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Have a cookie! 🍪

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No bc what do you do when lying for an hour with the glucose thingy

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And no man is a match for Yuno😩🤚

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Respectfully sirs, PLEASE KISS!!!

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Dazai appreciation posttt

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All day, everyday:

Dazai: "I was messing with you."

Kunikida:

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Me playing candy crush like: 🤠

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Hi! Hope I’m not bothering. I’m currently submitting myself to extreme inner turmoil as I read more into the cognitive functions to try to type myself, and I’ve narrowed it down to either INFJ or INFP. Do you have any tips for accurately typing them and for digging really really deep into myself to actually find the answers I’m looking for? People keep typing me as INFJ though I somehow can’t rest thinking I may be just another mistyped INFP. Thank you and have a great day! I love your blog :)

If you are having ‘extreme inner turmoil,’ it’s time to step away from MBTI typing for awhile and get centered. Leave it for awhile. Then think about how you perceive the world and whether that is through a Ni lens (how I want the world to be) or a Fi lens (how everything relates / pertains to me). Fe is other-centric and struggles to have an identity separate from other people’s wants and needs; a Fi, on the other hand, is preoccupied with their own thoughts, wants, and needs, and has to be reminded to care about or tune in to others -- Fi’s tend to project rather than mirror. Projecting is “this is how I’d feel in your shoes, so you are probably feeling it.” Mirroring is “I feel what you are feeling; it’s influencing my mood.” Fe users are prone to “we” type thinking -- we, us, you and me becomes “us, and we.” Not “I” like the Fi. Think about how you feel when people tell you what to do. Is there a Fe/Ti analyzing of it, measuring against an internal standard, or an automatic Fi-dom response of “nobody tells me who to be. I have my own identity!”

Have you seen the movie Ever After? It’s a good comparison between Fe (Danielle) and Fi (Henry). Danielle thinks about other people, their wants, needs, etc., what she owes society, how the prince ‘ought’ to serve society, much more than her own needs and wants. Henry on the other hand, is self-preoccupied. He doesn’t notice social concerns or attend to them until Danielle calls him on it; she has to teach him how to care about anything outside his own emotional experiences. I don’t mean to call out Fi’s, but the main source of conflict between Fe and Fi is “should” (Fe) vs “what I want” (Fi). The Fe finds the Fi annoying because the Fi will be the only one at the party in black cuz it feels like it, and the Fi finds the Fe annoying because “Yeah... stop treating me as if we are a group, because I am my own person, separate from you.”

I’ve noticed just with my own Fe-using father that things automatically become “us” -- what “we” are going to do today, because as a Fe, he thinks of his family in terms of a group dynamic, at which he is the head. He talks about “we” need to do weight loss, and feels better if I do it with him, because then he isn’t alone. It used to bug me, having him speak for me (Fi) all the time, but then I realized it’s just how he sees our family and me -- as an extension of himself. I will still, whenever irritable, come up with “what’s this ‘we’ -- I ain’t doing it” sort of responses, because I’m a brat. There’s also a severe discomfort in a Fi user to be praised for something -- a Fe gets encouragement from an external consensus or praise / reassurance, but the Fi will reject it if it doesn’t fit how they feel about how they did. Like, once when I was about twelve, a guy walked up to me in church, one of the elders, and complimented me in front of other people for having behaved appropriately, unlike some of my peers, at a social function the day before. He appreciated how quiet and respectful I was, not loud or constantly drawing attention to myself. This would have bolstered a Fe, because -- it’s a confirmation of appropriate behavior! It made me uncomfortable and I ran out of the church to be alone with my embarrassment, because it had drawn unwanted attention to me, and why should I be thanked or singled out for doing something *I* knew was appropriate?

