High Maintenance

I like nice shit and I know how to get it.

[sugarofleisure]

Current Sugar Reads

Wealthy Wife: Meeting, Dating, & Marrying a Rich Man by Cyndi Harris

Never Settle 5 Secrets To Snatch Wallets & Your Self Respect by Sugarfuzz

7 Sneaky Tactics: A Sugar Baby’s Guide to Hook More Men by Felicity Fox

Sugar Baby Hypnosis: Turn Any Man With A Pulse Into Your Personal Income Stream by George Hutton

Ho Tactics (Savage Edition) : How To MindF**k A Man Into Spending, Spoiling, and Sponsoring by GL Lambert

A GOAL Digger’s Guide: How to get what you want without giving it up by Baje Fletcher 

Shanghai Girls: Uncensored & Unsentimental by Mina Hanbury-Tenison

Sugar Daddy Playbook: How to Find A Sugar Daddy and Win the Sugar Bowl (Dating Advice for Women Seeking Arrangement) by Sugar Daddy and Sugar baby Seriously. That was the “author names” they used. 

[minxundercover]

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowances...

Here’s something that’s been in my drafts folder for a while. Based on some of the posts I’ve read recently, I think it might come in handy…PLEASE DO NOT COPY AND PASTE. READ CRITICALLY. Take bits and pieces, make it your own, or summarize it in some way as a come back for those messages, texts, or dinner dates.

Him: Hi. Thanks for reaching out to my earlier message. Your pics are beautiful. While I completely understand the importance of chemistry…but should we get to a point where this matters, I’m a little uncomfortable with having our relationship defined by allowances. As I said in my profile, I am quite generous, and understand the importance of ‘spoiling my partner’ but still, the set allowance would probably not work for me. I hope you understand my thoughts….

Me: Thank you for your thoughts. I understand that you are in search of an escape and so am I. My escape would involve a real connection and a refined lifestyle. I am a little uncomfortable with having a relationship that is only defined by sex… especially when the guy is attached and somewhat unavailable. I’m a beautiful young woman with no lack of suitors. I have a busy social life and I’m currently working to build a business/ pursuing my degree. I chose this kind of relationship in part because I have so little time for love. That’s not to say that my (romantic) time is not very valuable to me. It is. What I don’t value are shoes, handbags, and/or expensive dinners. These are things that I can purchase myself. Furthermore, these do nothing for me in the long run as much as say you investing in my company/ education would. I hope you understand that I’d need tangible showings… actions that illustrate I am valued… that my companion wants to put a smile on my face/ make me feel special/wants the best for me. AN ALLOWANCE WOULD DO THAT FOR ME. By the same token, I want my companion to feel comfortable telling me specifically how I could put a smile on his face/make HIM feel special/ valued. In any case, I am a rare catch and therefore am in no rush to find the man who “gets it” and me. Good luck on your search!

Now doesn’t this sound better than saying “Bitch Please! I am hot and young and you want me to spend my time on your old ass while your wife gets the unlimited credit card and I get nada! FUCK YOU!”

[mygingersweets]

I’ve been looking for this post!!

[brownsugargodess]

Men make me fucking sick. Deleted me before I can report

[coldheaux]

Disgusting.. Is he married? I really might ruin his life if I’m bored later

[coldheaux]

Lol I think I found him, I’m pretty sure its him. SMH all old white men really do look the same. His name isn’t really Jeff. 

[whatanawkwardmess-deactivated20]

Oh man it would suck….to send this….to his job….or his wife….man….that would really fuck up not two but three of his holes.

[coldheaux]

Steven Kautz

[nycsugarlife]

Did someone report him yet? Or should I? Cause all I see is people talking about it…

[whatanawkwardmess-deactivated20]

How do you report him. I tried searching his name on fb but nothing came up. His pic didn’t come up on tineye either. Imma try again

[nycsugarlife]

I sent a message to the link that Coldheaux posted… I tried looking for his facebook too… Best we can do is bombard the michigan schools with these convo snaps I guess. 

[nycsugarlife]

Associate Dean for Academic and Student Affairs: Steven Kautz [phone] [email protected]

[kerryrenaissance]

You might also want to send this onto his local police department. He’s talking about engaging in sexual acts with a 16 year old next door to him.

