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[dominantlife]

Updated Library For Kinksters

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Topping from the bottom

[pretty-lil-mess]

Always a reblog because why???

Education is 🔑 Knowledge is 💪🏻

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[feministsubmissivedesires-deact]

Some very good information, opinions, and insight that has helped me contextualize my desires and better understand this community.

[veer2210]

It is a must read for all.

[lactatingirl-deactivated2018121]

My favorite

part about breastpumping is the feeling of helplessness. When i breastpump/ adult breastfeed the pleasure completely takes over and I enter a hypnotic state in which all I can feel and think about is the latch around my nipples and how fucking great it feels.

It is a completely blank mindset where there’s no other thought in my brain other than pleasure, milk me 🥛

[silence-in-submission]

Needs

[studyingisfortheweekend-blog]

Alternatives for 25 overused words in writing

1. Interesting- note worthy; thought-provoking; fascinating; attracting; appealing; attention-grabbing; captivating; gripping; invigorating; engrossing; engaging; electrifying.  

2. Beautiful- striking; stunning; magnificent; lovely; charming; gorgeous; radiant; dazzling.

3. Good- acceptable, wonderful, exceptional; positive; brilliant; first-rate; notable; stellar; favorable; superb; marvellous; prime.

4. Bad- awful; lousy; poor; unacceptable; crummy; dreadful; rough; inferior; substandard; atrocious; appalling; dreadful; defective.

5. Look- glance; fixate; observe; stare; gaze; peer; scan; watch; study; browse; eye; glimpse; review; inspect.

6. Nice- lovely; superior; pleasant; satisfying; delightful; likeable; agreeable; correct; adequate; swell; fair; okay; approved.

7. Very- extremely; exceedingly; exceptionally; immensely; tremendously; abundantly; particularly; remarkably.

8. Fine- satisfactory; worthy; respectable; exquisite; suitable; well; imposing; decent; admirable; praise-worthy; decent.

9. Happy- cheerful; delighted; pleased; content; amused; thrilled; elated; thrilled; ecstatic; on cloud 9. 

10. Really- genuinely; truly; honestly; actually; undoubtedly; certainly; remarkably; incredibly; downright; unquestionably; extremely.

11. Sad- miserable; gloomy; devastated; distressed; down at heard; distraught; distressed; dispirited; sorrowful; downcast; feeling blue; desolate.

12. Big- massive; huge; giant; gigantic; enormous; large; colossal; immense; bulky; tremendous; hefty; sizable; extensive; great; substantial. 

13. Shocked- taken aback; lost for words; flabbergasted; staggered; outraged; astonished; astounded; stunned; speechless; appalled.

14. Small- tiny; petite; mini; miniature; microscopic; minuscule; compact; pocket-sized; cramped; puny; undersized; limited; meager; modest; minute; pint-sized. 

15. Angry- irate; enraged; touchy; cross; resentful; indignant; infuriated; wound-up; worked-up; seething; raging; heated; bitter; bad-tempered; offended; frustrated. 

16. Know- understand; comprehend; realize; learn; perceive; recognize; grasp; sense.

17. Change- alter; transform; replace; diversify; adjust; adapt; modify; remodel; vary; evolve; transfigure; redesign; refashion; advance; transition; shift; adjustment.

18. Old- aged; ancient; matured; elderly; senior; veteran; decrepit; seasoned; venerable; past one’s prime; doddering; senile.

19. Think- ponder; reflect; conceive; imagine; contemplate; consider; determine; realize; visualize; guess/assume; conclude; envision. 

20. Funny- comical; ludicrous; amusing; droll; entertaining; absurd; hilarious; silly; whimsical; hysterical; joking; witty; facetious; slapstick; side-splitting; knee-slapping.

21. Go- move; proceed; advance; progress; travel; walk; journey; depart; exit; flee; make one’s way; clear out; get underway.

22. Give- grant; donate; hand-out; present; provide; deliver; hand over; offer; award; bestow; supply with; contribute to; send; entrust.

23. Get- acquire; obtain; receive; gain; earn; gather; collect; buy; purchase; attain; score; secure; take possession of; grab.

24. Easy- effortless; simple; clear; smooth; straightforward; uncomplicated; painless; accessible; apparent; basic; plain; child’s play; facile; elementary; cinch. 

25. Fast- agile; brisk; rapid; nimble; swift; accelerated; fleeting; high-speed; active; dashing; winged; hurried; turbo. 

[roleplay-prompts]

[cherishedproperty]

Lean In

Once I was talking to a prospective Dom, and he was explaining his rules. It all sounded good, until he got to this part. “And then if you follow all the rules, I might reward you with a day off.” A day off? What? You are going to reward my perfect obedience by taking away the thing that makes me feel connected and safe? Maybe this is a reward for some submissives, but it isn’t for me. 

