[iunmadeher]

louis de pointe du lac — denial is a river

[bumblequinn]

hi @sourpatchsquids! thank you for your question.

as an artist with ADHD, i know this struggle very well. unfortunately offering advice on this kind of thing can be tricky, because what works for me may not work for you (and vice versa!). nonetheless, i can try; take whatever works for you, forget the rest, or reshape any part of it as you see fit. :)

but before i offer any actual tools, i have one caveat. i want you to take a moment to reflect and consider if you should be:

changing expectations

the timing of this question seems fated, because just the other day i had a therapy session wherein i expressed my grief and frustration over struggling to work lately due to my seasonal depression. it's not fair that i'm struggling just because it got a little darker outside! i just want the spark i had in the summer! i was so much more consistent!

my therapist's response: nothing about human beings is consistent. we get sick, we get tired, we get hungry and thirsty (and thirsty) and sad and lonely and restless and stressed and overwhelmed. this all gets amplified for folks who are atypical in some way or another.

when my therapist compared our seasonal cycles to those of plants and other animals, who wilt and slow down and hibernate, i protested aloud that i wanted to be a perennial instead. at this she said: even perennials change with the seasons. rose bushes have to be pruned, sometimes down to half their height! it was a dose of perspective i didn't particularly want, but really needed.

so when you're struggling to work through executive dysfunction, burnout, or brain fog, it can help to first check in with yourself about a few things. what do you have the capacity for right now? do you need any accommodation? and if so, what changes you might make to accommodate yourself?

with practice and self reflection, i've learned a handful of specific routines that help me when i'm struggling with creative work, which i'll detail next. note that while your question is specifically about music and i am specifically a musician, i believe that all of these suggestions can apply to most any form of digital creative work.

with that in mind:

#1: work slower

when i'm at the top of my game, i can get a LOT done in a day. but when i'm depressed, fatigued, or distracted, i just can't go full steam. sometimes i'll try to convince myself that i can if i just push harder, but what actually ends up happening is that i'm just fiddling with settings and going in circles rather than moving forward.

instead of that, when i want to work a lot but can't, i try to work slow. how slow? however slow i need to. take four hours to figure out the melody for a single verse. take all day to figure out that drum groove. yeah, i take a lot of breaks in between. who says i have to be my Absolute Most Productive Every Day Or Else? that's the puritan work ethic talking. kill it. be kind to yourself.

i'm reminded of advice i once read about some super successful and prolific author (gaiman? king? pratchett?) who said they wrote only four hundred words every weekday. that's already less than the word count of this post, and i'm only—[travels into the future to check my final word count]... 22.8% of the way through writing it!

now, i don't think i could function that way, because ADHD means some days i'm hyperfocused like crazy, and other days i just have no steam at all (more on that in #4-6). but it seems to me that if even someone highly respected in their profession can achieve what they have with only a little bit of work on a regular basis, maybe i don't have to punish myself for not pumping out a finished work every single week.

doing less work per day means you're much less likely to burn out, which does a lot for working more consistently. if that consistency still doesn't look like a five-day work week, that's okay! as long as it helps you work even a little more often when you want to, it's something worth doing.

however, if you're still feeling truly stuck, all hope isn't lost. you can still try:

#2: switch projects

sometimes the reason i'm moving slow is because of a bad brain day, but sometimes the reason is that i just cannot muster the motivation to do the specific task i'm trying to do right now. ADHD is fueled by novelty and interest, and if i'm not interested in what i'm doing, or it's feeling stale, that's a sign that i need to switch gears.

this is why first it's helpful for me to have more than one project going at a time. this might mean completely unrelated works, or it might just mean related tracks as with the music for a game like SLARPG or susan taxpayer.

the idea here is not to start a dozen different projects and bounce around them like i'm playing whac-a-mole—though i have done that. (i don't recommend it.) the idea here is to have a manageable number of different projects i can be working on so that if i get bored or stuck on something, i have fallback options.

what that number of projects is depends entirely on the week. maybe right now it's two, maybe another time it's three. i would probably be getting carried away if i tried more than that, but that's just my own limit. maybe yours is different. that's something for you to think about.

but it doesn't have to stop there.

#3: switch focus

maybe there is this one project that i just HAVE to work on, but the task i'm trying to do at this stage just isn't coming to me. okay, well, why don't i try working on a different task?

let's say i can't figure out what i want to do with the melody in one part of the song:

what if i try jumping ahead to a different part of the melody? ...no, i'm stumped on melodies today. okay, how about working on the drums instead? ...hmm no, i think i'm just completely tapped out on writing parts right now. alright, what if i organized my tracks, making sure they're all grouped and named in a way that i can work with easily? what if i did a rough volume balance for the mix?

and so on. if that's not enough to shake the off stuckness, i might consider: what can i do to make this project more interesting to me?

what happens if i try using an instrument or effect that i almost never reach for? what if i try sampling something obscure? what if i bang out the drums using my midi keyboard instead of drawing it in on the piano roll?

any approach that breaks me out of my usual habits is bound to get that feeling of novelty and fun back when i need it.

or maybe i can't do any of that right now, and so i take the time to answer a question from a fellow musician instead. i consider that part of my work, too, in a broader sense. check in with yourself and figure out what you can do right now. the rest will still be there later.

but okay, let's say you try switching gears, and switching again, and again, and nothing is moving. you try new approaches, but that wall of awful is insurmountable in this moment. it happens! the next thing you might try is:

#4: learn something new

when you aren't able to make progress on your projects, you can still make progress on your knowledge and craft. i often find this stokes a flame of inspiration in me where there wasn't one before. and even when it doesn't, it still gets my brain out of that feeling of stuckness and dread and into one of thought and action. learning also benefits in the long term because it adds to the well of knowledge from which you draw for all your future works.

for all the awfulness that exists on the internet, it remains an absolute treasure trove of teaching. there's an endless ocean of videos, blog posts, and articles from which you might learn something about your craft. (and if you sail the seven seas, plenty of book PDFs as well. 🦜🏴‍☠️)

it's true that the quality and depth of information out there can vary wildly, but in my experience most resources get at least some things right. and the more you research, practice, and figure out what works for you, the better you will learn to differentiate between the advice worth keeping, and the advice to forget. (that goes for all of what i'm saying here, too!)

that said, since our shared focus is music, a few resources i would highly recommend are:

music theory and composition music matters, 12tone, charles cornell, music with myles, 8-bit music theory, and this introduction by andrew huang

mixing and production dan worrall (especially this series for fabfilter), kush after hours, red means recording, andrew huang, alice yalcin efe, in the mix

general inspiration nahre sol, ben levin, david hilowitz, game score fanfare, posy, jerobeam fenderson, open reel ensemble, and ELECTRONICOS FANTASTICOS!

(if any readers have their own helpful resources for creating music or any other media, feel free to share in the replies & reblogs! 💓)

of course, on an especially bad day, it might be a challenge to seek out information, let alone retain it. that can feel pretty bad, but remember: be kind to yourself. the next thing you might consider trying is:

#5: consume art you love

not just music. books. shows. movies. games. illustration. animation. whatever moves and inspires you.

but do it intentionally. don't just pull up some random thing the algorithm suggested! check in with yourself about what you want (or are able) to engage with right now. choose accordingly. if you get a little way into it and realize it's not scratching that itch, hit the bricks. check in with yourself again. wash, rinse, repeat, until you find whatever it is that speaks to you right now.

and do it actively, if you can. don't just let it go in one eye and out the other! really pay attention to the work. what do you like about it? what are its themes and motifs? what makes it work so well? what are its flaws, and how much do they matter? what might you do differently? you can write notes as you do this if it helps, but even simply noticing and thinking goes a long way.

what you don't want to do is come at this with a lens of shame or envy. you're not here just to say to yourself, "ugh, if only i could do THAT." it's okay if it happens. use that thought as a springboard for curiosity: "well okay, how DID they do that? do i have the resources for it? if so, how could i apply that to my own work? if not, how can i adapt it, or what do i need to learn?" keep your mind open and approach the work with a sense of wonder.

