Missy's Musings

Just a place for Missy's Musings! This is primarily a Sims 4 blog these days and is home to The Daily Plumbob. It contains mostly stories from my main game as well as mod updates.

[missy-hissy]

The Daily Plumbob is the main blog for my ongoing save game in The Sims 4. I write up regular updates on the happenings in my save game and share pictures of my builds and sims. 📸

If you want to read the stories through, visit the Archives and select a story. My latest stories are on the homepage and each resident has their own page. 📃

On the blog, you’ll also find nerdy 🤓 details on how I play my game, what mods I use and some posts on how a certain situation came to pass.

If you’re looking for my mods, you can also find them on The Daily Plumbob, under Mods & CC.

I hope you’ll enjoy the stories as much as I’ve enjoyed playing them. 💖

[arro-now]

Addressing a few concerns

So, I assume most of you don't know, but there is a bit of drama inside the Paralives community. It's funny because this whole thing is revolving around The Sims 3.

TwistedMexi made his first paywalled "early access" mod called Sims 3 Camera, and I've been working on the same thing as he was. 1. Let's get the "clone" allegation out of the way first.

(Source: TwistedMexi's discord server)

TwistedMexi is accusing me of cloning his mod, but let’s look at the facts. Thankfully, I always use GitHub, so the commit dates are there to prove it.

(2026-05-26 22:27:02 +0200) is a timestamp of the first commit with hash d82ddd909e06833b0f8d5d439ad602d04a4f3e08

(2026-05-27T19:57:44.000+00:00) is a timestamp of the publication date of his Patreon post.

Honestly, I didn't know I could see the future, but ok.

2. The second thing I want to address is that currently there are a lot of awful comments directed at Tmex. PLEASE do not harass other creators.

3. Regarding early access and paywalls: My mods are developed in my spare time as a passion project. I believe in keeping my work accessible to everyone, which is why all of my content will remain completely free, forever. I believe the community should play a role in maintaining projects if the original creator steps away, which is why I always share the source code for my projects Free mods are a pillar of a healthy community, whereas paywalls only lead to gatekeeping and unnecessary drama. My hope is that more creators choose to release their mods in a way that prioritizes community growth and shared resources.

A reblog would be greatly appreciated to help spread this message.

Thanks for reading,

xoxo, Arro Ps. If you want to see a broader discussion on this topic, I recommend this Reddit post that goes way more in-depth than I do. It's a good read.

[missy-hissy]

I'm not actually playing Paralives but since this community love to accuse people of copying, here's some proof that this particular modder didn't.

[thesimstree]

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[missy-hissy]

Mod Status & Updates ~ Patch 1.122

This post is a little later than intended due to real life being a PITA but better late than never!

So the good news is that my mods are all working with the latest patch. So I'm officially clearing them all for Patch 1.122. This is NOT a guarantee that you won't have issues with the game starting. That's a Maxis error and one which they say is being looked into and should have a solution soon, hopefully this week. So please don't come to me if you're having a game-launch error; there's nothing I can do and it's not my mods causing it.

With all that said, I do have some updates. None of these are actually patch-related but several of my mods needed tiny updates. These will come in batches so any mods not mentioned in the Master Post (https://www.patreon.com/posts/mod-status-patch-153729406) haven't been checked yet.

BATCH #1

Boasting Conversation Category ~ Updated for Patch 1.122

Gossip About Neighbourhood Stories ~ Updated for Patch 1.122

High School Years Tweaks: - Form Groups In School ~ Updated for Patch 1.122 - No Death By Urban Myth ~ Updated for Patch 1.122 - Parenthood Discipline ~ Added discipline options for getting a Poor exam result.

[missy-hissy]

BATCH #2

My Wedding Stories: Interaction Reactions: - Announce Engagement Overhaul ~ Updated for Patch 1.122 - Check Out Venue Overhaul ~ The Wedding Pie Menu package has been updated for Patch 1.122. The rest of the mod is fine. - Ask For Blessing To Marry Overhaul ~ Fixed the interaction not showing up.

My Wedding Stories Tweaks: - Autonomous Call Off Wedding During Wedding Events ~ Updated for Patch 1.122 - Wedding Dinners In A Restaurant ~ Updated for Patch 1.122

Occult: Lore & Order ~ Updated the Spellcasters file for Patch 1.122. Vampires file didn’t need an update.

Gossip About Neighbourhood Stories ~ Reupdated to add compatibility with simkatu's Relaxed TV Watching Override.

