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Which Baby Are You?

JANUARY BABY

Pretty/handsome. Loves to dress up. Easily bored. Fussy. Seldom shows emotions. Takes time to recover when hurt. Sensitive. Down-to-Earth. Stubborn. Repost this in 5 mins and you will meet someone new in 8 days that will perfectly balance your personality.

FEBRUARY BABY

Abstract thoughts. Loves reality and abstract. Intelligent and clever. Changing personality. Attractive. Sexiest out of everyone. Temperamental. Quiet, shy and humble. Honest And loyal. Determined to reach goals. Loves freedom. Rebellious when restricted. Loves aggressiveness. Too sensitive and easily hurt. Gets angry really easily but does not show it. Dislikes unnecessary things. Loves making friends but rarely shows it. Horny. Daring and stubborn. Ambitious. Realizing dreams and hopes. Sharp. Loves entertainment and leisure. Romantic on the inside not outside. Superstitious and ludicrous. Spendthrift. Tries to learn to show emotions. Repost this in 5 mins and you will talk to someone new and realize that you are a perfect match.

MARCH BABY

Attractive personality. Sexy. Affectionate Shy and reserved. Secretive. Naturally honest, generous and sympathetic. Loves peace and serenity. Sensitive to others. Great kisser. Easily angered. Trustworthy. Appreciative and returns kindness. Hardly shows emotions. Tends to bottle up feelings. Observant and assesses others. If you repost this in the next 5 mins, you will meet your new love in 8 days.

APRIL BABY

Suave and compromising. Funny and humorous. Stubborn. Very talkative. Calm and cool. Kind and sympathetic. Concerned and detailed. Loyal. Does work well with others. Very confidant. Sensitive. Positive Attitude. Thinking generous. Good memory. Clever and knowledgeable. Loves to look for information. Able to cheer everyone up and/or make them laugh. Able to motivate oneself and others. Understanding. Fun to be around. Outgoing. Hyper. Bubbly personality. Secretive. Boy/girl crazy. Loves sports, music, leisure and traveling. Systematic. Hot but has brains. If you repost this in 5 mins, a cutie that’s caught your eye will introduce themselves and you will realize that you are very much alike in the next 2 days.

MAY BABY

Stubborn and hard-hearted. Strong-willed and highly motivated. Sharp thoughts. Easily angered. Attracts others and loves attention. Deep feelings. Beautiful physically and mentally. Firm Standpoint. Needs no motivation. Shy towards opposite sex. Easily consoled. Systematic (left brain). Loves to dream. Strong clairvoyance. Understanding. Sickness usually in the ear and neck. Good imagination. Good physical. Weak breathing. Loves literature and the arts. Loves traveling. Dislike being at home. Restless. Not having many children. Hardworking. High-spirited. If you repost this in the next 5 minutes, you will become close to someone you do not speak too much in the next 4 days.

JUNE BABY

You’ve got the best personality and are an absolute pleasure to be around. You love to make new friends and be outgoing. You are a great flirt and more than likely have an a very attractive partner. a wicked hottie. It is also more than likely that you have a massive record collection. You have a great choice in films, and may one day become a famous actor/actress yourself - heck, you’ve got the looks for it!!! IN the next 6 days you will meet someone that may possibly become one of your closest friends, if you repost this in 5 minutes.

JULY BABY

Fun to be with. Secretive. Difficult to fathom and to be understood. Quiet unless excited or tensed. Takes pride in oneself. Has reputation. Easily consoled. Honest. Concerned about people’s feelings. Tactful. Friendly. Approachable. Emotional temperamental and unpredictable. Moody and easily hurt. Witty and sparkly. spazzy at times. Not revengeful. Forgiving but never forgets. dislikes nonsensical and unnecessary things. Guides others physically and mentally. Sensitive and forms impressions carefully. Caring and loving. Treats others equally. Strong sense of sympathy. Wary and sharp. Judges people through observations. Hardworking. No difficulties in studying. Loves to be alone. Always broods about the past and the old friends. Waits for friends. Never looks for friends. Not aggressive unless provoked. Loves to be loved. Easily hurt but takes long to recover. Repost this in the next 5 mins and your reputation will boost someway in the next 12 days