as a creative person, it's very easy to think, "i should be making something right now, not watching a movie!" but that thought forgets something vital: your art is a response in a conversation. of course the "language" you use is your own, and maybe if you're lucky you'll invent a new word. but most of the words you use have been around long before you were born. you're just one voice in a dialogue that spans continents and generations, and that's okay. it's even the whole point.

none of us is an island. we are profoundly social animals. just as we can't live without eating, we can't make without learning. so half of making art is consuming it. consider this part of the process as well.

and finally,

#6: rest, and live your life

let's say you're in really dire straits. you've tried working slower. you tried changing focus, you tried changing projects. you want to take in new information or actively engage with your favorite art, but you're not in the headspace for it. what now?

take a nap. take a walk. take a shower. eat a nice meal, or an okay one. talk to a friend. maybe even do that chore you've been putting off (you know the one).

it's human to always crave making, but you're not a machine—and even if you were, machines need regular maintenance, too! you wouldn't drive a car that's completely out of gas, and you won't do yourself any favors treating your body that way either.

i know that when you take a break it feels as though you're not accomplishing anything, but you are: you're taking care of your animal self. and while you do that, your creative brain doesn't stop working! much like windows, it has countless background processes running at any given moment, with inscrutable names like "cbdhsvc_692da" or "Microsoft Edge Update Service." it's true, i checked.

when you're stuck on a project and you step away to rest, your brain is still chipping away at your ideas unconsciously. i like to tell people, "it's percolating." much like waiting for a pot of water to boil, that idea is still heating up, even when you take a step away. just be sure to check in on it once in a while. the time will pass, and it'll be boiling again before long. :)

before i go, i'll leave you with one last thing to keep in mind as you try all of these strategies:

be kind to yourself.

being human is just about one of the hardest things you can do. let alone being a human trying to survive capitalism while living with disabilities! the last thing you need on top of that is to overwork yourself, talk to yourself negatively, or treat yourself harshly. there are plenty of other people in the world who do that to you—don't be one of them.

i'm not saying that you shouldn't try to challenge yourself, to test your limits and go above and beyond your ambitions, if that's what you want to do. just remember that hard work and self compassion are not mutually exclusive. so be careful not to bully yourself. take pride in the progress you make, even when it seems small. encourage yourself like you would a friend who's going through a hard time. and when you challenge yourself, be your own cheerleader.

i hope you find this advice helpful! remember, this is just what helps me, so don't feel like you have to follow any of it exactly. maybe taking time to learn new information helps break you out of your rut more than working slowly, so you reach for that tool first. maybe having multiple projects going at once is too distracting for you, so you prefer to stick to one at a time. whatever your needs are, feel free to alter and adapt these ideas to fit you.

thank you for reading, and i wish you the best of luck in your creating.

with care, bee 🐦

[loveletters2myself]

my only desire is to live a simple life. i want to keep my house clean and neat. i want to fuel my body with nutritious whole foods. spend my weekend mornings baking. i want to take care of my body, skin, and hair. i want to tend to my garden with herbs, vegetables and flowers. i want to read and write. raise my babies with pure love and care. be deeply in love with my soulmate. all i need/want is peace, good health and happiness.

[luxy-liu-deactivated20210822]

Hobbies & Skills To Indulge In For High Value Women

Painting

Strength Training

Learning Languages

Boxing

Economics

Pilates

Yoga

Pole Dancing

Pottery

Sewing

Reading

Cooking

Baking

Investing

Studying

Studying History (non white)

Learning Instruments

Ballet

Gardening

Travelling

Philanthropy

Volunteering

Knitting

Martial Arts

Dancing

Horse Riding

Sports

Journaling

Attending Events (Ted Talks, community events etc)

Board Games (chess, ludo, mahjong etc)

Nutrition 

See Also

Beauty Rituals For High Value Women

[thesugaringescort]

Ways to say "No" politely to a Salt Daddy or Client

As you never know when you need a spare ace in your back pocket. Plus, instead of being rude and having them come back at you rudely, this may just be an opportunity to further see if you can come to a better arrangement?

1. I’m sorry but it is not a priority for me at this time.

2. My schedule is up in the air right now, I’ll need time to sort this out.

3. I would prefer if you could offer another option.

4. I don’t love your proposal, which means I’m not the right person for it.

5. I love your suggestion, but my intuition is telling me that I’m not the person to accept this.

6. I would love to say yes to everything, but I’m not comfortable compromising that much.

7. Thank you for the explanation of your requirements. There most definitely is a person who would accept this arrangement. Unfortunately, I am not the person.

8. My instincts tell me that I am not suitable for this arrangement.

9. I am seeking an arrangement that is equally balanced to please both parties, and what you have offered would leave my happiness less than desirable.

10. Thank you for your time, I’ve enjoyed our communication, however, I do not feel that it is in our best interests to accept this proposal.

Be nice even when they are rude, as you never know when they are testing you, and when it could come back to haunt you!

I have had low ball and strange offers, politely declined them, only to have them come back with a seriously better offer as I handled myself as a lady ;)

[seductr3ss]

How to Hustle & Be a Long-Term Sugar Baby

I have been with my current SD Red for almost a year and a half now. We have been through a lot of ups and downs because he is married. But I think our arrangement has developed into a strong friendship and relationship. Because of Red, I have been able to travel to Punta Cana with friends, New Orleans, San Francisco, Florida, and soon Canada. I’ve been able to have plastic surgery (breast implants), get a new car (soon), pay for school courses, help out my family, spoil my friends, pay off my credit cards twice now, been given gifts (MacBook Air, Beats, Prada bag, LV), etc. I’m extremely thankful for everything I have received from my SD.

So I wanted to share some tips on how to hustle to get the most out of your arrangement and also some tips on maintaining your hustle as a long-term sugar baby. Most sugar arrangements only last a few months because any number of reasons (SDs’ work schedules and work traveling conflicts, age and maturity differences, differing allowance expectations, finding other SBs/SDs, SB choosing to date traditionally or settle down, etc.). Hopefully you dolls find these insights helpful for your sugar hustle :)

COMPANIONSHIP:

-Time with your SD should be stress-free and carefree. Your SD probably has a lot of stressors in his life (work, kids, wife), and he looks to you to be his “escape.” I remember one of the last times I hung out with Red that he was visibly disappointed that he had to leave me early to go run an errand his wife requested. Being with a sugar baby means being with someone who can make you forget about your real everyday life. Do your best to be positive, happy, and funny when you’re with your SD. He has enough drama in his real life. I’ve never gotten visibly angry with my SD because he’s said before how his wife can be a bitch and has anger issues. The last thing you want to do is remind him of his wife.

-But do be real with your SD. Red and I share similar family dysfunctions when it comes to our families. We open up to each other and discuss family issues. I read about another SB who basically said you need to be happy 24/7 around your SD, and I don’t think that’s always the case. You’re a real person who has real issues too. You can’t be expected to be a robot, you have to be authentic. I’m not saying to make your SD your personal therapist and have crying sessions. But sharing some of the problems in your life shows you’re a real person and this communication connects you two emotionally. Relating to your SD despite your age, maybe race, and socioeconomic differences can only help strengthen your bond.

KEEPING THINGS SPICY SEXUALLY:

-Buy lingerie and model it for your SD. You get to be your sugar daddy’s ultimate fantasy. Chances are, any sex is great sex to men (lets be real here). But you want to ensure you keep your sugar daddy satisfied so he doesn’t go looking for a side sugar baby, or drop you altogether. I like buying inexpensive Yandy lingerie online and surprising my SD with outfits. Send your SD “sneak peak” or “preview” pictures to indulge him and get him really excited for your next meet. Men are visual creatures. Try out different looks (school girl outfit, really trashy looking body stockings, teddys, bras and undies) to keep your SD on his toes and intrigued with what you’ll be wearing next. Don’t wear lingerie each time you see your SD though, you naked works just as well sometimes.

