[migatito]

on the beach at night alone (2017) dir. by hong sang-soo

[thewildwoodhome]

Favorite photographs from deep in the Swedish National Heritage Board Archive.

Bjorn Allard. 1958.

[radfemme-rage]

[gloomyrelaxing]

This is so true because wasn’t there a silly goofy but not so funny trend on TikTok where women shared the excuses they used to avoid sex with their man? The top ones were like I have a headache or I’m on my period. Women kept a counter of how long their men would wait until they finally gave in to what he wanted because he would get too impatient.

[cryptogamist]

this is actually moronic i’m sorry

people actually desiring sex with their partner doesn’t make them johns or punters it makes them human beings

i wouldn’t accept eight months without sex in a relationship either unless there were some very extenuating circumstances (i.e. something other than my partner just testing me to see how long i’ll tolerate it for)

like... “all non-celibate osa women are actually prostitutes whether they realise it or not” isn’t the feminist take you think it is. mutual sexual desire is a normal part of a healthy relationship, and frankly, if you never want sex with your male partner you need to end the relationship for your own sake instead of playing these games so you can film content for an online audience that doesn’t gaf about you

[atomicdragonrascalrebel]

you saying men leaving their wifes after 30 years together and 3 childrwn cause they arent having sex is normal? hetero relationship seems so lovely and romantic

[radfemme-rage]

@cryptogamist you missed the point completely.

no one is literally telling OSA women to purposely “withhold” sex from their male partners for 8 months.

what any radical feminist, and the empirical data, is saying is that regardless of the reason why a woman cannot have sex for 8 months, 9 times out of 10, the male will leave her or she’ll be pressured into sex.

no OSA woman can even argue against that in good faith because it’s completely true. we see it happen all the time to women partnered with men.

[cryptogamist]

yes i’m well aware. probably my only true ‘viral’ post on this site is one i made like 5 years ago sharing the statistics on how quickly and frequently men abandon their sick wives.

it’s clear that a lot of men, probably most men, view their female partners as a source of sex first and foremost and will eventually leave if they fail to fulfil their ‘purpose’ in his life.

that doesn’t change the fact that actually wanting sex is normal, for both men and women, and is usually an expected part of an adult relationship that isn’t otherwise in some kind of crisis. so again, if these women - the ones posting tiktoks tracking how many times they’ve had to lie to get out of sex - never or rarely want sex with their partners, they don’t need to be with them. sharing and meeting each others needs - emotional, sexual, or otherwise - is the entire point of being in a relationship. if it’s not working more often than not, on every level, and these women aren’t getting what they want out of the situation, they don’t have to stay? men clearly learned this lesson a long time ago.

obviously, good relationships between people who love each other and have invested in a shared life should be able to weather periods where one person is giving more and getting little back. the fact that men are generally trash and fail at this more often than not doesn’t mean the women who were with them were unwitting prostitutes. it means a lot of men are terrible people who are emotionally incapable of true partnership with women.

the commodification of the female body, to the point where it’s literally available for rent, is a unique insult to female dignity and humanity imo and not something that can or should be compared to other things. same reason it irks when people compare it to working at mcdonald’s.

[targetedknowledge]

[velvetys]

Everything used to be 20 dollars and now that I finally have 20 dollars everything is now 200 dollars

[kittyit]

link / archive

[marbleguard]

I’m going to say something that might sound crazy. Suicide and suicide attempts are sort of a societal alarm bell that says “something is very wrong with the environment this individual was in.” A living being choosing to take themselves out of existence is the most extreme act of distress there is. The state stepping in to silence this alarm bell by funneling suicidal people into a state sanctioned euthanasia program, normalizing this act through a socially accepted bureaucratic system, is not a good thing. It goes hand in hand with the state’s interest in maintaining the status quo at the expense of the population and the psychiatric industry’s interest in individualizing societal problems to extract profit and aid the existing system. It’s saying “there are no complaints here, just people with sick brains, carry on.”

