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⋆⁺₊⋆ ☾⋆⁺₊⋆ Kam / Spain 1996 / film student / enjoyer of socialist countries & melancholy ⋆⁺₊⋆ ☾⋆⁺₊⋆

[4yuel]

Green Rugs

[sanguinifex]

You gotta read and watch some old books and films that aren’t 100% modern politically correct. I’m not saying you should agree with everything in them but you need to learn where genres came from to understand what those genres are doing today and where media deconstructing old tropes is coming from.

Also, more often than you might think, they’re not actually promoting bigotry so much as “didn’t consider all the implications of something” or just used words that were polite then but considered offensive now.

Kill the censor in your head.

[littlealienproducts]

custom pet pendant by mutsukoariyoshi

[lonequixote]

Rock Collection

Veszelyite from Montana

[deseos-de-la-via-lactea]

[fieldbears]

Sharing the secrets of your hearth with strangers who will never be able to meet or thank you. Honoring the dead through learning their traditions of the home; emulation and exaltation. A good carrot cake.

[harcodia]

Screenshots for those who want to try to make the recipes. One was completely blocked by text but I thought maybe someone would like to make them ♡

Someone with better typing skills if ya wanna type em up….. ♡

[trainsofthought]

I looked up the obscured grave with the blueberry pie recipe:

From Margaret Davis

GLAZED BLUEBERRY PIE

- Soften a 3 oz. pkg. cream cheese.

- Spread in bottom of cooled, cooked pastry shell.

- Fill shell with 3 cups of blueberries.

- To an additional 1 cup of blueberries add 1 cup of water.

- Bring just to boiling.

- Simmer 2 min.

- Strain reserving juice, about ½ cup.

- Combine ¾ cup sugar, and 2 tablespoons corn starch.

- Gradually add reserved juice.

- Cook, stirring constantly until thick and clear.

- Cool slightly and add:

- 2 tablespoons lemon juice

- Pour over berries in pastry shell and chill.

the others are:

From Kathryn Andrews

KAY’S FUDGE

- 2 SQ. chocolate

- 2 TBS. butter

- Melt on low heat

- Stir in 1 cup milk

- Bring to boil

- 3 cups sugar

- 1 TSP. vanilla

- Pinch of salt

- Cook to softball stage

- Pour on marble slab

- Cool & Beat & Eat

From Naomi Odessa Miller-Dawson

SPRITZ COOKIES

- 1 cup of butter ormargarine

- ¾ cup sugar

- 1 teaspoon vanilla

- 1 egg

- 2 ¼ cups of flour

- ½ teaspoon baking powder.

- ⅛ teaspoon salt

From Constance Galberd

CONNIE’S DATE & NUT BREAD

100% Good Stuff - 0% Bad Stuff

Ingredients:

- 8 oz. dates cut into small pieces

- 1 cup raisins

- 2 cups boiling water

- 2 tsp. baking soda

- 1 ½ cups sugar

- 2 eggs, well beaten

- 4 cups flour

- 2 tsp. baking powder

- ½ cup chopped nuts

Directions:

- Pour boiling water (where 2 tsp. of baking soda have been dissolved) over dates and raisins. Cool.

- Add 1 ½ C. sugar and mix well.

- Add 2 eggs, well beaten.

- Gradually mix in 4 C. of flour and 2 tsp. of baking powder. Beat thoroughly.

- Add ½ C. of chopped nuts. Beat thoroughly.

- Bake at 350 for ¾ - 1 hr.

Bake in tin cans.

One batch = 13 small cans

From Christine Hammills

A GOOD CARROT CAKE

CARROT CAKE

Ingredients:

- 2 cups flour

- 4 eggs

- 2 tsp. baking powder

- 2 cups sugar

- 1 ½ tsp. soda

- 1 ½ cups oil

- 1 tsp. salt

- 2 cups grated carrots

- 2 tsp. cinnamon

- 1 (8 ½ oz.) crushed pineapple, drained

- ⅔ cup chopped nuts

Directions:

- Sift together flour, baking powder, soda salt, and cinnamon.

- Beat eggs and add sugar.

-Let stand 10 mins.

-Mix in oil, pineapple, carrots, nuts, flour mixture.

-Turn into 3 greased and floured 9-inch round cake pans.

-Bake at 350’ for 35 – 40 min.

-Cool in pans for 10 min, remove to wire racks, and cool well.