-Research and practice. Read AskMen or Cosmo (sometimes questionable) or the Kama Sutra for new sex positions or sex tips. You can also bring sex toys into the bedroom (whips, handcuffs, vibrators, dildos) to keep things interesting. If you’re not into sex toys, try different flavored lubes, whip cream, syrups. Just be sure to clean up after! You don’t want to leave any marks or residue on your SD when he has to leave to head home. 

-Give good blowjobs. I cannot stress having a good head game enough. Men will literally turn to putty in your hands. Watch porn or read online technique posts for inspiration.

-Practice safe sex. My SD and I still use condoms when we have penetrative sex. Sometimes I get the feeling that he doesn’t want to, but he always does. You can’t risk your sexual health for any amount of money. A lot of men from the older generation seem to be uninformed about current STIs, birth control, etc. So educate yourself and educate your SD too.

-Dress to impress. Sometimes you can be sexy without even trying. I wore fishnet tights underneath a tight skirt with a loose top on a date with my SD. I thought my outfit was fairly relaxed. But Red said he couldn’t stop staring at my legs and still thinks about that outfit to this day. You can be unintentionally sexy and leave a lasting impression with just one outfit piece.

KEEPING THINGS INTERESTING CONVERSATIONALLY:

-People love to talk about themselves. I’ve taken a few psychology and sociology courses and I learned that people are very egocentric by nature. So asking your SD an open-ended question about HIMself, HIS work, HIS family, HIS hobbies, his cars, his interests etc., and then asking follow-up questions off that is a sure way to keep the conversation flowing.

-There are always safe topics. If you can’t seem to find the words, you can always refer back to safe topics like your day, his day, your school, his work, his family, your family, summer plans, plans together, talk about the food you’re eating, weather. Or just smile and flirt if all else fails! 

-Deeper conversations show maturity and intelligence. I also like to have somewhat deeper conversations with my SD about policy (minimum wage, cost of college, wealth disparity in this country), politics, family, relationships, marriage, religion, etc. People are complex individuals and I just enjoy learning about people’s thoughts and lives. It’s fun for me to pick the brain of someone twice my age who is successful, a white male, intelligent (Ivy league educated), and married. 

-Cherry picking is a conversational technique. It’s pretty useful in keeping a conversation going. You can read more about it here. I think I first read about cherry picking in a psychology/dating book. You’ll have much better active listening skills once you practice this too.

HOW I HUSTLE:

-The “planting the seed” hustle. I was able to get my SD to agree to a boob job, and now a new $20k car among other great gifts by “planting the seed.“ You don’t want to come right out and ask your SD for something big out of nowhere. I wouldn’t plan a whole speech or sitting your SD down at dinner and asking him point blank. He will feel ambushed and most likely say no. I would first bring up what I wanted casually and jokingly in conversation while we were having fun at dinner, or in private. You have to choose the “right” moment to bring it up initially and then continue to “water” and “feed” what you planted in his mind :)

-The “benefits you too” hustle. For my boob job, I didn’t even know I wanted one until I thought it would be cool to get big boobs one day. I decided to bring it up with my SD while we were being intimate (it’s hard to say no to a girl sucking your penis). My SD said he would think about it, but he soon said yes. I was able to sell him on me getting boobs because he gets to enjoy them too! My SD even said that he really liked the idea of buying me boobs because he got to be with the young/innocent (aka flat chested me), and then the bombshel/slutty (aka big boobed me). I also pointed out that getting me a car benefits my SD because I’ll be able to drive to him now when we meet. He agreed and said he didn’t think of the benefit to him before. The best sales people make you think you need to buy whatever it is they’re selling. So hustle smart, not hard.

LASTLY… -No doesn’t mean no. My SD has told me no before when I’ve asked for things. But no doesn’t necessarily mean no. My SD has changed his mind before on things I’ve asked for. It never hurts to ask again, and the worst thing your SD can say is no. Do not be resentful because your SD will be as generous as you are with him. 

-Be YOUnique. Be yourself. Just because you’re a sugar baby doesn’t mean you have to be a glam goddess 24/7. Be real, ladies. We are young! Be a little crazy ;) Red and I can appreciate each other for who we are as people and not just who are are in an arrangement, and because of this we have true companionship.

[mothafuckinanimals]

How did you get into this whole SD SB thing, I'm a senior in high school right now and I really want to move to California for college and I think it would just be fantastic to live the type of life that you do and getting help with paying for school and housing and stuff but how does one start this journey into in SB life? I hope you don't mind me asking.

i dont mind at all! when i started, i did ZERO research. literally nothing. i just made a profile and started meeting men. i also didn’t do much in the way of screening & background checks. my first piece of advice is to absolutely get as much info as possible and to thoroughly check out your potentials. i only got lucky… others maybe not so much. if i could change something about my sugar journey, i would absolutely have done very strict research and set a higher standard for myself. when i began, i was getting $250 per meet once or twice a month. to me that was a TON OF MONEY. this was just a year and a half ago and i cant believe i was that stupid. i also cant believe how far i’ve come since then.

my recommendation for new girls is to find something a bit more on the “mentorship” side of sugaring (for example, say you’re looking for guidance on how to manage money, learn about investments, real estate, planning for the future, etc) because the men dont want to feel used. they want to feel useful. how i managed to make my way out here was by finding a man who wanted to offer me a job. there are plenty of men on sugar sites looking for a “hot secretary” or something along those lines. that way, you’re able to get income, get job experience, get mentorship, get business contacts, and potentially housing, all rolled into one!

i feel like this is a strategy most people overlook, or even chastise, but you know what? it worked out extremely well for me and it felt more like i was “earning” my money and feeling more in-control, rather than just feeling like a walking sex object that men just want to throw cash & their dick at.

if you have any other questions or if you want more specific, personalized advice, i am more than willing to help! as a rule i generally answer these kinds of questions privately, so dont be afraid to message off anon.

[goodbyeeveryonee-deactivated202]

Do you have any tips/advice for: getting at least mid range to higher quality clients, getting a higher/steady volume, and any newbie escorting tips or advice you would share with a rookie? Posting Ads really seems very sketchy with the political climate the way it is and freestyling can be really hit or miss when you are starting out. Thank you!

When you’re starting out, you have to price yourself to the location. Unless you’re marketing to a specific area, or if you’re in a huge city, you’ll probably have to start out a bit lower. I would recommend starting lower (not low!) just to get a feel for escorting. High-end is a different game and no one really taught me how to play it until three months ago. Now I’m playing it by ear. Higher quality clients don’t do hourly bookings and I didn’t realize that until recently either. Big spenders want full GFE for hours on end. Trust me: don’t say you do GFE but only want them to fuck and leave. You need a good persona & to immerse yourself in it.

If you’re not sure about advertising (I’m not either because of all of the stings), you can freestyle. Freestyling doesn’t always have to be in person. You can freestyle on Tinder, Hinge, OKC, Pure, Niteflirt, Fetlife, anything that isn’t strictly for escorting. I have a good friend who pulls clients off Tinder. If you have a good bio and know how to market yourself, you’re gold. Watch who you’re matching with for telltale signs of a cop though. Set your location in areas that cops can’t afford. If you’re freestyling in person like at a bar, the way to avoid stings and to avoid lower end clients is to go to highly expensive areas on weekdays when no specials are being run to places that aren’t known for hoeing. Don’t dress indecently. Befriend the bartender, they know where the regular big spenders are and when they go. Tip them well and chat them up. When it comes to speaking to a potential client, you don’t always have to allude to something sexual either. You can talk freely (with your persona on of course) with a few flirts here and there and give them your card with your site on it. I do the same when I’m chatting up a stranger who looks well to do and could be a potential client. I personally don’t mention money when I’m freestyling anymore because it’s hazardous and I see that now. I’d only attempt it in Monaco. Men who’re interested in you will look up your site and see what you’re about, and nothing was illegal about that exchange. :-) How many clients you get based off of this is directly correlated to how much work you put into it. However, from experience, it’s better to have a few regulars than barely any regulars and a lot of new cats coming in.

