yes cuz i was a child and it was a huge phenomenon that gave me an easy sense of wonder and companionship shared with my peers and i was unaware of many evils of the world
i am now an adult and able to see how hateful its creator is and what kind of messages she spreads and i don't want that in my life ✌️ she finds my existence "tragic" and "unfortunate" and is funding legislation that kills people, she can suck my entire ass
If you’re like me and have a large gap under your front door (someone could take a stick and just poke the leaning stick style door jam out), I recommend the Addalock. It’s small, perfect for traveling, and this lock is CRAZY. It’s so simple but the door does not move.
You can’t see it from the other side, either. It also cost about $20, and I can’t recommend it enough. Easy to travel with, too! Great for Air BnBs!
That’s why I have these on my doors. They get drilled into the side and once its flipped over the door nothing is getting it open. Not the door being unlocked nothing, I’ve unlocked the door and pulled and pushed as hard as I could and it didn’t budge. When I go on a trip this is what I use and when I’m home I leave it on too. No one is getting in here.
Okay I know that it is necessary for many but what do you do if you need medical attention and you’re not able to open the door from the inside? Can the fire department get through these at least?
Yes. The fire department can and will break down your door if necessary, it’s one of the reasons they have axes; it’s entirely possible for door frames to melt/expand/seize or otherwise become unopenable during a house fire but the door itself can be hacked down. Or the window. In rare cases, the wall. Firefighters don’t fuck around with collateral damage when lives are at stake.
Increasingly seeing posts by queer children and teens about how they've gotten kicked out for coming out to their parents and you can't convince me there's no coincidence btwn that and this very white American cisgay narrative of "coming out" and how it's the one thing that really proves you're LGBT but like babes..... we don't owe anyone that. Your identity is your business. Your safety is your primary concerns, especially as a minor and an 18/19 year old, is needing time in a stable(ish) living situation and to get a bit of financial freedom and also prepare adequately emotionally to deal with the consequences of outing yourself to your parents and/guardians. We live in a society. the outcome is overwhelmingly going to be negative and I hate that this idea is pushed soooo hard in tv shows and books geared towards child and teen LGBTs
I BEG that if you really really want to tell your parents/family that you’re a part of the LGBT community, don’t come out to them unless you’ve confirmed two things:
1) They have shown and told you that they are accepting of queer people and it’s not performative.
2) They have told you, specifically, that if you were part of the community they’d be okay with it. (Because supportive ‘ally’ parents can still flip shit if it’s their child).
I did not come out to my parents until I was 19. I only told my mom, who assured me the two things above, and I begged her not to tell my dad until I was 22 and I could actually move out if needed since he has been openly homophobic. (I didn’t even want to tell it to him. I wanted her to do it, because I was scared of getting hit).
It’s perfectly acceptable to never tell them (even if they’ve shown their support), or to wait to tell them when you have a safety net in place in case shit hits the fan. Please stay safe. You don’t owe anyone anything.
I feel the need to share my own story, just to really drive this point home.
I grew up in a homophobic, painfully religious household, and I was homeschooled K-12. So you can imagine how little of an escape I had, and how little chance I had to learn about things not controlled by my mother.
I didn't figure out gay people even existed until I was 13, and it took another two years for me to find out there was anything other than gay and straight (aka the BTQ+ part of the acronym).
I figured out my own sexuality at 19.
I didn't come out to anyone for two years. Anyone. At all. I had this blog, which has never had anything that could tie me to my irl self because I was petrified of being outed, especially to my mother. Eventually after two years I came out to my best friend via tearful text word vomit essay, thankfully to open arms and full support and acceptance, as well as complete understanding as to why I hadn't come out yet and full support of helping me stay closeted.
I played that role for another two and a half years.
When I finally did come out to my mom, I was away at college, and I did it through an email (very modern-day Fun Home of me, I know). I had spent the last seven or so years slowly, subtly, trying to get my mom to be less homophobic. We had got from immediate vilification "gay is a sin" to uncomfortable silence, and I wasn't sure it would ever get any better.
So, before I sent anything, I told my friends what I was doing. Two friends were ready to take me in if I got kicked out, and a third was ready to help drive me to wherever if I needed a ride. I spent a week drafting the email, and cried the entire night I sent it because I was so scared.
In my case, I got lucky, and it ended up working out. But remember, it took four years of work after I came out to myself, and an additional 3/4 years when I just thought I was an ally before it was even a little safe for me to come out. And it took an additional three months to tell my extended family.
Coming out is never mandatory. Ever. Even if you know it's safe. Even if you know you could do it and get only positive responses. And especially if that's not the case.
