this is gonna be controversial (lol), but y’all gotta remember blogs aren’t celebrities with their own PR teams.
if you find something a blogger said insensitive, it probably is! privilege & social environment leave way too many blindspots for that to never happen. and it’s super okay to alert people to their blindspots! but do so with the awareness that those not used to having their speech policed by strangers may respond with baffled defensiveness if you come at them aggressively.
and when that happens, whipping out the “you’re not the man I thought I married” speech, and giving yourself permission to go into full cuss-out beast mode is like………………unproductive and kinda mean-spirited
Bloggers have slowly shifted from ordinary people just goofing around and having fun on the internet to being held up as sort of low level public figures, but without any media training or assistance to manage that load.
And it’s a really weird transition because you can’t just talk to one friend publicly on your blog any more, you’re talking to one friend and thousands of people, and potentially thousands more which might go through your backlog in the future.
#not to be human on main but waking up one day with thousands of strangers personally angry with you over attitudes you don’t even hold#because of poor word choice or a failure to effectively publicize context#is disorienting and traumatizing and is not something random minimum wage nobodies with blogs are equipt to handle without a pr team#and no other random strangers incoherently insulting people in your ‘defense’ is not a pr team; it’s further disorientation#and it never. goes. away.