[luthsthings]

And it's the end of "Failed to Launch"! | luthienrising

Get more from luthienrising on Patreon

CC users! You -- 2% of players, apparently! -- can go update The Sims 4 and get into the game again! Patch notes for March 23, 2026: https://www.ea.com/games/the-sims/the-sims-4/news/custom-content-fix-incoming

And more info at my Patreon linked above -- you might still get in to find you have mods to remove or update! It was a huge amount of (unpaid) time to figure out that this wasn't caused by CC in a way that CC creators should be responsible for, so that EA could take over, and then to do enough testing with enough users to narrow down when it didn't happen and what there wasn't in common so that a fix could come in much faster for you. Please consider supporting that two full days of effort. My Patreon is linked here, and my creator code is LUTHIENRISING.

[missy-hissy]

Mod Status & Updates ~ Patch 1.122

This post is a little later than intended due to real life being a PITA but better late than never!

So the good news is that my mods are all working with the latest patch. So I'm officially clearing them all for Patch 1.122. This is NOT a guarantee that you won't have issues with the game starting. That's a Maxis error and one which they say is being looked into and should have a solution soon, hopefully this week. So please don't come to me if you're having a game-launch error; there's nothing I can do and it's not my mods causing it.

With all that said, I do have some updates. None of these are actually patch-related but several of my mods needed tiny updates. These will come in batches so any mods not mentioned in the Master Post (https://www.patreon.com/posts/mod-status-patch-153729406) haven't been checked yet.

BATCH #1

Boasting Conversation Category ~ Updated for Patch 1.122

Gossip About Neighbourhood Stories ~ Updated for Patch 1.122

High School Years Tweaks: - Form Groups In School ~ Updated for Patch 1.122 - No Death By Urban Myth ~ Updated for Patch 1.122 - Parenthood Discipline ~ Added discipline options for getting a Poor exam result.

[missy-hissy]

is there a way to remove the music wants? my sims keep wanting to listen to soul music to the point i actively made them all dislike it and its still popping up 🤣 love your mods thank you for all of your hard work!!

If it helps, it's happening to me too! I have an update due out soon for the Hopes & Fears which will nuke these ones. I do apologise for it in the meantime and will have the update out ASAP!

[missy-hissy]

Mod Status ~ Patch 1.121

So it looks like my mods have come through unscathed again. Early testing indicates no errors with my mods and everything seems to be working fine.

So I'm clearing all my mods for Patch 1.121. Further details of upcoming updates for my mods can be found on my Patreon.

Happy Simming!

[missy-hissy]

Hi there, I downloaded all of your wants/fear/personality mods today. Quick question, I'm noticing all of my sims are sad when I start up the game. Is this from the mods or possibly the recent update? I usually don't use mods but wanted to liven up my game play. The updates make my game less enjoyable :(

Anyway, hope you're having a great weekend! And thank you for the fun mods. I'm enjoying them so far.

Hi there! This will most likely be from the Life Fulfillment feature of the Hopes & Fears mod. If you haven't done so already, check out this page: Hopes & Fears: Life Fulfillment – The Daily Plumbob It gives a bit more detail into the feature and provides a separate file if you wish to remove it! :)

I'm glad you're enjoying them! Let me know if you have any issues!

[missy-hissy]

Modding Tutorial: Holiday Traditions | Patreon

So I have another little beginner-friendly modding tutorial up, this time for custom Holiday Traditions!

[missy-hissy]

Mod Updates ~ October 2025

Good morning all! I have a few small updates for you today; mostly bug fixes and compatibility with the new expansion.

The Hopes & Fears Mod ~ Fixed a couple of minor issues, made a few tweaks and added compatibility with the new expansion.

The Hobby Mod ~ Updated for compatibility with the new expansion.

Lovestruck Attraction Overhaul ~ Fixed a small issue where adding Black Hair as a turn-off resulted in adding Purple eyes as a turn-off too. UnnaturalEyes package only.

[igotsnothing]

@myshunosun — one of the amazing creators whose CC lives in so many of our games — wrote something on Patreon that’s been sitting with me:

“I want to feel like I’m in charge of my own creativity. I have paused many projects due to fear of not meeting (someone’s, algorithm’s?) expectations.”

Wow. How many of us have dreamed up a project, staged it, edited it, loved it… only to abandon it because the post “flopped”? Because the absence of notes or reblogs made it feel like rejection?

And how many who do get traction start feeling trapped by it — shelving ideas, cutting them off entirely, just to keep feeding what people already like? That popularity should feel like vindication but instead it becomes a chore? Obligation? That’s the razor-thin line every creative walks.

I’ve lost a few moots I adored this past year. You can tell when someone starts feeling like they’re not talented enough, or not “in” enough. The posts dwindle. The breaks grow longer. One day there’s an announcement or maybe everything is gone. It’s disheartening.

