Facebook, the new coffee shop?
It is impossible to ignore the effect that social networking has had on modern society - a tangled web of personal connections and culture, amplified by internet products. But how does Facebook, along with an ever increasing number of social networks, compare to the old fashioned method of getting to know people? We no longer rely on coffee dates or casual encounters to bolster our social credibility. We now create friendships with a simple friend request, Facebook wall post, and Facebook chat follow up.
Some people are more open to this change and embrace the opportunity to connect online, but others find this change to be an invasion of privacy - an unwanted, creepy encounter. This mismatch of attitudes creates an imbalance that leaves many of the more proactive online connectors feeling... well, a little creepy.
This stigma of potentially being perceived as creepy limits the effectiveness of social networking at its finest. The sooner we expand our willingness to connect on the internet, the better.
My opinion on this matter is biased. I personally love connecting with people, whether it be in person or on the internet. In the end, real world experience and having a good perception of others' willingness to connect via social networks is a crucial skill that should be exercised. Having this skill will prevent you, as a proactive connector, from feeling as if you are crossing boundaries of personal space. As different as the online social world may be, the same rules still apply.
As my two cents, I'd encourage anyone to take a leap of faith and start connecting with the people that you wish to get to know; the tools exist for this purpose. At the end of the day, online rejection is a pill that's easier to swallow, so friend - post - chat and repeat! =)