What I personally don't like about this anon ask is a) that as soon as a woman is leaning more on the traditional side it is assumed that it wasn't her own decision but that she was forced and b) that this mindset leads to being condescending and sometimes even cruel in your way of interacting with said woman/women.
We can probably all agree that modern feminism is definitely a (huge) problem in todays day and age, but to go so far as to abdicate all women from having agency over their own lives is a bit cruel and also francly illogical...
Are there women who are sadly forced into being traditional? Yes, the same as there are women who are forced into being feminists!
Does this mean that suddenly everybody who doesn't decide on living a "modern" lifestyle with hyper feminism, being a boss babe or spouting this "all Men are trash" nonesense, is suddenly a problemtic figure that needs to be erradicated? Definitely no! We all have agency for ourselves, no matter if we derive it from our Faith, or simply the fact that we chose something after careful considerations and lots of time of thinking it through.
What I personally don't understand, and here we get into one of the reasons why modern feminism is not what it says it is, nor that it is actually helpfull for any developed society, is if feminists claim that they are apparently helping all women (and that all women should be respected for what they choose because they have the ability to do so) but then go against anybody who doesn't choose the modern feminism boss babe lifestyle that is promoted, then a feminist is actively breaking with their own promises to women (mainly uplifiting and supporting all women no matter what they do with their lives). That's not really the sisterly bond of all women feminists seem to reference when they want support from all women because they are feminists and apprarently "fighting for all women out there".
Another reasons that rubs me the wrong way when thinking about the implications of this anon ask, is that it is assumed that a stable, nice, maybe even deocrated home is somehow a cage. First of all, house and apartment prices, both to rent and to buy, as well as prices for land, have been going through the roof in recent years, so actually having a house or apartment of your own, that belongs to you and that you can call your home, is increasingly becoming a luxury many can't easily afford, if at all. The secomd problem I have with this is, that if we define a home as a place you feel safe and can let your guard down within it, not everybody has that when growing up. So to assume that this person maybe somehow made a home into a cage (or that a home is a cage) is definitely not true because how do you know if the home this person has decorated maybe isn't their first "real" home? There are many reasons for why it could be that way, think about people who have to move alot due to their parents jobs, kids who have gone through their parents divorce, kids in foster care or who have adoptive parents, kids who have maybe even been homeless which happens in some places and circumstances sadly.
Don't judge a book by its cover, don't assume something about a stranger, be kind to others and don't spout your feminist nonesense please!
Please excuse any typos, grammar errors and such since English is not my mother tongue.
