We Are Dulled And Prosaic With The Poison of Life

Yo waddup I’m Didi and these are my paras, pleased to have y’all here! • currently they/them • my paracosms don’t have names, they just exist, so feel free to ask me about anything y’all see me post, mmkay? Awesome.

[madd-information]

When daydreaming becomes a disorder

The professor who discovered maladaptive daydreaming says the disorder sometimes begins as a means of coping with depression, loneliness and social anxiety.

New article on MD published!

[byjove]

all species of conch look utterly suspicious and vaguely terrified their entire lives

[byjove]

[homemadde]

Useful information to have when creating a new para (or building on an old one!)

Full name

Nicknames/Aliases

Birthday and age

How old they actually look

Gender identity

Sexual preferences

Romantic preferences

Height

Body type

Eye colour

Hair colour/style

Skin tone

Defining features (e.g. scars, birth marks, piercings, etc.)

Species

Allergy

Medication

Languages

Accent

Are they literate

Hobbies

Habits

Mantra/Quote they live by

Where they were born

Where they grew up

Where they currently live

Favourite memory, and how it affects/motivates them

Worst memory

Dreams/Goals

Fears

Strengths and weaknesses

Secrets

[maddlyspacedout]

this or that - madd edition

daydreaming for a long solid time or daydreaming in small chunks throughout the day?

daydreaming in first person or daydreaming in third person?

one or few paracosms that you’re deep into that you keep adding to or making a new paracosm often and start from scratch each time?

having a bunch of paras that you’ve had for several years or making new paras often?

paras mostly based off fictional characters or paras made from scratch?

[little-sun-beam]

So I know a lot people think Maladaptive Daydreaming is a great thing, but does anyone else get upset when they realize they have been daydreaming? I feel like I can never be present. And sometimes people say awful things to me in my daydreams and I keep having to remind myself I am in control. There is no reason to imagine someone starting a debate with me just to humiliate me. Or imagine some traumatic thing. It just leaves me exhausted. And unlike the real world, when my daydreams are bad, I can’t walk away.

[imalwaysmadd]

Your MaDD is Not Cringey.

I’ve seen quite a few posts before about how some MaDDers are embarrassed by their paras or just their daydreams in general because they’re afraid of people thinking it’s cringey or embarrassing.

I just wanna say that first of all, even though it’s not a classified disorder right now, Maladaptive Daydreaming is a psychiatric condition. It’s not something that we can help and it’s not under our control. For some of us, it goes hand in hand with a diagnosable mental illness.

Second of all, cringe culture has made you believe that your MaDD is cringey. Cringe culture may not say directly that it is, but going through any form of social media, you’ll find that generally making your own OC’s for any reason other than writing is looked down upon. That reading and writing reader-insert fanfiction is cringey.

You do not need to conform your psychiatric condition to what cringe culture seems uncringey.

The only people that would find your daydreaming cringey are the people who don’t have maladaptive daydreaming and don’t understand it. Make your paras however you want, have your parame marry your favorite celebrity, write fanfic for your paras, do whatever you want if it helps you cope with MaDD. Your MaDD is yours and not anyone else’s.

[daddylonglungs-deactivated20190]

Having inherently violent or criminal maladaptive day dreams does not make you a bad person. Pass it on.

[closet-keys]

My brother was diagnosed with depression years before I was, and because of that he started therapy years before I did.

I still remember when I was a young teen and he was playing a Nirvana song and he stopped it at this one line: “I miss the comfort of being sad”

He told me that when you start to get better, there’s a part of you that misses being sad and that if you start feeling that way you have to be extra extra aware and careful because if you indulge the feeling you’ll go down a self-destructive spiral

And even though that was years and years ago, I think about it all the time. Especially when I’m reading discourse on the idea of getting so attached to mental illness as an identity that you don’t want to improve things because you feel safe in it and don’t know who you are without it

I always think of that line “I miss the comfort of being sad” and my brother’s warning

[jaemshetfield]

Just maladaptive daydreaming things: taking 12 hours to start a basic daily chore because you spend most of your time daydreaming

[maladaptive-daydreamer-problems]

Maladaptive Daydreamer Problems #73

Why continue to the rest of the daydream when you can focus on just one scene and find 10+ different ways for it to take place?

[lucifersass-deactivated20191106]

all you vampire fuckers listen up

imagine a beefcake vampire, no more of this stringbean twink shit. imagine big fuckin’ muscles, body hair, and a beard that could put professional lumberjacks out of business

he cant play the fuckin organ cause he’s too much of a jock for that his accent isnt british or from transylvania n shit he sounds like the sort that cow tips in the dead of the night

break the stereotype dammit

[really-madd]

why madd sucks

- i have no attention span - i have horrible commitment issues - fear of time - can’t focus - my feet blister and bleed from pacing so much - “sToP pAcInG” i fucking can’t - literally can’t hold a conversation for more than a minute - anything that happens while i’m daydreaming I can’t remember - I could literally lay in bed for 600000 years daydreaming - fucked sleeping schedule - school is HARD - i have no friends or social skills - no one understands how bad it really is - living in an upstairs apartment building and fearing that your neighbors will hear u pacing - it’s not even a documented disorder

[awesomelymadd]

Commitment issues is really big

[maddness-maddness]

when you’re trying to explain your paracosm and start to wonder if you even know what the fuck you’re talking about

[doeeyeddyke]

MaDD Central

For all the maladaptive daydreamers out there, I’ve made a YouTube channel focused entirely on MaDD, i.e what it is, experiences with it, terminology, daydreams, paras/paracosms, etc. Except, I’m just the admin. While I do and will make my own videos, you can make videos to be published to the channel under your name if you so wish. 

Contact [email protected] for inquiries and submissions.

[indigoworlds]

Content: *exists*

My brain:

[maladaptive-daydreamer-problems]

i only get paras that are inspired by media i like and currently i have paras from a cartoon and since they became my paras they’ve changed so much from the originals and they feel invalid and i can’t talk about them to anyone but a few friends because of how complex their new storylines are and how different they are from the show most people know

[maddlyinluv]

i relate to this 100% almost none of my paras are entirely “original”

in order to feel able to talk about them i usually just change their names

[maddngay]

anyone: hey you’re zoning out haha

me: