Mistersbeard.tumblr.com presents:Ā THE MAD DADDY
At the heart of every man there are a few core elements that make up who he is. One of the largest elements is pride.
A manās pride can drive him to do many things, and it all depends on the way in which he handles and negotiates the feelings that come along with his pride. Now donāt get me confusedā¦ There is a good pride but there is also a very bad pride. And that very bad pride can often lead to a disgusting and dark disease known as anger.
Anger is a daddyās worst enemy and it is something that can make or break not only the man, but it can also make or break a little.
There are many characteristics and traits that make up a great littleā¦ And there are also some very well expected ones. At the same time, a daddy is made up of some expected traits, and when your little is seeking one out she expects that she will find certain elements and things within them that will make them a suitable daddy for her.Ā
Anger, maliciousness, selfishness in a bad way, and other dark and disgusting character traits are not the things that she looks forā¦ and so often, the angry or mad daddy will hide these things until he has her locked in.Ā
However, the mad daddy is also easily recognizable, as there are a few things about him that are unmistakable with even the slightest of detailed observation.Ā
The mad daddy has very little patience, he has very little restraint with the way that he makes you feel when heās making you feel downā¦ His words his actions and his ability to combine the two to make you feel like the lowest form of anything are a pretty good sign that he is a mad daddy. <br>
Ā Have you ever heard the phrase āmaking a mountain out of a mole hillāā¦
The mad daddy is very good at thisā¦Ā
Ā examples: if you are not performing the way that he expects you to, doing as he says, giving him what he wantsā¦ he will blow the situation out of proportion.Ā
The mad daddy gets angry for no reasonā¦ <\b>He gets angry over the littlest of things because in his heart he is a severe control freak and narcissist.
NOTE: Now, there is good narcissism and there is bad narcissism.
The phraseĀ āitās not bragging if itās trueā works well to separate and differentiate the two.
Good narcissism is confidence combined with patience.
Bad narcissism is what we call swagger combined with immaturity. And at his core the mad daddy is highly immature and has no business being in control of anyone.Ā
The mad daddy will make you feel down by putting himself downā¦
It is a narcissistic disorder in which the person wants to turn himself into the victim, while at the same time making you feel like itās your fault. This is a classic pattern amongst the mad daddyā¦ And he will use it often in order to keep you in submission to him.Ā
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The mad daddy has a hard time showing compassion and expressing forgiveness when you make a mistake.Ā
He goes from 0 to 100 in an instant when he doesnāt get his wayā¦ Much in the way that an immature child will throw a fit if they do not get that toy they want at the store or their cereal is too warm or something just isnāt fitting in the way that they want it to be. Then he will spend an extended amount of time berating you and putting you down and making you feel like garbage while jamming his finger into your already open woundā¦ while at the same time turning it around on himself to make himself look like the failure so that you will express your compassion towards him and forgive him at the same time that he is crushing you into the ground.
The mad daddy always gets his way while taking away yours.
Ā If he wants to play video games or go out with his friends instead of cuddles or Skype.. Its happening. Raise a fuss about it and he pulls the victim card out of his deck about how he works so hard..he does this..he does that, and he never gets to do what he wants. When turned aroundā¦ He uses that same card to make you feel guilty about what you want to do, because all he wanted was to spend time with you ā¦.and you never take his feelings into consideration when making plansā¦ And then he becomes not good enough for youā¦ And you donāt love himā¦ And heās so alone.. Nobody understands.. Blah blah blahā¦
The mad daddy has serious codependency issues.Ā
When upset, he will go on and on about how all his life heās always been given the short end of the stick, how he doesnāt understand why people keep leaving him, how he canāt ever keep friendsā¦. And of course, none of that is his failureā¦ Its theirs.
The mad daddy is an abuser.Ā
Abuse doesnt just come in the form of physical.
He uses his hands, fists and cold callous words to hurt youā¦ And When heās finished he apologizes, following it up with a jab about how it was your fault.
āIām sorry I did xxxā¦ But sometimes I get so frustrated when you xxxā¦ā as well as the classicĀ ābecause of you, I did this..ā andĀ Ā āI didnāt mean to do thatā¦I love You.. But youā¦ā and so on.
We are the least inhibited and most honest with our actions and words when we are angry.
So you often find yourself unable to speak. unable to act. Unable to be yourselfā¦ And you end up conforming yourself to the person he wants to crush you into.
This isnāt submissionā¦. Its slavery.
The mad daddy will eventually grind you down until you feel like you canāt leaveā¦.
Until you become a slave to his behavior and end up being the caregiver instead.
And soon you find any act of aggression makes you instantly fearfulā¦ Instantly unable to functionā¦ Instantly shut downā¦ Scaredā¦ You might even feel like if you leaveā¦ He will either kill you or himself.
But the mad daddy is also something elseā¦Ā
Heās an immature coward. A child in an adult body looking for the mother that never loved him enoughā¦ And heās searching for a victim to take it out on.
- A coward beats a woman in anger.
- A coward makes empty threats.
- A coward manipulates and destroys another human being while being consumed by his inferiority complex.
Love doesnāt break your nose. Love doesnāt break your bones. Love doesnāt leave you with a black eye.
Mad daddyās are a factory that produce broken littles.Ā
You feel like you canāt escape. But you can. All it takes is that first step.
Your submission is a gift. Not his right, not his privilege,Ā
End your suffering. End your pain. End your slavery.
You feel like you canāt escapeā¦. But you can. Someone out there is waiting for you to reach out. You have the internet and resources in the palm of your hand.
The mad daddy is a stubborn rotten tree infesting the beautiful garden you know exists in your heart. ā¦.Chop it down. Today. Right now. Save yourself.
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