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First baby bean due Jan/2018 20/F

[mama-soon]

The effects of epidurals on labour is really interesting. I was reading an article on if breastfeeding is effected by epidurals (spoiler, it isn't) and came across this:

"Of the 115 participants, 52 mothers had epidural analgesia only and 63 had no analgesia during labour and delivery. In total, 70% were multiparas (delivered previously), of whom 94% had previously breastfed. The women who had epidural analgesia were significantly younger, had fewer pregnancies and less breastfeeding experience. Of women having their first baby, 71% used epidural analgesia compared to only 36% of women with previous deliveries. The duration of first and second stage labour was approximately doubled for the epidural group compared to the no-analgesia group. More women in the epidural group received oxytocin during labour."

https://www.rcm.org.uk/news-views-and-analysis/analysis/epidural-analgesia-and-effects-on-breastfeeding

It makes me feel more confident choosing to go med free, despite this being my first term delivery. It will make my labour quicker and more efficient, and I'm going to remember that when things get tough.

[mama-soon]

8 weeks and 3 days left until I meet my gorgeous girl!

[mama-soon]

I'm watching some british parenting video on youtube that interviews people about how they parent and I'm like "okay, taking notes... picking and choosing what sounds good to me..." when the next family they interview puts the kids outside??? for time out?? WHAT??

Their 3 year old is sobbing that he doesn't want to go to bed and they're leading him to the door to the backyard and going "you go to bed or you go outside". Like how do you even come to the conclusion that a whiney 3 year old should go into the dark in thr backyard?? No 3 year old in the history of ever wants to go to bed.

[mama-soon]

I saw this on facebook today. What the fuck? This is literally where rape culture comes from. A little boy showing his penis to someone should be told that it was wrong. Children are curious and we should be teaching them about boundries and private areas. Not calling them "proud". At what age is it not okay to pull out your junk? At what age does it go from being proud to being predatory? You can't tell a kid that it's just boys being boys every moment until you suddenly decide it's wrong. It's our job as parents to let kids know that it's not okay to show your genitals to somebody.

[cakesexuality]

Hey

Psstt

The guy who invented the theory that vaccines cause autism had his medical license revoked for it

[denyselfandfollowchristsgni-blog]

thats ridiculous

they took it away because he came up with a seemingly plausible theory?

[cakesexuality]

They took it away because other scientists have been unable to reproduce his results, his results were made up, he didn’t even get approved by an ethics committee, and now he’s risking the health and lives of a whole bunch of people

[avocados-and-avocadonts]

It’s not just that he came to incorrect conclusions, he falsified data on purpose, apparently because he had patented a related medical test and stood to make a lot of money off people using his test instead of vaccinating.

It’s crazy how this one person, in a study of only twelve children, gained so much traction in the world. He put this lie out there—and it was a lie, not just interpreting data incorrectly—and now it doesn’t even matter that he’s been proven totally false. Years of effort to reestablish the truth can’t undo the lie once it’s out there in the world. Hundreds of thousands of people believe that lie, and actual children are getting sick and dying because of it.

This is a really troubling aspect of how human minds work, and it’s something conservative politicians take advantage of on a regular basis. If you just say that “well over 90% of what Planned Parenthood does“ is provide abortions, it doesn’t matter how often people recite the objective truth that abortions are a tiny fraction of Planned Parenthood services. You can say the truth 1000 times for every one time the lie is repeated, and thousands of people will still trust the lie.

[t-akver-blog]

I’d never heard this before, and it’s actually really helpful information to have, so thanks. Here is a scientific article by the American Academy of Pediatrics explaining the flaws in Wakefield’s research and briefly summarizing four studies that refuted the fraudulent claims. Here is an article by the editor-in-chief of the British Medical Journal calling him a fraud in no uncertain terms. Here is the first part of a nine-part investigative journalistic series, published in the BMJ, uncovering his fraud.  And the General Medical Council conclusions that stripped Wakefield of his clinical credentials can be found here.

I’m honestly so mad right now reading about this guy. People are dying of measles right now because vaccinations fell off so sharply, and those deaths can be laid at the door of this man.

[socialjusticesummoner]

This man is a mass murderer

[sfiddy]

VACCINATE YOUR KIDS. THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR NOT VACCINATING HEALTHY CHILDREN.

NONE.

[wetwareproblem]

Your regular reminder that the entire anti-vaxx movement is founded and predicated on hatred and devaluation for autistic people and autistic lives. Never forget this, and remember to talk about it when you’re talking about anti-vaxxers.