[lapdanseuse]

^^^ DEFINITELY send it to the cops and the dean of his department.

http://polisci.msu.edu/index.php/home/contact-us

Chair of Department and Undergraduate Director Charles Ostrom [email protected] Tel: [phone] Fax: [phone]

Campus police: http://police.msu.edu/contact-us/ 517-355-2221 [email protected]

It’s not at all unheard for minors to attend university. This man shouldn’t be in a classroom or god forbid having underage girls come to his office hours! Jesus.

[biscaynesugarxo]

Holy fuck this is so gross

[dulcebabyx]

RUIN HIS LIFE LADIES. He literally said “the 16 year old next door”. Contact info is up

[keptotherwoman]

Let’s get him.

[sugarbabymindset]

where are we at on ruining self-proclaimed pedophiles’ lives ladies?

[sugarbabyrudeness-deactivated20]

^^^^Please reblog things like these. We need to keep minors safe from beasts like this^^^^

[beneficeduvagin-deactivated2019]

My Interview Behavior

What did I change about my interview behavior? This is not an advice post, this is me assessing myself. 

I Interrupt: I don’t wait to ask questions till the end. It makes the interview stale and the interviewer starts asking you unnecessary questions. “What are your hobbies?” “How was the travel here from your home?” Nope, I didn’t come here for chit-chat. 

What are you expecting from me in 90 days? I don’t ask hypothetical questions during an interview for it gives a maybe notion. “If I’m considered…” No, I’m going to be the next employee. 

What databases does your company use? The interviewers were surprised and gave me the databases they are currently using and I responded with software for CRM and they informed me about a future affiliation. 

What happened to the last person in this position? I asked this question because it gives me an idea of what they are expecting or what they’ve been through. If the former employee was promoted, if they left or if they were fired. My mentor doesn’t agree with asking this question but I don’t want to overwork because of someone else’s mistakes. 

Thank You Notes:  I keep mine short or heavily detailed. If the interviewer told me a lot about themselves, I will remind them. If not, keep it short and sweet. No one ones to read a generic letter. 

I Laugh: In the next company, I don’t want the environment to be stale or too structured. I want to laugh, converse and enjoy my time there. During the interviews, I make the interviewers laugh which makes the interview more harmonious and short. 

I Pay Attention To Detail: If the interviewer becomes irritated because I’m asking questions, I don’t want the job. I like to come to interviews 15-20 minutes early to see where I’m possibly going at. My environment affects my productivity. I need space, light, and smiles. 

Promise: In all my recent interviews, I have told them once I accept the offer I want to be introduced to the team. Put me in the middle of the office, and tell them I’m here. In my last position, no one knew who I was and didn’t care because no one informed the office the other person was fired. Put me in the middle “ Hey guys, I need for a minute. We have recently hired  ________ and she will be part of ________ team. EVERYBODY SAY HIIIIIII!” Icebreaker. 

F giving me mock interviews and snoring whenever I spoke, taught me interviewing is uneventful for both the candidate and the interviewer. I have four interviews this week and if I’m offered a position, I’m going to increase my salary number again because they will be informed another company wants me also. 

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

Yes!!

[tyavamyaisha]

Say it again.

[sbmisstaylor-deactivated2020031]

Damn, that hit hard

[portlandvalentine]

From a wise friend:

Sex worker friends here are some things you can do to reduce your risks of arrest, maintain your online presence to connect with clients and each other, and facilitate collective safety and support:

1. review your current technology safety practices and implement accessible and appropriate protocols.

-Stop using gmail, hotmail, wordpress to host your work email. Create a protonmail account which is offshore and secure and wont get shut down.

-Burner phones are best practice for work phones, if you can afford it.

-Encrypted file sharing can be done by downloading TOR and using OnionShare.

-SpiderOak is a secure alternative to Google Docs. (Download all your Google docs and delete it online if you haven’t already.)

-*****Download signal! **** Create a group thread with VETTED and TRUSTED sex workers you know. Start with some basic security rules. For example: everyone needs to password protect their phone to participate, be vouched for, don’t allow notifications on the home screen to include the actual messages, delete the app when doing international travel, and the thread needs to be killed and a new one created if someone’s phone is compromised (like if someone loses their phone or the phone is seized by law enforcement.)

