Napping For 100 Years

Kerry | 29 | Demigirl | She/They | Bi Ace | Fibro & M.E/CFS spoonie Just a place for me, where I can indulge and share all things nerdy and if others share the same interests, please enjoy! Multifandom mostly MCU, Disney, GoT, HDM and various shitposts

[drpepperwhoree]

remember that pride is still a protest

[itseasytoremember]

(To the tune of Rasputin): BLEH BLEH DRACULA, KING OF TRANSYLVANIA, HE IS A BAT AND ALSO A MAN

[gregtom]

[k-simplex-deactivated20241001]

Happy Pride

[msfbgraves]

Imagine having been born in 1905... And all your life it doesn't fucking stop. The Great War, the Spanish Flu, and then you go out of your mind for 7 years. Everyone is traumatised and nothing matters. Then another crash. And then the rise of fascism, and the War to end all Wars didn't and it's 1945 and you're just about still there. You may have fought or ferried the boys from Dunkirk or sabotaged the Nazi occupiers or worked in the factories and put out fires during the Blitz and you're lucky to be alive, because not all your friends made it. But you are and finally, fucking finally, it stops. It stops. You are tough as nails and you can put that strength to work into building something and you do, and people have cars and can buy icecream and you have a pension fund and the kids have money of their own and no nightmares.

I want that for us. I so want that for us. I want to be the generation that has seen fucking everything and is like a MRSA bug and unfazed and when that Cheeto finally dies, I want us to. Plant the gardens and clean the seas because we can and we want to and we remember some joy, some time of trust even when it got broken and we can say to the 20 somethings "let us show you what we can build, how it can feel."

And maybe Gen beta will take it all for granted like the boomers did, but we can give Gen Z and Alpha some peace because we, and Gen Z and Alpha have seen the Dark Times and fuck that noise.

[krakenartificer]

At the start of the Pandemic, my spouse’s grandmother was in an assisted-living home, and of course they were severely locked down, because with no vaccination available and we don’t really know how it spreads and no tests and anyone over 80 is deffo gonna die…. They couldn’t take the risks. So they weren’t even allowed to leave their rooms. Staff brought meals and left them outside the door, and they left dishes outside, and that was just their life for the foreseeable future.

So we tried to make sure someone called her every day, so she would have some kind of interaction, and one time my spouse asked how she was doing, and her attitude was basically, “Yeah, this happens sometimes.”

Because that was her life. She did live through the depression, she did lose three siblings to the last pandemic. She did live through WWII, and sent a son off to Vietnam, and made a family and a household and a career while knowing one slip of a button might wipe out all life on earth. And she lived through it; she survived.

And so 2020 wasn’t the end of the world, for her. It was just another thing. Because life is made up of sunshine and rainbows and puppy dogs, AND ALSO fascists and violence and rancid millionaires living high while people starve. And when you are in the middle of the shit times, you acknowledge that they’re shit, and also that they are not exclusively shit, because they still include spring days and new flowers and people taking care of each other.

And it was just… a really helpful perspective to get. You can survive it, you can become strong enough to live to 103 despite everything, you can become a source of strength and joy for everyone around you.

[shamebats]

[shamebats]

#what is it with being euphoric and being horny pretty much being the same thing in our generation #are we THIS starved of affection? are we THIS full of love to give? #maybe its the world being fucked up #and our constant need of escapism being turned into wishing for eternal vacation

People who grew up in conservative religious communities, especially those raised as girls, are taught that there's something wrong with them if they experience sexual desire, that it's shameful and a sign of brokenness to be horny, and that the only sex they can expect to ever have will be an experience they will have to disassociate from, but won't be able to say no to, with zero focus on their enjoyment, and that will eventually end in them getting pregnant over and over again, whether they want it or not.

So with that context, you might be able to deduce why being able to be openly horny and have sex that is not only not painful and traumatic, but is genuinely all about what they want and like, may be freeing for many people who were raised to be sex dolls & walking wombs.

Also, if by "this generation" you mean gen z, you guys are actually incredibly sexless compared to previous generations.

Having a healthy, active sex life is very good for you. Masturbation is good for you. Sexual pleasure is one of the few sources of dopamine we have that companies can't charge us for or monetize. It's always 100% good when people are able to have exactly the kind of sex life they want and sex is not in any way an inferior way of expressing/experiencing closeness & connection, and horniness isn't an inferior emotion either.

[iwantmoreoctopusses]

Can I add that being euphoric, happy and fullfil in a same-sex sexual situation is a big deal when you were raised to think gay sex is this shameful low thing that will kill your soul and degrade you as a person?

