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umm. exhausted but i be sniffin random mini events like coke so. heres some dick (not literally. ...yet?)
im rlly proud of the butt-leg curve .
my two cents that no one asked for.
all of my human sexuality classes have had a section on kink/fetishes, and the first thing you're taught in those sections is that they're exceedingly normal. it's important for psychologists to be held by the hand and told this so they don't balk when clients discuss it with them (or, at worst, wrongly diagnose them with a highly stigmatized and tough to shake paraphilic disorder). i'm glad they do this, because you should have seen the way a group of doctoral students, all who were older than me and many of whom were parents, reacted when taught about sounding.
i say this to say, it is both scientifically well known and also not at all common knowledge that kink/fetishes are actually the rule not the exception. it's something i have to ground myself in whenever things like anon hate happens; my monkey-brain reaction of "look at this idiot who doesn't know" and my human-brain counter-reaction of "ah, this is someone's 10,000."
my answer to why would a ship that contains isolation, manipulation, physical and emotional abuse, stalking, kidnapping, torture, and threats to your loved ones be as popular as it is is thus: the kinks on display in such a dynamic are some of the most popular and prevalent.
i won't turn to anecdotal evidence such as 50 shades of grey, darkromancetok, or bodice rippers, although they're always the first that come to mind, but will instead turn to peer reviewed literature. i sadly am unwilling to scan in my textbooks as i'm recovering from surgery and this post is already going to come with a massive physical cost, so instead i did a bit of research.
we start with a meta-analysis from 2020. for those who don't know, a meta-analysis is an analysis of the existing literature. it compiles all the research done to-date on a certain topic and aggregates the results/re-analyzes the data. findings of note are that: BDSM fantasies are a form of leisure, that interest in BDSM has a prevalence as high as 70%, and that while some people use BDSM as a coping mechanism for past trauma not enough people do for it to be considered etiological. these findings indicate that it is common for people to enjoy thinking about BDSM, and they don't need any deep reasoning to do so.
of kinks specifically explored in this type of dynamic...
one international study from 2015 found that 83.53% of respondents engaged in master/slave fantasy, 72.04% danger fantasy play, 53.90% medical play, 56.14% exhibitionism, 86.46% voyeurism, 90.26% mutual masturbation, 56.03% sex with inanimate objects, and 32.30% religious play. and since anon made their ask gender-specific (asking if such a ship would still be enjoyable if the victim were a woman), this study only surveyed women. this is what woman enjoy. given that the meta-analysis above also found there to be a significant amount of people who fantasize about BDSM without engaging in it behaviorally, the combined research suggests that women enjoy fantasizing about what are considered taboo sexual practices.
and from an interview of of 4,175 people, a leading human sexuality researcher from the kinsey instutute (yes, that kinsey) found that: imagination is the #1 source for sexual fantasy, and that BDSM and taboo topics are two of the top five most common kinks.
in summation: i understand someone personally not enjoying these fantasies and therefore not wanting to play with ships that exhibit them. that's a personal boundary and preference and i respect that wholeheartedly. what i don't understand is the frequent harassment of people who do enjoy them and the demand for justification, when the enjoyment of them is exceptionally normative.
beyond other variables such as entertainment, catharsis, explorations of concepts such as rehabilitation and reformation, and interesting narrative building... it's hot.
all i gotta say is. AO3 fic writer curse is real and affects artists. peace n love on moffer erf
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oh we are never getting out of the learned helplessness cycle are we gang
the only person responsible for you is yourself. this means it is entirely on you to:
check the tags on fic
block people/tags that cause you distress
look up trigger warnings for shows/movies/books
if you cannot find warnings, or something hasn't been tagged, make a decision for yourself as to if you proceed or not
register when something is causing you distress, and stop consuming that thing
If you have a severe nut allergy and are given a snack you've never tried before, you ask what the ingredients are. If you eat it without checking and have a reaction, that's on you, not the stranger who gave it to you who has no idea what you're allergic to.
had a convo w friends on discord which led to me realizing that i have improved so i had to put stuff side by side to make it Real for my brain
so. here's the evolution of me drawing the emotion of anger \o/
also. cant believe i've been drawing for almost a decade now… altho, i only really started practicing properly in 2020-2021 lol
my part of the collab for a reverse minibang! :D
it was soooo cool working with ilyre_p -- the final work was everything i imagined and more!! please make sure to read it:
An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works
thank u @jaydickreversebang for such a fun experience ♥
We're doing it!
From November 1-7, we'll be running Brudick Non-Con Week! Hopefully, this will be an annual event, we'll see how this year shakes out!
An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works
Prompts in plaintext under the cut:
i know i joke about rent-lowering gunshots but i cannot emphasize enough that incest and rape kinks are extremely common. wildly popular. this is something that a lot of people fantasize about, because it’s an easily accessible taboo, it intrigues/scares/interests people and there’s a lot of content out there to absorb about it. it’s really not that out there or extreme to have those fetishes; we are talking top charters on pornhub of all places.
