Hello Shadow and Mod Charlotte :}
I suggest formulating a way to decipher real memory from ideas in your brain! I had a lot of trouble with this for quite a while, it definitely is frustrating, but it gets easier with time! Being able to decipher how and why you feel the way you do will navigate a lot in life in general, too.
Note: This is going to have enstars lore since that’s what my blog is dedicated to, but the sentiment stays the same 🙏
• Does it replay in your thoughts? If yes, does it drastically change with each replay?
For me, things that are not memories will be a passing thought, or something that I fixate on for a little bit, but I can move on from easily if something else takes my focus. I also tend to build on to whatever it may be as a concept.
For me, things that are memories typically replay in my head for long stretches of time with small or little to no changes between each replay. I eventually write them down and reread through it with the next two points in mind.
• What perspective is it in?
Usually, if my answer is anything but the first person, it is just a silly little idea.
Example (not a memory): My fiancée and I talking about how Tatsumi wouldn’t notice his phone being bugged or having viruses because he’s bad with technology and barely uses his phone.
Example (a memory): When practicing Distorted Heart for the first time together, Hiiro stopped the music after a solo line of mine and he, Aira, and Mayoi started praising me because they’ve never heard my voice do that before.
• What do I feel when I think about this idea?
A bit like the previous question—if I can determine the axis of my emotions toward a thought, that helps me understand. If my feelings toward it are detached from myself or something I naturally say referring to the character as the character and not myself, it’s very unlikely that it’s a memory.
Example (not a memory): Feeling sad about the Reimei Revolution because it was an unfortunate circumstance and an even more unfortunate outcome for both people involved.
Example (a memory): Feeling personally guilty about the Reimei Revolution because it was my idea, my name, and my experience as an Special Student that landed us both hospitalized.
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