Morning Aura

18+ ONLY | 43-YO | she/her | geeky minx, curious wanderer, and firm believer that cute underwear makes any situation better

[morningaura]

“Though my soul may set in darkness, it will rise in perfect light;

I have loved the stars too fondly to be fearful of the night.”

- Sarah Williams, The Astronomer to his Pupil

[quotefeeling]

“You are so good. So good, you’re always feeling so much. And sometimes it feels like you’re gonna bust wide open from all the feeling, don’t it? People like you are the best in the world, but you sure do suffer for it.”

— Silas House

[butmyloveyouhavewings]

[misscromwellsmonocle]

Art in the Age of Digital Puritanism (2022) by Iness Rychlik The artist reposted it in 2024 "because it feels relevant in social media today".

[morningaura]

I have a lot of feelings about everything happening in the world, but it’s been a really long week and words are leaking out of my brain, so have some art.

[all-ornothing]

[notfavghost]

You’re not a woman. You’re a library after hours. Candlelit. Forbidden. And I’m the fool who can’t stop pulling books off the shelf, knowing damn well I’ll never finish you.

[chattingwiththelightkeeper]

Understand that everyone's journey in BDSM and kink is unique; there is no "right" or "wrong" way to explore as long as it is consensual and fulfilling for all involved.

Edward Volkl

[letsbelonelytogetherr]

— josé olivarez // natalie diaz

[pernambucano-deactivated2026052]

[morningaura]

As someone who drives a manual transmission… you need that hand unencumbered otherwise it can be hard to untangle your fingers quickly enough when you need to shift.

Put your hand on their thigh or something instead and leave their hand free to shift.

[morningaura]

“Doubt thou the stars are fire, Doubt that the sun doth move, Doubt truth to be a liar, But never doubt I love.”

- Hamlet, Shakespeare

[maviyenot]

[mournfulroses]

Oscar Wilde, from a letter featured in The Selected Letters of Oscar Wilde

[oldfarmhouse]

🌱🌼happy thursday!

[brilandsupperclub]

[saffisme]

acknowledging all my lovely anxious submissives out there. you deserve a dom who understands your need for explicit instructions, frequent reassurance, and assistance in communicating your boundaries and desires. for those of you who feel most secure when your dom takes the reins and guides you. find a dom who gets it. and don't settle for anything less than a dynamic where your needs are not just met, but celebrated

[morningaura]

I had a chat with a sub recently who was worried she was too needy and asking too much of her Dom. It always makes me so sad when anyone feels that way, and it’s a lesson I worked hard to unlearn, so…

1. You are not too needy or asking too much. There’s literally no such thing. If it’s what you need, it’s perfect.

2. That said, your partner may not be able or willing to provide what you need, but that’s not on you; that’s about the intersection between two people. And, to flip the view, a Dom needing a sub who wants less? That’s also them being needy in their own way.

3. Lots of Doms actually want or need to feel needed, and thus adore needy or anxious subs who allow them to fulfill that role. Regardless, someone who loves or cares about you (and I’m assuming you have at least some relationship with your Dom if you’re in a dynamic together), should want you to be happy and not anxious and be willing to work to help ensure that’s the case.

4. You will never get your needs met, or know if your partner can meet your needs, if you don’t ask. And there are lots of ways to work together and meet needs in different ways if you both care about each other and are willing to put in some effort to make it work. I know it can be scary, but give them, and you, the benefit of the doubt and have an open, honest conversation.

5. If they aren’t willing or able to even talk about it or work on it? There are plenty of people who will: go find someone else. Because if they don’t care enough to even try, what they’re really saying is they don’t care about you or your wellbeing and you shouldn’t be in a dynamic with that person.

(And all of this is setting aside the way the patriarchy has repeatedly told women/effeminate-presenting people that they’re too emotional, too needy, too much as a way to diminish them. And conversely doesn’t allow men/masc people to be more effusive or need emotional engagement or reassurance. But it’s at the root of a lot of why so many subs have these insecurities to begin with.)

[wordscanbeenough]

seduce me with your book collection

[onelittlekingdom]

Hi! Do you happen to have time to explain what aftercare is and why it is important. I would like to show my boyfriend and I think you explains things in a clear way and that you give healthy advice.

Aftercare

It always astounds me that we have to explain to people that after you beat a sub up, and treat them like your own personal chew toy for the length of a scene, that it’s nice to fix them, hold them, love them, and tell them that their service was appreciated afterwards. Most of the time I think it’s only because so many mysogynists and narcassitic personalities live in people who call themselves “dominant”, that we have to talk about this like it’s a tedious prescription that needs to be filled at the end of a scene. Dominants who are about taking care of their sub, do not need to be told that you need to hold, reassure, and appreciate them after you slap them, spit in their face, choke them, and tell them what dirty little whores they are, while you are fucking them like a ragdoll. Honestly, if you have to work hard to explain to someone the concept of what we refer to as “aftercare”, there’s probably something fundamentally wrong with how the person you’re talking to views other people. If your response isn’t, “Aftercare? Of course we will have aftercare. What am I, a savage?”, then it’s a red flag. 

[morningaura]

Aftercare should always be a priority, but it’s also important to recognize that what aftercare looks like can be very different for different people.

Some subs feel emotional due to a kind of catharsis and may benefit from soothing. Some feel vulnerable or insecure about things outside of a scene and may appreciate reassurance or praise that they did well. Some will experience a drop in body temperature and need a blanket or warmth. Or they might need food or water to replenish or rehydrate. Depending on the scene, some might want to get cleaned up and may appreciate help with a shower or bath. Some subs are overstimulated and actually need quiet time or space. Some might be exhausted and need a nap.

It’s also important to remember that Doms (or tops) can need aftercare as well. They can also be emotionally drained and want snuggles or soothing. Some appreciate a debrief: talking through what worked and didn’t in a scene to understand how the sub felt about everything and how to improve for the future. Especially if a scene involved pain or sadism, they may need reassurance that the sub enjoyed everything and the Dom isn’t a bad person.

Talk ahead of time about what you both typically need or appreciate so you can align expectations and figure out how to meet each other’s needs. (This also lets you prep any aftercare equipment ahead of time like fuzzy blankets or juice boxes.) And be forewarned that even with planning, you may see needs change in the moment since emotions are heightened and reactions can be unexpected.