What gets me is that you don't get people making posts in response to, say, impact play, being like, "hey, intimate partner violence is abusive, don't do it." We give people into impact play the benefit of the doubt that they are doing this consensually for their and their partners'/'s enjoyment as their kink and they don't think it's okay to hit their partner outside of their agreed-upon boundaries. And at the same time, there seems to be no issue among generally sex-positive people with making this assumption as the default while simultaneously being able to recognize that there are people out there who are abusive within their BDSM dynamics or who are shitty because they don't get adequate consent before engaging in kink.
So, I don't get why we can't give people into fat- and feeding-related degradation that same courtesy of assuming they are capable of separating kink from reality, reflecting critically about their kink, and engaging in their kink respectfully and healthily with other people.
There is a difference between telling people into degradation play that they need to ask for consent first before they engage in that kind of interaction with people and making posts like "saying X degrading thing about fat people is bad", and that distinction is not being made in these recent discussions, mostly about degradation play that involves talk about 'ruining your body'.
It reminds me of that one conversation/post that was talking about how it sucks that the general public automatically sees feedees as victims of abuse or manipulated into being feedees because feedees are not being attributed the ability to have their own autonomy etc. People into degradation deserve to have their autonomy and ability to make informed decisions about kink respected unless that person has actually done something non-consensually, in which case, of course, prioritize your safety + the community needs to help educate this person or remove them from the community as well as we can if they repeat abusive behavior.
Yes, this kind of role play can be triggering or upsetting for many people, but if you don't want to see degradation on your dashboard, blacklist the terms you are seeing in these posts you don't want to see, and blacklist and block the usernames of blogs whose content you don't like! If you blacklist by post content/certain frequently used keywords, you don't have to wait around for people to adopt consistent tagging for degradation.
I could add more reasoning and arguments and examples and whatever to this, but at the end of the day: stop telling people their kinks are bad! Stop assuming someone's kink is their real life viewpoint! Stop conflating degradation kink with doing degradation kink nonconsensually! We don't like it when people make these assumptions about feedism in general, so don't turn around and say the same kind of stuff about kinks within feedism.