No one is owed your truth. And more important than anything is your safety. You are valid in your truth even when no one but you knows about it. And the rest of us want you to be safe until you can get out and be independent, because we want you in this world with us. You will always be part of the community, even if you can't post. Even if you can't go to meet ups or pride. Even if you can't fully engage with us online because someone is always watching. One day you'll be free of that, and we'll be here to celebrate with you when that time comes, because visibility does not determine your place in the community. Your place is immutable. You belong here. So stay safe until you can come join us at the table, okay? Your chair will be waiting for you.
i may be terminally online but at least i have fun and curate my experience to cater to my interests and don't intentionally seek out things that will make me feel worse and don't take out my personal issues on strangers on the internet
Firstly~ just discovered you and LOVE your writing! <3 Your Hc’s about stealing the haori and King Kyō and the panic attack are *chef’s kiss* Secondly! as a black fem who’s obsessed with her hair (and Kyō’s hair does things to me ; w; )would you ever please consider doing an Hc or story about Kyō x reader and/or other hashira positively interacting with the reader’s curly hair? ^//////////^ fluff or smut it doesn’t matter~ hair worship and love are everything! Tysvm and I hope to read more of your work soon! <3
thank you so much!!! and huuuuuuUUUUNIE you know i fantasize about these beautiful folks taking care of me and my natural hair too, especially mr. golden boy himself — pls enjoy <3
s/o with natural hair
| ft. rengoku, mitsuri, tengen, sanemi, shinobu
Rengoku
I honestly think someone with natural hair would be a perfect match for Kyo, since a large part of his identity is being boisterous, especially how he stands out with his loud, fiery mane
when he meets you, your hair is obviously one of the first things he notices and he comments on it LOUDLY
“I’ve never seen hair curl in such a way as to defy gravity!”
the other pillars nod in agreement and carry on, except for Tengen who just sits back and smirks at the attention Rengoku gives you for the rest of the day ;)
if you ever feel insecure, he has plenty of his own hair stories to share with you since he often stands out for a similar reason
“did you know that the mothers of the Rengoku family stare at a lit torch for three hours every day while pregnant? that’s why my family’s hair all looks like this!”
um
i did not know that, no.
maybe you can get out of that
when it comes to taking care of your hair though
uuuuh
Rengoku is at least ready to learn
“I have to wash my hair today Kyo, you should probably run errands without me”
“nonsense! I’d much rather go with you, I can wait, it’s no trouble. How long will you be?”
o-o
ten minutes later you’re both in the shower because he insisted his help would speed things up
he’s a little rough the first few times he helps part, but once you stress how important it is to be gentle, it almost brings you to tears how focused and happy he is while detangling
he wants you to feel beautiful and above all else, for every part of you to be healthy. hair included
Kyo has a deep respect for the skill that goes into caring for your hair properly
you’ve put countless hours (months, years!) into practicing this skill, just like any swordman and their technique
so prepare for him to brag about all the unseen hard work you put into a specific style when the other hashira compliment you
500/10 haircare boyfriend
Mitsuri
maybe contrary to popular belief, this girl loves your hair so so so much, but cannot be trusted to help you take care of it
she just gets too excited
“mitsuri which style is better? this one or–”
“EEEEK!”
she’s on the floor
“roji, look how long my–”
“GORGEOUS Y/N”
it always makes you blush but doesn’t exactly save time
she also does not have the gentlest hands
inhuman strength and all
so she may not help on wash day
but she’s a great cheerleader, no matter how long it takes she likes to lounge in the bath with you
mitsuri does excel in two specific departments
1) decoration
she loves tying ribbons in your hair so you two can match
and she loves decorating your styles with beautiful pins, so you twinkle and jingle like a geisha
the hair products she buys you smell like she robbed them from heaven
2) protection
she’s on Y/n hair guard 24 hours a day 7 days a week
never forgets an umbrella in case you get caught in the rain
she will throw her literal body underneath of you to keep your hair from getting messed up
you’re too cute for that, no way
tengen's priorities are wives, civilians, himself
mitsuri’s priorities are y/n, y/n’s hair, herself, the mission, lunch, both your outfits, teammates
100/10 enthusiasm
Tengen
words almost cannot describe how perfectly this man treats your hair
like
he just thinks you're so fucking flamboyant and loves you so much
tengen will sit in the bathroom with you after a mission and wash your hair for you
how does he know to pre-poo??
he doesn’t pull your hair a single time and he’s somehow already conditioning it in eight even sections?? it’s been ten minutes??
the scalp massage alone is orgasmic
you look at him sideways for a few days after that first time, bc this man must be the biggest slut you’ve ever met
and a skincare routine??
truly run through
besides his finger detangling skills, what he really loves to do is style
he’s got golden hair pins, lengths of ribbon, beads, jewels
he can part, smooth, twist, plait, shingle, braid–
– is that a crochet needle??