VANILLA CREAM CHEESE FROSTING

Ingredients:

- ½ cup butter

- 1 (8 oz.) cream cheese

- 1 tsp. vanilla

- 1 pound powdered sugar, sifted

Directions:

- Mix butter, cream cheese, vanilla then add sugar. First between layers, top and sides.

From Annabell Gunderson

ANNABELL’S SNICKERDOODLES

Mix Thoroughly:

- 1 c shortening

- 1 c margarine

- 3 c sugar

- 4 eggs

Sift Together And Stir In:

- 5 ½ c flour

- 4 tsp cream of tartar

- 2 tsp soda

- ½ tsp salt

Directions:

- Roll (softly) into balls the size of small walnuts.

- Roll in mixture of 6 tsp sugar and 6 tsp cinnamon.

- Place 2" apart on ungreased cookie sheet.

- Bake at 375 F for 8-10 minutes or 400 F for 6-8 until lightly brown, but still soft.

Secret is: Keep dough fluffy!

[jeanjauthor]

Humans have been eating meals in honor of the memory of our lost loved ones for as long as humans have been human…and probably even proto-human.

[thesinisterspinster]

There are funeral cookbooks too. This is one of my faves.

[odditiesoflife]

The Horrific Practice of Chinese Foot Binding

Women have done many things for beauty throughout history – from indifferently using arsenic or lead-based cosmetics, suffering broken ribs from over-binding corsets for a smaller waist, to yet more extreme forms of body modification. One of the most agonizingly painful of such practices is the Chinese custom of foot binding. This required the feet of young women, most typically young girls, to be broken and bound until they were able to fit inside a tiny shoe. The ideal was a three-inch-long foot. The process itself took around two years, but the feet would stay bound for life.

The tradition was believed to have begun around 970 AD when the consort of Emperor Li Yu of the Tang Dynasty performed a dance on a ‘golden lotus’ pedestal, wrapping her feet in silken cloths. The ruler was so entranced by the beauty of the movement that other women in the court imitated the look. 

For over a thousand years, tiny bound feet were considered highly erotic, and the resulting ‘lotus gait’ – caused by women needing to walk on their heels in a unsteady, ‘mincing’ manner was not only arousing for men but thought to make the sexual anatomy “more voluptuous and sensitive”. During the Qing Dynasty, love manuals apparently detailed 48 different ways of fondling a woman’s bound feet. However even while in bed, women wore special slippers to conceal them.

Chinese women upheld foot binding believing it promoted health and fertility, in spite of the crippling pain they suffered. The practice also took the perceived disadvantage of being born a woman and turned it into a social advantage in terms of the marital opportunities it afforded. Women with unbound feet were highly unlikely to enter into a prestigious marriage, forcing those of the upper classes to ‘marry down’ while those of lower social status risked being sold into slavery. Women with bound feet were the ‘lily footed’  ladies of Chinese society. Fortunately, the Chinese government outlawed foot binding in 1911. A thousand years of women with bound feet.

[mikroblogolas]

For goodness’ sake, can we talk about how this is not just a matter of “beauty” (“women have done many things for beauty throughout history” — silly women!) but about literally and physically restricting women? About how beauty norms and constructions of femininity under patriarchy are designed to make women less powerful? It’s not an accident. When it’s impossible for women to walk or run without pain or injury (e.g., footbinding, high heels, etc.), women are less in control of their own bodies and physical movement and are thus more vulnerable. Attaching erotic and social value to those looks—even calling them “healthy”!—is a very effective way to get women to “willingly” participate. And can we talk about how another factor at the heart of “beauty” norms is that women’s bodies in their natural state are flawed, unattractive, and need fixing (whether by footbinding, corsets, cosmetic surgery, makeup, dieting, waxing, etc.)? Presenting footbinding as taking “the perceived [sic – it wasn’t/isn’t just a perception, because girls and women were and are actually worse off!] disadvantage of being born a woman” and “turn[ing] it into a social advantage in terms of marital opportunities” completely misses the point: that footbinding was an example of how women’s social inequality (as well as class differences between women) were physically cemented in their bodies.

[lolliguncula-blog]

“the resulting ‘lotus gait’ – caused by women needing to walk on their heels in a unsteady, ‘mincing’ manner was not only arousing for men but thought to make the sexual anatomy “more voluptuous and sensitive”.” - men think women in pain and women who can’t move are sexy. that’s nothing new. it’s why we have HIGH HEELS.

the point of beauty practices for women is that they take time, are painful and makes women unable to move freely. that’s WHY THEY EXIST.

THAT IS THE PURPOSE OF FEMININITY, no matter the culture or the country.