The key to keeping steady clients if you’re doing GFE is to make it the best damn experience they’ve ever had. Plan it out like it’s an event! Make it special for them. It sounds cliche but they truly just want to feel cared about. If you feel like a girlfriend to them, they’ll keep coming back. So beyond sex, just talking with them, going places with them, massaging them, or even cooking for them (real shit, I knew a girl who did this) makes them feel like the money was worth it. I have regular and VIP prices. My VIP prices include things like a massage, penpal services, or any skill I have that would make them feel loved. Regular prices are GFE of course, but not as specialized. If you have any similar skill put it out there!!! Make yourself truly unique. Like, my cursive is beautiful, so after an overnight, if I’m tryna shower and he’s still asleep, I’ll write a note to him. Something cheeky. I lay it on THICK. I even remember all the details they tell me so upon our next meet I can ask them about it. I’ve made some cookies and bought them gifts (under $100, it’s nothing compared to what they pay me tbh) personalized to their tastes. They like to feel like you’re present. Like a genuine girlfriend they can travel with and spoil without baggage. That’s where the big money comes from, and it’ll keep coming if you treat them like the love of your life when you’re together.

As for tips: make sure you always get the money first and make sure it’s real. Have them give it to you in an envelope, book, or card inconspicuously. I prefer books, adds to my erudite profile. Don’t forget screening at ALL. You need to know exactly who they are. Real clients know you aren’t about to dox their information or anything. Zabasearch and Stud or Dud should be some of your best friends. Never let them tie you up or put you in any position you can’t get out of. Bring your own condoms, they might poke holes in theirs or they might be expired. Check periodically to make sure the condom’s still on. If they’re trying to position you a certain way again and again, there may be a camera in the room. Make sure to check for one and ensure that both of your phones/laptops/whatever are off and far from reach. That’s why I have a heaux apartment I rent out—because there will never be a camera in my own place. I bought detectors for that. Stick to your persona as well! Make sure you don’t contradict yourself. If you have to write down the fake shit write it down, but keep it in your brain. Keep a hoe phone, hoe number, hoe name, hoe email (protonmail is key). Make sure your photos don’t show ANYTHING identifiable. Some girls don’t use the blur feature well enough. And don’t host your site or servers in the US, that’s foolish with SESTA/FOSTA. Just ensure that whatever information you’re putting out can’t be traced back to you at all. Keep a taser, knife, or gun on you and know how to use them. Always let someone you trust know where you are so they can check in with you.

That’s all I can think of.

[goodbyeeveryonee-deactivated202]

May I ask how you used a personal branding class and color theory for your photoshoot? I’ve never thought beyond just pictures of my body and I think that’s so interesting

Yes! The personal branding class taught me that branding will not include all of my essence in its core. It is simply about the parts of me that my clients will most enjoy. That’s no slight to the self, but that’s simple marketing. You have to envision your perfect client. What do they look like? What do they like to discuss? To eat? What are their likes and dislikes? What do they pride themselves on? After you’ve figured this out, do your research on your area. Figure out how many of your perfect clients exist near you. Find everything they dislike and throw it out. Find everything they like and amp that up. For example, my perfect client I know would dislike any references to or about pop culture because they’re moneyed and ~cultured~. If my client hates pop culture, there is a good chance he will hate outfits that are not sophisticated and smart. So fast fashion and cheap-looking lingerie is out of the window. I know my perfect client would read Forbes, travel magazines, and investing magazines. The first and last items are business related. While he’ll want to discuss them (and while I have the range to discuss it), I am trying to be his getaway. So I will focus primarily on those travel magazines. Read those. What hot spots does your perfect client enjoy? Is it rustic, classic, or modern? What does he like to do in these hot spots?

This is what I based my pictures off of. I chose different settings and stages that will appeal to my ideal client’s getaway–things they would never do on a daily basis but enjoy wholeheartedly when they can. None of them were inherently sexual, just an awful lot of teasing. I am leaning towards the companion branding and carefully wording later on that “sex during our date is probable if the chemistry is right”, lol. As for color theory, I noted which colors I saw most saturated in those travel magazines; which ones convey serenity and/or unadulterated passion. Reds, yellows, blues, whites/creams, pinks. Any colors you see along the European coast are colors I used in my shoot. I want to blend with the image of a getaway so that their minds associate me with luxurious peace. I got tired of having to write that I expect only top tier hotels, gifts, and donations. Now my pictures reflect it. The fabrics I used were the soft fabrics–silks, tweeds, velvets (sparingly). I wore my diamonds as well. Kept everything soft and feminine. 💞

I will be shooting in a few days with the same person for three short videos. I will have an “Intro to Me” video shot next year in a foreign location. I’m also thinking of taking these up a notch and doing “A Day With Me” sort of shoot, detailing what a weekend/travel date would be like with me, including a seductive (but not revealing) shower shot behind some steam, eateries in my favorite city, horseback riding, and one suggestive in bed shot. You know how men are visual creatures lol. I want it to be more “interactive” for my clients.

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Accumulating Witch Stuff on a budget

First off, when you see witches like myself that have tons of fabulous witch stuff, do understand we didn’t get it all the week we discovered paganism or witchcraft. We have been putting our collections together for years. It is not a game of catch up. If you are just starting out, you don’t need to blow several hundred on supplies. There is a huge advantage to gathering things slowly. In that you will have ample time to become familiar with each object and its inlying spirit.

Wanting some special new supplies isn’t all bad either. When I decided I wanted to do this witch thing innowen tried to dissuade me from buying a mortar and pestle when a bowl and spoon would do. I would not be dissuaded and I bought one from a new age store. Now of course the thing was crap and bits of black enamel broke off in my herbs. But I did learn that I loved grinding herbs in it and I was able to decide what type of mortar and pestle I wanted next and ask for it for yule.

But onto the point. Where does all this stuff come from? How do you get plugged in and develop a great collection?

1) Befriend other witches and pagans, even if they practice way different than you. I can’t say this enough. A good deal of my witchy things were gifts or trades with other witches, pagans and new agers from in person and online. Its easy to get snobby and not want to hang out with the love and light types or to abhor folks who are a bit darker than you on principal. But interactions with others an be your greatest teacher about who you are and aren’t. And most pagan types who have been doing it longer than you have an old tarot deck and a few beginner books they need to rehome anyways. You’ll pay it forward someday.

2) Thrift shop. Don’t go in with anything in mind. Just look for witchy pagan stuff in the isles of the local charity shop. Usually something jumps out at me. Whether it a wall hanging of a pudgy kid with grapes for a bachanal type altar. A candle holder or even a few grab bags of cotton yarn for making charms, something will probably be manipulated for witchcraft and it might only cost a few dollars. I am amazed at what some casual thrifting has turned up for me. Old perfume bottles shaped like hummingbirds? Witchcraft!

3) Mention general stuff you are looking for to thrift gifty friends. Hey thrifty friend, let me know if you see and antlers out thrifting-garage saleing so I can come snap it up. Chances are you friend will delight in surprising you with gifts of their finds. Return the favor and you are golden. My brother is always turning up with loch ness monster themed things for me. I adore him, and the resulting collection.

4) Nature and natury friends. Learn your local trees and stop the car, bike or get of the bus now and then when you see something. This time of year my eyes are peeled for rowan trees and there bright orange red berries. I will take off a sock or my hat to fill up with them and a few branches to take home and make rowan on red thread charms. Get other nature inclined friends to scope out spots for you. Some might even pick up bones and antlers for you. Who knows?

5) Join in on swaps online. After you’ve bought a few things, gotten some gifts, picked up outside, you will someday have extra. Join swaps. Offer whatever you can and take near anything thats offered in exchange. If you don’t like it, gift it to another friend or offer it in an unrelated swap another time.