I’ve also noticed HOW MUCH TROUBLE FPs have with revealing their feelings in a casual way; FJs will enthusiastically tell you how they are feeling (”I love this so much! I love you so much! I love e-mailing you so much!”) which puts the FP on the spot. They aren’t socially-taught to automatically spew back a “fake” “OMG I LOVE YOU SO MUCH TOO!” because it feels... fake. Inauthentic, unless they 100% mean it, and it may take some time to figure out IF they mean it. Saying something like that can take a lot of internal processing, angst, working through things, and then finding he courage to say to someone (or write it) -- “I like you too. I mean. A LOT.” I have Fi-dom friends and we have talked for hours how this can be a problem with us both -- being unable to force ourselves to say things that we “mean” or want to say, because it feels... too exposing or awkward or “casual.” People throw around stuff that to us... is very deep and meaningful. Can you “love” pizza (casual) and “love” your best friend (deep) at the same time? Shouldn’t there be a difference between casual and meaningful conversations?

100% of the miscommunications I have with FJ friends is because I cannot “fake” anything I do not feel; the awkward silences whenever they gush and I have no response or cannot say what I know the polite “thing” is to say. But I am also grateful for them, because they can put my complex abstract feelings into words in only a few minutes of listening. “Oh, you are feeling frustrated. Sad. Exhausted.” Etc. Oh, thanks. Yes, that is what it is. Thank you. Putting all these swimming vague things into words is Hard, y’all.

I literally get asked about INFJ vs. INFP every week, so go through the infp x infj tag. There’s like... 13 pages worth of posts if this hasn’t cleared it up for you.

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Honestly the only thing 16p gave me is the imposter syndrome, memes and this incoherent need to type everyone around me

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ENFJ Me : What am I gonna do with my life?! What am I gonna do with my life?!

*opens 16personalities *

*searches famous ENFJ's *

Me after seeing Oprah Winfrey and Barrack Obama on the list : I am going to be something huge....... *sighs *

Meanwhile my INFP best friend :

*opens search box *

*types * how to survive in a post apocalyptic world?; Why am I still alive?; Can I die from serotonin overdose?......

[mbtiloveu]

🌼 INFP manga and anime couple 🌼

🌸 INFP x ISTJ

mitsuri kanroji x iguro obanai (kimetsu no yaiba)

kokoro x mitsuru (darling in the franxx)

suiren shibazeki x kouha kawasumi (hibi chouchou)

🌸 INFP x ESTJ

miko sonoda x jun matsunaga (living no matsunaga-san)

🌸 INFP x ISFJ

rikka takahashi x yuuta togashi (chuunibyou)

naho x kakeru naruse (orange)

🌸 INFP x ESFJ

Kou Mabuchi x futaba yoshioka (ao haru ride)

izumi miyamura x kyouko hori (horimiya)

🌸 INFP x ENTJ

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🌸 INFP x INTJ

shizuku tsukishima x seiji amasawa (mimi wo sumaseba)

komugi x meruem (hunter x hunter)

takao kasuga x sawa nakamura (aku no hana)

🌸 INFP x ENFJ

rinko yamato x takeo gouda (ore monogatari!!)

kou sakuragi x naoya nifuji (wotakoi)

🌸 INFP x INFJ

yukiteru amano x yuno gsai (mirai nikki)

🌸 INFP x ESTP

fuuko x andy (undead unluck)

🌸 INFP x ISTP

uka ishimori x kai miura (honey lemon soda)

eriko ichimura x akira oumi (koi wazurai no ellie)

🌸 INFP x ESFP

hiyori nishiyama x yuushin hirose (hiyokoi)

ninon okamura x yuiji kira (kyou no kira-kun)

🌸 INFP x ISFP

Legoshi x haru (beastars)

🌸 INFP x ENTP

akito sohma x shigure sohma (fruits basket)

celty x shinra (durarara)

🌸 INFP x INTP

aiko tanaka x punpun onodera (oyasumi punpun)

rhea sanka x chihiro furuya (sankarea)

keito aoyama x kouichi mine (cat street)

🌸 INFP x ENFP

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🌸 INFP x INFP

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ENFJ: Every time I see INFP, my heart clenches and I get all nervous.

ENFP: That’s because you love them.

[Later]

INFP: Every time I see ENFJ, my heart clenches and I get all nervous.

INTP: Don’t get close to them again, you seem to have an allergic reaction.

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Aha.

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Grabbing my bikini asap ...

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The forever lost Shores

Somedays, I am dew

slipping from the tip of the leaves,

moistening the roots.

