#being mindful

[sarahsinferno]

I Wish for Liberation

I sit in the dark, my thoughts a storm of fragments, and I wish, not with the innocence of a child but with the bitter clarity of experience, that you would feel the weight of every wound you gave.

do you know the sharp sting of betrayal, the cruel echo of a lie, the loneliness that wraps around the heart like a shroud?

I want you to know the hollow ache of waiting, the gnawing uncertainty that burrows deep, the sleepless nights stretched out in their endless, aching expanse.

I want the weight of your own choices to press down on you, heavy and relentless, until you understand the pressure that drove me to despair, until you feel a trace of my sorrow settling like dust in your own empty spaces.

you, who sculpted misery with your hands, who wielded cruelty like a blade, are you aware of the echoes you left? do you hear them whisper in your dreams, the ache you wove so effortlessly into my days?

i could wish for storms to ravage your calm, for the sky to crack open with lightning that rends the fabric of your peace, for the tremors of regret to shake your foundation.

yet, even as I wish this, I realize that suffering does not heal, that the flames of revenge only scorch the hands that wield them.

so, instead, I let the weight of my sorrow settle, a quiet confession to the universe that sometimes I crave for the scales to tip,

for the pain to be known, but mostly,

I wish for liberation, for the shackles of my anger to fall away, and for a heart that no longer clings to the shadows of the past.

so I let the wish drift, a bitter gust of wind that fades into the void, and I turn away, searching for a release from this desire, for a way to mend the broken pieces without adding more shards to the world’s already jagged heart.

S.T. 2024

santa rosalia by roberto ferri(1978) oil on canvas

the shepherd david by elizabeth bouguereau(1895)

dancers by franz von stuck(1896)

perseus slaying medusa by laurent-honore marqueste(1903)

[clairobscur11]

Rather than having to counteract every negative behavior with five positive behaviors, wouldn’t it make more sense to adopt a new mind-set about how you treat one another?

What if you treated your partner with the same kindness and respect in everyday life that you use with your boss, your best friend, or even your mom? What if you made the decision to be respectful, kind, and affirming, even during conflict or difficult conversations? Then you wouldn’t have to try so hard to make up for the painful, divisive interactions that weaken the closeness you share together.

Of course, there will still be times when you feel angry or frustrated, but if you make the commitment to always lead with respect and kindness, you’ll be less likely to fall into the bad habits that sabotage your connection. You control your words and behaviors with your boss and friends, even when they irritate you. If you are motivated, you can learn this same self-control with your partner, the person you love the most and who is most deserving of your best behavior.

Practicing respect and kindness isn’t just a nice thing to do. It makes a huge difference in the quality of your relationship. It builds mutual trust and fosters healthy communication. It allows you to manage conflict and challenges more effectively. Most importantly, it shows the depth of your love for your partner and the commitment you have to your relationship.

— Mindful Relationship Habits, S.J. Scott

[gramabiru]

Bagaimana rasanya bercanda dengan Ayah?

Bagaimana rasanya, ya, bercanda dengan ayah? Aku sering membayangkannya. Tertawa tanpa canggung, tanpa takut salah tangkap, tanpa perlu menebak-nebak apakah senyummu tulus, atau hanya cara halusmu menutupi lelah.

Aku ingin tahu rasanya memanggilmu dengan nada ringan, menyindir sesuatu, lalu kau pura-pura marah tapi tak sungguh-sungguh. Aku ingin tahu rasanya melihatmu tersenyum sampai mata ikut melengkung, bukan sekadar anggukan singkat yang menandakan, “ayah dengar, tapi tidak tahu harus membalas apa.”

Dulu aku pikir semua ayah begitu— tenang, dingin, tegas, dan jauh. Ternyata tidak. Ternyata ada ayah yang bisa diajak bercanda, yang tertawa saat anaknya salah sebut nama hewan, yang pura-pura kalah dalam permainan hanya agar anaknya bangga.

Aku tidak punya itu. Yang kupunya hanya hening, dan langkah kaki yang terdengar jelas setiap kali aku mencoba bicara. Lucunya, kini aku sudah dewasa, tapi rasa ingin bercanda denganmu tidak pernah benar-benar hilang.

Kadang aku bayangkan: andai saja suatu hari aku bisa kembali ke masa kecil, aku akan duduk di sebelahmu sambil membawa dua cangkir kopi. Lalu aku akan berkata, “Yah, tahu nggak? Ternyata aku mirip kamu.” Dan mungkin, untuk pertama kalinya, kau akan tertawa— bukan karena leluconku lucu, tapi karena akhirnya aku berani mencoba membuatmu tertawa.

Mungkin itu rasanya bercanda dengan ayah: ringan, tapi berharga. Hangat, tapi langka. Sederhana, tapi cukup untuk menambal ruang kosong yang selama ini tak bernama.

[safe-haven-safe-place]

@simply_anxious

[minimalism]

Clear space, clear mind.

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[shiningmystic]

How to be effectively mindful throughout your day:

Less social media - put down your phone; this gives your mind room to notice your day instead of looking down at a screen Journaling about your day - ask yourself about your day to acknowledge your emotions because they build up without you knowing Breathing exercises - brings you back into your body and lowers anxiety - I have practiced this many times and it works Reading a book - puts you in a meditative state - notice the emotions a scene may bring up inside you Planning your meals before hand - slowly eat and enjoy your meals that you prepared - nutrition helps brain function and helps regulate the body Nature walks - observing what you see even the minor details with mindful breathes - this could be 2-5 minutes from your day Working out - puts you in a meditative state and helps the body naturally feel better - acknowledge the burn in your muscles, actively pay attention to the pain (it’s hard but it actually makes the workout feel even better? My opinion lol) Watching the stars - observing the sky and taking a deep breath to take it all in Spending time with loved ones - noticing the feelings in your body when you interact with the ones you care for Mindful listening - spending time with loved ones and sending that awareness outward by observing the moment with the people you are with Listen or playing music - puts you in a meditative state - pay attention to the beats that make you feel alive or emotional Getting good sleep - being grateful about what you have before falling asleep leaves you off on a positive note and sleep naturally heals you

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As a person who is seeking peace, mindfulness has brought me a lot of it. I believe even doing one of these things can help out your day, go forward on your healing friends and find what works for you.

Updated: 12/13/24

-ShiningMystic

[yourmentalhealthpal]

Reminder: There's no rush in finding your way. 🌿 It's okay to take your own time, to move at your own pace. Embrace the journey of self-discovery and growth, knowing that every step forward, no matter how small, is progress. 💫