" are cowards. Nobody roasts me harder than the kid and it's great. They don't respect me at all and I'm so proud.
"This child has no respect for authority!" Good. Means I'm doing my job.
There is a lot of weird shit going on in parenting, isn't there? Like people are often concerned that my kids are allowed to call me Snoof if they want, as if using my name is going to turn them into violent miscreants. Or the way anything a parent says is beyond scrutiny regardless of how out of line they are.
That's not teaching them to build healthy relationships. That is, at best, preparing them for the senseless hierarchy of capitalism. At worst, preparing them for abuse.
My kids can tell me when I'm being an arsehole. Sometimes we have a row and it's MY fault, or maybe the row isn't my fault but the way I reacted still was wrong.
When I apologise to my kids, when I listen to them and make appropriate changes to our lives or to my behaviour, when I encourage them to see me as a human being with flaws and with things I'm ignorant or unaware of, I'm teaching them that they are second to no one and I'm teaching them how to own up to your mistakes and I'm teaching them how to resolve a conflict with what I hope is a minimum of damage. And I'm giving them those tools so they can hone them and adapt them and become better than I ever was.
It's not anyone's job to teach kids how to be kids. We need to teach them how to be people.
I have an adult child and she's not perfect and flawless and without humanity but you know what she is? Willing to listen, willing to compromise, willing to consider other viewpoints and apologise.
Parents with asinine rules about "backtalk" are cowards. Nobody roasts me harder than the kid and it's great. They don't respect me at all and I'm so proud.
"This child has no respect for authority!" Good. Means I'm doing my job.
There is a lot of weird shit going on in parenting, isn't there? Like people are often concerned that my kids are allowed to call me Snoof if they want, as if using my name is going to turn them into violent miscreants. Or the way anything a parent says is beyond scrutiny regardless of how out of line they are.
That's not teaching them to build healthy relationships. That is, at best, preparing them for the senseless hierarchy of capitalism. At worst, preparing them for abuse.
My kids can tell me when I'm being an arsehole. Sometimes we have a row and it's MY fault, or maybe the row isn't my fault but the way I reacted still was wrong.
When I apologise to my kids, when I listen to them and make appropriate changes to our lives or to my behaviour, when I encourage them to see me as a human being with flaws and with things I'm ignorant or unaware of, I'm teaching them that they are second to no one and I'm teaching them how to own up to your mistakes and I'm teaching them how to resolve a conflict with what I hope is a minimum of damage. And I'm giving them those tools so they can hone them and adapt them and become better than I ever was.
It's not anyone's job to teach kids how to be kids. We need to teach them how to be people.
I have an adult child and she's not perfect and flawless and without humanity but you know what she is? Willing to listen, willing to compromise, willing to consider other viewpoints and apologise.
Real question: did backpacks not exist in the 70’s?
I think they were just poor
The backpack started on the west coast and migrated towards the east pretty slowly between the late 60s and early 80s. They were originally intended for hikers and other outdoors-y types, and were marketed at hiking retailers, but one of them happened to be connected to a university in Washington. Since it was so rainy over there, people started using them for books, the idea caught on, spread, and eventually backpacks became a necessity as opposed to a novel idea.
Images && info truncated from “From ‘Book Strap’ To ‘Burrito’: A History Of The School Backpack”
Also back then kids didn’t have to carry a ton of books to school, full sized lockers were the norm, and they didn’t have as much homework.
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True freedom.
today one of the student workers at my job told me that if she’s struggling to remember something important in her course work she’ll wait until her professor asks a question related to that topic during a lecture and then she’ll purposefully raise her hand and answer it wrong because, and I quote, ‘the combined shame and embarrassment of getting an answer wrong in front of more than a hundred of your peers will make sure that you’ll never forget what the right answer actually was’ and if that is not the most next level balls to the wall bonkers extrovert thing I’ve ever heard then I don’t know what is
My best friend loves rob pattinson and over the years she sent me a lot of articles/quotes of him, so here are some of my favourites
(there is A LOT more, this man is INSANE)
Bonus:
Part 2
thinking about how when iroh confronts zuko at lake laogai, he asks zuko to decide what he wants from life, and what kind of person he wants to be. and zuko's response over the following days was to try in every way possible to be the son that he thinks iroh wants, cheerful and hardworking and and loving and good. because zuko's answer to "who are you, and who do you want to be" was simply "I want to be a good son, and I want to make you happy."