So if you’re a creator — in any sense — please don’t stop sharing you. I’m not going to feed you platitudes about how “someone out there needs it” or “you’re wonderful” because I don’t know that (yet?).

What I do know: it’s scary as hell to yell into the dark and never hear an echo. But if you’re going to be out here anyway, you might as well fucking roar.

[missy-hissy]

Adventure Awaits Release Day!

It's Patch Day, darlings! (I'm sorry, I'm playing WAY too much BG3 at the moment)

It's probably only a little one today, since it's also EP release day but all the same, in case it's your first patch as a mod-user (or you just need a refresher):

🔴If you want to continue playing with your mods without dealing with the new patch/EP, now is the time to change your EA app settings to disable automatic updates and play in Offline Mode. You can update your game later by turning on Online Mode, once more mods have been updated/cleared and are ready to go. *NOTE: I've heard reports that this didn't work well for some people last time so please be aware of that.

🟠This is also a great time to back up your saves and tray files and REMOVE YOUR MODS FOLDER. Assume that the entire folder is broken until further notice. To back up your saves, I suggest copying the folder to the desktop, another folder or an external USB drive.

🟡If you do update straight away, PLEASE play a mod-free save! I can't stress this enough so you don't go breaking your existing saves by removing mods. This is especially true if you're going to play the new EP.

🟢I'll be checking over my mods tomorrow but I'm not anticipating any major issues. Hopes & Fears will get an update probably then as well to add compatibility with the new Wants (although from what I've seen, there aren't that many). The Hobby Mod will also receive a tiny compatibility update but no new major stuff, since I'm rebuilding the mod.

🔵If you have any issues with my mods in the meantime, please let me know on Discord or on here and I'll get to them when I can!

Happy Patch and EP Release Day!

[dailymanners]

When someone is telling you about a media they enjoy (video game, characters, shows, etc.) Don’t be rude and go on a rant about how much you hate that certain media. I’ve had moments where I’d be talking to a group of friends about an interest of mine and someone would chime in saying “But that’s so 2010s”. Or when my friend was trying to talk about a game they enjoy and someone chimed in “Oh, I actually hate that game. It’s just a worse version of [other game]”. If you don’t like the media someone is talking about, keep it to yourself. If someone is expressing how much they enjoy that media they don’t need to be met with ridicule; It may hurt their feelings or even make it difficult for them to enjoy what they like if they have a constant voice over their shoulder nagging them about how they shouldn’t.

[missy-hissy]

Simmers, please...

REMOVE YOUR MODS FOLDER WHEN YOUR GAME UPDATES. DO NOT PUT IT BACK IN UNTIL YOU KNOW THE MODS YOU USE ARE CLEAR AND/OR HAVE BEEN UPDATED.

This is NOT difficult and you WILL survive in a unmodded save for a short while.

If you have issues in your game, TAKE OUT YOUR MODS. ALL OF THEM. DO NOT LEAVE ANY IN THE GAME. If you can reproduce the issue, post on the bug forums. Several people wasted a lot of helpers time on the forums the other day for what was a mod issue. So please take them ALL out and reproduce the issue before posting on the bug forum.

YOU are responsible for what is in your mods folder. Not the modders. Not the helpers on the EA forums. Not even EA.

[luthsthings]

Thank you Missy! 🤗

Just going to add to this, USE THE FORUMS RESOURCES. These are at the TOP of their Forums and/or pinned to the top right:

The list of Previously Broken Mods and CC

The current Broken and Updated Mods and CC list (subscribe/follow for update notifications)

The Compiled Bug Report list (your bug could already have a thread)

The search bar in Bug Reports

Those of us who volunteer our time to help you in the Forums are really trying hard to make this easy for you.

[littlemssam]

New Random Small Mod

Parents join toddlers on playgrounds NPC toddlers will have one of their parents show up as well when they visit the playground.

[missy-hissy]

Simmers, please...

REMOVE YOUR MODS FOLDER WHEN YOUR GAME UPDATES. DO NOT PUT IT BACK IN UNTIL YOU KNOW THE MODS YOU USE ARE CLEAR AND/OR HAVE BEEN UPDATED.

This is NOT difficult and you WILL survive in a unmodded save for a short while.

If you have issues in your game, TAKE OUT YOUR MODS. ALL OF THEM. DO NOT LEAVE ANY IN THE GAME. If you can reproduce the issue, post on the bug forums. Several people wasted a lot of helpers time on the forums the other day for what was a mod issue. So please take them ALL out and reproduce the issue before posting on the bug forum.

YOU are responsible for what is in your mods folder. Not the modders. Not the helpers on the EA forums. Not even EA.