Falling to the ground, and yearning to meet.

Yet consuming my very essence,

each sand grain as it whispers, 'sorry',

Snatching my independence;

while you try to bury my last breath, desperately.

And somedays, still I am the rain

Delicate. Tip-top. Bursting from clouds,

I am the farmer's sigh, the result of awaited prayers and pain.

Dislike me maybe? Yet I'm loud.

Tip-tap. Tip-top, I say flooding lanes.

Onto the countryside, I embrace the arms of my lover.

Chattering merrily, flowing through the meadows,

I hold back nothing as I reach my destination, the river.

With love, I get better hopes of tomorrow.

Parting with grief, I flow onto reach the waterfall,

Loud. Noisy. Drowning out every voice,

"Listen to me", I say, aloud, hear me  before meeting the shore.

Going with the flow, my screams still devoice.

Laughing people, capturing calm-evening view,

They are yet to discover the agony I go through.

On other days, I am the mist.

Obscuring the view, pleading each one of you to see me.

Every tiny droplet, gripping me as I struggle to exist.

Masking the road, the rivers and the trees.

You throw your hands, frustrated.

Yet don't realise I am begging to be visible.

As I disappear, with my last breath, You're elated.

I have learnt to sacrifice, yet why does the thought of death make me tremble?

Yet on other days, I am snow.

Proud. Elegant. White. Falling, blocking, confining.

Silent, charming? Haha, destructive wherever I go.

Forcing you to run back for covers, shivering. Sighing.

And yet on other broken days, I am the tears,

hidden under the warmth of the showers.

Silent in pain, consoling as you weep in agony and fear.

Imprints of your pain, whispering softly, "It'll be soon over."

I lay on your cheeks before you wipe me away,

I am salty okay? So you shed me at night on the pillows.

Muffled by your cries, I sing you to sleep everyday

I forfeit my life on the cover, allowing death to swallow.

Night fades away, morning comes by, but I am long gone,

Too late you realise- no one to comfort you when you're torn.

I AM DISRUPTING FIRES FOR YOU,

I AM DOUSING FIRES, OVER THE PYRE

I LET MYSELF BURN FOR YOUR DREAMS TO BE TRUE

I AM THE BEAUTY YOU LEFT TO PERISH, FOR I AM NO MORE WHAT YOU DESIRE.

I AM THE CALM WATERS, AND YET DISAGREEING

I ONLY FLOW IN YOUR PURSUIT

I AM SACRIFICIAL IN MY VERY BEING

YOU CONTINUE TO LAUGH, CALLING ME A WEAKLING.

PUSHING ME AWAY, FORCING ME OFFROUTE.

I AM -

And yet today? I am the Drought,

Cry out and beg the Lord Poseidon

You called me weak? So today, I refuse to sprout.

I refuse to come, even if you beg the earth or the horizons.

You give me sunlight, I grant you rainbows.

Refracting. Dispersing. Not intending yet beautiful, happy, even.

Filling the world with happiness even as I go.

Yet you refuse to help me, letting the demons destroy me within.

So I am daring, selfish, merciless,  unforgiving, fatal, flooding you all as I go,

Maybe because somewhere, someone yet assaulted medusa and abducted a Persephone.

I am revengeful today, sacrificial and giving each day although,

Maybe because there's no one willing to stop me from my catastrophe.

Everyday I am forgiving, caressing, giving, sacrificing,

But today, I am writing, avenging, calling a vengeful uprising.

SO SAY YOUR PRAYERS FOR MERCY CAUSE I AM THE DROUGHT,

Everyday I am merciful, but today? Haha, I am NOT!

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This is by far, my favourite work. It's a rhyme scheme so I'm hoping most of y'all would like it. Read on and point out if any mistakes!

Also I would love to know what or how you interpret the poems. XD!

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Snape: Hero? Villain? Both? Neither?

Alright guys.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, and just need to let it out.  

I see how Snape can be a creeper. I see how he is seen by half- or more - of the HP fandom as a villainous, creepy, stalker, whiny adult that never got over being bullied or his first love. I see why people don’t like him, but I still love and mourn for this beautifully written wizard. I still cry over his tragic ending and - really - tragic life.