-Get offshore and secure hosting and domain registries. I use OrangeWebsite.com for everything.

-Use formsite.com instead of Google forms if you need to collect info or do surveys, they’ve got security options.

-Banks are required by federal law to report cash deposits of $5,000 or more just fyi.

2. Plan for worse case scenarios, no matter how unlikely or remote the risk, for yourselves and each other:

-make arrest plans (Red Light Legal is doing an online workshop Thursday, March 29 (https://www.eventbrite.com/e/arrest-plan-workshop-tickets-44228098433)

-create bail funds and/or relief funds. (Ex: get 10 people together and make a vow to each put $20 into it each month just in case shit hits the fan for one of you and you can’t cover it on your own.)

-brush up on your legal rights when interacting with law enforcement.

3. Don’t do the work of our oppressors!

I’m seeing a lot of sex workers preemptively closing sex work related Facebook groups, folks are talking about taking down bad date lists, etc. We’ve got to keep these safety tools alive as much as we can, though of course keeping risks in mind. In the event that SESTA gets enacted and Facebook does change its terms of service to get rid of sex work related content the highly likely outcome will include: Facebook removing the content or closing the groups, maybe suspending individuals accounts. Its extremelllllllly unlikely that sex workers participating in those groups will face any legal risk (again, LE isn’t going to spend resources going after every sex worker.)

These federal agencies are banking on sex workers and businesses that facilitate sex work reacting out of fear to end sex work just as much as they are on doing that repression themselves.

-download any and all bad date lists that exist and put it on your computer

-make sure that you have alternatives means of communication with folks you know via the internet (like signal), especially with folks who work in isolation. Don’t let anyone get left behind.

[prettyvixenavenue]

[citycrowdpleaser-deactivated201]

I need to remember this.

[luxebynature]

Wow. It’s a motto.

[eternallybeautifullyblack]

50 TED talks by 50 talented black women

Looking for inspiration? Look no further. In this five part series, fifty talented black women from across the globe share their powerful words of wisdom.

Part 1: 50 TED talks by 50 talented black women

Starting here, enjoy 50 thought provoking TED talks by 50 super talented black women in this five part series. 

Featured in Part 1:

ELIZABETH NYAMAYARO | TEDWomen 2015 An invitation to men who want a better world for women.

AMMA ASANTE | TEDxBrixton The power of defining yourself.

RAKIA REYNOLDS | TEDxBarnardCollege Rules of the road on your journey to success.

SARAH LEWIS |TED2014 Embrace the near win.

ANNE-MARIE IMAFIDON | TEDxBarcelonaED Let’s save the world with girl-led startups.

SOMARA THEODORE | TEDxCreativeCoast The evolving identity of a first generation American.

MEMORY CHAMPITI | TEDxYouth@Lilongwe Local charity: Yes you can.

DR MAGGIE ADERIN-POCOCK | TEDxHousesofParliament The dawn of a new space era.

NOZIPO MARAIRE | TEDxHarare Indigenous versus indi-genius.

FELICIA HATCHER | TEDxJamaica Tell your failure story.

[LINK]

Part 2: 50 TED talks by 50 talented black women

This is part two of our series of five posts sharing TED talks by fifty talented black women from across the globe.

Featured in Part 2:

PANASHE CHIGUMADZI | TEDxJohannesburg A new self-identity for Africans.

MAJORA CARTER | TEDxMidWest Three stories of local eco-entrepreneurship.

PATRICIA OBO-NAI | TEDxLabone The age of the girl geek.

LATISHA CAMPBELL | TEDxYale I am a radical: changing the odds. 

CHIMAMANDA NGOZI ADICHIE | TEDxEuston We should all be feminists.

ANGELA JACKSON | TEDxProvidence Turning urban youth into global citizens.

MAAMEYAA BOAFO | TEDxAccra Being the real me without apology.

OLA OREKUNRIN | TEDxBerlinSalon Womenomics.

MELLODY HOBSON | TED2014 Color blind or color brave? 

MAGATTE WADE | TEDxUFM Disruptive Brands as Cultural Innovation.

