-hindi, okay lang-

jolew / xxvii / panglao

[forlornalbatross]

“People think rejection is painful. But rejection has a body , it shows you exactly where you need to stand. Rejection means the road is closed / do not trespass. Rejection has a shape that tells you it is not your size. But what’s painful is being ignored or “ghosted”. Because this does not speak , it has no sound , no noise - it’s a dead end but you have no idea if it is concluded or just a temporary mirage that you’re stranded somewhere with no other sign because it is foggy & misty. You do not exist that your value & worth were stripped from you & you are naked , unseen , invisible , erased in an open vast space to which anything can harm you or save you. So rejection is where it is a clear indication to steer away while when being ignored is where your titanic heart will soon be pierced by the iceberg of such cruelty - (what I meant by this wickedness is when you are talking to someone then you ignore them without addressing nor give a reason why the communication suddenly dried up but the next time you see them again you acted like nothing had happened thus not only you have put them in a place of being invisible but also invalidates the motive behind why were they even treated as a phantom in the first place - ) & the sad part is or more so a barbaric part is when you are well aware that you are ignoring someone & the repercussion to that act is based on your selfishness instead of an actual self-care. Know the difference. For ignoring someone based on selfishness is when you do not communicate your intention to end things fairly or that things can no longer be fixed that the only way out is to go your own separate ways for the sake of each other’s wellbeing & not just expect the other person to mind read your intention since you’re also continuously giving them a mixed signal that you still want to work things out — on the other hand if you’re ignoring someone based on self-care is simply by having to relay many different options & giving chances to whatever the form of relationship that you’re having with the other person & they are still not willing to meet you half way or respect your decision & boundaries thus it’s necessary to execute the ignore mode since that seems to be your only way out to keep your peace— at the end of the day remember how you wanted to be treated when you act in a selfish ignorant mode to a self care one. Because the consequences of it can be damaging to their mental , emotional , psychological , physical & spiritual well being mostly to the ones you were selfishly intended or even unintended to ignore. We always make our own bed whether we consciously or subconsciously aware or not & we will have to lay on it eventually -”

— D C de Oliveira | From: Hēsychazō, Surdus| January 15, 2023 | Sunday, 4am

[what-iz-life]

Being with someone who wants to learn about your past history, not to punish or hurt you, but to learn how you need to be loved

[jsnzldy]

[athebloggerwannabe]

TFTFZX PART 3: ALAM NA THIS

Part 3 na. Last na daw.

Hindi ko masyadong inabangan to, pero nakita ko lang yung link… kaya pinanood ko na. tutal nabitin ako sa 2nd part.

di tulad nung sa part 2, part 1 o dun sa episode 0, na super gulo ng feelings ko, dito sa part 3 ng tftfzx, ALAM KO. ALAM KO NA NABITIN AKO. ALAM KO NA NANGHINAYANG AKO. ALAM KO NA NA-ANO AKO, YUNG, AYAN-KASI-PINAKAWALAN-MO-PA-LECHE FEELING. GETS MO BA KO? HAHAHA

PERO, tulad nung sa part 2, may mga nagustuhan akong lines. this time, hindi lang subs. pati lines.. pero mostly, sa subs ako kumuha. hahahaha ano daw?

1.“Kiligin. Ma-Fall. Ma-hurt. Mag move-on. Repeat until fade.”

LOVE eh. LOVE. ganyan talaga, nagsisimula sa kilig, tapos natatapos sa iyak. Tapos, magmomove on ka, tapos uulit lang ng uulit. odiba, parang to, inulit ko lang yung line, di ko naman talaga inexplain. Bakit nga naman ganon no? Hindi na natututo yung tao, kahit na alam nilang masasaktan lang sila, itutuloy pa rin nila… pero meron, matalino. Yung alam na nilang masasaktan lang sila, kaya ititigil na nila. Pero, shet diba?

2. Love is like a puppy. When it grows to be an ugly dog, you should still love it.

Naisip ko lang to one time… eto, na pwede naman talaga magtagal yung dalawang tao e. KUNG gugustuhin lang nila pareho. Kaya siguro may naniniwala pa sa forever. pero wtf, walang forever. Pero ayun nga, para nga namang aso o tuta ang pag-ibig. Kasi hindi mo naman matatawag na pag-ibig yan kung may concrete na reason kung bat ka nafall sa isang tao. e pano kung nagbago siya, edi hindi mo na siya mahal? gets mo ba? o talagang lutang lang ako?