AUGUST BABY

Outgoing personality. takes risks. feeds on attention. No self-control. Kind hearted. Self-confident. Loud and boisterous. VERY revengeful. Easy to get along with and talk to. Has an “every thing’s peachy” attitude. Likes talking and singing. Loves music. Daydreamer. Easily distracted. Hates not being trusted. BIG imagination. Loves to be loved. Hates studying. in need of “that someone”. Longs for freedom. Rebellious when withheld or restricted. Lives by “no pain no gain” caring. Always a suspect. Playful. Mysterious. “charming” or “beautiful” to everyone. stubborn. curious. Independent. Strong willed. A fighter. Repost in 5 mins and you will meet the love of your life sometime next month.

SEPTEMBER BABY

Active and dynamic. Decisive and haste but tends to regret. Attractive and affectionate to oneself. Strong mentality. Loves attention. Diplomatic. Consoling, friendly and solves people’s problems. Brave and fearless. Adventurous. Loving and caring. Suave and generous. Usually you have many friends. Enjoys to make love. Emotional. Stubborn. Hasty. Good memory. Moving, motivates oneself and others. Loves to travel and explore. Sometimes sexy in a way that only their lover can understand. If you do not repost this in the next 5 mins, someone very close to you will become mad at you in the next 8 days.

OCTOBER BABY

Loves to chat. Loves those who love them. Loves to takes things at the center. Inner and physical beauty. Lies but doesn’t pretend. Gets angry often. Treats friends importantly. Brave and fearless. Always making friends. Easily hurt but recovers easily. Daydreamer. Opinionated. Does not care to control emotions. Unpredictable. Extremely smart, but definitely the hottest AND sexiest of them all. repost this in 5 mins or you will not meet the love of your life for 10 years.

NOVEMBER BABY

Trustworthy and loyal. Very passionate and dangerous. Wild at times. Knows how to have fun. Sexy and mysterious. Everyone is drawn towards your inner and outer beauty and independent personality. Playful, but secretive. Very emotional and temperamental sometimes. Meets new people easily and very social in a group. Fearless and independent. Can hold their own. Stands out in a crowd. Essentially very smart. Usually, the greatest men are born in this month. If you ever begin a relationship with someone from this month, hold on to them because their one of a kind. Repost in 5 mins & you will excel in a major event coming up sometime this month.

DECEMBER BABY

This straight-up means you are the most good-looking person possible… Better than all of these other months! Loyal and generous. Patriotic. Competitive in everything. Active in games and interactions. Impatient and hasty. Ambitious. Influential in organizations. Fun to be with. Easy to talk to, though hard to understand. Thinks far with vision, yet complicated to know. Easily influenced by kindness. Polite and soft-spoken. Having lots of ideas. Sensitive. Active mind. Hesitating tends to delay. Choosy and always wants the best. Temperamental. Funny and humorous. Loves to joke. Good debating skills. Has that someone always on his/her mind. Talkative. Daydreamer.Friendly. Knows how to make friends. Abiding. Able to show character. One guy/girl kind of person. Loveable. Easily hurt. Prone to getting colds. Loves music. Pretty/handsome. Loves to dress up. Easily bored. Fussy. Seldom shows emotions. Takes time to recover when hurt. Sensitive.