[LINK]

Part 3: 50 TED talks by 50 talented black women

This is part three of our series of five posts sharing TED talks by fifty talented black women from across the globe.

Featured in Part 3:

THANDIE NEWTON | TEDGlobal 2011

Actor Thandie Newton tells the story of finding her “otherness.”

MINNA SALAMI | TEDxBrixton To change the world, change your illusions.

TARA WILKINSON-MCCLEAN | TEDxBridgetown Re-imaging wealth in global media.

PENINAH NTHENYA MUSYIMI | TEDxAmsterdam I am the change. 

THELMA GOLDEN | TEDxHarlem Innovation Through Art – The Preposition Problematic.

MICHAELA DEPRINCE | TEDxAmsterdam From “devil’s child” to star ballerina. 

SHAKIRAH BOURNE | TEDxBridgetown The curse of the starving artist. 

KIMBERLY BRYANT | TEDxKC Defy Impossible.

ZAIN ASHER | TEDxEuston Trust your struggle.

ALLYSON HOBBS | TEDxStanford The chosen exile of racial “passing.”

[LINK]

Part 4: 50 TED talks by 50 talented black women

This is part four of our series of five posts sharing TED talks by fifty talented black women from across the globe.

Featured in Part 4:

HANNAH POOL | TEDxEuston Discovering myself while discovering Erithrea.

JASMINE BURTON | TEDxAtlanta Innovation to sanitation through empathic design.

KAKENYA NTAIYA | TEDxMidAtlantic A girl who demanded school.

MAHLET AFEWORK | TEDxPlaceDesNations Ancient tradition/modern fashion. 

FADEKEMI AKINFADERIN-AGARAU | TEDxEuston Finding my calling.

RAPELANG RABANA | TEDxCapeTown Using mobiles to rekindle learning.

PATIENCE MTHUNZI | TED2015 Could we cure HIV with lasers? 

SAEEDA WRIGHT | TEDxConcordiaUPortland The ultimate selfie – love. 

ORY OKOLLOH | TEDGlobal 2007 How I became an activist. 

SADA MIRE|TEDxEuston Cultural heritage: a basic human need. 

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Part 5: 50 TED talks by 50 talented black women

This is the final part of our series of five posts sharing TED talks by fifty talented black women from across the globe.

Featured in Part 5:

ANGELA PATTON |TEDxWomen 2012 A father-daughter dance… in prison.

JULIANA ROTICH |TEDGlobal 2013 Meet BRCK, internet access built for Africa.

CATHERINE PHIRI |TEDxEuston Debunking the made-for-Africa script. 

TALITHIA WILLIAMS | TEDxClaremontColleges Own your body’s data.

JEPCHUMBA|TEDxEuston Asking Why.

CHINWE ONYEAGORO | TEDxWindyCity I’m an inefficient market entrepreneur.

DAYO OLOPADE | TEDTalentSearch The new African narrative.

NDIDI NWUNELI | TEDxEuston Rage for Change.

MAYA PENN | TEDWomen 2013 Meet a young entrepreneur, cartoonist, designer, activist Maya Penn.

DR MAMPHELA RAMPHELE |TEDxCapeTownED Rising to our citizens’ responsibility.

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[almostseen]

reblogging for later! hoping that there are some mental disease/coping strategies discussions on this list

[kmart124]

Reblogging for later as well.

[karayray1-deactivated20230129]

^^

[swnotes2self]

@bossyprada I saw that you were looking for inspirational black women!

[traplikebossy]

This is awesome. Thank you!!!

[thejamesdinero]

[skyakafreckles]

How you gon let a nigga with no job work yo nerves?

[afroxqueen-deactivated20160521]

☝☝☝☝☝☝☝

[skyakafreckles]

How you gon let a nigga with no phone call you a hoe?

[hovtheghost]

How you gon let a nigga with no values determine yours?

[thejamesdinero]

^^^yassss

[peopleaintish]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[hathor77]

The Bible.

[xwoosah]

How you gon let a nigga with no shoes run game?

[hemorrhoidsback-deactivated2020]

How you gon let a nigga wit no remote control your life?

[prettyfuckingepic]

I love thisssss!