3. You don’t make an effort to make things work.

Minsan sa mga relationship, madalas to. ano daw? minsan tas madalas? hahahaha. De, pero, oo nga no? Effort. Yung pinaglalandingan ng Eflane? hahaha tawa ka muna, de joke lang ulit. Effort, eto yung gustong gustong nakikita ng isang tao sa isang relationship. Kasi pag walang effort, walang kwenta. Kasi pag walang effort, dry. Kasi pag walang effort, san maglalanding yung efflane? hahaha sorry na

4. It’s better to talk about stuvves than keep quiet about it.

Trud!! kahit na mag-eend up lang sa away. Kahit na feeling mo wala namang patutunguhan. Kahit na feeling mo masasaktan lang kayo pareho… pag-usapan niyo pa rin. Kasi pareho niyong ginusto yan. Kasi pareho niyong pinasok yung relasyon na yan. Kaya dapat pareho kayong handang masaktan… dapat eveready. lol

5. If you have nothing good to say, then STFU. Or if you really don’t have anything to say, again, STFU.

Parang nagccontradict to sa #4 no? Pero uh, may point naman kasi to e. Minsan silence is the best treatment sabi nga nila. Pero hindi naman dapat forever silent ka na. At some point in time, you’ll need to speak up. kakailanganin mong ilabas lahat ng yan, kasi ikaw din naman mahihirapan. Pero tama nga, STFU nalang muna siguro. Pero naman kasi, ang bigat kaya sa loob ng di mo masabing miss na miss na miss ko na siya at hindi ko alam kung bat namimiss kita kahit na nakakaasar ang babaw lang at shet bat ganon diba? ano daw?

6. We all look forward to this roadtrip called love. WE eall enjoy the peaks and the valleys. But love is not about that. It’s about the long boring ride ahead.

Again, if you want to make things work, dapat may tiyaga, Kasi pag may tiyaga, may nilaga. Kasi hindi naman magwwork out yan kung walang gagalaw. Madaming taong naghahanap sa love. Yung iba super dedicated pa at wala ng ginagawa sa buhay nila kundi maghanap ng tunay na pag-ibig. Pero bat di nalang natin hayaan na yung pag-ibig yung maghanap satin? =)))

7. Love is not about being tanga, but about making yourself vulnerable… which is almost the same.

Natural lang yung masaktan. Pero dapat sa mga pagkakamali natin, natututo tayo. Okay lang maging tanga, wag lang forever tanga, okay? dapat wag ng ulit-ulitin. Kasi ikaw din nasasaktan. Save yourself, please lang. there’s more to life than love sabi nga diba?

8. I think we need to find our lost selves.

Minsan, dadating tayo sa point na mapapagod tayo at marerealize natin na nawala tayo bigla… na kelangan nating hanapin yung part natin na along the way, nawala natin. Kaya may mga taong naghihingi ng space. Pero yung iba palusot lang yun. Hay life. Breathe in. Breathe out.

9. Anong nangyari dun sa sinasabi mong di inoorasan yung forever?

O diba, kasi simple lang yan, WALANG FOREVER!!! (di ako bitter, k? realistic at practical lang)

10. Kelangan natin mag grow. Ikaw. Ako. Pero walang tayo.

Ayoko ng explain to, nakakabitter. hahahaha joke

11. Remember, if you’re not ready to get hurt, you’re not ready to love. Because love is like a war, easy to begin, but very hard to stop.

NO NEED TO EXPLAIN THIS. GETS NIYO NAMAN NA SIGURO NO? WAG KANG PUPUNTA SA GIYERA NG HINDI KA HANDA. LECHE

12. Everyone goes through sad moments like this. That’s life.

That’s the thing about life, hindi puro happiness. Hindi puro love, hindi puro joy. Merong dark side, merong heart-breaking moments. Kasi nga walang perfect. at walang forever. hahahaha ano ba yan

13. in love, there is no sad nor happy endings, there’s just “The End.”

Totoo to, lahat kasi may katapusan, walang sad, walang happy, meron lang ending. Kaya enjoyin mo na habang nasayo pa.

14. Breaking up is like a contest. A contest where the person who moves on first, wins. And course, whoever ends up unhappy, loses.

