dilettante. romantic. big dumb nerd.

Theater girlie having an emo phase in her 20s. Come for the fic, stay for the brilliant analysis of bandom men as Shakespeare characters

[vincentbriggs]

My machine sewn shirt tutorial is FINALLY FINISHED! Written tutorial on the blog, video tutorial on youtube. Both probably more detailed than necessary.

I'll post more shirt pictures later, right now I need to go work on other stuff to give my brain a rest from all the shirts.

[vitariesocks]

just received the best text message I’ve ever had. from my mom

[vitariesocks]

2 pics. no caption

[victusinveritas]

[black-crested-jaybird]

I always think of the description I saw years ago: Self-imposed deadlines don't help me, because I know the person who set them, and they're full of shit.

[makingtrouble]

Give yourself the treat before you start. I'm serious. And ideally during the task and afterwards too.

Executive dysfunction comes from a lack of available dopamine. Common advice is wrong. You need to provide your own dopamine before you can start. Otherwise you're trying to run your car on empty.

"But what if I still don't do it" well you already weren't getting it done anyway. Now you have a little treat. Try again later.

You deserve kindness and care even when you aren't being productive.

(Also read How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis)

[twwings]

I give my students a LOT of techniques for starting writing when it feels overwhelming or daunting, but one of them is exactly this: dopamine load BEFOREHAND. It may sound weird to people on tumblr dot com, but a lot of people seriously struggle with executive dysfunction when it comes to writing literally anything, to the extent that it can cause such symptoms as panic, depression, and AI chatbot use.

I usually suggest this technique as a "Reverse Pomodoro." In the original Pomodoro, you work for 25 minutes and then take a break for 5 minutes (the times vary, but that's the essential ratio). People with executive dysfunction often find this insurmountable, and they get even more frustrated, and then the task seems even more difficult. So instead, flip those times.

FIRST, spend 25 minutes doing something energizing and engaging that you like to do. Not scrolling social media passively, not watching tv, not napping. Try something like colouring, doing yoga, running/walking around the block, talking about your favourite tv show with someone in real time, playing with the dog or cat, making and eating a lovely sandwich, hula hooping, something active. Having a little treat absolutely falls in this category!

(on the subject of little treats: refusing yourself food until you do work is for fucking Puritans and you can be kinder to yourself)

Then, after 25 minutes (or however long it takes to eat the sandwich or finish the yoga routine, it doesn't have to be exact), spend 5 minutes writing (or doing whatever you're struggling to start). Most people can coax themselves into doing something they find difficult for five minutes, if they have already filled up the joy/energy/engagement bucket. You can put a timer on for the 5 minutes if you want, or if you find that annoying, just work for as long as you like.

The other key is: don't push yourself to keep going when you're frustrated or tired—that will just reinforce the negative belief that you already have, which tells you that this task is painful to do, and needs to be avoided. If you've commonly had to force yourself to do this kind of task, that's likely part of why you think of it as painful and have trouble starting it now. Also, you should just, at a basic level, try not to put yourself in pain for the sake of productivity. So just do it till the good feelings run out. Then start hula hooping or colouring again for another 25 minutes. When the tank's refilled, try another 5 minutes of work, if you can. Adjust times to taste.

Not every technique works for everyone, but I've seen this one work for many students who are genuinely and seriously disabled by executive dysfunction. And many people find themselves getting more and more excited and engaged in the "difficult" task—because the good feelings from the hula hooping carry over, and because they're suddenly able to do the task without feeling pain, and feel accomplishment without feeling pain.

[kyraneko]

This is very much how it works, not every time but regularly enough to be worth doing.

[melittarilow]

Guess what! It's all here! Also, two pitch-perfect companion works have been posted in the series, so go enjoy the whole cinematic universe!

LOVE BITES AND SO DO THEY: Family and Power in Urban Vampires (A Master's Thesis by Tricia Vaughn Stump) (59029 words) by MelittaRilow Chapters: 20/20 Fandom: A Little Less Sixteen Candles a Little More "Touch Me" - Fall Out Boy (Song), Fall Out Boy, The Academy Is…, Cobra Starship, Panic! at the Disco, Gym Class Heroes, Hush Sound, Hey Monday, Thursday (US Band), +44 (Band) Rating: Mature Relationships: Patrick Stump/Pete Wentz, William Beckett & Mike Carden, Ryan Ross/Greta Salpeter Characters: Patrick Stump, Pete Wentz, William Beckett, Mike Carden, Brendon Urie, Gabe Saporta, Victoria Asher, Ryan Ross, Greta Salpeter, Travis McCoy, Cassadee Pope, Geoff Rickly, Mark Hoppus Additional Tags: Alternate Universe - A Little Less Sixteen Candles (Music Video), Alternate Universe - Gender Changes, Canon-Typical Violence, Vampires Werewolves Aliens and Frankensteins Oh My, Messy Friendships and Messier Families, Action/Adventure, Sibling Drama at the Vampire Mansion, Inaccurate Depictions of a Master's Degree in Cultural Anthropology, Bandom Big Bang 2024 Series: Part 1 of Love Bites and So Do They: The Anthology Summary: Tricia Stump is writing a master's thesis on vampire anthropology. When her contact/best frenemy/roommate Pete is turned, her research gets overshadowed by the dual mission of "help Pete conquer the bloodlust" (Trish) and "help Pete kill Beckett" (Pete). Meanwhile, Beckett and the Dandies are trying to get along long enough to win a turf war, Greta wants the handsome boy in the rose vest to turn her, and Cassadee wants to know what's in the attic. And what do the mysterious arms dealers known as Cobra have to do with everything?

[raceweek]

alex and lily in malibu - january 2023

📸: lids_harper on instagram

[catholicxknees]

Straylight Run in Glasgow 4/11/2007 📷Sinead Grainger

[pointless-letters]

One of the best letters I’ve ever seen just popped up on my Facebook memories. Still makes me laugh.

[oscunt]

Oscar Piastri on the High Performance Podcast

[anywhoozles]

[britrrari]

some #hopecore for u bc i don’t like all the negativity i’m seeing. i know it looks dire right now but we’re not even 50% through the season yet… I STILL #tRUSt !!!

[greater-than-the-sword]

Ever since i was a little girl i knew I wanted to be a straight woman in a lesbian dominated field

[lesbiansforboromir]

You actually cannot skip to being good at a creative endeavour that you haven't put much practice into. You cannot trick your way out of the 'knows that your work is not what you want it to be but don't know how to improve it' stage by planning or reading or talking about it really really hard. At some point you just have to craft through it until your brain finds it's own unique way back to the 'everything I make slaps' stage and be prepared to start the cycle all over again. You just have to make that project you're excited about slightly less good than you want it to be. (Says this standing in a pool of blood and covered in blood and also coughing up a little blood)

[lesbiansforboromir]

everyone stop reblogging this I hate to be reminded of my own good advice

[zxid]

collection

[fishlung8877]

[massive-alboner]

[gerardwayjigglephysics]

happy one year birthday to this

[gerardwayspostnutclarity]

oh.

[tyger-land]

𝗚𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗗𝗮𝘆 New Orleans, August 1994.

[ella-lloyd]

“People often feel women are maybe more emotional,” she says. “And I can be emotional. I’m not at all when I’m on the pit wall, but I can be in other things in life. That is a strength. And as more and more women get into positions of responsibility, we can show how good that is. Empathy is so important, and a really valuable trait for a leader.”

for @laura-mueller