I had been holding off updating my name and pronouns and shit on Facebook because I just knew someone from my family in Texas was going to have OPINIONS.
But last weekend I was in NYC and I had a really good time and I was really feeling myself so I decided to ride that momentum and finally let all the people I used to know what my deal was.
This morning I got a message from my aunt and she is upset. Not about the trans thing but because of the name I chose. She is saying I don't "deserve" it and telling me what I should have named myself instead.
Like, my good bitch, my identity is not a group project. My name doesn't require approval from the committee. It isn't something you can give permission to or revoke.
It's also common among the women in my family to choose to go by a different name as an adult than their given name. (No idea why, we're just standard white ladies) So I have chosen a name that my grandmother also chose.
Such a weird thing to get hung up on.