Also, sexual fantasies do not automatically indicate that someone wants to do that thing IRL. Thoughtcrimes are not real.
Also: sometimes the fetish is just window-dressing for something that IS deeply hungered for below the surface. Like I know people (both real ones and fictional ones) for whom a rape kink is about "What if I was INTENSELY DESIRED, so desired that nothing else mattered?" on one side, and on the other, "What if I could let loose and WANT THINGS without having to hold myself back? What if I didn't have to be afraid of the power of my own wanting?"
Like yeah, sometimes kinks do reveal something about our underlying psychological issues, but it's almost never "I literally want to do a real, violent crime against another person." It's way more interesting and deep and complicated and metaphorical than that.
#that part #overwhelmingly kinks are just “weirdly”-dressed basic human needs #to be desired to be taken care of to give up control to be seen as powerful etc #and everyone who trots out serial killers etc. who were “into ____ too!!!!” #always ignore the billion people throughout history who also enjoyed some idk daddydom rp and then went about their lives (via @boxingcleverrr)
please help me- i used to be pretty smart but i’m having so much trouble grasping the concept of diegetic vs non-diegetic bdsm!
gfkjldghfd okay first of all I'm sorry for the confusion, if you're not finding anything on the phrase it's because I made it up and absolutely nobody but me ever uses it, but I haven't found a better way to express what I'm trying to say so I keep using it. but now you've given me an excuse to ramble on about some shit that is only relevant to me and my deeply inefficient way of talking and by god I'm going to take it.
SO. the way diegetic and non-diegetic are normally used is to talk about music and sound design in movies/tv shows. in case you aren't familiar with that concept, here's a rundown:
diegetic sound is sound that happens within the world of the movie/show and can be acknowledged by the characters, like a song playing on the stereo during a driving scene, or sung on stage in Phantom of the Opera. it's also most other sounds that happen in a movie, like the sounds of traffic in a city scene, or a thunderclap, or a marching band passing by. or one of the three stock horse sounds they use in every movie with a horse in it even though horses don't really vocalize much in real life, but that's beside the point, the horse is supposed to be actually making that noise within the movie's world and the characters can hear it whinnying.
non-diegetic sound is any sound that doesn't exist in the world of the movie/show and can't be perceived by the characters. this includes things like laugh tracks and most soundtrack music. when Duel of Fates plays in Star Wars during the lightsaber fight for dramatic effect, that's non-diegetic. it exists to the audience, but the characters don't know their fight is being backed by sick ass music and, sadly, can't hear it.
the lines can get blurry between the two, you've probably seen the film trope where the clearly non-diegetic music in the title sequence fades out to the same music, now diegetic and playing from the character's car stereo. and then there are things like Phantom of the Opera as mentioned above, where the soundtrack is also part of the plot, but Phantom of the Opera does also have segments of non-diegetic music: the Phantom probably does not have an entire orchestra and some guy with an electric guitar hiding down in his sewer just waiting for someone to break into song, but both of those show up in the songs they sing down there.
now, on to how I apply this to bdsm in fiction.
if I'm referring to diegetic bdsm what I mean is that the bdsm is acknowledged for what it is in-world. the characters themselves are roleplaying whatever scenarios their scenes involve and are operating with knowledge of real life rules/safety practices. if there's cnc depicted, it will be apparent at some point, usually right away, that both characters actually are fully consenting and it's all just a planned scene, and you'll often see on-screen negotiation and aftercare, and elements of the story may involve the kink community wherever the characters are. Love and Leashes is a great example of this, 50 Shades and Bonding are terrible examples of this, but they all feature characters that know they're doing bdsm and are intentional about it.
if I'm talking about non-diegetic bdsm, I'm referring to a story that portrays certain kinks without the direct acknowledgement that the characters are doing bdsm. this would be something like Captive Prince, or Phantom of the Opera again, or the vast majority of bodice ripper type stories where an innocent woman is kidnapped by a pirate king or something and totally doesn't want to be ravished but then it turns out he's so cool and sexy and good at ravishing that she decides she's into it and becomes his pirate consort or whatever it is that happens at the end of those books. the characters don't know they're playing out a cnc or D/s fantasy, and in-universe it's often straight up noncon or dubcon rather than cnc at all. the thing about entirely non-diegetic bdsm is that it's almost always Problematic™ in some way if you're not willing to meet the story where it's at, but as long as you're not judging it by the standards of diegetic bdsm, it's just providing the reader the same thing that a partner in a scene would: the illusion of whatever risk or taboo floats your boat, sometimes to extremes that can't be replicated in real life due to safety, practicality, physics, the law, vampires not being real, etc. it's consensual by default because it's already pretend; the characters are vehicles for the story and not actually people who can be hurt, and the reader chose to pick up the book and is aware that nothing in it is real, so it's all good.