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December,its all true

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100 Attraction Principles from “Why Men Love B!tches” 1. Anything a person chases in life runs away. 2. The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care too much. 3. A woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has a 100 percent hold on her. 4. Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call, just to see how you’ll respond. 5. If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it. 6. It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt. 7. Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer. 8. The biggest variable between a ***** and a woman who is too nice is fear. The ***** shows that she’s not afraid to be without him. 9. If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the ***** will prioritize her dignity above all else. 10. When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her. 11. Being right on the verge of getting something generates a desire that has to be satisfied. 12. A man knows which woman will give in to last-minute requests. 13. Whether you have terms and conditions indicates whether you have options. Almost immediately, you present yourself as a doormat or a dreamgirl. 14. If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom. 15. Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent it. Let him give what he wants to give freely; then observe who he is. 16. A ***** gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then..he sets out to trap her in his. 17. If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind. 18. Always give the appearance that he has plenty of space. It gets him to drop his guard. 19. More than anything else, he watches to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent on him. 20. He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner. 21. If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he’ll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he’ll also take him time to appreciate who she is. 22. Sex and the “spark” are not one and the same. 23. Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isn’t. 24. Every man wants to have sex first; whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it. 25. A man intuitively senses whether sexuality comes from a place of security or from a place of neediness. He knows when a woman is having sex to appease him. 26. Bad habits are easier to form than good ones, because good habits require conscious effort. Waiting encourages this effort. 27. If you pull the sexual plug at the last minute, he’ll label you a tease. 28. If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide. 29. A quality guy fantasizes about a woman who genuinely loves sex. 30. Any time a woman competes with another woman, she demeans herself. 31. When there is that undeniable “spark,” there is only one key to the lock. 32. Let him think he’s in control. He’ll automatically start doing things you want done because he’ll always want to look like “a king” in your eyes. 33. When you cater to his ego in a soft way, he doesn’t try to get power in an aggressive way. 34. When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete. 35. He’ll let a woman who becomes his doormat pay for dinner on the first couple of dates, but he wouldn’t think of it with his dreamgirl. 36. The token power position is for public display, but the true power position is for private viewing only. And this is the only one that matters. 37. If you give him a feeling of power, he’ll want to protect you and he’ll want to give you the world. 38. When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything. 39. Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact. 40. Talking about the “relationship” too much takes away the element of the “unknown” and thus the mystery. 41. Men respect women who communicate in a succinct way, because it’s the language men use to talk to one another. 42. When you are always HAPPY; And he is always free to GO; he feels LUCKY. 43. If you allow your rhythm to be interrupted, you’ll create a void. Then, to replace what you give up, you’ll start to expect and need more from your partner. 44. Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves. 45. A woman looks more secure in a man’s eyes when he can’t pull her away from her life, because she is content with her life. 46. The second a woman works overtime to make herself fit his criteria, she has lowered the standard of that relationship. 47. You jump through hoops any time you repeatedly make it very obvious you’re giving your “all.” 48. You have to keep from being sucked down into quicksand. Unless you maintain control over yourself, the relationship is doomed. 49. Jumping through hoops often has a negative outcome: He sees it as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it, too. But when you stay just outside his reach, he’ll stay on his best behavior. 50. The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself.