Most churches that are not as intolerant, that don't raise you to be a tradwife baby machine STILL paint gay sex as a vice that will make you miserable inside. So saying "I'm actually happy AND horny" is important.

Shame around sex is an issue in religious communities, even if you are straight, even if your church isn't as conservative. I have heard from multiple people how hard is too switch from "I have to resist sexual temptation" to "I can enjoy sex now" the minute you are married and "allowed". And I'm talking about churches that don't condemn masturbation or feminine pleasure. Shame around sex is a problem. Celebrations of sex are necessary.

[rincewind87]

Had to add prev notes cause it's too good a point to lose.

[pain-in-the-riri]

Allowing yourself to feel all your feelings openly and freely is liberating, actually, including and especially horniness 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[garbageonion]

also, not to derail this conversation from the importance of unlearning sexual shame, but the original post isn't even that horny? there's a mention of a trans man, his boyfriend, and a vague implication that they might have sex in the future, but the post isn't about sex - it's about decoration in their bedroom and the fact that they're very happy together, doing mundane things like fixing a wobbly candle holder.

the way queer people are often hypersexualized against their will, i'd be wary of a person who sees a trans man say "i'm fixing this candle holder in our bedroom so it doesn't fall off the wall when i have sex with my boyfriend" and thinks it's the pinnacle of hornyposting and a sign that a whole generation is unable to express affection if it's not through horniness.

with that being said, i second all the previous additions about how horniness is natural and good and it should absolutely be encouraged instead of suppressed. it just doesn't sit right with me to see queer people and queer relationships as something that's inherently so sexual that even a mention of sex between two men is a sign of some kind of cultural hypersexuality.

[shamebats]

It takes so little for people to feel like you're being aggressively hypersexual & in your face about it when you aren't cis & straight.

Cis straight people can make small talk with their coworkers about how they're "trying for a baby" (fucking often & raw) and it's fine but god forbid a queer trans person as much as implies that they're sexually active.

[yourfaveisintersex]

what if I just made my profile picture a male calico cat or something. hurm

[icewingassasin]

Could I suggest a picture of Dawntreader Texas Calboy? He is a beautiful male calico cat who is a chimera. He's also somewhat controversial among some cat fancy associations since he is a male cat with female colors, and some people are strangely transphobic towards him, despite him being a cat? There was even a rule implemented to keep him from competing in a cat show. If you look up his name, he made a few news articles.

[yourfaveisintersex]

Oh my god?????

Yeah you're right about beautiful I'm squeezing him until he pops!!!!! I love this guy I think I'm going to make an edit real quickly Calboy I love you I'm so sorry people are calling you a freak??????

[yourfaveisintersex]

:)

[garpen]

"you already left kudos here"

And??? Let me like it again??? Clearly it deserves more??

[biodegradable-glitter-fest]

I've said this one and I'll say it again the kudos NEEDS to be on a chapter by chapter basis rather than for the whole fic THE AUTHOR MUST KNOW HOW MUCH I LOVE THEM AND THEIR FIC

[northern-punk-lad]

‘The biggest rollback of disability rights in a generation’ – Charities respond to Supreme Court ruling

The uk Supreme Court has just done a major rollback on disability rights and is putting more disabled people in danger

[roboticutie]

Under this new ruling, multiple vulnerable groups will be impacted across social care and healthcare sectors. If an autistic person with high support needs, someone with a serious mental illness, or a person with a severe learning disability is locked in a care setting and sedated, but does not actively protest, they will no longer be considered "confined" by the state. They will lose their automatic right to independent reviews, a legal advocate, and protection from closed care cultures.

This ruling states if someone is sedated and does not instigate a complaint regarding their circumstances while ACTIVELY SEDATED, then they have no right to legal checks and balances to preserve their wellbeing??? Is this correct??? The UK is falling apart.

[ororium-z]

Happy Pride!

[rootbeergoddess]

Every pride, you must reblog this. No exceptions

[thesaltofcarthage]

I love that four different people on my feed scheduled this joyous person to reblog by 8am on June 1. I look forward to seeing this a dozen more times today.

[interestingmistakes]

Reblogging this manually. Op doesn't want credit for fear of being terminated.

[pencil-line-deactivated20241029]

method actor this method actor that. toshiro mifune played a guy getting shot at by arrows by getting shot at by arrows

and yeah i believe it. ^ this is the face of a guy getting shot at by arrows

[lysenkoite]

[weaselle]

[abz-j-harding]

i can't cope

[userfish]

this pride month we’re all going to be radically pro transgender. or else.

[userfish]

hey so this means radically pro ALL transgender. don’t put limitations on this. all trans people are radically accepted here.