[yahyah69]

And so it begins! My mentality going forward 😊

[blumoneyhoney]

😂😂

i just responded back to a text from my aunt saying i respectfully decline to answer - because she wanted me to weigh in on some family drama i’m NOT apart of and neither is she lol.

i gotta protect my energy, space & vibes.

but i know she’s going to feel a way and now it’s gonna be tense af when i go to atlanta next week 😂

oh well 🤷🏾‍♀️ i’ll be drunk the whole time

[glitter-sb]

This is what the fuck I'm talking about. Go Queen! 👸🏽

[honeycomb69-deactivated20150904]

[patrontears]

i only met my match once and i cherished that shit ! lmao 

[7thblacksheep-deactivated201907]

HOLY SHIT…..FUCK

[glitter-sb]

I need this tho.

[dmvdaddy-deactivated20151217]

Date 1 and 2

These are the make or break dates. If you’re going to be having sex with a beautiful woman, for little to no cost outlays, you’ve got to establish the proper foundation on dates 1 and 2.

90% of SA are first timers so I will start with them. They don’t know what to expect or how to set up an allowance that they’re comfortable with. That’s what you need to use to your advantage. Strategy changes with an experienced SB, but I will get to that later.

Now again this is all part of an interesting playful fun conversation. You are not laying down rules or expectations. Just describing your history on SA. A good way is to drop that you’re so glad to have met someone so attractive, intelligent and normal. Someone who actually seems trustworthy. Because there are a lot of flakes on that site to wade through.

Once conversation is flowing, you need to tell her about the 2 experiences you’ve had on SA that went beyond the get to know you meet up. One went great. And the other not so much. So you’re hoping to find a new relationship based on what went right and what went wrong.

The good experience that you explain to her goes something like: You were new to the whole SB thing but she had had a couple of priors and she helped you thru your anxiety and discomfort. She wanted $2000 a month for a once a week date. You thought that would be fair if you knew you could trust her and that things were working out the way you wanted. But you didn’t just want to jump into a $2000 outlay (which was really all you could do). So she advised starting slow and working up with month 1 being $1000, month 2 being $1500 and by month 3 and beyond you’d be in a good place to feel comfortable. Also it helped you figure out how to move the money slowly without your wife getting suspicious. So you agreed to that and it went really well. She was lots of fun and flirty and sexual. The first couple of dates were getting to know you periods, she’d invite you over after the dates and you fooled around a little. She was flirty and fun, she’d dance and tease you a little. She’d always give you some release but it was a pretty one sided affair sexually which made you feel a little weird. Like you weren’t doing your end sexually. But she seemed cool with it. She was the experienced one after all and you were just along for the ride. After a month, you had worked up to a mutually satisfying sex life, there was good chemistry and sexually things felt like they progressed kind of like early dating from before you were married. The dates were fun and sexy, you were both getting a lot from it and you did what was agreed to. The first month you paid by date. The second you started doing half and half for the month. And in month 3 and 4 you were able to get the whole $2000 up front to her. Stress that the whole thing made you feel comfortable. Then at the end of month 4, she ended it. There weren’t a lot of details but she felt like she was getting conflicted with her sugaring and her dating and wanted to take a sugar break. You were disappointed but what are you gonna do.

Now this is a lot to dump on someone in a first date so remember to bring it up naturally. As you tell it, ask her questions like, “would you know what to think if you were me?” Or “I didn’t know how to react to this one-sided sex thing. You can understand how that would make a man feel being satisfied sexually but not doing anything for the woman right?” That kind of stuff. Humanize it.

Now the bad experience you had was an arrangement for $1000 for 3 dates for month one, $1500 for 3 in month 2 and $2000 for 4 in month 3. Except that you never got the 3 dates. She’d cut them short with excuses for having to get up early. She’d always ask you to buy her something. Try to take you to a jewelry store after a dinner. Talk about how she needed more money for a new place. It always made you feel like the agreement was just a starting point for a new agreement that was constantly being renegotiated. Tell her that on the second date she came on strong and sexual. Gave you a lapdance and took care of you orally. But then the next date would be weirded out at a goodnight kiss. But the next one would be super sexual. But then the next one would be nothing. Etc. combined with the cut short dates, cancellations, pressure to spend more and more, it all felt like you were being played. That even being successful, $2000 a month is a big expense. You don’t want to feel like a sucker spending it just for a blowjob every other date.