51. The relationship may not be right for you if you find yourself jumping through hoops. When something is right, it will feel easier and much more effortless. 52. When you nag, he tunes you out. But when you speak with your actions, he pays attention. 53. When a man takes a woman for granted, he still looks for reassurance that she is still “right there.” 54. When the routine becomes predictable, he’s more likely to give you the same type of love he had for his mother–and the odds that he will take you for granted increase. 55. Negative attention is still attention. It lets a man know that he has you–right where he wants you. 56. When you treat him casually as though he’s a friend, he’ll come your way. Because he wants things to be romantic, but he also wants to be the pursuer. 57. A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you. 58. A man takes a woman for granted when he’s interested, but will no longer go out of his way. 59. When you nag, you become the problem, and he deals with it by tuning you out. But when you don’t nag, he deals with the problem. 60. If you take his chores away from him and praise someone else for doing it, he’ll want his chores back. 61. When you nag, he sees weakness. 62. He perceives an emotional woman as more of a pushover. 63. In the same way that familiarity breeds contempt, a slightly aloof demeanor can often renew his respect. 64. He’ll forget what he has in you, unless you remind him. 65. Many women talk a lot out of nervousness–which is something that men will often perceive as insecurity. 66. Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work. When he’s with a woman, he wants it to feel like fun. 67. Forcing him to talk about feelings all the time will not only make you seem needy, it will eventually make him lose respect. And when he loses respect, he’ll pay even less attention to your feelings. 68. In the beginning, the only thing you need to pay attention to is whether he keeps coming around, because he’ll only be able to suspend or hide his emotions for so long. 69. Men treat women the way they treat other men. They “play it cool: because they don’t want to appear weak or desperate. 70. The element of suprise both inside and outside of the bedroom is important to men, and it adds to the excitement. 71. Don’t always do the same thing over and over in the bedroom. Vary it so that it doesn’t become a predictable routine. 72. Most men tend to disrespect a woman who appears to be too malleable. 73. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself or speak your mind. It will not only earn his respect, in some cases it will even turn him on. 74. Men often automatically assume that a *****ier woman will be more assertive in bed, and that a nice girl will be more timid. 75. When a man falls in love, suddenly he’ll go out of his way and think nothing of it. He’ll do things for this woman he wouldn’t have done for anyone else. 76. He’ll never respect you as being able to hold your own unless you can stand on your own too feet financially. 77. You have to show that you won’t accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect. 78. Your pink slip is maintained when you can stand on your own–with him or without him. He should never feel that you are completely as his mercy. 79. When a man views a woman as a “little girl” or a sister he has to take care of, the passion diminishes. He doesn’t want to make love to his sister. 80. The ability to choose how you want to live, and the ability to choose how you want to be treated are the two things that give you more power than any material object ever will. 81. In a relationship of any kind, if one person feels the other person isn’t bringing anything to the table, he or she will begin to disrespect that person. 82. Financial neediness is no different than emotional neediness; in both instances, he can still get the feeling that he has a 100 percent hold on you. 83. Regardless of how pretty a woman is, looks alone will not sustain his respect. Appearance may pull him in, but it is your independence that will keep him turned on. 84. When a man is very consumed with not being taken advantage of, this is a sign that he’s “on the take.” 85. People will show you they have self-respect simply by virtue of the fact that they want to carry their own weight. 86. The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be. 87. If you make it too obvious that you’re excited to get something, some people will be tempted to dangle a carrot in front of your face. 88. When you alter the routine, your not being there is what will make him come around. Men don’t respond to words. What they respond to is no contact. 89. Don’t give a reward for bad behavior. 90. He simply won’t respect a woman who automatically goes into overdrive to please him. 91. If he doesn’t give you a time, you don’t have a date. 92. Often the best way to adjust or fix the problem is by not letting him know it’s being fixed. When you alter your availability or change a predictable routine, it will mentally pull him back in. 93. Once you start laughing, you start healing. 94. You can get away with saying much more with humor than you can with a straight face. 95. A man feels he’s won, or conquered a woman, when she eats out of the palm of his hand. At which point, he begins to get bored. 96. The tension that arises with a slightly *****y woman gives a subtle feeling of danger to a man. He feels slightly unsure because she is never in the palm of his hand. 97. A “yes” woman who gives too much sends the impression that she believes in the man more than she believes in herself. Men view this as weakness not kindness. 98. Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way. 99. Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them. 100. The most attractive quality of all is dignity.

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I love Chloe loool

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Trans Women Killed in 2017 in US #SayHerName

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Ciara McElveen

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Their lives mattered. These women were beautiful, brave and free. Stop transphobia! Stop hate crimes!

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ATTENTION: DO NOT JUST READ THIS AND SCROLL PAST! Yes, you’ve seen it, but someone else needs to see it too.. ladies this is forreal!!! Watch OUT FOR THIS GUY!!

He’s obviously on tinder. You read his profile? Yea great. Sounds good, but no. Let me give you a back story…

This guy is a straight predator and I also take my fair share of the blame for not dipping when I saw the red flags.

He WILL consistently ask for full body and nude pictures from you. No matter how many you send…it’ll never be enough. He only goes after younger girls but he WILL tell you that he’s never been with anyone as young as you. This guy is sooo disrepectful and honestly had my head messed up during the time I dealt with him.

