"fly on, little wing"

/Cis/Muddied Honey-Baby (she/her) with BPD and a few other things. Love animals and kids more than any other demographic, words and weed are my drugs of choice, fiercely feminist, stigma-stomper, small but so mighty, cute but so clutzy. 

[deeplifequotes]

I water you, you water me; we grow together.

Brandon Nembhard (via breanna-lynn)

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*anxious at night* next day: “haha boy that was a silly thing to be anxious about” that night: “OR WAS IT”

[nevaehtyler]

CNN’s Don Lemon on police shootings: “When I am stopped by an officer - I shouldn’t have to be ‘yes,sir-ing’ anybody.”

Don Lemon lost the support of the Black community after a few controversial remarks that he made throughout his career. During yesterday’s CNN Tonight he shared his thoughts on the killings of two Black men that occurred earlier this week and they’re actually making everyone consider changing their mind. Let’s be honest - everything Don Lemon said was on point. I cannot help but think that until this day he was forced to say everything he said, because his words regarding police violence are pretty damn woke.

Full video

#BlackLivesMatter   #StopPoliceBrutality

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Well ill be damned

[destinyrush]

you can tell it’s serious when even Don Lemon is siding with us

[blaquebypopulardemand]

As I watching yesterday I made like 4 posts about Don not being a coon yesterday. His family personally knew Alton Sterling, it finally hit home for him. That nigga is tired of being the “respectable negro” that white ppl like. Everybody has a breaking point, Alton Sterling was his.

[arethafakelin]

*pigs flying around in hell distributing ice water at an ice skating rink*

[tanae-briana-deactivated2018010]

He skateboard?

[thatnaturalflowtho]

THEY DON’T WANT DARK SKINNED GIRLS TO BE GREAT. HER CHARACTER IS PORTRAYED WITH DARK SKIN!!!

[l--k--m-deactivated20160717]

All due disrespect, we dont need another light skinned woman replacing a dark skinned character because they “fit the role better”. I mean were all black but that ain’t mean we all look the same and are viewed and treated the same.

[thatnaturalflowtho]

^^^^

[ravenbabe321]

All due disrespect. Give that role to Brandy.

[bodysanctuary]

with all due respect give it to an actual black dark skinned teenaged girl

[dont-at-m3]

^^^ The character is supposed to be 15! All the artwork and fancasting makes her look like she’s supposed to be a grown ass (lightskin) woman, she’s a dark-skinned FIFTEEN year old! she should be looking like this:

(Skai Jackson, 14 / Riele Downs, 14 / Eden Duncan-Smith, 16)

[iron-sunrise]

I am shocked at the quickness to which they snatched up as many lightskinned actresses as they could. Zero worry about how close she looks to the character, just Safe Lightskinned Storm all over again.

[badgyal-k-deactivated20190901]

Colorism is real.

[parttimeheaux]

If they turn this into a movie and don’t cast a young dark skin girl I will flip the fuck out.

[nomediocre]

💛✨

[thehighpriestofreverseracism]

I just found out about Essence Bowman, she died this week after she got hit by a car during a police arrest.

The police didn’t even contact her family to tell her what happened to her….the family found out from the hospital.

She was also mentally ill and leaves behind 3 beautiful children

It’s such a disgrace that we haven’t heard much of her story…we need to seriously do right be the countless black women who are lost to violence and protect the ones that are living

she has a gofundme page that has raised about 300 dollars out of 20k goal to cover her expenses: https://www.gofundme.com/essencebowman

Essence’s sister is on twitter under the acc: @irreverentfash

Send her your condolences and please boost her tweets

SAY HER NAME, BLACK WOMEN MATTER

[fomysquad]

#DelrawnSmall #BlackLivesMatter #NYPD 

#StayWoke

[daggers-drawn]

How much does an officer have to do to receive punishment?

[erroneous-logic]

In order to be punished, a law enforcement officer must cause some kind of material injury to a member of the government or the interests thereof.

[fomysquad]

[buzzfeedau]

25 Photos That Show What Obama’s Presidency Means To Young Black Americans

[elegantpaws]

:)

[danigre]

He puts a light in their eyes and a big ole grin on their faces. God bless our kids, POTUS, and his family.