6) Check your house. I’ve a wand and a few favorite cute witch storybooks from childhood. A nice illustrated Wizard of Oz is a witch treasure! My dad had a cast iron pan in our camping gear. My mom has Irish themed cook books and gardening guides. We even had a few random greek myth books and something on ghosts of Ireland.

7) Halloween clearance sales. The cool stuff I have picked up the day after hallowen at craft and costume stores at 75% off is phenomenal. Always get your black candles this time of year, otherwise they are hard to find.

8) Save money aside for special purchases. Then stalk etsy, ebay and various other websites for just the thing.

9) Ask at holidays for specific things you could witchify. A perfume making kit, playing cards, fairytale books, blank leatherbound journal or sketchbook, nature guides, and etc. You don’t havevto tell your grandma you are a witch to adk her for a rock collection for your birthday.

10) Be observant, patient, give it time, and be giving to other giving people. You will have too much stuff before you know it.

[recreationalwitchcraft]

Bath Magic: Where to Begin

Hey y'all, C here. Today we’ll be talking in depth about the practice of bath magic. 

If you look around most traditional parts of the magical community, you’ll notice that bathing for ritual work or spell work is a fairly common practice. So what do I mean when I say that I specialize in bath magic? For me, bathing and witchcraft go hand in hand, and I do a ritual in the bath once a month at the very least. I’ve always loved the serenity and focus (not to mention complete selfishness) of taking baths, and so as I’ve grown into my craft it seemed like a natural place to draw magical energy. I find that the hot temperature of the water makes it very easy for me to get to a trance-like state (if not outright do trance work) and being naked in the water gives me a great place of vulnerability and rawness to begin any kind of spell work. T and I also use bathing in our shared craft to begin most of our major rituals, and that entails doing a cleansing bath with a special kind of locally made bath salts that we have been using since the very beginning. 

So what do my bath spells usually look like? To be honest, they vary a lot based on my resources at any given moment and the purpose of the spell. There are some things that I do every time such as: 

 • dedicating the bath for myself by placing a talisman or crystal (or other object I carry a lot/feel represents me) on the rim of the tub  

 • placing candles (often in corresponding magical colors and scents) around the tub and bathroom to add to the magical energy of the space 

 • making sure the water drawn is hot enough to remain warm for 40+ minutes and get me to a trancing state but not too hot as to burn my skin or make it uncomfortable for me to be in the water 

I also put something into the water every time I do bath magic, and in fact that is where I believe most of the magical intent is decided. This also widely varies with the type of spell. Some things I’ve done are: 

 • just throw in a handful of Epsom salts for a super basic cleansing. I also use these (in addition to some other ingredients) when I’m doing a real trance or astral travel or trying to communicate with a deity because they make me feel floatier in the water and therefore easier to forget my body

 • put in a few drops of different kinds of essential oils based on their magical associations

 • drop in some tea bags (like mint or chamomile or bags I’ve already used first for drinking) while the water is running to get a good infusion 

 • use bath salts that already have essential oils or herbs (or even glitter!) in the mixture. I use bath salts that I make myself, that T makes for me, and store bought and locally made mixtures, all with good results. It all depends on what I’m feeling at the time. 

 • use pre-made bath bombs, melts, and bubblers from Lush (although I’m sure one could use stuff like this from anywhere) based on the ingredients and names of the products. I’ve used Sex Bomb for a glamour and sex spell, Space Girl for glamour and deity exploration (I do a lot of glamours), etc. 

The practice of bath magic is great because we live in a society where bathing itself is so culturally charged to be reflective and purposeful. For that reason, it is also a great way to practice your craft that is not suspicious, or questioned by people you may live with. Even at their worst, taking long baths appears only over-indulgent. But I can live with that.

-C

[honeycoyote]

Cleansing Mist Recipes

this cleansing spray is great for either cleansing your altar or sacred space, especially when you are not able to burn sage or incense.  

What you’ll need:

A 4-ounce bottle with a fine-mist setting. i personally use glass bottles, because essential oils can eat through plastic.

Optional 1-ounce alcohol; Vodka works fine. (dont use isopropyl or rubbing alcohol) the alcohol gives the spray a longer shelf life.

2 ½ ounces of distilled water.

Essential oils, preferably organic see recipes below 

keep in mind that If you don’t have one of the oils called for you could substitute it with something different, or leave it out all together. Feel free to play around and get creative. if you find a mixture isn’t strong enough you can always add more oil. 

Altar 1

4 parts Frankincense

3 parts Myrrh

2 parts Sage

2 parts Rosemary 

1 part Lavender

Altar 2

5 drops Sandalwood 

2 drops Cedar Wood 

1 drop Dragon’s Blood

1 drop Lemon 

Purification

4 drops Frankincense 

3 drops Myrrh 

2 drops Sandalwood

3 drops Bay

1 drops Cinnamon 

2 drops Rose 

1 drop Lavender

3 drops Rosemary 

Citrus Cleansing 

1 drops Lemongrass 

2 drops Lemon 

3 drops Orange

2 drops Bergamot

1 drop Frankincense

Full Moon

3 drops Rose 

1 drop Lavender

2 drops Sandalwood 

2 drops Myrrh

Love 

4 drops Ylang-ylang 

1 drop Ginger 

1 drops Rosemary 

2 drops Rose

Peaceful Calm 

3 drops Rose

3 drops Lavender 

1 drop Mint 

-HoneyCoyote-

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Salts - Magikal Properties

Whether it is black salt, sea salt, pink salt or just plain old. Salt has a long history of use in rituals, purification, blessings and magical protection. Salt is created and thrives in the Ocean  (or the Womb of the Goddess) It is the taste of Earth in the waters of life. salt is a amazing and versatile natural source for cleansing, and  is a must have for anyone.

Regular Sea Salt - sea salt is overall very common, easy to obtain and affordable. It can be bought in either course chunks or fine like sand. White salt is associated with purification, purity, protection and blessings. 

  Used in consecration

Placed in water to cleanse it

Purification, cleansing and removal or negative energies,

Can be placed around areas to protect them

Commonly used in circles

Used in Curses

Can be made into salt scrubs 

Celtic Sea Salt- is a “moist” unrefined sea salt that is usually found on the coastal areas of France. It has a gorgeous light grey, almost light purple color; it is harvested from the clay found in salt flats. This salt has similar properties to regular sea salt however because it is a much more natural and pure salt its properties are enhanced especially protective and cleansing. It also tastes amazing and is filled with vital minerals, I also find that since it is moist it clumps together nicely making it easy to work with and shape.

Used in consecration

Purification, cleansing and removal of negative energies,

protective spells 

blessings

curses

soothing

great for cooking 

medicinal 

perfect in bath scrubs 

Black Salt- black salt is as the title says black or very dark in color. It is commonly available at magic shops, and is also very easy to make. Not to be confused with black lava salt or kala namak salts used in fine cuisine.RITUAL BLACK SALT IS NOT FOR CONSUMPTION!!!. This salt is easily the most protective of the four as it is great at Nullifying or returning negative energy.

protective

Banishing

fire energy,

can be used for darker earthly Elementals & Deities,

the Crone or Triple Goddesses

working  with the dark moon

Warding, uncrossings, and binding work

can be spread around doorways & windows to keep out evil

Himalayan Pink Salt- is a pure, hand mined salt that is from the foothills of the Himalayan Mountains.  It is harvested from ancient sea salt deposits, it thought to be one of the highest quality and purest salts available. The salt ranges in hues from white to various shades of pink,  and even deep reds; this is the result of the salts high iron and mineralcontent. This salt has the most soothing and loving energizes of the salts and can be used for bringing about love. 

promoting love and friendship

promoting positive energizes 

Healing

cleansing 

spell bags 

baths or scrubs 

If working with salt keep in mind that it is a natural dessicating agent meaning it sucks all the water so if your working with it outside and are sprinkling it on the ground it will kill your grass and destroy the surrounding soil making it inhabitable for plants and such. 

[moonlightacademy]

Beginner Witchcraft - UPDATE

A common post request.