Does Bryk really not know how multicultural families work? Aang's children are separated. Kya, Tenzin, Bumi doesnt know how to live like a family. They don't know about traditions. Only Kya seems to respect the SWT's culture. Aang didn't teach the boys respect for SWT's culture. The Katara's culture is suppressed. Aang looks more like a colonizer than a fire nation
Okay, so, part of it is the fault of the worldbuilding and the way the show simplifies culture because it was made to be understandable by American children. So all the Water Tribe people always wear blue and are easily recognizable, all the Earth Kingdom people wear green and brown and yellow and are easily recognizable, etc., and there's no mixing of bending abilities or cultures when realistically there would be. Where are the Water Tribe people who fled to live in the Earth Kingdom for protection from the war? Where is the trade between the Water Tribes and Earth Kingdom? Where are the women who left the Northern Water Tribe fleeing from arranged marriages and became assimilated into the Earth Kingdom and had children who could bend both elements? Where are the pockets of the Earth Kingdom where Air Nomads lived and settled and bred?
Why is Katara's only waterbending child the only one who looks remotely Water Tribe? (Also, why does her waterbending child have to be a girl? Gender essentialism, much?) Katara and Aang's children are a mix of weird cartoon sexual dimorphism (think Lady and the Tramp) and cultural essentialism.
It's cartoon logic, but when applied to this particular plot it gets into some weird implications.
Also, I can't help but imagine the thought process for poor Bumi. Like, what, you're a nonbender so you get to wear green? It's not just the color-coding, why does the style of Bumi's clothing look nothing like either his father or mother's culture?
Why is it easier for Zuko, who grew up with violent nationalism, to grasp the concept of multicultural families (and to see them as precious) than it is for Aang, who supposedly grew up with friends from all over the world?
Really where are the half-bloods? People travelled for centuries before the war. They formed families, shared culture. I think the Earth Kingdom wore furs that belonged to the water tribes. The Fire Nation traded good iroh. The water tribes supplied furs and fish and so on. Merchants travelled with their family and may have stayed in one place. So a city might have sprung up. Why is there no city in the Fire Nation that was founded by a merchant from the Earth Kingdom? People travelled. They stayed on the coast and created cities. It was normal. 1 culture + 2 culture = 3 culture. Even Uncle Airoh says nations are similar. Being able to redirect lightning = water mage movements. It wasn't banned. It's not a tweeter with banning culture appropriation. Ok let's say Aang banned multicultural marriages. What's he going to do about the kids? Would he throw them out into the desert? Would he deprive them of the bending? What would happen to people who love each other? Will they have to live on different sides of the world?
Okay, let's say Aang banned multicultural marriage and married Katara. Everyone will think he's a hypocrite. And he is. He's only doing things for himself. He goes against the foundations of his culture which clearly says to distance yourself from all world things. And I don't think Aang is familiar with the concept of a normal family. He grew up in a divided monastery. He only knew men. How is he going to live with Katara and embrace her culture? He didn't do that in the show. He didn't understand anything. He humiliated her. Only the air nomads were more important It's weird that they humiliated Bumi so much and forced him to be the 'Earth Kingdom'. Is Earth Kingdom bad? Is it only for non-benders? Is it backward? That's what Sozin thought. It's dangerous Aang. The show always showed what non-benders could do. Sokka, Mai, Tai Lee, Kyoshi warriors, Jet and what Zuko could do without fire bending. Yes it's a military era but just look at what they did. (and sorry for my English)
It’s weird that they humiliated Bumi so much and forced him to be the ‘Earth Kingdom’. Is Earth Kingdom bad? Is it only for non-benders? Is it backward?
The Earth Kingdom is also the most ethnically diverse and Bumi looks the most mixed race of Katara and Aang’s children, so there’s some weird implications there...
my favorite zutara thing is that when zuko asks katara what he can do to gain her trust and she says "oh I don't know maybe you can bring my mother back" he just legit thinks "welp, can't do that so what's the next best thing" and takes her to get revenge
I'm likely just being nitpicky, but I always disliked how in The Boiling Rock when Zuko brings up Mai Sokka said "That gloomy girl who sighs a lot". Bruh, she helped chase you and ur friends down to the point of sleep deprivation and helped Azula conquer Ba Sing Se. It always irked me how he acted like she was some goth girl in class and not you know... an enemy that was complicit in potentially killing you and ur friends a few months ago.
