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@madeinthe-niam
Of a man that thinks he’s a dog but he’s actually a man with a leash on his hand.
The dog, the real dog, yanks on the leash and asks the man to pull him back and hold him.
The man doesn’t, even as the dog begs, he’s too afraid to hold it at all—he thinks: ‘how can a dog own a man?’
The dog runs and bites rampantly. The man watches him in terror and waits for his owner to come back.
opened the comments on a post and tumblr somehow had a half written comment already autofilled from the last time I saw that post. which was at least two years and several computers ago. what does this site's back end look like
now that we have successfully nitpicked the difference between poisonous and venomous it is time we nitpicked the difference between parasite and parasitoid
[scribbling in a notebook] The…xenomorph…is an…example of…a parasitoid…organism.
yes
that being said landlords are parasitoids
It drives me insane that you still regularly get articles treating Elon Musk like a serious thinker and someone whose takes on anything at all should be listened to when he, as the richest man in the world, has murdered hundreds of thousands of the poorest people in the world thus far by killing USAID. The richest man in the world starving the poorest children in the world to death is so evil it feels like a bad movie script, but no one cares. It’s not even in the average person’s mind when you bring up his name, in part because the media just shrugged and will only occasionally mention it as like, one line in an article about him as a mere afterthought.
Musk has done other terrible things, too, but god, this one has a high and increasing body count. It should define his legacy. Every article about his wealth should mention how he not only refuses to use any of it to help people, but he actively cut money that wasn’t even his from providing food and medicine to the poor. But nope. No one cares.
A patient, explaining what their relationship is to their new visitor who was headed up to see them, said, “he’s my guardian,” and I said “oh I didn’t you had a legal guardian,” and the patient said, “he’s not my legal guardian, he’s my spiritual and physical guardian. He is also my brother. Well, I say he’s my brother. He’s like a brother. He’s my husband.” And I say this with genuinely no judgment, just pure curiosity, what
[Image is of a New Hope Church sign that reads, ‘God says homosexuality is in’ and two men in the foreground holding the S from the sign]
@hellsite-hall-of-fame
how does this have under 10,000 notes in spite of my having seen it regularly for the entire time I’ve been on here?
Katelyn Burns on Bsky
some of yall didnt go insane at 15 and it shows
women should get even more childless
You know how modern society takes the effects of vaccines for granted and doesn't understand how bad diseases are? That's how zoomers are with cigarettes.
I was in a long-term relationship that fell apart partially because I was ace and my partner was very much not, and every time we looked for relationship help we got told that I was the problem. Not just that a significant mismatch in sexual desire could be a problem in a relationship, but that it was My Fault, Specifically, for not being willing to suck it up and have a bunch of sex I didn't want. To my ex's credit, he cared about consent much more than any of the professionals we talked to and refused to pressure me even when my (lesbian, billed as progressive and pro-LGBT) therapist was actively telling him to.
But it meant that we had absolutely no help or support when we were trying to work on the relationship in ways that *did* value my autonomy. There's basically no advice for people who want to try to make a relationship where there's a big desire gap work that isn't "well you should just have sex anyway" or "just break up lol". And that sucks!
Sometimes breaking up is necessary, and that's what ended up happening with us because there were other reasons we worked better as friends, but there *should* be better frameworks for discussing what people want and need that don't automatically assume that one partner's feelings are automatically more important or valuable than the other's.
I was dating someone who wanted to be accommodating and work with me to figure things out but lacked the EQ to do so in any effective way. It was my first relationship and I was still figuring out what being ace meant for me. It’s been eight or nine years, but I still remember very clearly the moment I realized we’d been approaching the entire discussion as if my orientation was the problem to be solved, and that it would be equally as valid to say that hers was.
She was significantly less impressed with this revelation than I was, but I tried to hold on to it ever since (although obviously the real problem wasn’t either one of us, but the mismatch and the lack of tools to deal with it). I think it’s super important to remember that we aren’t the ones in the wrong while our theoretical partners are the ones in the right. I was surprised by how much I’d internalized the assumption and I don’t think I’m the only one.
The other frustrating aspect of this is allo relationships will often have periods of time where libido does not match (I'm not derailing and this will swing back to asexual people)
Just after giving birth, during a family crisis, during a mental health episode, during health problems, during stressful periods at work
There are a lot of times when one person is horned up and raring to go and the other has no interest
And the solution often presented is that the person who is going through something should just put out because they are the problem instead of like...finding ways to engage in non sexual intimacy to reaffirm closeness
An asexual person is going to get 10x the amount of pressure and blame put on them and no advice on how non-sexual intimacy can help their relationships and if they get that at all it will only be to sell it as a bridge to sex they don't want.
I really hate the selling of intimacy as only equaling or facilitating sex. Intimacy comes in many forms and should be explored more by every couple as a non sexual act. And it the given importance it deserves. In fact I would argue if we as a society put more value on non sexual intimacy more relationships would be happier and healthier
And asexual people would stop getting shit for being themselves.
And asexual
people would stop getting shit
for being themselves.
Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.
All of this, in ace AND allo relationships alike, is toxic as fuck. If someone is trying to pressure you into sex you don't want: that is wrong. That is sexual harassment at best and potentially sexual assault.
As an asexual, there are a lot of things I wish allos would learn from us. Right now I want you all to understand we ALL deserve better than this. Consent fucking matters, and sexual assault or harassment within a relationship is NOT okay!
can't stop thinking about this
redraw of an older santos piece because a lot of how i draw has changed a lottttt since last time + because ive been feeling very bad for her this season.. situationships should be illegal
+ prints of this are available!
you can be both an ethereal faerie dream girl and a horrid little dirt gremlin creature. the duality of woman