[iamhannalashay]

Obama with little kids is the cutest thing ever

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[alyssascottart]

“Birdwatching”

[luminoussea]

“My mother boils seawater. It sits all afternoon simmering on the stovetop, almost two gallons in a big soup pot. The windows steam up and the house smells like a storm. In the evening, a crust of salt is all that’s left at the bottom of the pot. My mother scrapes it out with a spoon. We each lick a fingertip and dip them in the salt and it’s softer than you’d think, less like sand and more like snow. We lay our fingertips on our tongues, right in the middle. It tastes like salt but like something else, too—wide, and dark. It tastes like drowning, or like falling asleep on the shore and only waking up when the tide has come up to your feet and you wonder if you’d gone on sleeping, would you have sunk?”

The Alchemy: Salt from Water

[standing-out-in-the-cold-deacti]

I have a new desire to make homemade salt…

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Doctors are 'failing to spot Asperger's in girls'

Expert says many more girls have autism than was thought, and failure to diagnose them can lead to misery

So, basically, what this article is saying is they discovered the way that boys present with autism, went “well that covers 100% of the population surely!” and then didn’t bother figuring out how autism presents in girls.

Girls slip through the diagnostic net, said Attwood, because they are so good at camouflaging or masking their symptoms. “Boys tend to externalise their problems, while girls learn that, if they’re good, their differences will not be noticed,” he said. “Boys go into attack mode when frustrated, while girls suffer in silence and become passive-aggressive. Girls learn to appease and apologise. They learn to observe people from a distance and imitate them. It is only if you look closely and ask the right questions, you see the terror in their eyes and see that their reactions are a learnt script.”

WOW. 

Tony Attwood, founder of the first diagnostic and treatment clinic for children and adults with Asperger’s, and author of The Complete Guide to Asperger’s Syndrome, agreed with Gould’s estimation of a 2.5:1 ratio of boys to girls. “The bottom line is that we understand far too little about girls with ASDs because we diagnose autism based on a male conceptualisation of the condition. We need a complete paradigm shift,” he said.

WE FIGURED OUT HOW TO DIAGNOSE BOYS AND BECAUSE WE FIGURED THAT WOULD WORK FOR EVERYONE BECAUSE BOYS AND GIRLS ARE SO EXACTLY THE SAME (child psychology would DISAGREE WITH YOU IDIOTS) NOW WE’RE REAL SURPRISED THAT WE FUCKED UP.

This. This is a feminist issue. This is an issue like holy shit there are doctors out there who will deny a female patient who is referred to them because ‘lul girls don’t get austism’. They didn’t think to do any more research because, whatever right? We figured out how to solve the male side of the problem.

This is so wrong on so many levels.

[sublingualspiro]

relatedly, tony attwood is kind of a dick

[beabcurd]

And it’s not just an issue of “how it presents” in boys vs girls.

Think about it:

A boy is quiet, unsociable, and fixated on a topic that interests him but might be considered unusual. He walks on his toes. He refuses to eat anything but Kix cereal and saltines. He can’t keep a grip on the monkeybars on the playground. Parents will notice. He isn’t “behaving right”, boys are supposed to be outgoing, right? Loud and rambunctious? Interested in everything around them? Eat any food put in front of them? Athletic and strong?

Now think of a girl in the same situation. She walks on her toes- how cute she must be imitating mommy’s high heels, or the ballerina in her favorite movie she watches all day every day without end. She’s quiet. “Wow, so fortunate your little girl is so well behaved, not a brat like my daughter!” She refuses to eat anything but Kix cereal and saltines? She’s just being fussy. Girls are always fussy, didn’t you know? She can’t do math? It’s okay. Girls are bad at math. Right? She can’t keep a grip on the monkeybars but obviously it’s just because girls aren’t good at sports.

My point being, parents not noticing a girl’s Autism is deeply rooted in sexism. And it’s bullshit. Even today my mom acts like there’s “no way” I could be autistic even though my brother (diagnosed at 9yrs when I was 5) and I presented THE EXACT SAME SYMPTOMS!!! FOR OUR ENTIRE CHILDHOOD!!! AND WE STILL DO!!!! My brother got every bit of aid available at the time, IEPs in school, special arrangements at home for his sensory difficulties. You know what I got? I got told to stop being a picky little bitch. To suck it up. Because I’m a girl.

[lady-feral]

Reblogging again for the important commentary.