His profile says he will spoil but he will not. He recently ADDED that to his profile after his friend, Alex, advised him to which he openly admitted to me. And you will not get a single damn cent from him, I can guarantee that. He said he used it just to get more swipes. He is a GROWN ASS MAN acting like a teenage fuckboy in heat.

Girls, when I tell you…he has tried to force himself on me soooo many times even in public once. I am ANGRY at MYSELF for putting myself in that postion and thinking I could be in control. And to be honest, it was scary. Scary enough that in fact, I gave in one night and just simply asked him to wear a condom once. Please don’t be arrogant. Don’t say “oh well she was just stupid and wasn’t tight on her game”. PLEASE don’t think that you’re so much better as a SB that you can outwit this man. I’m coming to you very sincerely as a person who always talked shit about what I would do if I was ever in a rape situation and how I would fight till the death of me and turned around to be raped by an EX and literally just laid there crying. Just don’t put yourself in the situation. This guy literally was bold enough to try and force himself on me at a swingers club one night. And every. Single. Time. that I fled he would apologize but kinda brush it off and do something to make me think he was serious and that it wouldn’t happen. For example, giving me $200 as an appreciation gift which is the ONLY amount of cash he’s EVER given me. He’s charming and manipulative. STAY AWAY!!!

This guy really added the cherry on top when he kept pressuring me to send him provactive pictures of my 21 yr old cousin. My COUSIN!!! At that point I felt extra disgusting and pissed. I went off on him and trust me he had NO problem letting me no how little I meant to him. I have NEVER before that day been talked to so shitty before.

He has two daughters 8&9. He’s divorced. He had a previous engagement that ended and he has a mother and sister. He should have soooo much more respect for women but he has none.

IF AT ANY POINT IN TIME YOU NEED ME TO VERIFY/CLARIFY SOMETHING ABOUT HIM, LET ME KNOW!!

I can give you anything you need from family pictures, names, ages, locations, his job info, his number, where he lives, his full name, where he went to school, where he use to live. EVERYTHING. I know it all. I dealt with him for quite sometime. I promise this is not a joke. Don’t play with fire.

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FYI he’s back on tinder again promising to spoil “right girl” if you “have patience” meaning he wants you to be patient about getting money or gifts that’ll never come while he tries to push himself on you.

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Oh my damn. I was talking to that guy

sugarspicemelanin

Y'all this is obviously not being reblogged enough. If you already reblogged…reblog AGAIN!

fashionsugarbabe

Girl, I would never judge you. Some pervs are just cunning enough to get in your head and manipulate you or worse. The sugar bowl should be a “No Judgement” zone anyways! I’m just glad you’re alive and well. ❤

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Xoxoxo @fashionsugarbabe 💕💕💕💕thank you

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ya’ll listening to boys’ opinions? in this economy?

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It’s going down; I’m yelling Tinder

Now, I’m not going to front like I’ve ever had a “real” sugar daddy, because I haven’t. However, I am extremely smart and have noticed that things for me have changed since I began doing this in December, and I’ve recently caught (and kept) the attention of two whales, I’m going to give advice that has helped me immensely become a more experienced SB.

All of this is advice anyone can use, honestly. It’s about what comes out of your mouth, and how these men may perceive you in the beginning. Basic communication.

Why I began sugaring? Because I’m tired of being broke.

In the beginning: I had prepared, but not enough, for what I was indulging in. Seeking Arrangement was not working for me, at all. Craigslist gave me decent men here and there, but most of them were creepy guys or guys that had already responded to my ads a million times. SugarDaddie never really worked, and I’m pretty sure most of the profiles on that site are fake. Freestyling I’ve never even covered, because I have crippling social anxiety.

Tinder has, and always will be, the best medium I’ve used to sugar. That’s where I’ve met my whales and true potentials.

As of late: Seeking Arrangement is still garbage, CL is dry, SDaddie I don’t even mess with, and freestyling remains the same.

Tinder remains the medium in which I get better results. I talk to these men the same way I’d talk with a vanilla.

