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lyra, she/it, werewolf girlfriend, early 20's | ΘΔ⚧⚢ | 🔞NO MINORS🔞 | trans woman | if you know my old blog no you don’t

[postpunkindustrial]

Noise sculpture by Tobias Bradford.

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[epicsause-official]

just got an idea for a banger couples shirts design

[indouscurse]

you have to consciously unlearn racism and continue to watch for it because it will come out without realizing. because so much of society is structured around it. shrugging and going "i dont care" or "i dont know how else to say it" means you are okay with being racist and hurting other people with how much you dont give a shit about them.

[girlfailure-poetics]

who cares if you don't fully "get" the weird postmodernist novel on your first read, or if the experimental arthouse film is opaque to you on your first viewing? you are not being graded. you are not being scored. there is value in the attempt. every time i've read House of Leaves or watched Blue Velvet, I've gotten something new from it. the idea that you might not "get" something and therefore shouldn't bother with it is so silly to me

[martyredsaintofavernus]

I don’t like seeing rich trans gals picking up trans girls who are stuck in bad situations at home fucking them for a night or two and walking out. Plenty of gals in my state are desperate for community and getting a gals hopes up that she finally found someone like her only to laugh at her and walk out is harmful. There is no comfort in that knife.

[bungerc0re]

inviting a girl over to cut symbols into you and she keeps agonizing over what to use. alchemical is too fake, catholic is boring, etc. eventually you propose a pentagram just to get something moving and she says that'd be "poser gnostic shit" and walks out

[winged-void]

it's so funny being possessive and yandere when you're poly.

"You're all mine," I say, lying.

[tumbwr]

“3 likes isnt much” imagine 3 women inside of you

[missstrogen]

mhfff

okay what nexgt,

[malottie]

i think i need femboy culture to die like yesterday actually

[malottie]

like. this is so bad it had me stunlocked at the start. i didn't even know what to be upset at

1. this is not from a porn site or anything. this was platformed on youtube by someone who seemingly "tries to keep the community as SFW as possible". no one will be surprised by this because the femboy self-sexualisation is so commonplace its absence is more surprising than its presence at this point

2. "princess boy" feels like a direct parallel to "lady boy". i don't need to explain why this is insanely transmisogynistic

3. the fish guy immediatly switching from "this is pretty wife" to "this is sex toy tranny" upon learning that the person isn't "an actual woman" reveals how absolutely normalized it is to view transfems as sex objects to be freely abused, always treated worse than both cis men and cis women would be

4. the femboy character's response to being promised continuous sexual violence by a group being "cool thanks" reflects how the femboy community will do one of 3 things when confronted with the real violence transfems face : completely gloss over it, turn it into a joke, or say "that's hot" and turn it into more fuel for the degradation of transfemininity through sexualisation. this somehow manages to be a bit of all 3. mainly the third though

5. it's the "trap" trope all over again. "i look like a woman but i'm actually a dude! i'm being deceitful i could never actually be a girl!" transfemininity once again treated as a costume that makes you incredibly desireable. but only as a sex object, not as a person or equal. and only if it's a costume, if you're actually transfem you're lower than dirt. hot and fuckable and lower than dirt

i don't know how anybody involved in the process thought it was a good idea. it just. feels bad all around. like it was fabricated specifically to make me lose my marbles. and i probably missed a lot this is just off the top of my head at 2 in the morning with the entry-level transfeminism i absorbed through osmosis by listening to so many smart transfems on this site

[lockandkiki]

All this is right one the money, and there’s also the racial aspect. Muscular, inhuman, wielding spears, and wearing only loincloths abducting a pretty, fuckable white not-woman. It’s such an anti-indigenous and anti black caricature, and it’s just disgusting once you see it.

[autogynophelia]

A frustrating thing about being aware of transmisogyny is how hard it is to convince other transfems (particularly those who are newly out) of its existence as a real form of oppression.

You'll meet a girl who got kicked out of a queer group because of a sex joke she made that landed badly, and she'll just be taking 100% of the blame and saying she deserved it, saying that she should have known her place and been meek and sexless to prove that she's not a predator.

You'll meet a girl who's afraid to go to the laser clinic, because the one time she went she overheard the laser techs arguing about who would be "burdened" with her, and from that she internalised that she *is* a burden that no one should have to deal with.

You'll meet a girl who's gone to the theoretically-inclusive sapphic meetup like ten times, even though no-one ever talks to her, and when she tries to talk to them they give a one-word response and turn away. And she just keeps going back because she thinks the problem is that she's the "new girl". Even though there have been three newer girls than her who are already in the in-group.

Some of these women are so used to marginalisation and mistreatment, that when it happens again and again they consider it the natural course of events. It's their own fault, some unique character flaw that they alone have. And they're so isolated and desperate for community that they will put up with any amount of abuse from other queers.

Sometimes it's only after seeing it happen several times to *other* transfems, and never any other kind of queer person even if they do exactly the same things, that they realise that a pattern exists, and there is a name for that pattern, and all there's a whole world of transfeminist writing for them to dive into with newly-opened eyes.

[thestarsaretrans]

You'll say you're anxious and girls will really start poking your anxiety gland like they're "helping" and it's like girl at least have a sadistic gleam in your eye while you do this I'm really close to a stressgasm (a bad thing I should not have yet desperately want)

[yamada-ryo]

it implies a "postcum"

[trans-ralsei]

the postcum movement encompasses a variety of artistic, cultural and philosophical movements. it emerged in the mid 20th century as a skeptical response to cum,

[kitkenk]

really really scary when i see a hornypost involving men actually

[kitkenk]

("tell me when the scary part's over" voice) when does she transition

[87sukiyaki]

[aceynk]

i think it would serve the entire movement to just keep in mind that transfeminism is an application of intersectional feminism. we will get nowhere unless racism, anti-Blackness, ableism, etc. are dealt with within the movement and recognized in transfeminist thought. you cannot abandon intersectionality without abandoning transfeminism.

[scissorsaint]

you really do meet some of the loveliest people talking about blood and sex on the internet

[handlerjasmine]

After beating a girl until it cries, you can look it in it's eyes and say "I forgive you" to unlock a second, more intense, level of crying.