watching his large hands do such nimble work is just a reminder of how much he loves you
if your hair is long enough, he makes sure to braid it back before a mission so that it doesn’t get in the way during an important fight
or get cut, literally god forbid. he would go on a rampage
your bed sheets and pillows are all silk
tengen and the wives all want to sleep near you because the smell of your hair is always so sweet and soothing
you make the house 10x more flashy by just being in it, and the other hashira are always in awe of your elaborate bejewled styles, tengen’s ego almost can’t handle it
1000/10 can do my hair better than my stylist
Sanemi
literally doesn’t even bat an eye the first time you meet
curly hair? big deal. inosuke wears a pig on his head
but i mean
have you seen his hair..?
i’m pretty sure he just wakes up and jumps out the window to start his day
but he loves you so
the first time he registers the significance of your hair is when he’s impatiently waiting for cuddles for you to get out of the shower
“what’s taking you so long dumbass? get in bed! if you’re mad at me for something, making me sleep alone isn’t gonna weasel an apology–”
“sanemi jesus christ, i’m not finished washing my hair!”
“you’ve been in there thirty minutes already! wasting all my goodman water– how the fuck lo–”
“long, sanemi. this will take a long time. go to sleep, give me some peace”
sanemi is determined to know how you’re so bad at washing the hair you’ve had all your life, that it could possibly take hours to do
fucking amature
he’ll show you
wait–
huh.
when he storms into the bathroom you’re squatting on the stool beside the tub, surrounded by potions and clips
this…this is not usually what washing hair looks like
“move over!” he grumbles when finds his bearings
usually you just laugh off any extra aggression from him; he would never hurt you
nonconsensually
but this time! lives are at stake
“sanemi no.”
you’re not usually so serious with him, so he settles down next to you quietly. grumpily. but still refusing to give up
“if you want to help, then you have to do what i say.”
the next few, sleepy hours, are some of the sweetest in your relationship so far
he’s not the most skilled hairdresser, but he takes this new job so seriously
he slowly detangles from tip to root
c’mon nemi maybe not that slowly, it’s fucking late
smooths your hair shaft down with cold water so the twists aren’t frizzy
and the whole time he’s fuming
but seeing the attention he’s giving each strand, and how delicate he’s being despite his ranging frustration, sets your loins heart alight
you’ve never seen him so quiet and still
he’s not big on creative styling, but he’s determined to get the basics down
he offers to shave your head every time he gets frustrated with a tangle
like mitsuri, this man will fight a puddle if it means keeping both your hard work safe
(he helps you every single wash day now)
and in moments of still
when he wakes up before you
when you’re distracted with work
any time he comes up behind you
he begins to admire your little curls more and more because of how carefully you love them
so he loves you a little more carefully too
250/10 a little confused but he’s got the spirit
Shinobu
much like kyojuro, she seriously respects the dedication it takes to not only keep your hair healthy but keep it looking so beautiful!
she sees how much time you put into taking care of you hair, and because she loves you she wants to help any way she can
she’s not big on hands on care; she’s worried she might hurt you or worse, damage your hair
but she’s a scientist!
an inventor!
and she’s gonna make the Taisho era your personal beauty supply store
she makes every single product you use, determined to give you only the best
how’d she silk press your hair in 1905??
you have a colorful array of silk scarves and bonnets because this girl runs a high-fashion butterfly mansion
did someone say wisteria-infused hair care??
smells good all day, and is deadly in battle!
one of her proudest inventions
“if a demon touches your hair in combat, their epidermis will be affected by a low-level poison!”
“ko, you made my leave-in poison?!”
“only for demons honey”
you’re not sure how she did it, but for some reason you attract butterflies when you’re out and about now
“what– what the fuck– ko!”
she races outside when you call from the garden, worried your hurt, but you’re just standing deadly still while three butterflies flit around your head
you’re in awe
are you magical?
you never figure out her secret
your hair has literally never been so soft
it’s growing like crazy, your protective styles can’t keep up
Kocho may not be hands on when it comes to washing, but you can always rely on her for a trim
she’ll sit you on the floor and trim your hair section by section
your curls always bounce back so well when she’s finished, you’re amazed how she takes off the perfect amount of length!
it is literally the most stressful event on her calendar every month
^^^she refuses to admit it’s a challenge for her
she practices on the girls before ever taking a pair of scissors near your head
Aoi had fucking crazy bangs for a few weeks when you first moved in and you never really thought much about it
650/10 you feel like a lab rat sometimes but you know you’re being pampered
all i want is to have one of those ghibli moments where the protag is just lying in a breezy field with wildflowers and big puffy clouds overhead. that’s the goal here.
I rly want to see typical romantic tropes in media, but like, reversed. Like instead of friends to lovers its lovers to friends. Like people start dating only to find that they're better off as friends (and in this theyre relationship grows and they become closer.) Or like the trope where the MC hates love and romance only to fall in love and be proven wrong, but instead MC is a hopeless romantic but finds out that they don't need a romantic relationship to be happy. Idk hope you enjoy my aromantic ramblings lol
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