tired but trying

• Call me Red! • nearing 30 • she/they •

[kijimha]

just because you havent seen me post about The Character in a while doesn't mean i'm any less insane about them in private

[feefal]

Copper evolution line! Your daily blend of educational and fictional art content

[alivehouse]

also it does feel insane how many articles will straight up say this shit and see 0 issues at all with outright pathologizing huge swathes of woman of color who have more body hair than the “average” white woman but you know im sure diagnostic criteria falls from the sky

edit for people who cant read between the lines: do you honest to god see no issue at all with lumping people who are healthy and genetically just have more body hair in with people who have hormone imbalances purely on the basis of observed aesthetics at the discretion of whatever your (probably white) doctor considers to be a “normal” amount of hair? none at all? none whatsoever?

[catnoli]

bamboo shark with some sea slugs! this is a postcard + sticker reward for my kofi members who joined in october 🎪⭐️

[tsundernova]

Domestic dispute in public

[two-wizards-in-a-trench-coat]

i think a lot of poeple think of racism and sexism as something you have to actively opt in to perpetuate rather than something you have to continuously actively opt out of if you want to maybe help dismantle it

[nataliehall]

Scootin’

[pocket-deer-belly]

the reason most anti bullying psa's completely fail is because they fail to identify why people bully others, and fail to identify that kids actually do internalize oppressive structures REALLY early on. white kids understand that racialized kids are easy targets, and white teachers either fail to catch racism or are racist themselves. non-disabled kids understand that disabilities are easy to pick on, kids recognize the sissy archetype very early on, boys internalize that girls are lesser than them, kids notice they can take advantage of autistic behavior, and it flies under the radar cause teachers offer little to no support to marginalized kids or outright victim blame them. "ignoring bullies" is a model that assumes bullies just want attention. we should instead assume bullies are taking advantage of others.

[respectissexy]

Since I'm therapist-posting recently:

Legitimately self-compassion is the biggest mental health life hack of all time. I'm NOT talking about self-esteem. You do NOT have to like yourself one bit. You don't have to believe that you're a good person who deserves good things. You just have to believe that you're a person who deserves the things all people deserve.

You can't get from "I'm the Worst" to "I'm a worthy and lovable person" without passing through "I'm just a regular fuckup like everybody else."

Try it on. If you're really addicted to being mean to yourself, you can start by framing it as I'm Not Special. Embrace being a regular fuckup like everybody else.

[hollowboobtheory]

"What if your mom aborted you?" idk what if my parents never met. what if my grandparents never met. what if my older sister was such a nightmare child that my parents decided one is enough. what if the world was made of pudding

[hollowboobtheory]

what if my mom didn't abort the ectopic pregnancy she had before me and didn't survive to get pregnant with me in the first place

[guerrillatech]

[identitty-dickruption]

I also think. in the broad scheme of things. a lot of people pleasers (in the trauma-response sense) know full well that those behaviours Cause Problems. I’ve consented to medical procedures I didn’t want or was confused about out of a fear of upsetting authority (doctors). I’ve consented to sex I didn’t want. I’ve ended up in situations where I’ve been burnt out and overworked and still can’t say ‘no’ to someone when they ask me to take on yet another responsibility. in none of those situations have I walked away going “yeah that was fine and healthy, no problems at all”. mostly I walk away going “jesus fuck I need to sort out this shit and snap out of it”. but it also so happens that moving on from a trauma response that develops over a lifetime.. well that doesn’t just happen overnight. and it can’t be snapped out of just by being told “hey so it actually makes other people mad at you when you fearfully try and please them all the time”. lol

[identitty-dickruption]

“people pleasers are all manipulative self-martyring assholes who need to get a grip” people pleasing is a pattern of behaviour that develops as a fear response because of what has happened when you’ve failed to please others. and sure this can be detrimental to being able to have healthy relationships as an adult and it should be something that is slowly worked on over time. but let’s not pretend every people pleaser on the planet is doing it because they’re sick and twisted on purpose

[storm-of-feathers]

i love how every time theres some grand heist its not that the robbers were intelligent and planned for everything its that the password to the security was the name of the fucking building.

[storm-of-feathers]

im not kidding

[housegoblin]

[feralkwe]

give your characters exes.

give them a variety of exes. give them relationships that shaped who they are but did not last. give them people they tried very hard to love but it didn't work out. give them situationships that taught them things. give them something deep that was real but could not endure. things that hurt. things that ended amicably. people with whom hot passion cooled to warm affection and became undying friendship.

no more first and only. give me the context of what made them know the next or one after was final and right.

[jame7t]

beautiful women are coming to destroy you

Hey man it’s really cruel to joke about that. I set aside my entire busy schedule and no beautiful women showed up