[ske-lee-ton-deactivated20170901]

even if anti-vaxxers were right (they’re very much not), they’re still saying they’d rather risk their child contracting, spreading, and dying of horrible illness than have an autistic child they believe being autistic is worse than dying of horrible endemic illnesses

[jessicalprice]

They believe that being autistic is worse than dying of horrible endemic illnesses and destroying herd immunity so that kids with compromised immune systems, or who otherwise can’t have the vaccine for legitimate, scientifically backed reasons, also die of horrible diseases.

[rebellloudwiththecrowd]

Kids have a beautiful role model to look up to. Kaepernick is doing amazing things, he is fighting for justice, donating money to charity and people in need, he is teaching kids how to deal with injustice and inspires them to fight for a brighter future. The fact that they choose to dress like him for Halloween speaks volumes. A new generation will know what’s right.

Incredible.

[girl0fglassx]

It’s this type of stuff right here that keeps me from being able to relate to parents of autistic children. The comments all say “I didn’t sign up for this.” Well you know what? You did. I did. The moment you conceived your child, you signed up for whatever that child would grow to be. You think it’s hard for YOU? Imagine how hard it is for THEM. You feel sorry for yourself because you “wake up to screaming every single day”? Feel sorry for the human being who wakes up screaming every day, because they’re crying for a reason. You don’t want to change your child or feed your child beyond toddlerhood? Then WHY did you become a parent? Why would you take the 1 in 68 chance, if you don’t want the chances of having an autistic child? If you resent your child this much, go fuck yourself.

[mama-soon]

Save me from baby furniture

I am dying with restoring this baby furniture. I've painted the change table and all but 2 of the drawers that go with it. We ran out of spray paint and I need to buy more. I need to paint the drawer pulls as well.

I still have to paint the glider, fix the glider bc it is loose and squeaky as shit, find arm rest cusions, sew a cover for the cusions, find a ottoman/stool or make one, put up a curtain rod, put up the curtain, make a crib skirt, put the pattern up on the wall of the crib, find picture frames and print out pictures, make a wall decoration to go above the crib, make a crib rail chew cover, put up the shelf above the change table, finish the carpet I'm hand making, finish the baby outfit I'm hand making, paint the bookshelf, sort her and my books again, sort her toys again, get the storage cube grids out of storage and make an organizer for her closet AND, buy baskets to go in said organizer.

RIP any mom ever who likes to DIY.

[sassyfeistymomma-deactivated202]

Dear TTC community,

Complaining about pregnancy woes does not equate to being ungrateful. Until you have been through THEIR exact pregnancy, you have no room to say “Oh just be grateful. Stop complaining. I’d kill to be miserable.”

Because it’s all a fucking lie.

No you don’t want swelling so badly you can barely walk. No you don’t want blood pressure so high, you’re at risk for a seizure. No you do not want acid reflux all night, every night. No you do not want to lose sleep because you’re so uncomfortable.

You want to be pregnant. That’s it. And that’s great! But!! You literally do not want to be uncomfortable. Who does!?!? Pregnancy is different for everyone. Pregnancy can be easy. Pregnancy can be hard. But just because you have troubles and would be “so thankful” for all of these woes, doesn’t mean you get to belittle others’ discomfort.

Because let me tell you, it’s hard. Self-image is hard. Watching your body change is hard. After it’s over, you can be deflated and flabby. Postpartum depression/anxiety is hard. Building yourself up comes in steps, not leaps. And I’ll be damned if someone comes at a Momma and tells her to “just get over it” or “just be thankful”. There’s way more to it than just being so fucking thankful all the fucking time.

My goodness. This is ridiculous.

[brikit]

I never understand when parents don’t make an effort at all to engage in something their child finds fascinating.

Like if your kid love dinosaurs or sea creatures or wild animals, you make the effort to educate yourself about those things. Especially ones that have more obscure knowledge. If you don’t involve yourself in their learning process, they’re eventually just going to take away that their interests aren’t important and stop telling you about the things they think are great.

(This post may have been inspired by the fact that I have obsessively googled ceratopsians until I found the one that probably matches the unlabeled single-horned one in a bucket of mini-dinosaurs. It is probably a centrosaurus.)

[plannedparenthood]

Celebrate boyhood

How to Raise a Feminist Son

By CLAIRE CAIN MILLER and illustrations by AGNES LEE

via the New York Times

[moscatobottles-to-babybottl-blog]

"Food before one is just for fun" is BULLSHIT.

