Can we talk about the double standard of queerness in media anaysis and fandom?
Anything can be read as romantic. Eye contact? They're in love. Talking? They're in love. Fighting? Love. Any kind of physical affection? OBVIOUSLY they're in love.
But for a character to be aromantic or asexual it has to be explicitly stated. A character can't just show no interest in sex or romance, they have to say "I'm asexual" or "I'm aromantic" (even 'I don't like sex' or 'I don't date' are often read as 'except with [this person I ship them with]'). Otherwise "there was no indication of it".
So "this character wasn't shown to be asexual/aromantic" usually just means "they didn't explicitly state it" which leads to a lot of potential representation being ignored in favor of shipping.
Ship and let ship, hc and let hc, but please stop invalidating aro/ace people reading characters as aro/ace because often we pick up on things that are ignored or missed by people focussed on shipping. Our identities being ignored or overlooked because of a societal fixation on romance is something we already deal with so frequently that it sucks to see it everywhere in fandom too.
And this goes for the entire aromantic and asexual spectrum.
There are sooooooo many characters that feel are very very explicitly demi or grey or fray, and when I say that, the fandom starts yelling at me that “they just haven’t written the right romantic partner for that character!” or “needing an emotional connection first is literally just friends to lovers”.
Uuummmmm, NO. Needing a strong emotional connection before developing romantic or sexual feelings, or very rarely having romantic or sexual attraction is not the same thing as friends to lovers, it is a fundamental difference in how someone experiences romantic and/or sexual attraction, not a fucking trope.