Do I not see all the wrong he’s done just because he died? How can I still care for an obsessive freak who holds on to old grudges?? I mean, he was a kid when he was bullied. People change. Forgive and forget, right?

…. Have the people criticizing Snape been bullied? Have those of you who rant about him needing to just move on with his life and get over himself been beaten to a pulp just because you won’t/ don’t/ can’t fight back?? Have you gone home day after day with black eyes, hiding bruises, telling your family that your lips were just really dry and cracked? Do you know what it’s like to have wounds that no one can see, that rarely anyone can even pretend to understand because they’re from mental, rather than physical, bullying and abuse?

*If you have, I critallcy accept your feedback.*

As someone was practically bullied by an entire town-a small one yes, but size doesn’t matter if the majority is united does it?- both physically and mentally, I totally see where Snap is coming from.

But, WhatRealityIsThisAgain! Harry was bullied, and he still became the hero! He didn’t join forces with Voldemort!!

You are ABSOLUTELY right! Harry had friends and guidance from 11 years old up!

Snape had one person who was kind to him from 11 years old and up. Probably before that.

ONE.

PERSON!

Harry had friends, mentors.

Snape…

Had Lilly.

Until he made one fatal mistake, until he slipped and called her a terrible name in the wizarding community.  Until the bullying was getting worse. Until now, the only person to show him affection since god knows when, started to be made fun of on his behalf as well. Until her standing up for him was causing him to be bullied more and her to be brought into it. Because some asshole jock had his eye on her.

Let’s not forget that Serious, Peter, and James literally tried to kill Snape until James got cold feet. THIS was their extent of bullying him!! Serious really WOULD have let Snape die that night, Lupin would have had to live with that burden (though he really wouldn’t be at fault), and James only “saved” him RIGHT before it was too late.

Snape lived the life every victim of bullying fears. He didn’t get to even continue being friends with the girl he loved, the man that bullied him-made his life a living HELL!-married the woman Snape loved, the rest of the group of bullying jocks became idols, while he was stuck at a dead end job, in a dungeon, stuck with more brats that had barely anything nice to say, being used as a tool by 2 parties, died to protect a child that HATED him in a world of people that hated him!

Yes. He did tear a picture of his friend and love to keep it in his coat. No, he DIDN’T want to be reminded that the woman he loved married the man the constantly tortured him.

Yes he did join up with Voldy, but not to kill muggle born, not to put purebloods on the top. No. He wanted revenge, change. Change is such an easily manipulated topic. In the beginning, I wonder if Voldy told Snape his plan to kill all the mudbloods, or to help bring Snape his justice. Make those who hurt him pay? He was a 16-17 year old boy who was constantly being bullied!!!! Voldy is a phenomenal talker/master manipulator!! If you don’t know that, did you read the books??? Snape did snap out of the whole thing. The moment Lilly was in danger, he risked EVERYTHING to save her! When he couldn’t save HER?? HE. SAVED. HER. SON! He DESPISED Harry most of the time! But STILL risked EVERYTHING to save him!! “Dont tell me you’ve come to care for the boy” his response? A doe. A symbol of his love. Of his sign of happiness and strength. He did care for Harry. If he didn’t, he could have stopped long before he did. Even obsession dissolves after death. Love? Love never does.

So, you can hate on Snape. Yes, he was far from perfect. But remember: Bullying never leaves you. There will always be triggers and random flashbacks. No matter how much you heal, being bullied - ESPECIALLY  as a child/young adult - will ALWAYS have it’s affect on someone. I STILL feel angry, hurt, and made fun of when people CHEER ME ON!!! because when I was clapped for when I was young, it wasn’t a good thing. That pain never leaves completely.

Most villains, are the heroes that didn’t get saved.

Snape… he risked and lost EVERYTHING for those he truly loved and cared about. And honestly, I personally believe that he is one of the most beautifully honest characters EVER written!

-whatrealityisthisagain

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The closest a fictional character came to reality = Severus Snape!

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Dazai, flirting: I've finally found a reason to live!! I've lived to this day so that I can be in a double suicide with you!!😭😭😍💕💋😻💓💗💖💘💞