Please, for the love of God, stop fucking saying this. You’re giving medically unsound and dangerous advice. The AAP says solids are not dangerous after 4 months, and can be started between 4-6 months. The WHO says 6 months at the latest. Yes, formula and breastmilk will sustain your baby until 6 months, but that is the very maximum. After that they NEED food, despite what your crunchy mommy blogger told you. And no, giving your kid a piece of toast to practice gnawing on isn’t going to give him the nutrients he needs. Make sure they are actually eating. 

AAP Website Feeding solids before age 4 months may result in aspiration and is associated with a slightly increased risk of developing obesity, type 1 diabetes, and celiac disease.56,57,58 Waiting until significantly later than age 6 months can result in inadequate energy intake, leading to slow growth, disinterest in solid foods, delayed oropharyngeal motor development, and iron deficiency.36 http://www.aafp.org/test/fpcomp/FP-E_399/pt2-s3.html WHO Website “Around the age of 6 months, an infant’s need for energy and nutrients starts to exceed what is provided by breast milk, and complementary foods are necessary to meet those needs. An infant of this age is also developmentally ready for other foods. If complementary foods are not introduced around the age of 6 months, or if they are given inappropriately, an infant’s growth may falter.”

http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs342/en/?fref=gc

[pettymoms-thearchive]

That’s not really what the saying means though. It means start offering food at 6 months but if they don’t take it try not to stress over it because they’re still getting nutrients elsewhere. Formula or breast milk should still be their primary throughout the first year anyways. I don’t understand why a saying would bother someone this much?

Peach

[moscatobottles-to-babybottl-blog]

While I’m not saying you should stress if they don’t take it after a day, as you can clearly see, WHO and AAP, with thousands of experienced doctors on their boards, say they do need additional nutrients after 6 months. So, yeah, if they don’t consistently “take it” it is an area of concern. It bothers me because saying it’s “just for fun” gives mom’s the idea that it’s optional. And it’s not.

[mama-soon]

I always took it to mean don't exclusivly feed your 6 month old solids. That it shouldn't be the bulk of their intake until after 1. Feed them what they want to eat, you know they are still getting nutrients from milk. Let the baby experiment and enjoy eating, that it's a fun experience. But your baby isn't going to DIE if it's not eating 3 square meals a day, while it could die from too many solids. It will be perfectly happy on applesauce, avacados, and ground beef for a "meal". If most of it ends up on baby, that's okay.

I know someone who is trying to feed their 7 month old raw carrots and trying to get her to eat full meals. Her baby was just hospitalized for constipation.

[beben-eleben]

Babies Experiencing Things For The First Time

First time watching fireworks:

 First time being dunked into water that’s way too cold:

First time getting caught in a bubble shower:

First time driving through a dark tunnel:

First time chatting with a puppet:

First time finding a new recipe in a cooking magazine:

First time forgetting how spoons work:

First time seeing ice cream:

[suganeurospice]

Whenever I’m feeling sad, I look at this and realise how fucking amazing the world is

[go-drink-the-kool-aid-deactivat]

This is why i want kids

[celtic-pyro-deactivated20230725]

How can you hate babies they’re so pure?

[kid-with-plans]

[mama-soon]

13+2

Being pregnant but not showing is weird. I know there's an infant in there, but it doesn't feel real. This time next year I'll have a 6 month old. It's insane! I started lactating. It's just clear and kind of slimy, but it freaks me out a bit. My right boob leaks more than the left, I wonder if left will be a slacker? Hopefully this means I won't have production problems. I make my boyfriend look at it bc it weirds me out, I also make him touch it. It's kind of gross. I am sore a lot. My vagina gets stabby, my uterus geta crampy, my boobs ache, my back hurts. Headaches happen a lot but I'm not sure if that is because all I do is play on my phone or not. Food wise I eat a lot of lettuce and yogurt. Everything else makes me sick.

[xomamabear47]

I am your mother. You are my child. I am your quiet place. You are my wild. I am your calm face. You are my giggle. I am your wait. You are my wiggle. I am your dinner. You are my chocolate cake. I am your bed time. You are my wide-awake. I am your lullaby. You are my peek-a-boo. I am your goodnight kiss. You are my I love you.

(via xomamabear47)

[mama-soon]

I dont think I ever posted this, but this is from my u/s at 11+3! Look at the gorgeous baby, hoping for a girl! Does anyone know skull theory?