[selcouth-sage]

@penicillium-pusher I think this may interest you

[impostoradult]

I still don’t know whether or not I might be on the Autism spectrum, but I will say this. I once came across a still developing female-specific autism diagnostic template, and was amazed at some of the VERY specific criteria that matched up my history and personality quirks. Things like talking too loud without realizing that you are. This is a thing that used to be a running joke about me in my small circle of friends. Also, anxiety specifically about doing bureaucratic paperwork. I have this to an extraordinary degree and it’s actually ended up costing me significant amounts of money over my life, because often times its so intense that I will miss deadlines to fill out DMV paperwork or insurance paperwork and will end up getting fined for it. Being overly emotionally empathetic, and not being able to deal with things like second-hand embarrassment or graphic depictions of suffering. I literally cannot watch things like shows with awkward-situation humor, or those sad animal ASPCA commercials. I also cry way more than is typical at sad books, movies, TV shows, etc. I do the repetitive self-calming behaviors (can’t remember the name at the moment), usually the leg-bounce. I normally hate being hugged or people touching me casually. I often have a hard time discerning when someone is flirting with me for real, or is romantically interested in me. Also, two of the most common professions for women with Aspergers are actress/singer/performer and academic/college professor – the only two career paths I’ve ever seriously considered. Even my long history of fandom involvement is very stereotypical of particularly women/girls with Aspergers as they tend to fixate on celebrities, pop culture and fictional narratives and characters.

That doesn’t necessarily mean everyone in fandom is on the Autism spectrum obviously. (But fandom probably does have a larger than normal amount of people on the autism spectrum, particularly women) And even if I am on the Austism spectrum, for the most part it hasn’t interfered with my life to the point that I NEED formal diagnosis or intervention. But I will also say that one of the things I learned in researching this is that women with lower-scale autism often tend to get misdiagnosed with depression, or things like bipolar disorder, because often they try to manage their lives ‘normally’ and get tapped out because they still experience much higher levels of social exhaustion, and stress in response to the general business of life that they aren’t properly compensating for. They often feel drained, unable to get basic life tasks done, and this can present like depression or bipolar disorder, but standard medications and therapy for depression don’t help because that’s not what’s actually wrong. So if you are a woman who struggles with these things, you may want to investigate this further, because these female-specific profiles are very new and still not common knowledge amongst average psychologists and psychiatrists and doctors who aren’t autism specialists. (Even plenty of autism specialists still are behind on all of this) 

[prideprejudce]

y’know what pisses me off the most about this whole jared leto thing? 

heath ledger was a method actor too. as most people know, before his role as the joker heath put countless hours into his character and locked himself away in a hotel so he could practice different versions of the joker (he even kept a diary on it). heath put everything he had in that role, just like he did with all his other roles. HOWEVER heath ledger was an actor, and what people don’t understand is that he knew the difference between acting and real life. a make-up artist on the set of the dark knight even said that “he’d only be in character when filming. Ledger would skateboard around, goof off, smoke cigarettes, and give out bear hugs at the beginning and the end of every workday” like he knew the difference between playing a character and being a normal person who was respectful to his coworkers and fellow actors. he was a talented person and a good man. he didn’t “go crazy” and scare people and he certainly didn't “become the joker”

and then we have jared leto. who is not only spitting in the face of method acting, but is also tarnishing the memory of heath ledgers dedication to his role by reinforcing this whole “joker curse” bullshit. this is a man who is basically milking this for what its worth and using the whole “playing the joker makes you crazy” theory so he has an excuse to be an obnoxious asshole. he is harassing his coworkers by sending them used condoms and bullets and scaring people on purpose. its not funny. its not edgy. its ridiculous and completely disrespectful. he is a grown ass man and should be sued for his behavior and honestly fuck off jared leto

[ziseviolet]

Chinese Mermaid  -《 鲛人 》-  Jiaoren

The Chinese mermaid is called 鲛人/jiāorén. In addition to their beautiful appearance, they are also outstanding craftspeople. According to “In Search of the Supernatural/搜神记”, a 4th-century compilation of legends about ghosts and spirits, jiaoren lived in the South Sea, spent their days weaving cloth, and if they cried, their tears would turn into pearls. (x)

Photo by 老妖_Choco; Hanfu (han chinese clothing) from 司南阁/Sinange.

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PUTITTO: Pug on the cup! via Kitan Club

[lickmyeyeballsss]

Asked my mama to take some photos of me and she did so well, xo