Oo nga no? Totoo to. Bakit nga ba nagiging parang competition ang pag-momove on? Bakit kasi hindi nalang tanggapin nung “unhappy” na wala na talaga at hindi talaga siya para sakanya. Kung magmomove on ka, magmove on ka nalang ng tahimik. Kung masaya ka naman, wag ka nalang makipagcontest at wag mo nalang ipamukha na masaya ka at siya hindi. Jusko naman. Utak please? Pero, para hindi ka magmove on, wag ka nalang umasa, sa una palang, ingat ka na. :P

15. Ang importante, sa huli masasabi mo sa sarili mo, ayos lang yan.

AYOS LANG YAN, A!!! AYOS LANG YAN!!

GRABE. LIKE, GRABE AM I MAKING ANY SENSE HERE? LOL WHATEVER DUH? K BYE

-A

[stillonmybrain]

Love is about the long boring ride ahead.

[hellowitty]

PANLILIGAW 101

Mahirap manligaw kung hindi ka gusto na gusto mo, lalo na kung hindi ka mayaman at gwapo. Pero hindi yun sapat na dahilan para gumive up ka agad. Hindi mo malalaman kung hindi mo susubukan.  Tandaan: The looks catches the eye but personality catches the heart. Guys, ito ang ilan sa mga bagay na dapat niyong tandaan sa panliligaw.

IT STARTS WITH FRIENDSHIP – bago mo siya ligawan, build a strong foundation and that is friendship. Mas mainam din to for the both of you to know each other well.

FIND A BRIDGE AND TAKE THE ROAD – makipagkaibigan ka sa mga friends niya lalo na sa bestfriend niya at madalas niyang kasama. Mas maganda na may taga lakad ka, taga bigay ng gift at taga update sayo ng kalagayan ng nililigawan mo.

WHAT SHE LIKES – alamin mo ang mga bagay na gusto niya, like hobbies, favorite food, types of music at anything as in anything she likes.

BE LOYAL – kapag nanliligaw ka dapat ISA LANG, dapat SIYA LANG. hindi yung may reserba ka, na pag nabusted ng isa ay may reserba kang lima.

BE YOURSELF – wag trying hard to be perfect just to impress her. Ipakita mo sa kanya kung sino at ano ka talaga, yung good at bad side. Kung talaga namang gusto ka niya ay maacept niya ang weaknesses and strengths mo gaya ng pag accept mo ng sa kanya.

LESS TALK MORE ACTION – action speaks louder than words. ang pag ibig o pagmamahal ay di lang basta basta sinasabi. Ito ay dapat na PINAPAKITA, dapat na PINAPADAMA at dapat na GINAGAWA.

TIME – one of the most important hindi lang pagdating sa love. Priorities niyo din yung nililigawan niyo at di lang yung work at pag aaral. Pero set your priorities well. Mali yung blank blank din pag may time. There are 24 hours a day, 168 a week, 720 a month and 8760 a year. There is always a time. Dapat sanay lang tayong mag manage. Ano ba naman yung maalala natin siyang itext kahit gaano pa tayo ka busy. It’s nice when you let her know that you remember her once in a while during the day.

EFFORT – always exert effort. Walang sukat, maliit man o malaking effort. Show the girls that you are willing to do anything and everything to win their hearts. Maipapakita at maipapadama mo sa isang tao na importante at mahalaga siya kapag may hindi ka ginagawa dati pero ginagawa mo para sa kanya at may ginagawa ka para sa kanya na hindi mo naman ginagawa sa iba.

BE A GENTLEMAN ALL THE TIME – always respect her. Treat her nice. Pakita at padama mo sa kanya na secured at safe siya pag magkasama kayo. Pag may dala siyang gamit tulad ng bag at grocery items, always give her a hand.

COMPLIMENT HER – always tell your girl that she is beautiful. Ayaw ng girls ng binobola pero pag sinasabihan natin sila ng maganda about them ay naboboost ang self confidence nila. Just mean it when you say it.

MAKE HER LAUGH – mas medaling mainlab sa isang tao pag napapasaya at napapatwa ka niya. Wag na wag mo siyang paiiyakin at wag hahayaang malungkot. Patawanin mo siya kahit korny mga jokes mo at kahit magmukha kang tanga.

MAKE HER FEEL THAT SHE IS SPECIAL – don’t count the moment, just make every moment counts.