How to begin:

Begin by reading everything you possibly can about witchcraft, plants, other religions, etc.

Take notes on everything you can.

Be creative and use your imagination, look for symbols in your day-to-day lives.  

Re-read your notes and important information,

Do your research.

Make sure you research all paths and philosophies.

Start a consistent meditation and visualization regime.

Find a path you love.

Learn about yourself and your path and beliefs.

Work with your energy and practice harnessing it.

Start practicing your spells after enough research.

Write your own spells and start a grimoire.

Continue reading and learning.                                                                                                                                                                                      

Topics to research:    

Herbalism

Different witchcraft paths

Witchcraft history and its origins.

Different deities in different cultures

Folklore, superstitions,  and wives tales

Mythology from different cultures

The elements Air, Earth, Water, Fire

Basic tools and supplies for the craft

Sabbats and esabats

Witchcraft misconceptions

Nature cycles and lunar phases

Divination

Alchemy

Chakras

Auras

Working with spirits and angels

Tarot

Crystals

Runes                                                                                                       Magickal theory

Spells

Curses - the dangers and how to cast them properly

Sigils

Familiars

Incense

Ways to stay safe when practising

Types of Witches

Cheap witchcraft supplies

Dangers of witchcraft

Solitary v.s Coven witchcraft

Ritual structure

How to set up an altar

Study Nature

Negative energy and how to rid of it.

Candle magick

Astrology

Psychic Practises

Faeries

Protection against harm

Things to practice:

Grounding and centering

Meditation

Casting and closing a circle

Raising, releasing, and visualizing energy.

Record any magick practices, visions, or dreams you receive.   

Spend as much time as possible in nature.        

Listen and observe.               

Practice invoking Gods, Goddesses, and elements.  

Cleansing

Charging

Warding

Keep your grimoire up-to-date

Find a mentor - Someone to help you find your path

Practise staying concentrated

Intent

Remember:

All paths are good paths, do not insult anyone’s path.

You do not need any fancy equipment to practise

You don’t need to practise everyday

Follow your path don’t  let others tell you what to do or force their beliefs on you.

Believe in yourself!

Take care of yourself

Be respectful of others paths and beliefs

Never stop learning

Ask questions

Make lots of friends in the community

Stay safe

Make sure you do not steal from closed religions!

Have fun!

May the moon light your path!

==Moonlight Academy==

[eclecticwitcheryafoot]

Marisol’s Magickal PDF Library Master Post- FIXED!

Ok, kiddies.  Several of you have seen my post about the various resources and books I have in my Pagan/Witchcraft/Magick library and have asked “Where can I download the PDFs from?”

Well, now that things have calmed down a bit…Here it is!  This post will always be growing as I find more PDF books. I did my best to organize them according to category.

Happy reading, loves :)

PS- Please message me if links are wrong or broken!

Book of Shadows/Grimoires

The Azoetia: A Grimoire of the Sabbatic Craft by Andrew Chumbley*

Cunningham’s Book of Shadows: The Path of an American Traditionalist by Scott Cunningham*

The Pop Culture Grimoire: A Pop Culture Magic Anthology by Taylor Ellwood*

The Gardnerian Book of Shadows by Gerald Gardner*

A Grimoire for Modern Cunningfolk: A Practical Guide to Witchcraft on the Crooked Path by Peter Paddon*

Witch’s Master Grimoire by Lady Sabrina*

The Complete Uncut Book of Shadows by Riders of the Crystal Wind*

The Alexandrian Book of Shadows by Sekhet Sophia*

Crowley/Thelema

The Book of the Law by Aleister Crowley*

The Book of Lies by Aleister Crowley*

The Book of Thoth by Aleister Crowley*

Book 4 by Aleister Crowley, Frater Perdurabo, and Soror Vira*

Book 4 Part 1: Meditation by Aleister Crowley*

The Confessions of Aleister Crowley by Aleister Crowley*

Diary of a Drug Fiend by Aleister Crowley*

Duty by Aleister Crowley*

Eight Lectures on Yoga by Aleister Crowley*

The Equinox by Aleister Crowley*

The Equinox of the Gods by Aleister Crowley*

Goetia of Solomon the King by Aleister Crowley*

Household Gods by Aleister Crowley*

Invocation of Hecate by Aleister Crowley*

Liber CVI (Book 106): Concerning Death by Aleister Crowley*

Liber 777 and Other Qabalistic Writings of Aleister Crowley by Aleister Crowley*

Liber LXXXIV vel Chanokh by Aleister Crowley*

Little Essays Towards Truth by Aleister Crowley*

Magick in Theory and Practice by Aleister Crowley*

Magick Without Tears by Aleister Crowley*

Moonchild by Aleister Crowley*

The Necronomicon: The Call of Cthulhu by unknown

Olla by Aleister Crowley*

The Tao The King by Aleister Crowley*

Thoth Tarot Deck by Aleister Crowley*

The Vision & the Voice With Commentary and Other Papers: The Collected Diaries of Aleister Crowley by Aleister Crowley, Victor B Neuburg and Mary Desti*

Godwin’s Cabalistic Encyclopedia:  A Complete Guide to Cabalistic Magic by David Godwin*

Abrahadabra: Understanding Aleister Crowley’s Thelemic Magic by Rodney Orpheus and Lon Milo Duquette*

Crystals/Gems

Cunningham’s Encyclopedia of Crystal, Gem & Metal Magic by Scott Cunningham*

Dunwich’s Guide to Gemstone Sorcery: Using Stones for Spells, Amulets, Rituals and Divination by Gerina Durwich*

Divination/Psychic Ability

Opening of the Third Eye by Douglas Baker*

Shadow Work Guidebook by Jessica Cross*

Divination for Beginners: Reading the Past, Present, and Future by Scott Cunningham*

The Art of the Pendulum by Cassandra Eason*

The Complete Guide to Psychic Development by Cassandra Eason*

Spiritual Power by Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee*

Gods and Goddesses

Dictionary of the Gods and Goddesses by Michael Jordan*

Encountering Kali: In the Margins, At the Center, IN the West by Rachel Fell McDermott and Jeffrey Kripal*

Singing to the Goddess: Poems to Kali and Uma from Bengal by Rachel Fell McDermott*

The Magic of Kali: Inner Secrets of a Tantrik Goddess by Michael Magee*

Goddesses and the Divine: A Western Religious History by Rosemary Radford Ruether*

Herb/Nature Magick

Treaties on Occult Medicine & Practical Magic by Samael Aun Weor*

The Complete Book of Incense, Oils & Brews by Scott Cunningham*

Earth, Air, Fire & Water: More Techniques of Natural Magic by Scott Cunningham*

Earth Power: Techniques of Natural Magic by Scott Cunningham*

The Encyclopedia of Magical Herbs by Scott Cunningham*

Herbal Magick; A Witch’s Guide to Herbal Enchantment, Folklore, and Divination by Gerina Dunwich*

Sea Priestess by Dion Fortune*

A Witch Alone, New Edition: Thirteen Moons to Master Natural Magic by Marian Green*

Earth Divination: A Practice Guide to Geomancy by John Michael Greer*

The Herbal Alchemist’s Handbook by Karen Harrison*

The Weiser Concise Guide to Herbal Magick by Judith Hawkins-Tillirson*

The Element Encyclopedia of 1,000 Spells by Judika Illes*

The Element Encyclopedia of Witchcraft by Judika Illes*

The Magical and Ritual Use of Herbs by Richard Allen Miller*

Incense Crafting and Use of Magickal Sense by Carl F. Neal*

The Extremely Large Herbal Grimoire by Que Sage and Midnight Mindi*

Gardening with the Goddess: Creating Gardens of Spirit and Magick by Patricia Telesco*

The Folk-Lore of Plants by T. F. Thiselton- Dyer*

Natural Magic by Doreen Valiente*

Herbs in Magic and Alchemy: Techniques from Ancient Herbal Lore by C. L. Zalewski*