Back when I began: I’d constantly get asked things like, “what do I get out of things?”.

No one has even mentioned such to me lately. I’d have a copy paste saying shit like,

“Hi x! I like x, y, z, and I am seeking a f, g, h. I don’t have a lot of time to date/don’t date guys my age/etc. Let me know if this is something that you are interested in.”

It wasn’t working for me, and I was receiving results from guys that weren’t material for what I was even looking for. Also, Tinder had already froze two accounts of mine, and I didn’t want there to be a third.

I was simply spewing what I had to offer, but after a while, after too many CL responses of men giving me the ultimatum of sending my photos or facing a waste of time, I decided that I was the boss.

These men are here for me, not the other way around. So, I cut my losses, and changed my attitude.

So, on Tinder, instead of messaging men, I decided to let them come to me. I decided to make it so easy and transparent for them to know what it is that I am seeking. My most recent profile went along the lines of the following:

City I live in. University of X grad, class of Y.

Things you enjoy doing.

Adjective about yourself, adjective about yourself, and adjective about yourself SB.

If I am swiping in your city, I will be there next/I’m coming for you/insert projected dates of trip.

My entire point was to put SB SOMEWHERE in my profile. Not sugar baby, but SB. So, when a man asks me, “Where you from/what are you looking for/school, etc.,” I can tell if they have even read my profile in the first place, and also saves a lot of small talk, bullshitting, and time. There are some men that say that they aren’t looking for gold diggers/SBSD, and it’s only fair to be upfront if that is your thing.

Also, when they ask the questions above, you can hit them with the “did you read my profile?” in a playful way, to make them feel stupid. If they ask what a “SB” is, I unmatch. I do not entertain it for another second.

None of my photos were really risque, except for the first one. It caught the attention of many, many men. The rest were all of me, headshots, because I didn’t have body photos that didn’t cut my head off in the “square” cropping.

NOTE: Men are visual creatures, I get it, and I said fuck that because I’m unconventional, and it worked for me. I’d still suggest putting out photos of your body, if you can. It will save you one of my steps.

So, now you’ve matched and he begins to speak to you. Now what do you say, what do you do?

I suggest remaining in control of the conversation, at all times. This way he will see you are not acting flakey, and also gives you control over how much you get to learn in the beginning, and about what, who gets to talk more, and very importantly, what their career choice is. It also shows him that you want to know the man, himself, and when money talk comes he cannot say that’s the only things you are interested in.

Did they have a fun day/weekend? If it’s a weekday, I ask if they are being productive, this gives me incentive to ask what they do for a living, without it coming “out of the blue” (a past mistake.). When they answer, I respond with my own job, saving them a line. Depending on their profession, I either continue speaking, or cut it.

Now, this only applies to people like me who are after men primarily 45+, but somewhere in the mix I always ask the man if they always date a woman 20 something years younger than them. This will say a lot, as a SB, as what he responds with could be a red flag, or signs of experience.

If he says yes, you can ask him how it worked out.

If he says no, personally, I consider it cut at that point, but don’t always write them off. Most men want a younger woman, but someone in the past had incentive to date this man. Why?

I always mention myself that I prefer older men, don’t have interest in dating men my age, so he can get rid of that deep down feeling that I’m just doing this “for the money.”

If he says shit like, “yes, I once dated a woman around your age, and we had a lot of fun together. We would go out, dance, shoot the shit, and have amazing sex. Unfortunately, we broke up, she moved away/wanted other shit/other bullshit”

I cut it. Nothing in there mentions helping her, or doing anything not vanilla. He’s probably vanilla.

Now, if they bring up, “what are you looking for?”, what I do is similar to what I read from @sugardaddyjournal. In this post, he explains an outline of how to tell a man you are looking for a SD. I don’t quote that verbatim.

In fact, I can’t believe I am saying this, but you should never quote any advice from a Tumblr blog or otherwise, verbatim. A bunch of other girls are already doing it. Don’t copy and paste shit. If you have issues with thinking for yourself, and basic communication, I would highly suggest getting that worked out before pursuing any of this.

