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Move, and be mindful

Move, and be mindful

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How many senses do we have? From KG onward we often hear that humans have five senses – is it true? Yes, we have five sensory organs – eyes (vision), ears (audition), nose (olfaction), tongue (gestation), and skin (taction). But humans have the ability to ‘sense’ more than 20 sensations and their combinations. In the last five…

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Touch, enjoy, and be mindful

Touch, enjoy, and be mindful

Short-note series on “Mindfulness for a flourishing relationship”

Let me begin with the difficulty I have found while searching for a suitable word to describe “pleasurable touch”. We can “give a feast” to the eyes or look at something “beautiful”. We can listen “sweet” or “melodious” music. We can “relish” food, “savor” a scent, but what about touch? We can poke, press, punch, prick, or…

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Smell, savor, and be mindful

Smell, savor, and be mindful

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Smell, one of the most primitive senses of humans, is also a less dominant and easy to ignore sensory modality. Our smelling skills are limited, compared to many other species, but humans possesses a superior ability to ‘savor’ and enjoy pleasant smells. Bad smells are equally disturbing and disgusting for us, which usually lack…

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Taste, relish and be mindful

Taste, relish and be mindful

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Eating is one of the mundane activities that can give us immense pleasure if we experience it mindfully. To survive, we have to feed the body. History books talk about how difficult it was for ancient man to find his daily bread. It was a struggle to maintain strength of the body and obviously, food must had been ‘precious’ for…

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Listen, hear, and be mindful

Listen, hear, and be mindful

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After vision, the sense of audition or hearing has a dominant role in our perception. Sometimes, hearing is more powerful and impactful than seeing; because, in order to stop seeing we just need to close the eyes, but we can’t stop listening so easily. Even if we get away from the actual source of a sound, it may continue to…

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Look, see, and be mindful

Look, see, and be mindful

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Mindfulness is the state of being in the present, without worries about the future or disappointments about the past. Focusing on the ongoing sensory experiences is one of the easiest ways to get connected to the present. For a typical human body, it is of the highest importance to recognize and respond to visual stimuli than…

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With a beginner's mind on this birthday

With a beginner’s mind on this birthday

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The beginner’s mind is one of the seven attitudes of mindfulness ( 1) Non-judging, 2) Patience, 3) Beginner’s mind, 4) Trust, 5) Non-striving, 6) Acceptance, and 7) Letting go). Today, on my birthday, I particularly look deeper into this attitude of a “beginner”. When I was born, I was a beginner. Then I began to learn. Learned to walk, talk, read,…

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Mindfulness for better mental health

Mindfulness for better mental health

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The mental health of both partners is essential for a healthy relationship. Even if neither of the partners is diagnosed with any psychological disorder, one or both may experience distress, anxiety, and worry that can ruin any happy relationship. Emotions and emotional expressions are as natural as our breath. As long as we…

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Dealing with conflict between personality types- II

Dealing with conflict between personality types- II

(Being mindful of the similarities)

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Can similarities cause conflict? Isn’t it good that both you and your partner share similar personalities because your needs will be similar too? Won’t it make you understand each other better? The simplest answer is, no. Of course the scientific literature suggests that similarities…

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Dealing with conflict between personality types - I

Dealing with conflict between personality types – I

(Being mindful of the differences)

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There is a saying that the “opposite poles attract”. Yet another is that the “birds of a feather flock together”. Being a behavior scientist, I have given these contradicting statements a good thought. Which one is right? Are differences good or bad for a relationship? It took me years to…

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Mindfulness for effective communication

Mindfulness for effective communication

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It is an effective communication if you convey your thoughts and feelings successfully to your partner, and he/she comprehend its true or nearly true meaning and respond to it in a manner that you can easily understand. A communication-gap occurs because of individual differences in conveying, understanding and interpreting a…

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Are you finding your relationship meaningless? Be mindful before you give up

Are you finding your relationship meaningless? Be mindful before you give up

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Humans are programmed to recognize, appreciate, and fall for “changes”. Preferred intensities may vary from person to person, but most people need changes in life to get in touch with the reality (or the present). Or after some time, once a couple gets to know each other very well, they begin to feel bored, and less…

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Ignite passion through mindfulness

Ignite passion through mindfulness

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Perhaps the most popular psychological theory on love is Sternberg’s triangular theory. It proposes that the three major components of love are intimacy, commitment, and passion. All three are essential in equal proportion to maintain a healthy relationship. Here, intimacy is a feeling, commitment is an attitude, and passion is…

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Fall in love with being alive.. Be mindful of each passing moment.. and feel alive

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A woman’s mind No man could ever understand a woman's mind, or may be no woman could ever make a man understand what she is. Who knows...

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Feel ALIVE… This is why mindfulness has a wide range of popularity - once you start practicing it, you stop existing and start living..

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Trust people who ‘do’ good, not those who’look’ good The outer look can deceive you easily. So observe keenly so that you can see deep inside, through the person's actions. Things other people don't want you to see are often so dark and evil that you would turn away and run, once you see...