Historical/Classic Reference

Paganism Surviving in Christianity by Abram Herbert Lewis*

The God of Witches by Margaret Alice Murray*

The Malleus Maleficarum of Heinrich Kramer and James Sprenger by Heinrich Kramer, James Sprenger and Montague Summers*

Aradia or Gospel of the Witches by Charles G. LeLand*

Persephone’s Quest: Entheogens and the Origins of Religion by R. Gordon Wasson, Stella Kramrisch, Dr. Carl Ruck, and Jonathan Ott*

Household/Kitchen Witchcraft

The Magical Household: Spells & Rituals for the Home by Scott Cunningham & David Harrington*

Spell Crafts: Creating Magical Objects by Scott Cunningham and David Harrington*

Magick

Advanced Candle Magick by Raymond Buckland*

A Little Book of Altar Magic by D.J. Conway*

Creating Magical Entities by David Michael Cunningham*

Candle Power: Using Candle Light for Ritual, Magic, and Self- Discovery by Cassandra Eason* 

The Encyclopedia of Magic and Alchemy by Rosemary Ellen Guiley*

Meta- Magick: The Book of ATEM- Achieving New States of Consciousness through NLP, Neuroscience, and Ritual by Philip Farber*

Fire and Ice: The History, Structure, and Rituals of Germany’s Most Influential Modern Magical Order: The Brotherhood of Saturn by Stephen Flowers, PhD.*  

Applied Magic by Dion Fortune*

An Introduction to Ritual Magic by Dion Fortune and Gareth Knight*

High Magic’s Aid by Gerald B. Gardner*

Circles of Power: Ritual Magic in the Western Tradition by John Michael Greer*

Learning Ritual Magic: Fundamental Theory and Practice for the Solitary Apprentice by John Michael Greer, Earl, Jr. King, Clare Vaughn*

E-Witch: Teachings of Magical Mastery by Deborah Gray*

Magic When You Need It by Judika Illes*

Pure Magic by Judika Illes*

The Basics of Magick by Amber K. *

True Magic: A Beginner’s Guide by Amber K.*

Modern Magick: Twelve Lessons in the High Magickal Arts, Second Edition by Donald Michael Kraig*

Protection and Reversal Magick by Jason Miller*

The Secrets of High Magic: Vintage Edition: Practical Instruction in the Occult Traditions of High Magic, Including Tree of Life, Astrology, Tarot, Rituals, Alchemic Processes, and Further Advanced Techniques by Francis Melville*

The Mystic Foundation: Understanding & Exploring The Magical Universe by Christopher Penczak*

The Book of Solomon’s Magick by Carroll Runyon*

A Week of Magic by the Sea Witch*

Tactical Magick by Seth*

An Enchanted Life: An Adept’s Guide to Masterful Magic by Patricia Telesco*

Enocian Magic for Beginners: The Original System of Angel Magic by Donald Tyson*

New Millennium Magick: A Complete System of Self- Realization by Donald Tyson*

Magician’s Workbook: Practicing the Rituals of the Western Tradition by Donald Tyson*

Not in Kansas Anymore: Dark Arts, Sex Spells, Money Magic, and Other Things Your Neighbors Aren’t Telling You by Christine Wicker*

Occult

Three Books on Occult Philosophy by Heinrich Cornelius Agrippa*

A Manual of Occultism by Sepharial*

Shamanism

Walking Between the Worlds: The Science of Compassion by Gregg Braden*

Psychedelic Shamanism: The Cultivation, Preparation, and Shamanic Use of Psychotropic Plants by Jim DeKorne*

Hallucinogens and Shamanism by Michael Harner*

Shamans/Neo-Shamans: Ecstasies, Alterative Archaeologies and Contemporary Pagan by Robert Willis*

In the Shadow of the Shaman: Connecting with Self, Nature & Spirit by Amber Wolfe*

Spellwork

The Ultimate Book of Spells: A Complete Guide to Using Magic to Improve Your Life and the World Around You by Pamela Ball*

Exploring Spellcraft: How to Create and Cast Effective Spells by Gerina Dunwich*

Spells For The Solitary Witch by Eileen Holland*

The Ultimate Encyclopedia of Spells: 88 Incantations to Entice Love, Improve a Career, Increase Wealth, Restore Health, and Spread Peace by Michael Johnstone*

Witches’ Potions and Spells by Kathryn Paulsen*

The Cyber Spellbook: Magick In The Virutal World by Patricia Telesco and Sirona Knight*

Crone’s Book of Spells and Charms by Valerie Worth*

Symbols, Amulets, Sigils

Amulets and Magic by E.A. Budge*

A Dictionary of Symbols by J. E. Cirlot and Herbert Read*

Basic Sigil Magic by Philip Cooper*

Practical Sigil Magic: Creating Personal Symbols for Success by Frater U.:D.:*

Dictionary of Occult, Hermetic and Alchemical Sigils by Fred Gettings*

The Complete Book of Amulets & Talismans by Migene González-Wippler*

Runic Amulets and Magic Objects by Mindy MacLeod and Bernard Mees*

Symbols, Signs, and Spells by Lolita Perdurabo*

Secrets of Magical Seals: A Modern Grimoire of Amulets, Charms, Symbols and Talismans by Anna Riva*

The Book of Talismans, Amulets and Zodiacal Gems by William Thomas and Kate Pavitt*

The Power of the Word: The Secret Code of Creation by Donald Tyson*

Crone’s Book of Magical Words by Valerie Worth* 

Spirit/Otherbeing Work

Buckland’s Book of Spirit Communication by Raymond Buckland*

Witch’s Guide to Ghosts and the Supernatural by Gerina Dunwich*

Fabulous Creatures, Mythical Monsters, and Animal Power Symbols by Cassandra Eason*

Faery Magic: Spells, Potions, and Lore from the Earth Spirits by Sirona Knight*

Summoning Spirits: The Art of Magical Evocation by Konstantinos*

Faerie Way: A Healing Journey to Other Worlds by Hugh Mynne and George A. Russell*

The Necronomicon by Simon*

Cunning Folk and Familiar Spirits: Shamanistic Visionary Traditions in Early Modern British Witchcraft and Magic by Emma Wilby*

Voodoo/Hoodoo/Root Work

Hoodoo, Voodoo, and Conjure: A Handbook by Jeffrey Anderson*

The Voodoo Doll Spellbook: A Compendium of Ancient and Contemporary Spells and Rituals by Denise Alvarado*

The Voodoo Hoodoo Spellbook by Denise Alvarado*

Voodoo Dolls in Magick and Ritual by Denise Alvarado*

The Candle and the Crossroads: A Book of Appalachian Conjure and Southern Root-Work by Orion Foxwood*

Charms, Spells, and Formulas : for the Making and Use of Gris Gris Bags, Herb Candles, Doll Magic, Incenses, Oils, and Powders by Ray T. Malbrough and Bill Fugate*

Waters of Return: The Aeonic Flow of Voodoo by Louis Martinie*

Sticks, Stones, Roots & Bones: Hoodoo, Mojo & Conjuring with Herbs by Stephanie Rose Bird*

The Super Voodoo Coursework by Unknown*

Wicca

Cunningham’s Encyclopedia of Wicca In The Kitchen by Scott Cunningham*

Living Wicca: A Further Guide for the Solitary Practitioner by Scott Cunningham*

Witchcraft

Witchcraft: Theory and Practice by Ly de Angeles*

The Goddess Is in the Details: Wisdom for the Everyday Witch by Deborah Blake*

A Witch’s Dozen: 13 Practical Rituals for the Everyday Witch by Deborah Blake*

Witchcraft on a Shoestring: Practicing the Craft Without Breaking Your Budget by Deborah Blake*

Witchcraft: A Concise Guide Or Which Witch Is Which? by Isaac Bonewits*

Buckland’s Complete Book of Witchcraft by Raymond Buckland*

Witchcraft From The Inside: Origins of the Fastest Growing Religious Movement in America by Raymond Buckland*