Again, this is a lot so it has to be conversational.

The point of it is ultimately to establish in her mind that you started with $250 per date in the beginning month. Without stating it that way which makes you sound cheap. And to establish that you have a history of increasing the amount as you gain comfort that you are getting what you want and she isn’t just going to run off with your money and otherwise make you a sucker.

Then you tell her now on this particular arrangement with you, you’re unfortunately pressed for time. You’ve got deals, your kids have things, your wife is complaining about you not being around and you need to keep the peace for the sake of the kids. Etc. (I will explain later how to sell the fact that you’re married. It’s really easy and most SBs prefer it that way). So you can start slow with a couple of dates per month and then increase as time frees up. Or, you can just wait and contact her later if and when you think you’re going to have the time for all the dates.

Remember that 95% of the men on the site just suck. If you’ve made a good impression and are believable, you’ve got her thinking long term and willing to start slow on cash but quick and strong on sex. Truth is, there are no such things as 3 or 4 month SD relationships. But she’s new and doesn’t know that. With not even much luck you’ll be getting solid sexual satisfaction - dances, massages, strip teases, blowjobs for very little on date 2. Date 3 is the date where you’re low on cash and offer to run to bank machine or make it up to her on date 4. That’s a different post, but no one will make you run to a bank machine late at night and come back to her apartment with money. Remember, they are not stripping for you and sucking you off for money. That’s what prostitutes do. And they are not prostitutes, they’re “sugar babies.” If you play it right, with very little effort, you’ll have 2 dates, with way more incredible sexual experiences than usual, for less money than you’d spend on an average looking older woman with probably no sex on the table. It’s up to you whether to keep paying or cut it off while you’re ahead.

I will give more tips on dates 1 and 2 in the future, but that’s the general gist for how to set the expectations.

[sugarbabyinatl-blog]

Oh my gosh peep this foolery but still take notes of this mindset to counteract.

[sugar-baby-angel]

HOW DOES THIS ONLY HAVE 8 NOTES

like girls - read this - and then read it AGAIN.

This is what youre up against. This is true true salt.

Men will say anything and do anything to get in your pants. ANYTHING.

Do no settle. Do not negotiate. Do not put up with bad for the hope of the good.

When you find a true Sugar Daddy you will know.

When you encounter this type of salt you will see signs, DO NOT ignore them.

[mis-s-2-mach-deactivated2016081]

Jesus Christ.

[chocolatesugah]

I know it’s lengthy but babies please read.

[sugarbabybunny-blog]

And Why many men are assholes. -.-“

[omgwtfmia-deactivated20170313]

Will never not reblog. For the haters who can’t understand why savage mindset is vital! These bitches be playing themselves and I’ll be the hoe taking the trip to ATM.

[gissellaatheesb-deactivated2017]

Holy fucking hell nope nope nope nope!!!! I’m thinking of making an SA sugar daddy profile. Set it to the highest income net worth and literally just write a bio that girls need to check tumblr or read “let’s talk sugar ” or just something so these navie girls don’t get set up by these men. Not enough girls are doing their research! I didn’t know about tumblr in till I was 2 months into sugaring

I know SA has rejected some things I wrote in the past on my own page but I have seen some we ride ads people offering sugar parties/conventions and even jobs! So I’ll try any writing combo till they accept it. I have seen sugar daddy profiles set up by girls looking for a friend to hang with But never have I ever seen a girl write a profile to help girls before they go on first dates

[glitter-sb]

Oh nah

[cartnsncreal]

Reblog and you might save someone’s life, especially with all our Black Girls going missing #ProtectBlackGirls #SaveLife

[glitter-sb]

A word of advice

Yesterday I rinsed some old man for Sephora but I made a few mistakes along the way. I met him under regular pretenses so I gave him my real number along with my nickname. I rode with him to Georgetown (WHICH IS STUPID, DON'T EVER EVER EVER DO THAT) and when shit went left I had to depend on him to drop me off by my house. Ladies PLEASE always have your own form of transportation when dealing with these guys, sugar or otherwise. He could have kidnapped, raped me, or much much worse. Luckily, I was sharing my location with my BEST friend. I sent her his license plate and full name and number. I also had my sugar sister on alert in case things went south. That's not enough!!! No amount of money, makeup, clothes, dinners is worth your life. It's so easy to make a mistake that could end up costing you. Pay attention.