this difference is where people tend to get hung up in the discourse, from what I've observed. which is why I started using this phrasing, because I think it's very crucial to be able to differentiate which one you're talking about if you try to have a conversation with someone about the portrayal of bdsm in media. it would also, frankly, be useful for tagging, because sometimes when you're in the mood for non-diegetic bodice ripper shit you'd call the police over in real life, it can get really annoying to read paragraphs of negotiation and check-ins that break the illusion of the scene and so on, and the opposite can be jarring too.
it's very possible to blur these together the same way Phantom of the Opera blurs its diegetic and non-diegetic music as well. this leaves you even more open to being misunderstood by people reading in bad faith, but it can also be really fun to play with. @not-poignant writes fantastic fanfic, novels, and original serials on ao3 that pull this off really well, if you're okay with some dark shit in your fiction I would highly recommend their work. some of it does get really fucking dark in places though, just like. be advised. read the tags and all that.
but yeah, spontaneous writer plug aside, that's what I mean.
hm… okay. I’m considering setting something up.
Would you be interested in a brudick ship week focused specifically on non-con?
No
Yes, I would, but I wouldn’t participate
Yes, I would, and I would be interested in participating
Actually, my therapist has told me this is a healthy way of processing things. Because you can get the trauma out of your head And you can write the ending you wish it had. The trusted person rescue, the catharsis of getting to kill the one who hurt you.
It's good for your brain. It's healthier than bottling it up. Fiction is where we go for emotional release. That can be true with trauma too.
so what you're saying is
character: NO
therapist: YES
Adding @dear-massacre's tags because they are so true:
#this is why it's important to remember that fictional characters are fake #they have no agency. they're made up #it hurts no one to make any character go through the horrors #it is healthy and cathartic
me watching 'gratuitous' sex and violence and ''problematic representation'' in my shows and movies made for adults
its so sad when a fanfic trope initially centered around noncon/dubcon gets popular enough that it turns into a watered down extremely consensual healthy-relationship version of it
as retribution i think i'm going to start taking vanilla tropes and making them noncon. the barista is putting roofies in the coffee. there's only one bed and the other guy is getting chained to the radiator. there's no social or legal protections for assault within soulmate matches
anyway DC’s contact information
and the contact information of the editor-in-chief
just in case anyone needs it
i actually don’t think this woman was “too online” when she tweeted in celebration about a man who actively wants her and everyone like her aka trans people dead. but what the hell do i know
i do not fucking care if she wasn’t writing what you wanted out of a comic book. they are going scorched earth on her entire comic, pulling issues that were put out to be sold YESTERDAY.
i have been reading comics since i could walk and talk. i have NEVER seen them go scorched earth like this on a writer before. she is a trans woman and if you think that that didn’t impact this choice you’re either ignorant or being purposefully obtuse.
things I would do if you're a nsfw/kink creative now because I've been eerily prescient about every single wave:
a) get a personal site with your own domain you own. now. not a carrd or third party squarespace. not next week. now. get it online with ugly-ass html but get your links there.
b) if you have the money: join one or multiple of eff.org / cbldf.org / freespeechcoalition.com
partly because they're actively fighting this, partly because they have members-only Lawyers You Might Need. Hint. Hint. Canary.
c) Write Down Those Lawyer Contact Numbers in meatspace. phone number of a real human being especially on paper, On You.
I have been in contact with lawyers for a few months now as my doujin circle knows. this should be telling you Many Things.
d) www.ecrater.com is where i'm going to be tentatively testing a shop because i like the fact you can *not* have payment processes and order digital/physical products via purely mail order.
(... be prepared for this to fall through too in the next 1-6 months.)
e) friends and followers of nsfw artists who earn most of their income through it: now's the time to support them. they're going to need the grace and financial flexibility especially mental health wise. domain/shop transfer/refund/therapy bills ain't free.
check in on them, and often.
f) get a VPN, use it daily to acclimatize, have them on your hard drive, several VPN's preferable. this is for the age verification laws coming. Start reading up on secure, privacy-focused infrastructure (prioritize email > website > shop in that order).
eff.org has a *ton* of resources.
g) prepare for discord and tumblr to be hit in the next wave. have alternatives *and actively start using them* if they're mission critical platforms for you.
I've played with matrix though I quite fancy IRC. if it ain't broke, don't fix it.
I say these things not to fearmonger but to give yourself the maximum amount of time to prepare. the pendulum *will* swing back. it did with the 80's moral panic. it will for this too.
you just have to outlast the bastards.
merch shop? gone
they forbid DC stuff (among other things) so like. rip 2 the merch store.
i might post some OC art there just to be able to keep it, but i will not be promoting it until something changes (which i doubt it will).
i will see to shift towards preordering stuff, i think? plans for the future are yet to be developed because i'm reeling from this lmao but hey. taking the hits in stride and moving the fuck on . lets go
in the meantime, my print shop is still alive, yaaay
ill see if i can win a fight against my cutter anytime soon and make it submit to my will (so i can offer stickers too) o o)b
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