sorry if this sounds whiney but i just gotta vent yk
so tw: body shaming, incest accusations, rape mention, slut shaming, homophobia, mommy issues
ever since i was 10 (that's the earliest i can remember of this happening) my mom has been repeatedly calling me a whore, a jailbaiter, calling me 'worringly fat' (i'm only slightly overweight because my muscle mass is dense due to genetics), calling me the f-slur, saying i'm queerbaiting, and also accusing me of trying to/actively sleeping with my dad, my brothers, my uncles, and my older male cousins.
i try not to blame her too much and to let it go because she has been abused in her past, but it makes me feel like i can't form any meaningful relationship or bond with the (familial or not) male figures in my life otherwise i'm 'trying to sleep with them'. For years I've had nightmares of being sexually assaulted and abused by close family members while my mother (in my dreams) would brush it off, not believe me, or make it seem like i wanted it.
i don't think she would do this if it actually ever did happen to me, but everything in my head is so fucked up that i don't know anymore. I'm sixteen now and struggling with anorexia, and have been for the past year or so. I've tried to tell both my parents on multiple occasions about the fact that I'm not well (when i have a clear enough head to ask for help), as well as bringing up my mental health issues, but every time they have brushed it off, saying that 'not eating for a day isn't anorexia', 'you know you can literally just eat', and 'i see how much you actually eat, the only thing you have is elbow disease'. (meaning that my elbow is always moving because i keep shoveling food into my mouth). Bear in mind i have shown both of them my calorie ledger in an attempt to try to get them to believe me.
at the milder end, both my parents and my brothers have told me that i'm lying about being queer and that i'm trying to be a lesbian because i think it's cool. (funny thing about that--i'm not lesbian, nor have i ever claimed to be. I am bisexual, which multiple family members have stated 'does not exist'.)
Anyway, it is what it is, right? I guess i'm just fed up a little.