[differentlylimbed]

really don't enjoy the genre of post that's like "it's hard to accept that being physically disabled just inherently means never being able to do any of the activities you want to do or achieve any of your dreams and spending your entire life suffering. but that's how it is and that's okay 💕" like have you guys considered the possibility you are depressed

[differentlylimbed]

more thoughts on this... i've noticed these posts are often made by people newly struggling with chronic pain conditions and are often also struggling with the diagnostic process. and like i get it. pain makes you angry and bitter and terrified and makes everything feel like it'll last forever. and if doctors are telling you they can't find the answer or there's nothing wrong with you it can be easy to feel like this is your new reality. maybe posts like that provide some sense of control or comfort. but in saying this is just the inherent experience of being disabled you are 1. excluding a huge part of your community whose disabilities are a different way of experiencing the world and do not involve chronic pain (blindness, d/Deafness, limb difference), 2. telling those who've lived with high needs or chronic pain their entire lives, and in that time have learnt to live around it, that they're doomed to a life of misery, and 3. enforcing a horrible narrative upon others with a similar experience of new chronic pain and diagnostic frustration - that it doesn't get better, that their symptoms will always run their life and that they'd be better off just accepting that. if you're frustrated and want to vent then do your thing, but calling it "positivity" is so so harmful. people with all manner of disabilities lead fulfilling lives and achieve what they want to achieve. if you don't feel like that's possible for you then that's not "okay 💕". fucking fight for it

[berryautistic]

yeah sure you're not ableist... but are you cool with visible medical devices?

are you gonna be weird about feeding tubes? are you gonna ask invasive questions about catheters and ostomy bags? can you cope with seeing someone give themselves an injection? could you walk up to someone with a tracheostomy and talk to them? how about someone with a central line?

does your disability acceptance extend to people with visible medical devices?

[berryautistic]

please don't harass this person but lots of responses like this, lots like this specifically about the injection part. and here's what i have to say about it:

being squeamish is not the same as having a medical need. being uncomfortable is not the same as having a medical need. and furthermore, being uncomfortable or squeamish is not the same as having a phobia.

in the nicest way possible... if other people's medical needs make you squeamish or uncomfortable, that's something that you need to learn to cope with. this post is asking you to do one thing: be normal to people with medical devices/needs. and yeah if you can't be normal to someone with a medical device that makes you a little uncomfortable, that is something that you need to work on.

and the way to do that, as some other people have pointed out under this post, is exposure. the solution to being squeamish or uncomfortable around medical devices is not to avoid people with medical devices/needs or treat them differently, it's actually to be exposed to them more.

and that's not always easy, some medical devices are not common to see in public, but like... do some research? google is cool? look at some pictures? wikipedia is awesome? there are large communities of people with these medical devices educating about them on various social media platforms?

phobias are different. phobias are a type of anxiety disorder. they're not uncommon, but they are generally considered to be highly treatable! if you have a genuine phobia of needles or some other medical device, that's a different situation than being squeamish or uncomfortable. but it's still a situation that needs to be managed without mistreating other people with those medical devices.

it's okay to feel uncomfortable without it being a phobia. uncomfortable is not a life threatening experience. delaying a medically necessary injection could be. when i said can you cope with seeing an injection, that was intentional phrasing. you can be uncomfortable, but can you cope with that discomfort?

we're not asking you to do anything ridiculous. just be normal about medical devices. be normal when you meet people with medical devices. we're sick of being treated like we're contagious!!

(disclaimer: some of this might not be phrased well. i've been trying to formulate this post for hours, and have been thinking about it for days. i'm tired of myself and my disabled friends with visible medical devices/needs being treated this way.)

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

no more historic events this decade that is ENOUGH, i’m putting my foot down

[alettertofutureme]

History is not done with us yet my friend

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

I have received all manner of threat, up to and beyond “I will play a flute carved from your femur,” and yet this is the first time I’ve felt truly threatened

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

"nobody likes a complainer" you say, like an idiot, as if thriving ecosystems of friendships aren't blossoming every day based solely on people vocally disliking the same things in similar ways

[milo-melon]

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

*reaches out my hand in love & friendship* come be a Hater with me

[suzieloveships]

Funny how people will throw a tantrum over lgbt characters in kids media because it will turn their kids gay but the same people will roll their eyes and said you are overreacting because "it's just a kids movie" when you complain about Paw Patrol being a copaganda or Lilo and Stitch remake having pro colonization message. Heck, their will tell that if you complain about fatphobic humour.

Apperently my kids thinking is okay to make fun of garbage truck driver it's alright but lord forbid they see to guys holding hands