[blackwomenconfessions]

Light-skinned girls make me laugh tbh. Now that dark skin is a “trend” the same girls who would grab my arm to see if they were lighter than me and would pride themselves on being lighter than me now tell stories of how when they were younger they wanted to fly into the sun so they would be black. Like piss off. I’m still reeling from the amount of colourism I used to face and still face today.

[rinseandrepeatsb]

😩😩😭👏🏾 #couldnthavesaidthisanybetter

[glitter-sb]

I think we're all two sides of the same coin. I'm the only light skin person in my family, and it was always beat in me that black/brown is beautiful...which it is, but it was always done in a way to make me feel ashamed. Colourism isn't a one-way thing. Light skin girls are always apologizing for being the color that they are because we "look stuck up" or "think we're better". Black is beautiful regardless what skin tone you are. ❤️

[sugarspicemelanin]

ATTENTION: DO NOT JUST READ THIS AND SCROLL PAST! Yes, you’ve seen it, but someone else needs to see it too.. ladies this is forreal!!! Watch OUT FOR THIS GUY!!

He’s obviously on tinder. You read his profile? Yea great. Sounds good, but no. Let me give you a back story…

This guy is a straight predator and I also take my fair share of the blame for not dipping when I saw the red flags.

He WILL consistently ask for full body and nude pictures from you. No matter how many you send…it’ll never be enough. He only goes after younger girls but he WILL tell you that he’s never been with anyone as young as you. This guy is sooo disrepectful and honestly had my head messed up during the time I dealt with him.

His profile says he will spoil but he will not. He recently ADDED that to his profile after his friend, Alex, advised him to which he openly admitted to me. And you will not get a single damn cent from him, I can guarantee that. He said he used it just to get more swipes. He is a GROWN ASS MAN acting like a teenage fuckboy in heat.

Girls, when I tell you…he has tried to force himself on me soooo many times even in public once. I am ANGRY at MYSELF for putting myself in that postion and thinking I could be in control. And to be honest, it was scary. Scary enough that in fact, I gave in one night and just simply asked him to wear a condom once. Please don’t be arrogant. Don’t say “oh well she was just stupid and wasn’t tight on her game”. PLEASE don’t think that you’re so much better as a SB that you can outwit this man. I’m coming to you very sincerely as a person who always talked shit about what I would do if I was ever in a rape situation and how I would fight till the death of me and turned around to be raped by an EX and literally just laid there crying. Just don’t put yourself in the situation. This guy literally was bold enough to try and force himself on me at a swingers club one night. And every. Single. Time. that I fled he would apologize but kinda brush it off and do something to make me think he was serious and that it wouldn’t happen. For example, giving me $200 as an appreciation gift which is the ONLY amount of cash he’s EVER given me. He’s charming and manipulative. STAY AWAY!!!

This guy really added the cherry on top when he kept pressuring me to send him provactive pictures of my 21 yr old cousin. My COUSIN!!! At that point I felt extra disgusting and pissed. I went off on him and trust me he had NO problem letting me no how little I meant to him. I have NEVER before that day been talked to so shitty before.

He has two daughters 8&9. He’s divorced. He had a previous engagement that ended and he has a mother and sister. He should have soooo much more respect for women but he has none.

IF AT ANY POINT IN TIME YOU NEED ME TO VERIFY/CLARIFY SOMETHING ABOUT HIM, LET ME KNOW!!

I can give you anything you need from family pictures, names, ages, locations, his job info, his number, where he lives, his full name, where he went to school, where he use to live. EVERYTHING. I know it all. I dealt with him for quite sometime. I promise this is not a joke. Don’t play with fire.

[sugarspicemelanin]

FYI he’s back on tinder again promising to spoil “right girl” if you “have patience” meaning he wants you to be patient about getting money or gifts that’ll never come while he tries to push himself on you.

[glitter-sb]

Oh my damn. I was talking to that guy

[victorious]

Reblog this and money will be entering your life this week

[glitter-sb]

Need.