I ONLY tell them what I am seeking, when they ask me, or when they are getting closer to asking me on a date. What I say:

To be completely honest, POT, I am looking for an ongoing relationship with a man that can enhance my life, and is happy to do so. If being a SD is not your thing, I understand! But, that is what I am looking for.

STRESS “ONGOING RELATIONSHIP”. Many men use SB as another word for “escort” and may be looking for just that. If you’re not okay with p4p, I suggest stressing “ongoing relationship”.

Now, if he has done it before, this is the part where he brings that up, or he brings up how he does not need to “pay for sex”/”gets pussy all day blah blah blah. If it’s the latter, cut it.

If it’s the former, I immediately derail from that and go back to him. What does he like to do? Where is he living? Has he ever been to your hometown? Get to know the damn man.

WHAT I DO NOT DO ON TINDER:

I do not bring up allowance. Ever.

Mainly my paranoia of becoming reported again, but I just don’t do it. I judge by his profession and history of being a SD if he is true potential. It’s still pretty early to ask about that, as I would be upset if he asked about sex and shit that soon as well. Somewhere between meeting and the meet and greet, I suggest having that talk. Just not over Tinder.

Now, another thing that I mention about myself, to be safe.

I tell them my body type. I’m a size 14, Coke bottle/figure 8 shape, with 36E breasts and a round ass. To some many men this shit matters. This is a superficial line of sex work. If a guy only dates women a certain type, cut it. I am highly intelligent, educated, and am loyal to a fault. If a man doesn’t see that because of my size, he isn’t worth my time.

I say,

Just so we are on the same page, POT, do you have any reservations about voluptuous/bigger/curvy/fat/skinny/colored (yes, this matters to some as well) women?

If he doesn’t care, I’ll feel dumb but relieved. If he isn’t into it, he probably will dry up, or lie about it, to be honest. All the same, cut it.

From there, take note of everything that he says. How does he speak to you?

This is universal. If a man speaks to me in any of the following ways…

Extremely sexual, asking for tons of photos, nude photos, dirty talk, or general time wasting

Asks “how much are you looking for?” and does not budge

Extremely overbearing in talking to you, but does not talk about helping you, or even showing interest in doing so

I cut it.

One, it’s sexual harassment to ask me sexual shit when I don’t know you from a hole in the wall. If they ask for pictures, I ask for money. Quid pro quo. Fuck their feelings.

Two, if he has been a SD in the past, he should be willing at some point to tell you how he plans to benefit your life, and that is also regarding an allowance. I always tell them that I cannot be trusted to write a number on a blank proverbial check, because I do not know their means. When that doesn’t work, I tell them a number “in the mid-to-upper 4-digit range”, or tell them a specific number I received in the past. If he won’t take it, he can’t afford you.

Three, guys like that are probably more vanilla and lying about wanting to be a SD, or want to “spoil” you with mediocre gifts here and there.

Voila. This is how I sift through the bullshit. It’s a much clearer way of avoiding the long game, and avoiding being “too quick”.

The most important part of this entire post

Now, I will reiterate that if you cannot speak for yourself, and cannot communicate adequately, you will waste your time. You should not be asking your peers things like “what do I say when he asks what I’m looking for?” “what should I ask as an allowance?” “if a man is asking for nudes, what do I do?”

You should already know what you are looking for, and not looking to another SB, who is in another place in life, for the answers to what you should have decided in the first place. You should not be looking to strive for things other people have worked for. They look differently, speak differently, walk, talk, have a totally different personality, etc. You can’t be someone that you are not. You have to be confident in who you are because these men can smell the bullshit and weakness.

If you really can’t figure it out, treat the man like you would any cute vanilla boy. It might be easier to charm his pants off this way.

Don’t let the luxe porn and money shots fool you, this shit will not happen overnight, two nights, months or even a year. You have to work for it, and deal with a lot of bullshit. Patience will always help you in the end, because a lot of this is truly luck.