GIVE HER A GIFT – give her something my occasion man o wala. It could be roses, chocolates and stuffed toys. Pwede rin naming pagkain o kaya bagay na magagamit niya. Hindi naman mahalaga kung mahal o mura. Ang imporante ay galling sa puso. It’s the thought that counts.

CONSISTENCY – dapat always mong pinapakita at pinapadama sa kanya na gusto mo siya at palagi kang nandyan for her. Dapat walang cooldown, always keep the flame burning.

PEER PRESSURE PROOF – its good to take advice but not all the time. Decide for yourself. Wag kang palaging nakikinig sa iba lalo na kung negative ang sinasabi nila dun sa nililigawan mo. kapag nabusted ay malulungkot ka pero pag sinagot ka ay sino ba ang sasaya, ikaw di ba?

BE PATIENT – don’t rush things. Just enjoy every moment. Its not about the destination, its about the journey. Ang mga bagay na medaling nakukuha ay madali ring nawawala.

TAKE THE OLD FASHIONED WAY – di katulad ng panliligaw ngayon na madalas ay thru text at internet lang. mas maganda kung bibisita ka sa bahay na may dalang rosas o kaya pagkain. Kung kailangang ipagsibak at ipagigib ng tubig, gawin. Mas mapapakita mo di lang sa kanya kundi pati sa kanyang pamilya na sincere ka at seryoso.

INNOVATION – always have new, different and unique ideas. Ibat ibang atake, ibat ibang diskarte. Mas romantic, mas nakakakilig.

FINANCIAL STABILITY – huwag manligaw kung umaasa ka pa sa allowance na bigay ng parents mo. mag work to earn money. Magastos manligaw. Hindi naman palaging sa classroom, school, simbahan at park lang kayo nagde date. Take her out sa restaurant o go see a movie. 

NEVER GIVE UP – pag nanligaw wag mag assume at mag expect na sasagutin ka niya at magiging kayo. if you really love the person you’ll take the risk. Wag na wag kang susuko lalo na kung di mo pa nagagawa ang lahat at kaya mo.

HAVE FAITH – pray for her. Trust God that you will end up together. If not, God has better plans for you.

Hindi sa panliligaw natatapos ang lahat. Dapat nandoon pa rin yung feeling na parang araw-araw kayong nagliligawan. Hanggang sa kayo ay makasal, magkaanak at magkaroon ng pamilya.

[thehopefulquotes]

“There is somebody out there for you. Somebody who will get your soul and tend to your heart like a flower, but you must be patient as the rain, as the sea, as the sky, because finding love is part of nature and will not bloom until it’s season.”

— Unknown

[dumblr]

"I hope you find the kind of love that makes you a softer person. The kind of love that makes you want to be a better man or woman, the kind of love that believes in you and supports you, that stands by your side. I hope you find someone who quickly becomes your favourite thing someone who makes the fall less fearful, someone you can't help but choose every single day. Hope you find someone who shows you just how deeply you can feel, just how deeply you can love. I hope you find something real, because nothing is more beautiful than loving someone who loves you back. Nothing is more beautiful than loving someone who builds you a home in their heart."

[batanglikenanglike]

Never again do we let someone pick our roses while they are still strolling around another garden.

[thoughtkick]

“One day it just clicks… You realise what is important and what isn’t, you learn to care less about what other people think of you and care more about what you think of yourself. You realise how far you have come and you remember thinking that things were such a mess they’d never recover and then you smile. You smile because you’re truly proud of the person you have fought to become.”

— Unknown

[free-my-mindd]

So True

[sexy-celestial]

I pray in 2023 I am more organized, focused, driven, motivated, smarter, wealthier, and healthier. Do more things that feel fulfilling on a soul level. Alchemize every negative emotion and experience and trust it works out in my highest good. I romanticize life because the beauty we see in everything is a reflection of the beauty we see in ourself. 🍀

[maylihimnapagsinta]

Feels like I really want to escape this world.

[missinyouiskillingme]

“You will go on and meet someone else and I’ll just be a chapter in your tale, but for me, you were, you are and you always will be, the whole story.”

— Marian Keyes

[maylihimnapagsinta]

Mahalin ang trabaho, hindi ang katrabaho. Damn!

[thehopefulquotes]

“The human heart has a way of making itself large again even after it’s been broken into a million pieces.”

— Robert James Waller

[maylihimnapagsinta]

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