This exchange came to mind the other day when I was thinking about what to do when reality intrudes. Amo and I are still trying to learn what works best, but I have learned that some things do not work. For example, when Amo gets busy, it does not work if he gives me permission for unlimited orgasms. There is a time and place for blanket permission—just not when he is busy. When he’s busy, I need to feel our dynamic more strongly. I need more structure. More restriction. Blanket permission makes me feel like I am too much work. Like he needs a break from me. I know that isn’t true. He knows orgasms calm me, and he is trying to make me feel better. But we have learned that it isn’t what I need. I need denial. I need instructions to edge for him. I need to be told I can only cum if it happens a certain way. I need to be given a schedule for how much water to drink and when I am allowed to go to the bathroom. I need to feel his control, even when he can’t be present. 

We have settled into our dynamic, with daily rules and tasks that are seamlessly woven into my life. That structure is a comfort. It anchors me. It reminds me that I have a place where I belong—at his feet. But sometimes I need a tug on the leash. When reality intrudes, it helps to have a swift reminder that I am owned property.

But it isn’t just about his actions, giving me tasks so I feel the leash. Sometimes I need to pick up the leash and hand it to him. Like when I am frustrated with him about something. My impulse is to pull away. To stop calling him Sir, let alone Daddy. But this is where I need to lean in. Defer more. Kneel lower. Submit more deeply. I need to trust the dynamic to set everything right between us. When I am upset, I need to kneel with my words as well as my body. I need to remember that he has earned my submission, and I need to offer myself to him. 

Which brings me back to the intrusions of daily life. I think there is an impulse for Doms (Amo included) to back off when they are busy. They feel bad giving orders when they haven’t been able to spend time with their submissives. They also back off when their submissives are busy, thinking they are reducing the burden. But for me, this is precisely when I need orders the most. I don’t need a day off. A day off feels like abandonment. I need tight control, in whatever way we can manage. Sometimes life gets in the way of completing tasks, but the orders themselves are not a burden to me. The orders remind me that I am owned and loved. The orders bring me peace. The orders set me free. 

What I didn’t realize until recently is, it is the same for Amo. When he is busy and overwhelmed, he needs me to offer him the leash. My impulse has been to lay low, not to add to his stress. So I think about asking permission for an orgasm, but then I hesitate. Am I being too needy? He has so much going on. I don’t neeeeeeeeed an orgasm. I can wait. But this is wrong. I am not being needy; I am making him feel needed. I am bringing him the same peace that his dominance gives me. Whether he grants me permission or denies it, he is in control. He holds the leash. And even when life is hectic, I am always waiting at his feet, ready to obey. 

There are no days off for us. Our dynamic isn’t a burden from which we need reprieve; it is our reprieve. Sometimes the dynamic must be molded around life. But we still need to feel it. When it’s hard, I need to give more, and he needs to take more. We rely on that connection—the clarity and peace we feel when we are immersed in our roles. Both of us. 

[littlemissscuba-deactivated2018]

[pleasurewhore-deactivated201802]

Power Exchange

It’s making the doctor’s appointment I don’t think I need, because he told me to.

It’s taking a bath, or a nap, when there are a million things waiting, because he takes better care of me than I do.

It’s making a healthy choice at lunch, when a cheeseburger sounds awfully good.

It’s turning out the lights at midnight, even when I don’t feel tired.

There is power to be exchanged through sex, but power exchange isn’t only about kneeling and cock sucking. Like reducing the universe to the stars you can see, there is so much more to it than that. Power exchange is about surrendering your will to the will of another. It’s the little decisions… the ones that aren’t fun, or pleasurable. It’s knowing that you’re capable of making the decision yourself, and allowing him to make it anyway. Every concession is a piece of power pushed over the line, and your clothes never need to come off for you to be left standing naked.

[lovemysub-deactivated20250527]

Beautifully said, and absolutely true.

[thepersonalquotes]

[wordsnquotes]

And if I show you my dark side, will you still hold me tonight?

Pink Floyd, “The Final Cut,” The Final Cut (via wordsnquotes)

Nope lmao

[theangrytherapist]

[onceuponsirsstarrynight]

As a dominant

As a dominant I don’t want a weak woman: on the contrary, I want a strong woman. I want a woman who is intelligent, and sophisticated and capable. I want a woman who has the world in her hands, a woman who can take anything, and have anyone she desires. And then I want her to see in me the only place she wants to give it all up.

[xxbondage-girlxx]

[cistejvonavejchlap-deactivated2]

[loopez]

[deinmaedchen]

ich will alles.

[hplyrikz]

Positivity Here

[art13fiend]

[sailorluna]

[luvaim]

Yes please