sure he’s well versed in leftist theory but does he do the dishes
this is such a succinct critique of male leftists who think of it as theory only & won’t even get off their ass to clear the table
@spock-and-uhuras-jam-band literally lmao
She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink
I remember my wife often saying how exhausting it was for her to have to tell me what to do all the time. It’s why the sexiest thing a man can say to his partner is “I got this,” and then take care of whatever needs taken care of.
I always reasoned: “If you just tell me what you want me to do, I’ll gladly do it.”
But she didn’t want to be my mother. She wanted to be my partner, and she wanted me to apply all of my intelligence and learning capabilities to the logistics of managing our lives and household.
She wanted me to figure out all of the things that need done, and devise my own method of task management.
I wish I could remember what seemed so unreasonable to me about that at the time.
It’s not just about equal division of labor. It’s also about, “this thing is important to her. If he ignores it, he’s saying that what she wants is irrelevant to him.”
And that’s a guy saying, “I’m only spending time with you because it’s pleasant for me.” He’s already decided what’s “really” important, and her input is not welcome.
If he won’t do the dishes and laundry, he’s looking for fun, not a partnership. And his “leftist” ideals will be the same–something he studies because it’s interesting to him; a form of activism that he thinks will bring him a better life. If he can’t do household tasks that matter to a person he loves, he sure as hell can’t support policies that help people whose struggles he doesn’t even acknowledge are real.
I’ll always reblog this bc so many many many men think a'tell me what to do’ mindset is like a high offering when in fact it’s a really low bar like ..you are not a soldier or a child.
I set it out clear as day when me and my now husband moved in together. I am not your mother, I have not birthed anyone that I need to mother. *We* are responsible for having a clean home and food on our table. *We* both do what needs done before personal/together time. Now I'm a SAHM and I enjoy having a clean house and I really like cooking. When he comes home he looks to see what I haven't done yet because some days are worse than others. He never complains on days where I haven't finished a single chore or dinner isn't even started. He asks what I'd like help with and we do it together. We do a lot of chores together and it has really helped with that mental load I struggled with when I became a SAHM and was trying to figure out how to take care of our child and get everything done. I'm a lucky gal honestly. I see a lot of men and hear it often that they just want a girlfriend who can cook and clean. How do they manage on their own?!