It makes sense in context. TBR is the episode that 'redeems' Mai. That's Bryke's version of foreshadowing. Don't actually have Mai do things that suggests she's not happily complicit in Azula's schemes. Downplay her role, and never mind the fact that Mai legit tried to kill Sokka's sister.
Nobody can convince me that Sokka's reaction wouldn't be "you mean that girl with all the knives who tried to kill us?"
hi :) u up 2 talk about Azula? i wonder what kind of help she could get. what do u think? also - names to mental stuf in a pre-dx world?
Hi! Happy V Day <3
First of all, I've said before that I don't like diagnosing fictional characters with mental illnesses at the best of times. In a pre-DSM world, it's almost impossible. I've also said before that I don't consider Azula to be mentally ill, especially not in the series proper (the comics don't exist, shhh.) Unless you mean in the sense of having CPTSD due to prolonged abuse, but like, Zuko has that, too.
One main difference between Zuko and Azula is that Zuko actually recognized that he needed help. Even when he didn't know it himself. Everything he did was a cry for help, even (especially) when he was like NO I DEFINITELY DO NOT NEED TO CALM DOWN WHY WOULD YOU SUGGEST THAT I AM PERFECTLY FINE!!!!!
That's the whole thing about Zuko's speech where he talks about Azula being "born lucky" versus his "lucky to be born." I love that speech so much, as you can probably tell if you have been following my blog because I talk about it all the time. If you've been with me on my personal you probably know that speech was the moment I started to love Zuko as a character. And people who talk about Azula and Zuko's relationship talk about that line a lot, but rarely focus on what Zuko says after:
I don't need luck, though. I don't want it. I've always had to struggle and fight and that's made me strong. It's made me who I am.
This is the thing. This is what makes Zuko redeemable. The way Dante Basco delivers these lines is so good. There's a lot of false bravado, but also a lot of pain. Building an identity around having to constantly struggle caused Zuko a lot of pain but it also prevented him from falling into the mindset Azula was in, and ultimately the lessons he learned about picking himself up helped him to rebuild himself in the end and become a better person. Azula built her identity around being "born lucky" so that was always something she had to maintain, and the idea that she was superior by nature was fed by her father and her country's violent fascist ideologies. We do see that she struggles to maintain this mask of perfection even from the moment she is introduced to us, but what she doesn't ever do is admit that she struggles to maintain it.
That attitude is also seen in her speech to Long Feng about being a born leader. To her, it's a zero sum game; if she isn't born to win, then she loses.
I think help for Azula would need to involve first and foremost admitting that she needed help, and she really isn't in that place until she hits rock bottom. And she is in that place by the end of the series, but not before.
Think about all the steps Zuko had to go through to get redemption. Leaving the Fire Nation, humbling himself to the gaang, admitting that he'd lost his firebending. Can you imagine Azula doing any of those things? Zuko jokes about how Azula would just threaten them, which actually she wouldn't, she would manipulate, but anyway, the point is that she could never sincerely bring herself to that point because she has to WANT to do that, and more importantly she never learned how to. Zuko is able to humble himself enough to change partly because of being forcibly humbled throughout his life. Zuko knows what it feels like to hit rock bottom, and thus learned how to build himself up again, even if it took him a while to do it right.
Now, I'm also not saying that redemption necessitates suffering. That was also something Zuko internalized that was an obstacle for him to overcome, but it was because he learned how to grow from suffering that he was able to build himself back up. Azula has definitely suffered, but I don't think she would have considered any of the crap Ozai put her through as hurting her (even though it did) because she also believed the lie about her own superiority. That's why she built a fake wall around herself and who she was. Zuko talks about who he is; Azula says that she's a monster. Azula has no real idea who she is. That's what she needs to find out in order to get help, and she has to want it.
If it weren't for Aang and co., though, Azula would have still considered herself lucky. That's another difference between her and Zuko. Zuko would have denied that he was hurting like he did in the beginning of the series, but he would still know that he was. I don't think Azula even knows that she was hurt. At the end of the series, to her, the source of her suffering is something she blames on everyone else except 1) Ozai, and 2) her own toxic worldview. Remember when Zuko also had to admit that he was angry at himself? Azula would need to do something similar. Not to sound trite, but the first step to getting help is admitting that you have a problem, and as hard as that was for Zuko, it would be even harder for Azula because she was fed her whole life on a steady diet of her own superiority.