[cryptogamist]

“In past centuries a woman of status was required to endure some painful device of immobilization that shortened her breath or shortened her step by tightly  constricting  some  specific  part  of  her  body—waist,  abdomen,  rib cage, breast, neck or foot—in the belief that she was improving, supporting or enhancing an esthetically imperfect, grossly shapeless natural figure. In the East she was subject to the Japanese obi, the Burmese neck ring and the Chinese  bound  foot;  in  the  West  she  wore  the  steel-ribbed  corset  and whalebone stays. 

Each device of beautification restricted her freedom and weakened  her strength;  each  provided  a  feminine  obstacle  course  through which  she endeavored  to  move  with  artificial  grace.  Each  instrument  of discomfort was believed by her to be a superior emblem of her privileged position  and  a  moral  requisite  for  correct  behavior,  and  each  ingenious constriction  was  sentimentalized  by  men  as  erotic  in  its  own  right,  apart from the woman it was designed to improve.

Bernard  Rudofsky,  a  provocative  social  critic,  has  theorized  that  men find deep sexual excitement in the hobbling of women. Such a statement is darkly  inflammatory  but  impossible  to  dismiss.  To  envision  a  Chinese nobleman’s  wife  or  courtesan  with  daintily  slippered  three-inch  stubs  in place of normal feet is to understand much about man’s violent subjugation of  women… 

 Pruned from childhood, her tiny foot was said to resemble the lotus, a most revered flower, and with the support of a long staff or leaning against a husband or servant, she walked like a whisper of wind through the willows,  swaying  tremulously  with  each  timid  step.  

Making  love  to  the lotus  foot,  an  elaborate  art  of  manipulation,  postures  and  poses,  was  a dominant theme in Chinese pornography for eight hundred years while the custom of footbinding flourished. Distasteful though it may be, the bound foot illustrates several aspects of  the  feminine  esthetic.  […]  It isolated  a  specific  part  of  the  female  body  which  differed  from  the  male body  in  some  respect,  in  this  case  a  slightly  smaller  foot,  and  cruelly exaggerated  the  natural  difference  in  the  cause  of  artistic  perfection.

  It imposed an ingenious handicap upon a routine, functional act and reduced the female’s competence to deal with the world around her, rendering that world a more perilous place and the imbalanced woman a more dependent, fearful  creature.  It  rendered  a  man  more  competent  and  steady—in  other words,  more  masculine—by  simple  contrast.”

-Susan Brownmiller, Femininity

[peshawar2quetta-deactivated2017]

[yvesceline]

Love Heels by Petliger

[spi-ltmilk]

[forest-woman]

[miss-mademoiselle]

this is girlhood. ethiopian skater girls. source

[thebraveliltoastie]

[mr-peculivr]

hate being shy at my grown ass age

[vangoghcore]

by n4ny4r

[dysphoria-things]

godddd for the last time. a strong sense of justice in autistic people is not always a positive trait. its just a trait. a strong sense of justice does not mean that you are the most objective source on morality, it means you can’t let go of what you believe is right or should be done. autistic people aren’t morally superior or more socially intelligent than allistic people, you guys have GOT to stop acting like its progressive to decide a certain neurotype is the one everyone should default to.

[dysphoria-things]

a strong sense of justice can mean anything from unwilling to betray your moral code to harassing people for thinking differently because you believe you’re so right the other person HAS to understand. it can mean not giving up on what you believe in and it can mean believing something horrible and yet being unwilling to hear why youre wrong. ive had to call in sick because i heard a group of people disagreed with me on an issue i cared about because i couldnt process the fact that i was wrong and if i was put in any confrontational situation i would not be able to do anything but defend myself even knowing i was sort of wrong.

a strong sense of justice is not an exclusively positive trait. almost nothing is. everything is complex and nuanced.

[dysphoria-things]

[spacelazarwolf]

a hysterectomy??? but you’re so young!! why remove a perfectly healthy body part?? what if you meet a nice guy and he wants babies?? you have such a lovely temperament you’d be a great mother!! just take a few years to reconsider and i’m sure you’ll change your mind :) anyway i noticed you’re a big huge fatso, have you considered this irreversible elective procedure with a ton of complications where we remove 80% of your stomach so you can never eat normally again? :)

[vanilla-bean-buttercream]

Not even joking. This is legit what happened to my anemic coteacher. She gets sick because of her period blood loss and was told she can't have her uterus removed at 40 with two kids, but she could have stomach surgery at 32 no problem.