[kittyit]

it does not sound crazy

[jareckiworld]

Tuula Lehtinen — Van Huysum VI (oil on canvas, 2023)

[mossghoul]

What are your top 3 "In another life" dream careers? Mine are:

Historian

Detective

Historical costumer/costume designer

[cryptogamist]

1. historian

2. investigative journalist (not that dissimilar from detective lol)

3. zookeeper

[carla-enjoys]

from Child Art Therapy by Judith Aron Rubin, 1978 via stoppingoffplace

[craig-h-stuart]

Library Table

Maker: Herter Brothers (German, active New York, 1864–1906)                Date:1879–82                                                                                     Geography: Made in New York, New York, United States 

[gluten-free-pussy]

Swinging at the hornets nest here (the “sex work is work” crowd won’t like this one lol) but there was a post going around about like “if you work in hospitality and you think you see a sex worker, no you didn’t. Keep your mouth shut and let them make their money” is honestly sending me. As many of you know, one of my jobs is working front desk at a hotel and like no lads…we can’t “look the other way” at times. Yes, we know when the working girls check in (many are regulars who are open about it, plus after working their long enough you Know™️ when a woman is because you can clock the signs) and of course we can’t stop them but there are times when you literally have to say something. Here are a couple of instances that have happened on my shifts alone:

-I was checking in two girls and knew something was off and asked to see both their ID’s. Only one had a passport and her 18th birthday was literally a week ago. The other one handed me her high school student card. We had to call the police when their pimp came in and started making threats bc we refused to check them in.

-a sex worker checked in the night before and a housekeeper went into the room the next morning and found the woman in a bloody mess. There were chunks of human tissue scattered throughout the room (the housekeeper quit after that. Honestly, housekeepers are literally on the front lines of the bullshit but that’s another story)

-something about a “couple” was offfffffff at check in. The woman was standing with her hands behind her back, had her eyes glued to the floor, and wouldn’t answer questions despite her name being on the reservation. The man was answering for her. When I asked to see her ID, he hands it to me, and when I handed it to her, her arms were covered in bruises. We didn’t let them check in

-there are two properties and one of them has an agreement with a women’s shelter. I’ve checked in women into one property only to see them come in months later to the other property under the womens shelters’ reservation with bruises and broken limbs (many of whom are indigenous women).

So yeah bottom line: with the World Cup soon approaching, all of us -front desk, maintenance, housekeeping, the kitchen staff, sales, you name it all departments- have had to do extensive modules on clocking the signs of human trafficking. You can’t just look the other way because it can mean missing the underaged girl or preventing horrific violence. Yes we have our regulars and yes sometimes it is what it is but no you can’t just look the other way and let them “secure the bag” because I guarantee there’s a pimp in the lobby/parking lot who’s the one getting the bag at her expense.

[radfemme-rage]

[gloomyrelaxing]

This is so true because wasn’t there a silly goofy but not so funny trend on TikTok where women shared the excuses they used to avoid sex with their man? The top ones were like I have a headache or I’m on my period. Women kept a counter of how long their men would wait until they finally gave in to what he wanted because he would get too impatient.

[cryptogamist]

this is actually moronic i’m sorry

people actually desiring sex with their partner doesn’t make them johns or punters it makes them human beings

i wouldn’t accept eight months without sex in a relationship either unless there were some very extenuating circumstances (i.e. something other than my partner just testing me to see how long i’ll tolerate it for)

like... “all non-celibate osa women are actually prostitutes whether they realise it or not” isn’t the feminist take you think it is. mutual sexual desire is a normal part of a healthy relationship, and frankly, if you never want sex with your male partner you need to end the relationship for your own sake instead of playing these games so you can film content for an online audience that doesn’t gaf about you

[jessaerys]

you can't come to mama's

[wifegideonnav]

“bits to use in everyday conversations”

[maureen2musings]

Blooming heather in the Highlands

merlins_mind

[celebratingamazingwomen]

Zelia Nuttall (1857-1933) was an archaeologist and anthropologist. Her specialty was the pre-Aztec culture of Mexico and Mesoamerican cultures.

One of her greatest achievements is tracing the 14th-century Mixtec Codex, now named the Codex Zouche-Nuttall, and publish it in 1902. She wrote numerous books on the culture of Mesoamerica, and was Honorary Professor of Archaeology at the National Museum of Anthropology in Mexico.

[michaelnordeman]

Eurasian curlew/storspov. Naggen in Medelpad, Sweden (30 May 2024).