Power of the Witch: The Earth, the Moon, and the Magical Path to Enlightenment by Laurie Cabot*

The Dark Side of the Moon - A Complete Course in Magic & Witchcraft by Basil Crouch*

Witch Crafting: A Spiritual Guide to Making Magic by Phyllis Curott*

Every Witch Way: Spells and Advice from Two Very Different Witches by Ellen Dugan and Tess Whitehurst*

A Practical Guide to Witchcraft and Magick Spells by Cassandra Eason*

Old World Witchcraft: Ancient Ways for Modern Days by Raven Grimassi*

The Witch’s Familiar: Spiritual Partnership for Successful Magic by Raven Grimassi*

The Encyclopedia of Witches, Witchcraft, and Wicca by Rosemary Ellen Guiley*

Progressive Witchcraft by Janet Farrar and Gavin Bone*

The Meaning of Witchcraft by Gerald Gardner*

Mastering Witchcraft: A Practical Guide for Witches, Warlocks & Covens by Paul Huson*

Nocturnal Witchcraft: Magick After Dark by Konstantinos*

Witchcraft Today: An Encyclopedia of of Wiccan and Neopagan Traditions by James Lewis*

8 Sabbaths of Witchcraft by Mike Nichols*

The Gates of Witchcraft: Twelve Paths of Power, Trance and Gnosis by Christopher Penczak*

The Living Temple of Witchcraft, Volume 1: The Descent of the Goddess by Christopher Penczak*

The Living Temple of Witchcraft, Volume 2: The Journey of the God by Christopher Penczak*

The Spiral Dance by Starhawk*

The Temple of Shamanic Witchcraft: Shadows, Spirits, and the Healing Journey by Christopher Penczak*

The Real Witch’s Handbook by Kate West*

World Pagan Practices

An Encyclopedia of Ancient Greek and Roman Mythology by James Hampton Belton*

Buckland’s Book of Saxon Witchcraft by Raymond Buckland*

The Book of the Dead: The Papyrus of Ani by E.A. Wallis Budge*

Egyptian Magic by E. A. Wallis Budge*

Witta: An Irish Pagan Tradition by Edain McCoy*

The Practical Pagan Guide: Commonsense Guidelines for Modern Practicioners by Dana Eilers*

Practising the Witch’s Craft: Real Magic Under a Southern Sky by Douglas Ezzy*

Hermetic Magic:The Postmodern Magical Papyrus of Abaris by By Stephen Edred Flowers*

Mystical Qabalah by Dion Fortune*

The Book of the Holy Strega by Raven Grimassi*

By-Paths of Sicily by Eliza Putnam Heaton*

Germanic Spirituality by Bil Linzie*

The Religion of Ancient Egypt by W. M. Flinders Petrie*=

The Mechanics of Ancient Egyptian Magical Rituals by Robert Ritner*

Asgard and the Gods: The Tales and Traditions of Our Northern Ancestors by Wilhelm Wägner and M. W. MacDowall*

[batwitch]

Everyday Witchcraft

1. Meditate - still the mind, the breath, the heartbeat, open a channel through which the spirits can communicate if they wish to, listen.

2. Walk - honour the genii loci, notice the changing seasons, observe signs and omens, traverse the kingdoms of humanity, flora and fauna, give aid where it is needed.

3. Divine - build relationships with divinatory tools, sharpen skills, train intuition, ask questions, receive answers.

4. Invoke - the presence of spirits to assist in tasks, to protect on journeys, to grant guidance, maintain connections and uphold contracts.

5. Craft - use the hands to create, to construct, imbue each creation with spirit and purpose, a meal, a potion, a carving, a weaving, enchant the mundane and material.

6. Sing - the old songs, the power songs, the prayers, the chants, to heal, to awaken, to enforce, to ward, sing the sun to sleep and the moon to rising, sing in the bath, at the hearth, in the heart.

7. Read - widely and deeply, old and new, academic and popular, across boundaries and taboos, slowly and with full attention, take notes, research, reflect.

8. Write - record experiences, practices, thoughts. keep journals and grimoires, spellbooks and scripts, remember, elucidate, illuminate.

9. Draw - sigils and runes, symbols and signs. Carve, paint, scratch, blacken, redden, scrawl, in the sand, with salt, in the air, with chalk, ink, blood, charcoal, the mind.

10. Collect - herbs, woods, stones, feathers, bones, teeth, soil, the raw materials of natural magic, fill jars, boxes, bags, gather, forage, wildcraft, thrift, take that which is discarded, value the found over the bought.

11. Observe - the cycles of moon, sun, planets, stars, take heed with the eyes as well as the almanac, feel the sap rise, the birds migrate, the bulbs awaken, the leaves wither.

12. Renew - old spells, old wards, protections, and boundaries. Clean what is obscured, recast what has weakened, maintain what is working, replace what is lost. Tie up loose ends.

13. Communicate - with everything, stones, trees, spirits, the dead, that which grows in the garden and that which visits it, other practitioners, mentors, students, seekers, the younger self, the higher self, the wyrd. 

[dog-rose]

What to use when in Witchcraft -

Ok so I am gonna say this is my personal reference, its mainly through associations. You might TOTALLY disagree and thats chill!

Its more something to think about and a guideline of what I use myself…

Candle Magic:

Carve a candle when…. the candle represents the target, in sympathetic magic. When, essentially, the candle is a poppet and lighting it is a symbol of destruction or empowerment to the target.

Place something under the candle or before it when… you are doing general candle magic, when the candle represents empowering a wish, idea or concept.

Anoint the candle when… doing work with spirits and gods, when you mark the candle for a special purpose, when doing high magic.

Herbs and plant work:

Use dry herbs when… it is convienent to do so, when the herbs are out of season or when you need to store them in a jar or bottle for a long time.

Use fresh herbs when… the spell is very earth orientated, when doing magic on behalf of another or when the magic is sympathetic so that the herbs represent the target, within kitchen witchery.

Use flowers when… when the spell concerns love and sex, or perhaps fertility and attraction, due to flowers being the reproductive parts of the plant.

Use fruit when when… working with children as a target, or with children practising. When you work with fertility and abundance spells.

Use wood and twigs when… when the spell is for protection or binding, for hardiness.

Burn herbs (recaning/incense) when… you wish to cleanse or banish, or invoke an atmosphere - that being, for divination using herbs that are said to open up your perceptions, when banishing, burning acrid or pungent herbs.

Use oil infusions when… you wish to anoint something, when you wish to mark something permanently.

Use floral waters (rose water etc) when… dealing with spirits and gods, for glamour as it has a long history of being used to beautify.

Crystals:

Use metals (haematite, copper, ores etc..) when… you work in protection, when you do energy work due to the conductive properties of metal.

Use shell, pearl, coral and such when… you work in sea magic, when you work within emotional magic due to the element of water.

Use points when… you wish to direct magic to a target.

Use tumble stones when… you wish the magic to be gentle or manifest at a certain place on the body on a target.

Use geodes when… you work in protection, when you work with glamour aimed to obscure and hide.

Knot magic:

Use cotton when… it is convenient.

Use silk when… doing spells that benefit the target.

Use ribbons when… love spells and wealth spells, as well as confidence and beauty spells. Spells to ensure victory.

Use rope when… doing spells that aim to hurt or weaken the target, binding especially.

Poppets:

Use cloth when… the spell aims to benefit who the poppet represents, use particular care when sewing or cutting, choose colours that are appropriate to them.

Use wax when… you wish to manipulate the target.

Use clay when… wish to create fetches or servitors, when you wish to create permanency.

Use twigs when… you wish to bury or throw the poppet out, when you want the poppet to be easily destroyed by breaking or setting on fire.

Sigils:

Use an alphabet grid or circle when… you wish the sigil to be more random and less attached to you.

Combine the shapes of letters from a sentence… when your sigil is very specific and a short term goal.

Use your own personal symbols when… you want the magic to be connected to you, when it is personal.