Reading through George Washington's Farewell Address (for the 250th, as one does)...
The unity of government which constitutes you [as] one people is also now dear to you. It is justly so; for it is a main pillar in the edifice of your real independence, the support of your tranquility at home, your peace abroad, of your safety, of your prosperity, of that very liberty which you so highly prize. ...you should cherish a cordial, habitual, and immovable attachment to [your national Union]... Citizens by birth or choice, of a common country, that country has a right to concentrate your affections. The name of American, which belongs to you, in your national capacity, must always exalt the just pride of patriotism...
There is an implicit distinction, here: the individual and the country (his society) are of different kinds.
An individual is quite limited in what he can do to secure his own liberty. If he has to fight an enemy dictator and all of that enemy's men alone, then he is likely to lose. Human beings depend on the knowledge and resources of others, including the knowledge and resources of the past, which are passed on to them; without those, a lone man can do very little.
A country can fight an enemy army successfully. Likewise, a society can create an environment within which liberty can be exercised. However, a country cannot exercise or enjoy liberty, because a country is not a person.
Washington, it would seem, believes in a relationship between citizen and country which is reciprocal and non-totalizing. The country does what a country is good at, and the citizen does what a citizen is good at, and the two support each other. Thus, a man can owe something to his society without owing everything to his society; the work of a man's hands is his own work, while society provides positioning and leverage that make that work go farther.
Society, hierarchy, and laws are always shifting; they cannot be made or kept good through mindless loyalty. Thus, true patriotism requires "affection" – genuine cooperation.












